I'm not going to start with the overused and cliched "don't judge a book by its cover." Yeah, we all know: #dontjudgeabook
I'm not going to be all self-righteous and lecturing and say, "Hey, look up from the tits; there's a brain in that head."
I don't need to explain that she's as big a gamer as any dude out there, that she started on the SNES, that her favorite game series of all time is God of War, that she loves JRPGs (gamers know exactly what that is), and that she and I could probably blather on about our favorite games and memories like two old friends with that singular common thread.
No, I don't need to do any of that because model, die-hard gamer, and popular YouTuber and Twitcher Tara Babcock speaks for herself. I don't need to offer our readers introduction, clarification, or disclaimer because Tara, much like Mia Rose, is intrinsically incapable of pulling punches. She hides nothing, tells you what she thinks and if you don't like it, she'll just shrug and move on with her life. Her response to finding out guys masturbate to her vids? A blend of flattery and amusement, without a trace of offense (see it in her "okay to fap" video below). Piss her off, try to use her? A simple GTFO is her response. A true friend? She might lie down in traffic for you. Want to hear some of the most candid, passionate thoughts on some tough subjects? Check out her awesome Vlogs.
But damnit, I'm doing what I said I wouldn't do. So, without further gilding the lily...simply Tara.
GaG: Let’s start by clearing things up: What is the #1 false assumption people make about you?
Tara: “Probably that I’m into gaming and YouTubing to get money. That’s definitely #1 but I have no idea why. I think people are under the false assumption that I’m just an attractive girl who games and that’s enough to make a lot of money. But the people who get the most amount for their streaming are still male, and even if you’re pulling in a bunch of viewers all the time, your revenue is such shit unless you’ve got some backing. Most of the money I make is off subscriptions and donations to my Twitch and things like that. I really don’t know why people think I make a ton with all this stuff.”
GaG: What’s your reaction to the term “titty gamer” or “titty streamer?”
Tara: “I really have no idea what that is. Well, I have tits and I game so I guess that’s me…? Obviously, there’s some sort of weird negative connotation behind that, like you have to be some kind of disingenuous person who doesn’t know shit about gaming. I don’t know, a lot of the phrases people come up with are just beyond me; there’s a lot of stupidity out there. The random person behind the computer screen can say and do whatever they want and yeah, that’s when the stupid crap comes out.”
GaG: Obviously, you love video games. What are some of your favorite early memories?
Tara: “The game that really inspired me to play every single day and be someone who is a lifelong gamer was ‘Super Mario Bros. 3’ on my NES. It came out when I was really, really young; I was actually too young to have the system when it came out, but my parents had an Atari and the 8-bit NES so I started playing consoles early. And I’m really glad I did because today’s children are just being exposed to the worst games, I think. I feel they need to be exposed to the early games so they can appreciate them, and also so they can see how far the industry has come.
Then a lot of gaming in my teens involved playing ‘Mario Party’ on N64 with my friends. I had like 13 guy friends at my house at any given time and really, this is one of my best memories.”
GaG: Many girls still complain of suffering abuse when playing games online. Have you experienced this?
Tara: “I feel like I experience the same amount of abuse as anyone else experiences.
As somone in the spotlight, I'm saying it's okay for people to make an opinion about me--
--and when it’s an online game, some anonymous gamer is going to flame. I mean, people are just going to flame; that’s the way things are online, especially if it’s something like CoD (‘Call of Duty’). They find that one thing to pick on, like if you’re a gay guy or a girl or whatever, and then they base their insults on that and off they go. If all they know about is that you’re a girl, they’re going to make fun of you for being a girl.
And it’s not about being misogynistic. A guy will call another guy a faggot and crap like that but it doesn’t mean he hates you. They don’t know anything about you; have no idea if you suck at the game or anything else. They’re just trying to get your goat and you know, that’s the online dichotomy. You can’t change it.”
GaG: We spoke to Mia Rose about porn; she thinks it really screws up people’s expectations and perceptions of sex. What do you think?
Tara: “Yeah, I think it does mess with people’s expectations. But I also believe it isn’t porn’s responsibility to teach people about sex. I actually made a video about this before, about parents raising you with morals and expectations, and if they try to censor everything. I don’t think they should censor things at all, so that way it would be common sense to people when they grow up that things are different in porn. If they’re exposed early, they’d know it’s not real, like action movies and superheroes. I feel like kids are just thrown out into the world with no actual facts, so blaming porn for being bad in bed or being screwed up socially is like blaming Marilyn Manson for school shootings."
If someone ever says they committed a crime because of some media they saw or experienced, they were already screwed up and anything could’ve pushed them over the edge.
GaG: You mentioned an interest in Psychology; which aspects of the science are you interested in?
Tara: “Oh, behaviorism, sociology, all types of psychology. I love to read about all these things and I’ve recently been reading about how dreams affect the mind. I sometimes sit on the computer and five hours would pass because I’d be so involved with a certain topic, or maybe I was reading about certain philosophers. I’m also really interested in the psychology of serial killers and I always thought I’d like to do that for a job. Yeah, I wanted to be a criminal psychologist, but then I found out it’s not always about tracking down serial killers, and that there’s a lot of boring and trivial stuff I wouldn’t be interested in.”
GaG: In your view, what’s the dating scene like these days? Is it actually harder for you given your celebrity?
Tara: “I have a really weird way of handling my love life. I don’t date. I don’t do the normal monogamous relationship; in fact, I don’t put a label on anything I do. I don’t go out for coffee or stuff like that; I don’t have time for it and I’m not interested in it. When I meet someone I’m pretty straightforward, just like, ‘do you want to fuck or not?’ I feel like the dating scene has so much bullshit in it, and that people are always trying to get into my friend circle because it makes them feel cooler or something. Because of that, I don’t allow many people into that circle and I’m kind of guarded on that score.
But I will say that I think women definitely have it easier in the dating scene in general, and I have it even easier because most people wouldn’t say ‘no’ to me. I guess my pull on the Internet gives me more gumption.”
GaG: When you say guarded…?
Tara: “I’ve always been that way; it’s just kind of my personality. I feel I can break off from any relationship whenever I want. And I don’t mean in a heartless way; I don’t ever sleep with anyone to get anywhere or befriend someone who I could collaborate with. I basically just find it really hard to meet people who I feel are intelligent enough to even be around. I guess I also think I’m desensitized, in that I can’t relate to other people very easily, and often I have these deal-breakers or little triggers. Like they do something to me and that’s it, I’m done with them.
However, I’m extremely loyal if I think someone really does belong in my circle. I won’t say there was any trauma when I was growing up; I think I just get easily bored when I’m around other people. I also don’t like drama; a lot of girls my age doing the modeling or gaming thing seem to thrive on it and I just hate it.”
GaG: We know you have strong views on women in gaming and feminism in general. Care to elaborate?
Tara: “You know, I play Magic the Gathering and in that community, it’s all about being more feminist than anything. You can’t make jokes about being a girl, you can’t even mention that someone is a girl. This is just ridiculous to me.
Western #feminism isn’t even necessary; it’s just this cult that hates men. I think we should be truly egalitarian instead of making up a word that basically says we’re not equal, when we should want to be equal. Western feminists don’t care about equal rights, and they don’t know how bad women have it in other countries.
Here…women have it so fucking easy. I can’t get over how easy women have it, especially knowing how oppressed women are in other parts of the world. Everyone around here has to walk on eggshells around women and it’s just stupid. And for gaming, you see women enter this previously male-dominated hobby and immediately say, ‘okay, you can’t say this,’ ‘you can’t do this,’ ‘you can’t act like this,’ etc. They come in and say you have to change everything just to appease their weird sense of ‘feminism.’
And what’s wrong with the women in games being fantastical?! Why can’t we have big bouncing tits in our entertainment? I’m not offended and I wouldn’t be offended if I played as a girl who looked different than me. Who cares? Men want to see tits and they’re genetically programmed for that; so what? How is that offensive? I really hate the changes they’re making in games, actually; it’s so illogical and it proves that there is a difference between male and female mannerisms. Women take it as a personal attack when they see something like this, and women feel like they’re always up against some kind of adversary. Why do they get to dictate what sort of media men can enjoy?
Stop trying to make every female protagonist this genderless asexual creature!”
GaG: What are your long-term goals? Do you think you’ll keep doing what you’re doing?
Tara: “I really hope I can keep it up. I think I’ve finally found what I want to do in my life. My Twitch stream has been up and down and it’s not currently at its peak, but my YouTube channel is doing well. Still, I’m a fledgling at all of this and there’s a long way to go. I’m just happy that I found this; I get to be my own boss, which is great. I hate traveling, which is something I really despised about modeling, and I also hated having to schmooze people I don’t have anything in common with.
I wish I could make more time in my schedule but I just don’t know what to cut. My everyday streaming takes up almost all my time. There’s just never enough time to do things I’m passionate about, like modeling shoots. It’s not just that they pay well; it’s also sexual and communicative and I really like gaming-related sexiness, too."
Yes, I’m a really sexual person and I love games, and that’s my hook. I also have a personality that makes for interesting commentary so I’m going to use that. I can’t imagine doing anything else and honestly, I think I’ve found my niche.
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