I'm A Guy... And I Don't Think Lesbians Are Hot


It's the big deal in these times for a lot of guys to think lesbians having sex is hot, but it really does not do anything for me, no. Neither do bi girls either. Don't get me wrong, I've known some lesbians and even if I don't agree with them I still don't care about what they do, and I don't hate them. But it's not sexy to me to see two women kissing or having sex, nor does it impress me that a woman could show she can have sexual feelings toward her own gender either.

I'm A Guy... And I Don't Think Lesbians Are Hot

I think my gripe is mostly with bi's and straight women who like to flirt with lesbianism. True lesbians do what they do and don't try to make an example of it or try to depict their sexuality as sexy for the most part. In fact a lot of true lesbians keep their sex lives private and personal. To me a lot of the bi and lesbianism of these times is mostly trendiness. Female homosexuality is depicted as sexy, especially since a lot of guys think so, and porn is overflowing with it, so it's like a lot of women are going with that.

Women are said to be "more sexually flexible"...

I remember reading some studies last year that said that the reason so many women are gay and bi nowadays is because women are more sexually flexible than men, and even noted how the majority of 'pansexuals' (people who basically have no racial or gender preference in who they fuck) and people with other types of diverse sexualities are women. I think that idea is really just meant to glamorize lesbianism and bisexuality, encourage it, and make women seem more sexually superior to men - if not to also encourage it to satisfy guys who like it. It's funny though. Guys who sleep with many, many people and have no hangups about their sex lives and sexcapades are often joked as "fucking anything that moves," yet women are the ones fucking anything that moves and we're all just calling it being "more sexually flexible." Just because a woman will have sex with anybody regardless of who or what they are doesn't spell flexibility to me, nor is it impressive, noble, or significantly sexually intelligent either. And if women really are like this, that would actually mean they're more sexually focused and driven than men. Society's contradictory thought-processes can be both amazing and appalling at the same time.

It's also been researched that among women who watch porn, lesbian porn is the No.1 search for both gay and straight women. There was also one study done where a number of men and women watched both gay and lesbian porn, and both the men and women thought the lesbian porn was way hotter than watching two guys go at it. Women have been taught so much that their gender is sexier to the point where they can watch themselves fucking each other and finding it hot.

I'm A Guy... And I Don't Think Lesbians Are Hot

A lot of straight women do say they feel their own gender is sexier than the male. There's a thought process in many where they can look at their own gender and feel that it’s more appealing. Some women have been angered by me noting this, yet often prove my point when they themselves say they think women are sexier because of their curvy figures in comparison to the straighter, harder figure of the male, basically with the idea, “Yeah, I can see how guys think we’re sexy.” What's also odd to me is that it's just fine for women to see the physical appeal in their own gender - and can even be vocal about it, but feel it would be “shallow” or only being focused on looks to see it in men, and would much rather see sexiness in their female gender than to see it in guys. Basically women are fine being "visual" with each other, but to be visual with men - or admitting it anyway - is what they see as showing weakness for them as women. It really just seems to come down to that egotistical issue: women like being seen as sexy or sexier than men, and like entertaining it by even declaring a sex appeal that they themselves see in their own gender. So they like entertaining the supposed science of women being more sexually flexible because it implies an ability or quality that would be superior to men. They're not really more flexible and don’t really desire women more, they just like the image that the idea gives them.


But to be honest, I think the root of bisexuality and lesbianism is insecurity in most of those women. And a lot of women have turned to it out of frustration with guys or because they're not getting good sex from them, so instead of trying to work with men and learn to understand them as their opposite, women would rather just turn to other women because "women understand each other better." Some women have tried to tell me gay guys are the same way, but I really don't think so. Sure, you may have some like that, but the vast majority of gay men tend to be sincere about it, feeling like that's really who they are. I have only ever once in my life heard about a guy turning gay out of frustration with women. It is far more common for a woman to do that than a man I think. Some people even use the excuse that women who turned gay did so because of past sexual abuse. Maybe for some, but using a history of sexual abuse to explain away everybody's present behaviors and choices is just too much of an easy way out.

It seems to be that straight women who have sex with other women yet claim to still be straight is that they simply don't have the courage to be a woman with a man, or are too proud to be. I’ve talked to a lot of women like this online and that's basically what it boils down to, at least from my experience. I remember talking to one about it for days on Experience Project who pretty much admitted that was her case, and she felt "inspired" by me to take a second look and re-think her attitude toward guys. They don't know how to woman up and communicate with men or even try to learn about men, so they’d rather just get frustrated and blame the guy’s performance in bed. Women like this aren't up to the challenge. They’re too proud to face differences and too proud to try to work with a man in the way they want him to do for them, so their pride tells them they'd rather just get satisfaction from other women because “women understand each other better” before they will humble themselves and have to do some work with men.

I'm A Guy... And I Don't Think Lesbians Are Hot

So, no. I don't find anything sexy about a woman who does or would sleep with other women. None of it says to me that there is anything impressive or intimately profound about a woman who will have sex with all kinds of people. It says that she allows herself to be used by them in a blind notion that she’s more flexible, when she's really just doing them a favor more than she’s doing for herself. In the new age scientific communities, men are said to be more close-minded and singular for not having this “flexibility” that women have, and I laugh at that. We straight men don’t want or need to be able to screw just about anybody regardless of their gender. Men want women and have sex with them because that's what we like, want, and are attracted to. We don't feel that we need or want more than that, and I will unapologetically say that we are often more secure in our sexuality and desires and know what we want, and are satisfied with that. Women being “more open” to sleeping with other women ultimately seems like a lame excuse for a woman’s lack of understanding sex or even understanding her own self, not understanding it more in some sexually profound ability.

I'm A Guy... And I Don't Think Lesbians Are Hot
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  • redeyemindtricks
    I don't much care for lesbian porn, but, I can totally understand why a straight woman might watch it.

    Specifically... in straight porn, let's just say, not much attention typically gets paid to the woman's pleasure. She's basically just a sex toy for the guys.

    I'm willing to bet that MOST of the women who watch "lesbian" porn REALLY just want to watch "porn where women actually get off".
    Is this still revelant?
    • ManOnFire

      @redeyemindtricks And yet there is actually porn made FOR women and BY women that are supposed to focus on how a woman would enjoy sex... yet it's the stuff meant for men that most women watch who are into porn.

    • Well, I don't know the scale of those bars... but, the "For Women" bar is about 1/2 the length of the "Lesbian" bar -- and there's no way there's anywhere *near* 1/2 as much "for women" porn out there as lesbian porn.
      So, ratio-wise, women ARE watching a lot more of the "for women" porn.

      Still, though, we're a hard audience to pin down.
      A lot of us don't really like traditional stills and videos at all, so, we won't factor into that bar graph.
      Me personally, I tend to like GIF's and stories -- and I'm not alone:

      Dunno if they've really figured a way to monetize the whole GIF/tumblr porn craze yet. I'm sure they will eventually.

    • ManOnFire

      @redeyemindtricks I guess you're a little dense. I'm saying that of alllllll the porn made, most women who watch porn are still watching the stuff that guys watch, and liking it too. Much more than they watch the stuff the women porn makers make for women. That pretty much settles it. Especially when more and more women watch porn in these times and are even thinking the stuff the girls do in the movies is hot.

      Porn gifs are goofy for the most part. I've looked at some of it myself on Tumblr and it's really very silly. I also don't think men are into those gifs any less than women are. Your Bustle study is really just focusing on women who watch them, not men. It doesn't imply that women are into them more than anyone else, it just talks about why women like them.

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  • Stacyzee
    It's refreshing to see a guy think like this , all I ever see are men getting overly excited when they see two women together. It's like the hottest thing on Earth.
    I know my brother feels this way, I heard him say , "What's so hot about seeing two women who don't want you?"
    • ManOnFire

      Ikr? THANK you. He's smart too.

    • EXACTLY. It's a huge turnoff, and incites jealously. My chances of getting a hot guy is scare enough, so if they're gay, it basically symbolizes NO CHANCE. It's a subconscious thought process.

  • TheDevilInside
    Wayyyy too much generalisation here. No, we don't fuck just anything, we do have our own tastes, duh. I, for one, am never going to fuck an old hairy guy or an old wrinkly lady or even a dark-skinned Asian girl. Not racist, just not my taste. I like pale-skinned or glowy dark-skinned girls, and I like strong-looking guys who are not old enough to be my dad, thank you. You just sound bitter.
    • ManOnFire

      Being bitter would have to imply some kind of jealousy I would think. Which is faaaaar from it.

    • Just saying, that's how you sound like in this take.

    • ManOnFire

      I think that's just the way you'd prefer to write me off so you can feel better about it. Easier to find fault with the messanger than to acknowledge the message.

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  • Deft_maiden
    This whole bi or lesbian glorification was invented by Hollywood.
    The reality is that there are more gay, trans, crossdresser, pedophile (no offense just making a point here), etc. male than female.
    It must be homophobia talking.
    • ManOnFire

      @Deft_maiden Is it that there are more males of these types than females? Or the male ones are just all people ever learn and hear about? Women's behavior, whether it's sexual, flawed, or inappropriate, often goes far more unnoticed than men's.

    • Yes there are far more males engaging in such behaviors than females.

    • ManOnFire

      @Deft_maiden I don't think it is. I think most of those behaviors that women also do are about the same, just less noticed. I still do believe that women turn gay out of dissatisfaction or frustration with men far more than any man doing it for the same reason.

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  • ClassicRocker
    I don't really think it's hot either. I think it's one of those myths that gets perpetuated by the same magazines and media sources that suggest things like eating a doughnut off my dick will drive me wild for some reason...
    • ManOnFire

      Dude, I wish we could give Best Opinions on Takes, cuz you would get it.

  • FallOutBoy2001
    While I don't agree with the idea that we're turning to bisexuality and lesbianism (is that a word?) because we're fed up with guys, I do agree, why do people oversexualize us? You don't do that with gay and bisexual guys, why us

    By the way, I do think one of the reasons "lesbian" is the first porn search for women may be in part to the fact that gay/bi women tend to look at more porn, in my experience
    • ManOnFire

      It's pretty common for women to turn gay because of a frustration with men, yeah. But I do agree that society oversexualizes women quite a lot. And yeah, I do think gay and bi women probably do watch more porn.

    • No it's not. One cannot turn gay, if anyone tells you they've turned gay, just tell them "then you were never straight" because no one who is straight can turn gay

    • Smart girl.

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  • IceEverest
    Lesbians dont do anything for me... I mean it... literally nothing... Nor does bi... I never understood the craze...

    sorry @ManOnFire , that I was not able to answer your previous tags as I am busy way too much and probably use gag very very less till End of July. After that I will be the usual gag user again...
    • ManOnFire

      It's cool, man. Don't sweat it :-)

  • Socialrealist
    I'm the same way. Lesbians never really turned me on and I could never get why some men get off to this. Also, by the way, that pornhub graph had been proven to be inaccurate.
    • ManOnFire

      Yeah, I just used it for a pic, I don't really know if any Pornhub stats are true.

  • Shorty1991
    I'm a girl and I don't think lesbians are hot either. . . when they are in your face and try to hit on you. I'm not a homophobic, I usually don't have a problem with them as long as they don't do what I've just mentioned above.
  • tinyclit
    I don't think lesbians are "hot" either, but my or my did that rant never end or what, so many words. I didn't make it all the way through. Sorry.
    • ManOnFire

      Lol. This is actually one of my shorter Takes. Most of men tend to have some length to them, so this felt like a walk in the park for me, lol.

    • ManOnFire

      *THEM tend to have some length. (fucking typo, I hate that)

  • Artist20
    As a man, it doesn't turn me on either. It doesn't make a woman hotter, its not the hottest thing on earth and it doesn't excite me more either.
    However when it comes to porn, male and female sex is so fake and horrible. Porn doesn't portray sex for what it truly is, men are just banging women like robots, porn doesn't show passion, doesn't show what turns them on, nothing.
  • HoneyButterCup525
    Finally someone who sees this, girl on girl is so overrated ...
    • ManOnFire

      And just disgusting.

    • It sure is, and it seems childish as well...

    • ManOnFire

      @HoneyButterCup525 I really appreciate the females who understood this. Most who commented are just butthurt about it. Probably denying their own inner gay tendencies.

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  • DinosaurKnight
    I'm a straight guy, and I've never understood the obsession straight guys have with lesbians. I mean, I don't have anything against lesbians. I'm very LGBT-friendly. But watching two girls kiss just doesn't do for me what it apparently does for other straight dudes. To each their own, I guess, but... I just don't get it.
  • It's not new. Lesbian porn was popular when porn was first invented. You must be a gay dude if you don't think the idea of two or more women together is hot.
    • ManOnFire


    • Yes your whole take is a major facepalm. I'm glad you can admit that.

    • Stanley23

      @John_Doesnt He said your opinion is a face palm dipshit.

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  • theoverlookeddude
    I don't have a problem with lesbians for their orientation- but a lot of the ones I've met in person are pretty stuck up and condescending. Not to say all are, but I've had so many bad experiences just trying to be FRIENDS with them that it's hard to find lesbian type porn or whatever attractive. I never did in the first place. No disrespect meant- you are who you are. But I don't think girl on girl is hot.
  • GreatnessRevamped
    I could never get into the lebo porn. It just ends.
    With straight porn, there's a clear indication. lol

    I have to partially disagree with the insecurity part. While some girls I knew went lebo because of troubles with men, others I knew generally like pussy.
  • Jxpxtxr
    Lmao this was hilarious, I'm a bisexual and I don't care in the slightest about what you are or aren't attracted to.
    • ManOnFire

      @Jxpxtxr If you didn't care you wouldn't have commented.

    • Jxpxtxr

      Nah, I just wanted to tell you that I found it hilarious ;)

    • ManOnFire

      @Jxpxtxr So humor to cover being butthurt... Not uncommon, no.

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  • Mistnigqa808
    I dont think it's hot either. And there isn't anything worst that seeing to legit "hot" girls going at it, like that should be me or some other man fucking that broad, not another woman >_<
  • Yoroi
    Being gay is natural, man."Women understand each other better."? Pfft lol nope. Maybe if they're best friends but normally they see eachothers as rivals. I never saw other girls as rivals and just wanted the girls close to me to feel comfy and happy. A. k. a. GAY ( ๑ ᴖ ᴈ ᴖ) ᴖ ᴑ ᴖ๑)<3 Kawaī~
    • Yoroi

      Also I'm pretty sure that sexy lesbian couples are just another stupid stereotype. People probably get their 'informations' from yuri anime and fake porn actresses. And no darn idea why so many women search for lesbian porn. Maybe out of curiosity ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)? But if those bi-curious women don't understand the emotional factors of those relationships, then watching all that graphic footage of women exchanging physical contact won't be enough for them to achieve complete GAY~NESS

  • shawnmendrek
    I do not like gay couples and before some snowflake gets upset, I do not care about your sexual orientation. Just because you people in your gay groups love to parade that you are gay, does NOT mean I have to like it or accept it it entirely.

    That being said, gay on, it's your choice and your freedom to express that. Just don't rub the gayness on me! Lesbians and couple sex and 3somes are just not a turn on to me. I prefer 1on1
  • rjroy3
    Never took the thought process that deep. But I agree lol. I don't find two women together hot, but I do enjoy hot girls doing their thing. It's just not enough to be a turn on, because I'd rather be included
  • dominiquois
    I agree that insecurity is the cause for a lot of these behaviors in a lot of these people (not all).
  • skeptic007
    honestly in real life it's not hot
    on screen it looks better lol
    but real life nahh looks fucking weird

    I stick with team Jesus
    man and women come together
  • CHARismatic110
    You don't seem to find anything but white women hot huh?
    • ManOnFire

      Older women, white chicks, Latinas, and plus size women. I know you were being a smart ass but, yeah, those are my top preferences.

    • Good to know. Or not. You know, since I'm black.

    • ManOnFire

      I do know, yes. It really bothers you when black men aren't into y'all, doesn't it?

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  • Johnagain
    Good take... Yup the "sexually flexibile" factor is a bullshit lie. More double standards from/for our gender counter parts. Insecurity is fueled further by that glorification of lesbianism. How is it that most women, straight or not, are accepted more for finding & expressing appreciation for the VISUAL sex appeal of other women & NOT accepted (even scorned) for their said intrest in VISUAL appeal of MEN? That's what kills me! What's wrong with men? (Pysically) Are we so ugly that even the most handsome of us can be seen by certain females (especially YOUNGER ones in their 20's) as undesireable? Sick! Perverted in the TRUE meaning of the word.
    • ManOnFire

      Dude, this was awesome. If we could give Best Answer for Takes you'd get it. Women deny being visual with men because they want to seem like they're above lusting after men physically, because they see it as weakness, since that's how they perceive men as being for being visual.

    • Johnagain

      Ah yes. The "weakness" thing. We concur.

    • What women have you been talking to? The ones I know are crazy about hot guys they see in public. Women are NOT scorned for visual appreciation of men, at all. I can't really fault you, as a guy, too much for not knowing what girls talk about with each other, but it really seems ridiculous from my perspective as a woman -__-

      However, I do agree that there has been a glorification of lesbianism, and there is a double standard going on as the same cannot be said of gay men. The majority of men and women will agree that girl on girl is hot. But guy on guy grosses them out. Why?

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  • 99percentangel
    Okay... so you don't find lesbians hot... no body asked you if you did, but thanks for that super juicy stuff I really wanted to hear about that.
    • ManOnFire

      Another one with their feelings hurt. Okay. Keep 'em comin', ladies!

    • lol I ain't hurt and I ain't lesbian or bi either so...

  • somebodysaycheese
    o. k. a lot of girls like lesbian porn because of the eroticism of it. Its more passionate, chicks eat the kitty better too. Its not like she is looking the girl and turned on by her. Its really whats being done and lacks in hetero porn which by the ways sucks. but yea, interesting that a man doesn like lesbian porn , interesting. And let me just point out b*tches are watching hentai. .. lol and big dicks and rough sex lol. And women aren't freaks? lol But might i point out a lot gay porn actors are " straight" men.
    • ManOnFire

      @somebodysaycheese Then you must not have read the whole thing to the end. Any woman who thinks another woman eating pussy is better or sexier has no courage and security with doing it with men. Also, the vast majority of women who watch porn watch the stuff made for men, and find it hot.

    • Sorry to break it to ya, I've seen lesbian porn and they do do it better. And your not understanding they aren't even looking at the female but the act, the way women are enjoying themselves, Hetero porn is fake , the women's pleasure is too fake. Porn for womwn made by women is good BUT their isn't a lot of variety or even a lot of videos that are featured on porn sites that are free. Might I add gay porn was something men watch.

    • ManOnFire

      @somebodysaycheese Seeing a woman eat pussy better in a porno doesn't really equate to much. Hell, seeing a woman deepthroating like a queen in porn is better to me than the way most women give head, and most are really just mediocre at it, but that's the reality of it. So if women are watching other women enjoying themselves, it's not much different from men watching women in porn making the man enjoy himself.

      Whether it's fake or not, most women into porn are still watching it. Gay men watch gay porn, but not straight men. And either way, the porn aspect is the least of it. The point of this Take is highlighting the insecurity in women to turn gay because they don't have courage and can't handle relationships with men. Men are not turning gay for those reasons.

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  • jacquesvol
    Of course: they're as sexy as other women but they reject you.
    • ManOnFire

      That's what you call a clever comeback, right? Lol. I've never hit on a lesbian, and if I did I certainly didn't know it. And if I did know it I would never hit on her, there is no appeal in them for me.

  • ConsultantIsBack
    I agree, I don't get that turned on by seeing two girls on each other either
  • Druid64
    Some basic math. Population of the world, 7,400,000,000. Adults 75%, or about 5,550,000,0000. Roughly half women, or 2,775,000,000. Of these let's say 5% gay: 138,750,000. For the sake of argument, about the same number of bi-sexual or bi-curious women.

    Conservatively, you are making sweeping generalisations concerning a diverse group of well over 200,000,000 (that is > 200 million) women, each with her own sexuality, emotional make up, fears, insecurities, joys, loves, lovers, disappointments, triumphs et cetera et cetera.

    Sorry to say this, but I don't think any of us is that smart. Nature loves diversity genetically, sexually, and hundreds if not thousands of other ways. A binary universe simplistic enough to be so easily defined by such unfounded, sweeping generalisations does not, has not, and will never exist.
  • RoccoJones
    Amazing! And I thought I was the only guy in the world to feel this way! And I could never understand why. The most favourable thing I can say about girl-on-girl action, is that it grosses me out less than 2 guys doing it.
  • zagor
    It pretty much depends ENTIRELY on which two lesbians you're talking about. A video of Ellen and Rosie O'Donnell wouldn't sell too well.

    On the other hand, I was in San Francisco one night and I saw two girls kissing who were so hot I wanted to offer money to follow them home and watch.
  • JCT666
    Good take. I've also never seen the appeal in lesbian sex.
  • MackToday
    Does nothing for me either it's repulsive as hell. Abnormal it's disease morbidity, like leprosy or gangrene, awful to look at.
  • Fearless_banana
    Well that picture that you showed would make me hate lesbians too. Gross
  • drewtacular
    I dont watch lesbian porn. For me when I'm watching porn its to jerk off. and I fantasize that i'm the guy in the porn. So the only "lesbian" porn I watch is a 3some with bi girls. thats hot.
  • MakeShiftThug
    Don't watch porn. Find lesbian sex repulsing.
    Wouldn't date a bi girl.
  • Satisfyd
    I think it's because men like women that are more open sexually and that's how lesbians are perceived.
  • Other_Tommy_Wiseau
    • Stanley23

      Stfu and stop criticizing people. If he's gay then I'm gay! What are you going to do buddy?

    • Stanley23

      I'm gay too man, what are you going to do?

    • Stanley23

      Gay, gay, gay, gay, gay, I'm soooo gay man!

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  • Jersey2
    I think it used to be hot but now not. I don't know why but it isn't as interesting anymore.
  • Words_and_Wisdom
    Glad I'm not the only one who thinks so. Great take!
  • Polocrew
    Lol lesbians I know irl look like goth punk kids from 80s. Not hot at all
  • Becky01
    I don't mind watching girl on girl but sex is sex and its all good as long as you are enjoying it
  • smølf
    Lesbian are usually not hot, too butch and whatnot. Bisexual women can be nice when in a threesome though, but downright lesbians naaa.
  • Dchrls78104
    Good take. I agree with you on this. I think lesbians are objectionable and it's high time someone actually called things like they actually are.
  • archiz
    I am bi curious so for me it obviously turns me on
    also men making out turns me on
    • ManOnFire

      Why are you bi curious?

    • archiz

      what? there is supposed to be a reason behind what I like?

    • ManOnFire

      Uhhhhh... isn't there?

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  • mightknowsomething
    i dont mind 2 women getting it on just as long as i can get in on the action, its always been my life long dream. i find it to be rather sexy and i dont care what other guys think.
  • Stanley23
    I watch girl/girl porn (because I'm a guy and I love girls) but I don't like how girls are to each other in reality. It's a big turn off and I would look the other way!
  • bluenose1872
    Women aren't sexually flexible. Theyre socially aware. there's still a stigma with being gay and women hate to stand out so they get a straight relationship as camouflage. When theyre older and there's less pressure to live up to social norms they usually end up with other women. If youve got a girlfriend who you cannot get interested in sex dont brush it off as womens trouble or her being being in a phase, she's likely gay, get rid of her. A healthy hetero woman is just as sexually charged as her man and will respond normally to your advances unless you've really done something shitty to her
    • Stanley23

      They're not sexually flexible, they're pressured into doing it by the society. If they're sexually flexible, you'll see women holding hands and kissing in public without the abuse of alcohol.

    • @Stanley23 nobody is sexually flexible. You're gay or your straight. The rest is mental illness. Social engineering tells you different.

  • CougarBoss
    I dated a lesbian before and she was hot. Well I'm not a guy