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The Struggle Of Being Overly Submissive, Inside And Outside Of The Bedroom.

I'm a very submissive person. I give in easily, and I'm often described as a pushover. Similarly, I'm a submissive in the bedroom. I can't dominate another person, whether it be sexually or otherwise. I'm not a leader in any way shape or form, although I wish I could be. In my mind I have so many amazing ideas and some pretty good team building skills, I'm just too shy to try and lead others to success.

I also want to dominate my partner and tell them what to do for awhile, but I simply don't find the idea of being in charge very appealing. I prefer to be told what to do in a sexual setting, so I fear being asked to switch rolls for awhile since I know I'll just feel very awkward and probably make the whole situation less than satisfying. I'd much rather be dominated.

In person I'm a very quiet girl. I don't say "no" often, unless I feel strongly about not doing what's asked of me. This tends to allow people to walk over me. I'm overlooked and forgotten, and this can get pretty irritating, especially at the age where I just want to make a name for myself and be recognized. I think more about pleasing others than pleasing myself, and I bend to the will of those around me. I don't fight back very often, and if I do then it has to be something major. I don't get enough satisfaction from life as an overly submissive person, but I don't want to stand up and force my way into existence. I'm a shy little submissive and that's how it will stay.

I don't enjoy being told what to do outside of a sexual setting, but I normally listen anyway. I've been compared to having the obedience of a well trained dog, which really got my blood boiling. I've never tried to change this fact, though. Being an overly submissive person can really suck some times, but it's who I am and I have to embrace it, no matter how frustrating it can be at times.

The Struggle Of Being Overly Submissive, Inside And Outside Of The Bedroom.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • In the bedroom a lot depends on the compatibility you have with your chosen partner (s) probably ideal for you would be a dominant partner (s). Outside the bedroom I am of the belief you can be too submissive - To take the bedroom example being a submissive is pleasurable for a lot of people but if it gets to a time when consent is withdrawn or the submissive doesn't like it, it becomes abuse.
    So you have stated at times being submissive outside the bedroom, you don't like it so it is not good for you. Two things could happen you withdraw into yourself or you explode. My advice is learn to say "No" within reason, it could be a lot to do with self confidence. It might shock people at first but you will find people will respect you more rather than walk all over you - To be absolutely cruel a doormat gets thrown out when it is no longer useful, not taken into the house.

Most Helpful Girl

  • this is just OMG what can you say to someone so young. I hope as you experience more your view point will open up to see much more. you need to let yourself grow as a person and then review how you feel about things again because we all change after experience. give yourself these chances, no one is asking you to change the core of who you are.

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  • I'd be very careful. You could be easy prey for abusive and manipulative people.

    • I know, I've been a victim of both, but I can speak up for myself if I feel so strongly about something like that. I may not say it to them directly, but I'd ask someone else for help easily.

  • You're 17... Good god... 0_o

    • Sexual maturity is different for each person. (Also, still a virgin in body, but I've been faced with sexual situations and know what I would like/dislike.)

    • So you're a virgin who made a take about your sex life that dosent exist yet? right...

    • Well if you read the post you'll realize that this post is focusing on being a submissive person in general. A submissive person does not have to be a totally sexual thing, as submissive means a person who bends to the will of others. This isn't about my non existent sex life, this is about how I have a submissive personality and what that entails.

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  • You don t have to embrace anthng you don t like.
    Extremes have never been smthng good.
    I was like that when I was younher but I changed.
    You can too.

    • Thank you :)

    • wlc bella <3

  • You are like 17 ... And yeah that looks from you face.. I think you need a little touch of @WhatTheHellAmy in you..

    • Well, I'm a sub too lol

    • @WhatTheHellAmy you're a sub?😱

    • I'm exactly 17 actually, but what do you mean?

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  • I'd look for a very strong person who is happy to allow you to try out roles.

  • Ok. I need a sandwich... NOW OP

    • Sadly, I'd do it if you'd ask me irl, but I'd be a mega bitch about it xD

    • Less of bitching, more of cooking. Don't forget to throw extra sauce on it, last time was Ewww dude

    • I want to fight you so hard right now! xD

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  • hun you are 17 you don't know how to submit

    • Why is that? Do I not do as other people say simply because I'm young? I'm pretty sure that's the exact opposite of logic. You've never met me nor have you seen any part of my life. If a 13 year old can be pregnant, who the hell says I can't know what it's like to "submit"?

    • lol hun it's a world you don't wanna be in trust me

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