I can say that I've observed particular behaviors on GaG from both guys and girls that are problematic. Some of you are just gonna try to cancel me out as a guy posting this and think it's sexist, but I'm actually giving knocks to both sides from things I see.
So we'll start with ladies. After all: ladies first! =)
The problem with the Girls:
Females generalize...but are supported for it...
It's still a well-known fact that when females generalize guys most people agree with it and don't tell her she shouldn't be doing that, and that happens a lot here. When guys generlize women all hell breaks loose and he's said to be butthurt, even though the real butthurt ones are the females giving him hell for it in the first place. For the record, I really don't care if females want to generalize guys, I'm old enough to know better, but you gotta take what you give. Generalizing happens. Everybody does it, and even I have. And sometimes when we generalize we're not exactly meaning "ALL" of one group, it's just a way of noting a particular group.
However, what is curious is that women like to pick and choose how they want to be generalized, and how they want to generalize men. If people are saying a general truth about women that makes them uncomfortable or feel offended, they will address their problem with that immediately and say "You can't lump all women together." But if we were to say something in general about women that would be perceived as a positive or praiseworthy attribute of women, women would not complain that it's a generalization, even if it's a wrong one. They would be happy to agree with the positive thing said.
Girls agree with one another here just to get at guys...
Not all the time, but most times when you see a female's comment to a guy's question or Take and she has lots of upvotes from other females, it's really just to support her against the guy/guys if she's not agreeing with him. I see the guys doing it too, but I'm much more likely to see a comment from a female have lots of upvotes from other females than vice versa. Like a female friend of mine here said that I never thought about, women will support/agree with each other even if they're wrong, and this is mostly the case when debating with guys. They never want to be proven wrong by a guy or outdone by him, so others will come to advocate her even if her points are really very wrong, narrow, or weak.
Girls can't stand when one doesn't agree with their gender...
Any time a female isn't in agreement with her gender or notes things she herself dislikes or is annoyed with, other girls can't stand that, sometimes because it's a truth that they may see in themselves and can't face it. So a lot of times the girls here who don't like that just try to accuse the girl of trying to get points with guys, accusing her of really being a guy in disguise, or hating her own gender, to make themselves feel better about the fact that she spoke truth about her gender. And other times, they'll agree with a guy and upvote him if he disagrees with a girl talking about her gender. It's easier for females to find fault with the girl than to see what she's saying and find truth in it, and this is because an ego does exist in femininity, a lot more than they choose to realize. Women often - see how I generalized there? ;-) - want to view themselves or their gender as being above men, and it seems to be that many spend a lot of energy and head space having inner contempt for guys, so when a woman actually sees how women aren't perfect and have issues, the others get a bruised ego from it and feel like she's going against the sisterhood.
Guys can be the same way with our gender, calling a guy a white knight or pussy feminist for agreeing with women, but guys tend to care less often if another guy does compared to women. Women hold much more resentment towards other women for seeing that her gender has problems and does things guys hate too.
The female mods are no better...
The majority of moderators on GaG are female, and only ascended that far because they accepted their eligibility, but they're really not very different from the aggressive, immature females here. They too break the rules, act maliciously, and act against others. One of them I even had to report awhile ago, who is an "Uber Mod." And they also support the other females against guys; it's happened to me and I've seen it happen to other guys. The females on GaG are always saying how much sexism and misogyny goes on, but the vast majority of theirs is allowed to slide. And since most mods are females, you can see why nothing is done about it.
Asking if we think they're pretty...
It's gotta be one of the most common topics posted on social networking sites and I've long given up on answering. I won't even click on them anymore to see the girl's picture. I really don't care if you're pretty or not. If I like you or are sexually attracted to you, you'll know it.
And then other females are just looking to get their egos rubbed. Sites like these were not created for narcissism, but sure enough there are many narcissistic females online who live for all the followers they have and all the compliments they get, and spam our feeds with repeat questions about how they look and if they're pretty. That's a sad life.
Now for the Guys:
Guys try to answer before anyone else...
One thing I notice a lot is that the guys try to answer questions and Takes before the girls do, and I'm pretty sure they do it calling themselves trying to beat feministic females to the punch. 98% of Takes or questions I see in the feed will have more guys than girls already responding, and sometimes it will discourage me from wanting to comment on the same post because the author won't care to hear anymore of what the guys say. And it could also be because the guys want to seem like they're such experts and have the best answer.
I for one, would like to see more females respond to my Takes and questions.
Guys try to battle feminists or those who think like it...
I used to do this when I was on Answerbag and Experience Project, and it's just not worth it. It bothers the guys to see feminists so much that they're always trying to fight them almost anywhere here. I myself am not a fan of feminism, and I will state what I think about it when I'm asked, but I really don't need to go all over the site looking for feminist prey to kill. It makes you look just as bad as them or worse. I don't care what they think and their ideas are not even that relevant to me unless there's really something I want to say, so I just move around it. And that's what the other guys need to do.
I myself can get into some heated discussions here, but it's not on the agenda for me to go at it with anybody anywhere I see it. You don't need to start a mass war campaign to get your point across. If they don't want to hear it and would rather tune you out, let 'em have it. And if they want to listen to your perspective and see your point, go with that. But let people think what and how they want to think.
Guys try to put us all in the same boat...
Guys who talk about how horny we all are and how hard it is for all of us to get a date or get laid, annoyingly try to put us all in the same boat because either they are very sex-minded, or they're the ones who struggle to get a date and get sex. So to make themselves feel better about it, they try to blame it on females' "high expectations," or try to break down the explanation in a bunch of university science equations that look like they make sense on paper but really mean nothing on the whole grand scale of real every day life.
I tire of hearing mathematic deductions about the number of single guys vs. single girls, how easy girls have it, the number of guys in the population all together vs. the number of women, how this works with girls at a bar vs. how it works for a guy, how you can have 10 guys and 10 girls in a room, etc. *exhaustedly drops face in palm*
If you can't get a girl or you've struggled to get laid, that's your problem. Quite trying to explain it away with a bunch of idiotic, unrealistic pop sci social experiments and shit that are supposed to encompass the rest of the male population to make yourself feel better about it. It looks pathetic and I'm even starting to see how some women are offended by talk of how easy it is for them to get laid.
Asking about penis size...
It's really not a thing to focus on too hard, man. True, there are women who really do like bigger and thicker - or you wouldn't have European and American women going to the Caribbean every summer just to have sex with endowed men - and those deny it and say it doesn't matter, but other women don't care. And you have to live with what you have.
Conclusion...
At the moment this is all I've noticed, but I fear I'm gonna remember something else by the time I've already posted this, lol. But having said all this, if we all consider ourselves mature adults - or young adults - you have to act like it. We want to be taken seriously and think we're such experienced individuals but are acting like kids on the Internet.
What it all comes down to is opinions and also truths. Things people don't like or can't handle, so they feel a need to antagonize one side for it. Truths and opinions are part of life. And they're not going to change because 8 or 10 females upvote or support another against it, or because 20 guys want to beat the girls to the punch with their perspective. Sometimes truths and opinions are one and the same, and other times truths and opinions only apply at some times with some people.
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