Far too many people on here are asking if it's bad to be a virgin at age 18+. These posts honestly make me sad. This means that people out there are actually shaming others for not spreading their legs. Whether you believe in virginity or not, it still isn't coool to shame people who choose not to have sex or to say that they should go have sex simply because there's no such thing as the term "virginity". That idea is totally ridiculous. Just because you don't put a label on untouched territory doesn't mean that everyone has to go fuck everything immediately. I have nothing against people who have sex, but I am against people who have sex making fun of those who don't.
Never feel guilty about your virginity!
You don't need to be ashamed of being a virgin. You've got at least one last shred of innocence before you're thrust into the fully adult world (hehe, literally. Get it? Thrust?) You can hold onto that shred for as long as you need in order to be comfortable losing it. You should be allowed to choose what happens to your body, and no one else has the right to decide for you. Only superficial jerks will care about if you're still a virgin, and you don't need to waste your time validating them.
You can share it with someone special if you'd like.
You don't have to give up your v-card as soon as you hit a certain age. If you want to share your first intimate moment with someone that you truly care about, then that's great! You should be allowed to do that. Having sex for the first time can be scary, especially for a woman who will more than likely experience some pain her first time, while the male may feel shy about how long they can "last". It isn't at all crazy to want to wait until you're comfortable with someone before you have sex. Sex can be a very special thing that you're allowed to hold in high esteem. Don't let anyone shame you for this.
You should do what makes you comfortable.
When you do start having sex, you should do what you feel comfortable with. You don't need to go grab that guy from your gym class and do whatever he says because other people expect you to have sex. You can wear lingerie if it boosts your confidence, or you can just go right at it once you find that special someone you were looking for. If you feel that there's a specific thing you'd like, you have to communicate this. Also, if you aren't ready for sex but you're edging along slowly, lay down ground rules. Only do what you're comfortable with until your ready for your shining moment, and anyone who matters will understand and accept this.
Be safe and educated.
Before you lose your virginity you should do some in depth research. You should know how to gain pleasure and how to return it to your partner in order for you both to have a nice time. You should also know the dangers of certain aspects of sex in order to make your first time as safe and as easy as possible. You want to enjoy yourself and be safe.
Anyone can be a virgin, no matter what anyone else says.
Men can be virgins. Women can be virgins. Eighteen year olds can be virgins. Thirty year olds can be virgins. Where you stick your penis or what you allow to go into your vagina is your decision. You should be able to choose the time, the place, the setting, and the person. People will say 17 year old girls can be virgins, but laugh in the face of 18 year old boys who are virgins. That's fucked up. Everyone should mind their own business when it comes to this. If I want to wait until I'm 50 then I'm going to do it, despite what the rest of you say. I believe that everyone has a say in what happens to their bodies.
Stay a virgin as long as you need to. You deserve to be safe, comfortable, and enjoy your first time. Don't let anyone else bully you into losing your virginity, whether you believe in the word or not. Stay safe out there friends. <3