John Lennon & Yoko Ono. A well-known example of a WMAF relationship, when the terms "Asian Fetish", "Yellow Fever" and "Weeaboo" aren't being hurled at me and my lady, we usually get compared to these two.
I met my future wife while I was studying abroad in Japan, back in '09 during summer break. I remember the day vividly. It was in the middle of June, humid as hell and I went on a trip with some of my local friends I made in college to a theme park, in the rural outskirts of Tokyo, called "Fuji Q Highlands". That's how I met Mei, she went with us as a guest because she's related to one of my friends' girlfriend at the time. It was love at first sight, the first time we met while we were packing our bags into the car, I was tongue-tied and I couldn't speak to her without embarrassing myself. But luckily, by the end of the day we were talking like old friends and our mutual friend took it upon himself to set up dates for us (becuase I was too shy).
Fast forward 7 years and were getting married this month.
I couldn't be happier.
Contrary to popular belief, most relationships like ours aren't born out of some sick fetish (yet, some unfortunately are). True, I've always been fascinated with Japan (I blame my childhood television viewing diet of Godzilla movies and Anime), I've always found the history, the culture and the people interesting, but I NEVER wanted to date Asian women exclusively because of my interests. I feel that it's wrong and detremental to the other person when he/she is pursued as a partner exclusively becuase of his/her ethnicity.
Prior to going abroad, the majority of my girlfriends were white like me and most of those were amazing girls that I was blessed to have in my life. I cherish those memories, but the one's I've been making for the last 7 years are my fondest.
In my fiance, I have found the most genuine, beautiful, kind and loving person anybody would hope to meet. The unfortunate stereotypes of Asian women, particularly Japanese women, do not apply to her. She's strong willed, independant and never takes "you can't do it" for an answer, she is in no way a "submissive geisha" at all nor is she a "dragon lady", those perceptions need to be smashed.
^This is not a pic of her, but of actress/singer Ko Shibasaki. But Mei does look very similar to this woman.
Like I said, she's the genuine article, the most real person I've ever met. I'm both blessed and privileged to have her in my life and that our relationship is built on love, trust, mutual respect and "give and take" compromise. We're a normal couple, just like most, aside from the ethnic aspects that shouldn't really matter.
However, we do get some barbs here and there, especially since she immigrated here 4 years ago. We've actually had a cashier at Dairy Queen REFUSE to write her name on the ice cream cake I got for her birthday, this was a middle aged woman who was obviously bigoted and upset over the fact that I, a white male of decidedly British/German stock, was buying a cake for a woman with a very Asian name. She, the cashier, actually stormed off after calling me a "rice fucker" of all things.
Keep in mind, I live in the mid-south, a stone's throw from Nashville, TN so there are A LOT of racists here. When we go to church together, people actually refuse to sit anywhere near us, the rednecks almost always feel the need to shoot their mouths at us and even some seemingly well educated young college "feminists" have felt the need to cut me down over my relationship.
It hurts, it's shameful, but we realize that it's part of it, especially where we live right now (we may move to Portland, Oregon sometime after we marry). Yet we realize that our relationship is considered more "acceptable" than other interracial couples. Other pairings obviously have it worse, imagine being the daughter of a KKK member in love with a black man.
I think part of the problem stems from the stereotype that exists regarding WMAF couples. Some people assume that I got with my fiance just becuase she's Asian and I have "Yellow Fever"... you can't be further from the truth.
While there are some relationships born of a shallow preference regarding race, most couples like ours prove that love transcends all boundaries, be it continental, cultural, racial or religious.
Peace out and Sayonara.