Men, Step Your Game Up So You Can Get Laid

Stacyzee
Men, Step Your Game Up So You Can Get Laid

I know there are far more important things in life than getting laid. However, when you see almost every one around you getting sent to cloud 9, you wonder what it is that you are lacking.

Men, Step Your Game Up So You Can Get Laid

Like a Mother bird sending her young off into the world, your boys stand with you in social settings rooting for you. They send you off, to explore the field. They're chanting for you!
They have hope that you will laid. Yes, tonight getting pussy is your goal!

Men, Step Your Game Up So You Can Get Laid

You managed to catch a few girls attention but instead your efforts lead to you standing all alone in a corner, as you watch your boys disappear into the night with the women they intend to go home with.

Constantly being rejected, allows you to grow frustrated.

You eventually formulate a negative opinion about women inside of your mind.

"They're so stuck up"

"They're snobby"

"Perhaps, I have to be a rich man and then I'll get laid"

"Women are so superficial, If I were a knock out I'd be going home with women left and right".

These are all negative view points about women that do not fail to circulate in your mind.

Each and every time you face rejection, you add to the negativity in your mind about women, and your perception of them.

Men, Step Your Game Up So You Can Get Laid

Please, allow me to look closely at your situation.

Women, aren't the problem it is you!

If almost every one around you, is able to pull the stunt off of being able to catch women and you aren't, you have to take a good look at yourself.

You are the common denominator of every situation.

The results always ends with you walking off by yourself.

It's easy to blame other people for not being able to get what you want and

far too difficult to admit that you need to work on yourself.

Men, who can't get laid,

If you're lacking in confidence level, trust me it shows in your demeanor.

Work on the energy you give off to others.

If you present yourself as unsure or insecure chances are the person

you are talking to will want nothing to do with you.

Work on the way you talk to women, and take care of your appearance so you can

look decent and presentable.

-Wear flattering clothes

-Get a haircut or fix your hair

-Work out to improve your self confidence level.

(Chances are when you feel better, you do better).

Stop attempting to take the easy way out by visiting brothels or seeing prostitutes.

It only makes you feel better temporarily but it never fixes the problem.

You'll still have trouble with women in general.

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  • Anonymous
    It's pretty hard for guys who don't have early success. Guys know they're not going to have 100% success, and i don't think that's what guys mean when they say they 'can't get laid'. Guys i know who were clearly 'successful' at cold approaching might still only be batting 10%-20% tops, and possibly lower. Those are -successful- guys. So average guys aren't looking at a few no's, they're looking at dozens and dozens and dozens of rejections without success. And if they let that wear on them, they could go into 100s, because they will be down and not confident.

    I think the best approach for single guys is to reframe and not view 'getting the girl' as their immediate goal. Head out with the goal being 'to practice approaching women', and once they're comfortable with that, to get better at adapting and reading women.

    When the initial goal is simply to get over approach fear, they can be confident - confident that they'll approach. THey don't need to worry about success, because if they 'approach' 10 women, the day was a success. When that becomes easy, they can start reframing success as keeping conversations going sometimes, or learning something about what works when.

    If they happen to get laid in that scenario, its a bonus, but the goal is longer term.

    The biggest mistake they could do is actually get in a relationship, where they are likely to have similar problems IN the relationship, but not have the ability to simply try and experiment.
    Is this still revelant?
    • Stacyzee

      Good advice.
      ((However some men literally mean they cannot get laid--judging by the huge amount of virgins on this site)).
      Also, I like how you are telling men to make baby steps towards their goal.
      If they have no idea how to talk to a woman, how can they expect a huge leap like getting laid? It all comes down, to a man having enough confidence in general to understand that things won't always work out for him. It also comes down to practice. The more girls he approaches, the more likely he will get better at how he talks to them and what he says.
      This really all comes down to applying the formula.
      It's there in front of every guy (they know the general outline of what needs to be done), but they have to put it into practice.

    • Anonymous

      I think all guys know that it 'wont always work out', but some guys feel like it will never work out, and that's their experience. There are a fair number of guys i've spoken to here as well who have -never- had a girl be interested in them to their knowledge, ever. So it is hard for them to be confident. That's why i think breaking it down into steps, and reframing confidence then as 'confidence they can work on the current step' without attachment to outcome is important.

      It's tough as well, clearly a lot of the guys struggling have weak social skills -in general-. They are poor conversationalists, they are terrible at reading body language, they are not funny, they can't tell when someone is engaged vs. uncomfortable. And they still manage to make male friends who they share interests with, and participate in those interests, and do okay in school, and suddenly they're in an environment where they are expected to be confident and charming and they're just... lost.

    • Anonymous

      I'd hazard a guess they were in slightly better shape 40 years ago. Their used to be more formal manners, more formal rules for what to wear, formal ways to ask a girl to dance, expectations about what to do, so guys who couldnt' adapt and go on feel and observation had a set of rules to lean on. The rules have been to a large extent thrown out - a big advantage for those who can work each situation, but terrifying for those who can't.

      A bit like dancing. Anyone can learn to sort of waltz around, you have more freeform dancing, some people look amazing, some don't even have the first step.

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  • kat_gran
    You know.. you have so many mytakes... I actually wonder what you look like.. lol
    Is this still revelant?

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  • YourFutureEx
    Step
    1. Look normal
    2. Get out of the house
    3. Check out girls
    4. Be confident
    5. Approach
    6. Don't get upset if you're rejected
    7. Learn from the mistakes and start over by forgetting the rejection
    8. Approach someone else
    9. Invest
    10. Get laid

    PS: Use condoms.
    • the_rake

      ' 4. Be confident
      5. Approach
      6. Don't get upset if you're rejected '

      just lol. what I've been trying to do for the past 4 years.

    • @the_rake AND? (Still single?) You must have some serious issues.

      Like FOUR YEARS!! Wo! You can get laid so much in four years. Don't you learn from mistakes?

    • the_rake

      you just can't see it from any other perspective. if the guy is not pulling left right and centre there must be something seriously wrong with him. not that he just doesn't like playing the girls games - e. g. hates buying them stuff, hates lowering his standards when he knows he's attractive enough to deserve better, hates playing cat and mouse (where if he suddenly shows a flicker of disinterest all of a sudden the girl shamelessly lusts over him because she either is too dumb to have any concept of reverse psychology or she really is a manipulative bitch). maybe the only reason other guys have been successful is because they were willing to take the easy way out, e. g. pay for dates, sleep with the occasional sub-par girl, validate the woman's ego, etc.

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  • ManOnFire
    I guess for a lot of guys on GaG they're struggling, but in real life I don't think guys are really struggling all that much. I think the demographic of guys who do is what people try to zero in on, especially females, so they can seem like they really haven't been that easy for guys to get in bed. Rates of unwanted pregnancies, STDs, and cheating from guys certainly doesn't look like they're struggling to me.
    • the_rake

      in real life most people just drop their standards. obviously if you are willing to drop your standards low enough you can become 'successful' in any area in life. for example, it's tough to get enough money buy the finest champagne at an expensive restaurant but not so difficult to get a glass of some dog urine. similarly, you could probably sleep with any old slag if you give her a few banknotes but go to a bar and attempt to seduce a classy girl without paying for anything whatsoever (drinks included) and you will have a much harder time.

      in real life, most people just take the easy way out, therefore most people are 'successful'.

    • ManOnFire

      @the_rake "but go to a bar and attempt to seduce a classy girl without paying for anything whatsoever (drinks included) and you will have a much harder time."
      - That's part of people's problem, continually using bars and club scenarios to gauge a guy's/girl's success. It's much different when you apply it to real every day life.

    • the_rake

      probably the reason people use clubs and bars is because it's already a social environment and therefore more acceptable to approach (especially with no more than a healthy dose of liquid courage). it's pretty much the only place you can say, "hey, I find you attractive and wanted to introduce myself". any other place you need a reason, an excuse, and even then people (girls most of all) will not take kindly to being approached by a stranger. the problem is that western society simply does not have enough places for single people to meet up (and no, "get a hobby" is not a sufficient answer to this).

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  • Rawrzz
    Do you have any resentments towards men? Or any resentments whatsoever? Not one? When your boss, at work, starts getting on your ass, do you not get upset at the situation?

    Yep. A lot of guys bitch about not being able to pull women. And a lot of women bitch about men only wanting sex or guys not committing. It's a way to express frustration at ones situation, not always a refusal of personal responsibility or effort.

    In any case, there is a difference between being angry at women in general for ones inability to get their interest. It's another being angry at human nature and social conventions.
    • Stacyzee

      This isn't a question of whether it's human nature to be upset at a situation or not.
      It's more so about how to help the problem rather than staying absorbed in it.

    • Rawrzz

      So what do you have against brothels?

    • Stacyzee

      As far as I know, the only place where legal prostitution takes place is in Nevada. Every where else, you're risking getting locked up or busted by the police.
      Also, going to a brothel is the easy way out, but does nothing to fix the guy's problem. Eventually, these men that cannot get laid rely on such services and end up frequenting brothels. Some of these men get addicted and end up out of a lot of money for receiving affection and love making someone was paid hundreds to give.
      If you ask me, this does even more psychological damage.
      It only blasters a seal over the wound, but it does nothing to help it heal.

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  • brain5000
    This is all good advice, but it is like the introduction or first chapter of a book that explains the goals generally, but isn't yet specific enough to really be helpful. That's okay - I know you have more good Takes in you to expand on the things you propose (if you haven't - maybe a Link Refresher is all it will take).

    - Great fashions for men's different body types.
    - Awesome haircuts for different male heads of hair
    Because, you know, some of us don't have the thickness for a pompadour, or even keep it combed for more than five minutes (looks at self).

    Yes, you did assume responsibility when you posted this Take. ;) I look forward to some great suggestions.
    • Stacyzee

      Being able to get laid, is all trial and error. There's no tips I can provide to help men get laid. If I do, what they voice to women will sound rehearsed. And trust me, we can see when a guy is scripted from a mile away.
      He literally needs to work on all of the things I mentioned, and with time (approaching more and more women), he will get better at it.

    • brain5000

      I wrote "if you haven't"; if I could edit my comment I would change it to "if you haven't already". You might have already posted Takes about these topics and I just don't remember.

    • Stacyzee

      Generally speaking, men know their body types and what looks good on them. I don't want to tell people "what I like" because there's billions of women out there who may find things attractive, that I personally do not. The man has to be attractive for himself. When he feels great about him, he will give off that vibe to others. I do not want to mold men into my liking, I feel that would stray from the goal.

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  • Other_Tommy_Wiseau
    and if a dude does, let's say, 95%+ of these things and still can't get laid, then what?
    • Stacyzee

      Realistically, every one a guy approaches is not going to give him the time a day.
      Expecting to get rejected is a realistic outlook.
      However, MOST guys that do these things will be able to.

    • in some fairness to you, i wanted to write something longer and way more in-depth as to why this take is wrong (not the entire thing, obviously, the inherent problems with it and what it says), but i'm way too lazy so i left it on a half assed question... maybe i'll come back later to actually write it :/

    • Stacyzee

      "Wrong" is not fact and is only perception based.
      I have a friend who is extremely unattractive in appearance but has been with more than 100 women.
      The man himself is really the problem if he fails to get laid.
      Anyway, when you actually do get around to writing the take I'll be looking forward to seeing your view.

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  • theegreat017
    I am past this stage i guess, i want romance, i want a woman, my lady, Milady ahh so much love, care, warmth, like the one in 'Up' what a couple are they, just wow, and i wanna get laidwith her, at our place, with my ring on her finger and a necklace around her neck 💜💜💜💜with her hands in mine and eyes in my eyes, ahh you just shook up that feeling in me. Wow!
  • skeptic007
    getting sex is easy
    having someone that actually cares is hard too find
    • Stacyzee

      Getting sexy is easy? Such a subjective opinion.
      Getting someone who cares? I agree 100%, there's too much people in this world that don't give a damn.
      Why don't we just ship them off on to an island so it's easier for us to select our potential mates. What do you say? :)

    • skeptic007

      you know how many good looking girls and guys would have to be shipped off lol
      that's true but I speak for myself don't really have much of an issue getting sex, and im not some super hot guy either, just a regular guy

    • ManOnFire

      @skeptic007 I agree, that's what I tell people but chicks keep trying to pretend they haven't been easy lays for guys, and guys keep thinking it's true. I guess it's easier for females to think it's really that much easier for them than to see how easy they've really been for guys.

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  • xxcchhllaauu
    dude its not the girls that stop me from getting a girlfriend it's my dick size and the fear that she isn't gonna like it but I'm a nice guy (no not a push over or a nice guy Finnish last guy) so I think she'll stay but in the end cheat on me with bigger
  • Unit1
    https://i.imgur.com/CMsxXqd.png

    problem solved ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
  • Scrambledagain
    Basically: who a man is, is not worthy of female attraction. So he must change. You are right but at what price? Women become practice objects, a man gives up his goals for women?
  • Spiorad_Aisce
    I wouldn't be as harsh as your assessment but there is a lot of truth in what you say.
    • Stacyzee

      Harsh? How so?

    • "Women, aren't the problem it is you!
      If almost every one around you, is able to pull the stunt off of being able to catch women and you aren't, you have to take a good look at yourself.
      You are the common denominator of every situation!

      While it makes an awful lot of sense and is close to what I believe - I might have phrased it a bit more gently.

    • Stacyzee

      I think we cradle rock too much in this society.
      I've seen too much men on here whine and complain about not being able to get laid, so I decided to deliver a little bit of tough love.
      Sometimes I feel that has the ability to wake people up, that refuse to really hear you.
      Gentle news doesn't always absorb.

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  • abundantlyrich
    The problem is they look for everything to go wrong.
  • idiotmanchild
    Not easy when I am 5'2'' and girls always give me the line, "you are awesome, but too short"...
  • Keepcalm89
    I rather marry lol
  • Anonymous
    There's guys that do all of this and still don't get laid. You can be clean , fit, confident and be the social wiz women vigorously expect men to be, and still come up short.
  • Anonymous
    I've never dated, made out, had a girlfriend, had sex. So I've been trying for 15 years and I keep hearing the same shit. Hell IM about ready to give up. sex is sex, it's a normal part of life so why are girls so reluctant to hand it out. Men wouldn't be so aggravated and bitter if they only got laid, hearing "your to pissed get laid" way too many times. I can't do prostitution because the majority of the time they're too expensive, fat, ugly and I've heard from people "never involve money for sex" honestly im thinking about just cashing out from society and calling an end to my life because I've never been allowed to get laid.
  • Anonymous
    I am that type of guy that is nice and finish last. Why? Cause i end up giving that friendship vibe and then i wait for the real chance after im the last one. But im gonna work on those things. Although, women do want a guy that has the looks or money to get laid, so it doesn't matter how good you come off as. Sometimes women just want to fuck sexxy guys that have the looks or a guy whos got lots of money.
  • Anonymous
    'Men, who can't get laid,
    If you're lacking in confidence level, trust me it shows in your demeanor.
    Work on the energy you give off to others.
    If you present yourself as unsure or insecure chances are the person
    you are talking to will want nothing to do with you.
    Work on the way you talk to women, and take care of your appearance so you can
    look decent and presentable.
    -Wear flattering clothes
    -Get a haircut or fix your hair
    -Work out to improve your self confidence level.'

    What about if you're doing all these things and you still can't get what you want?
  • Anonymous
    Basically everything is the guy's fault
  • Anonymous
    So what about guys with 0 experience in dating? How are we supposed to be confident?
    Confidence comes with experience, but I can't get experience if all the girls seek someone that is already confident and has experience.
    • Stacyzee

      Actually, confidence comes from the way someone feels about themselves. If you look to others, for a boost in self esteem you'll be sadly disappointed.
      I personally know, that excelling my career, exercising, being productive, self grooming makes me feel good enough to approach others.

    • Stacyzee

      People can have years of experience and be the most un-confident person out there.
      Confidence has nothing to do with how many people you've approached in your life.

    • Experience can "enhance" confidence. It cannot "create" it.

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