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Woman Hears the EXACT Same Thing From Two Guys, But She Reacts Differently?

Think about it.

Women treat you how you treat/perceive them. Be good/nice and get that in return. The guy who acts dirty, gets to see her really dirty side.

FOR EACH OF THE 18 POINTS BELOW provide your thoughts:

THE WOMAN
- nice in personality
- fairly innocent in behavior
- very sexy

Can a woman have two guys treat/tell her the EXACT same thing and react differently?

But who does she show this to?

THE GUYS. Both are equally attractive:

GUY 1: in her social circle. He is interested in who she is, her interests, passions. He uplifts her. He also texts her, makes her laugh, is sweet, kind etc. He's also pretty charming and treats her like a lady. He is also exciting and they have fun together.

GUY 2: someone she met more recently. He may either be in her social circle as an entrant or else someone she just runs into. Now he isn't sweet. He doesn't text her that much at all. He isn't that nice or a gentleman. He doesn't act kindly in that sense. He isn't as eloquent as Guy 1. He can be crazy at times, maybe taking pics with the ladies etc. He is more in your face.

For each of these scenarios, WHAT DO YOU THINK? Please be specific and see whether a woman's actions are truer than their claimed words of what they want.

THE WORDS

1. Tell her in person she is extremely sexy.
2. Be told in person "I bet you're really dirty in bed."
3. Be told in the bedroom, "That's right, suck me you slut!"
4. Have them tell her "I bet you have great oral skills."
5. Call her a "dirty dirty girl" in bed.
6. Say "I am going to cum on your face" in the bedroom.
7. In person, tell her "you look so hot".
8. In person, tell her "nice legs".
9. Text her, "Great to see your sexy self"
10. Text her, "Need someone submissive to give me head tonight".
11. Text her, "You weren't given lips like that for nothing".
12. Caption a FB picture which includes her as "Fitties"
13. Caption a FB picture which includes her as "Looking sexy".

OTHER ACTIONS

14. Pose with her in a picture with her and other girls pouting on his command.

15. In addition who will she be more likely to be dirty for and sleep with? The guy in her social circle, and someone she values as a someone who cares about her? Or the other guy who is less sweet? (Note the sweet guy is still confident).

16. Who would she act like a total slut in the bedroom for? Where is there more reputation risk?

17. Who would she pose in sexy poses with versus innocent poses?

18. Who would she act innocent around?

Suck my dick you slut! Yeah you like sucking dick don't you you dirty dirty girl.


You're so dirty, I bet you're a real dirty girl in the bedroom.

What do you think? For those 18 scenarios for those 2 guys with the same woman?

And secondly, does the r/k selection theory apply? That a girl would prefer to act dirty/slutty with a guy who cares less about her than the sweet confident good guy? And that she doesn't care what happens with him, thus will be really dirty with him and really slow and innocent with the good guy?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Omg this is so fucking long and I don't even know what you're asking. What do I think about what and what does it show about a woman?

    Yes a woman will act differently depending on the guy because reactions are based on a cause and effect principle. If your stimulus is different your reaction is going to be different. Also to this point not every woman is the same so she MIGHT act exactly the same to both these guys. If she's fairly innocent she might be uncomfortable with all of those things from both men. If she's a little more sexual on the inside then she might also be okay with all of those things from both men. However she's never going to react the exact same way because those are two different people. With the first she hangs out with him and sees him all the time and he's a legitimate part of her social life, plus he sounds like a nice guy, so yes she might take it slower or be more reluctant because of the social aspect of it, and for Guy 2 she might not care because he doesn't seem to care. OR if she likes him a lot, she'll also care a lot.

    Like I originally said, it's impossible to determine how a girl would act because everyone's different.

    • This is nicely put! Spoken like a true psychology major/expert! I see your points, but what I'm trying to ask is, say you have two equally physically attractive guys. Now the differences in their personality are explained in their descriptions above. So for each point can you explain how the same girl might act? Let's say the women is someone who gives off the innocent vibe, but is extremely pretty and also a fun person (so maybe naughty behind closed doors), caring etc. Her basic assesment of each guy is their description. What do you make of her possible reaction/preference for each and why? E. g. (this is just an example) 3. She'd prefer guy 2 over guy 1. With guy 2 she doesn't care about it, she can be as slutty as she wants, not as close to him. With guy 1, she'd act innocent. Can you clarify and explain for some of these 18 points pls? You seem to be on to something. So are you saying, she would be less likely to be sexual/open to a close guy?

    • I understand what you're saying, but what I'M saying is that it still depends on the girl you're talking to, and the two guys themselves. I'm hugely against generalizing something like this because there is always going to be an exception, and for something like this, I don't even think it would be a rarity to find women who behave both ways (both meaning, more sexual with friend guy vs more sexual with distant guy).

    • Right so there is a good chance for the polite guy to still experience her wild side? For her to be fun, free, sexy around him in public and well, dirty in the bedroom?

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Very well written take but again there aren't any thumb rules here. It's all a matter of comfort that her natural sense has granted her. Out of the same 2 in a different situation she may find a nicer one creepy and a wolf (like me lol) very attractive. But not everytime and everywhere it's the excitement quotient.

    There isn't really any logic to these things. I've had women HATE me only to learn later from them or one of their close friends that she hates me cause she thinks I'm beyond her league and she can't acquire me etc. Things differ from situation to situation, person to person.

    If someone picks this topic for debating it'll only turn up an argument nothing more :)

    As of your message to me, I couldn't reply cause you allow messages only from following so here it is :)

    Believe me the other side of fence is always greener lol. When you have girls willing to do anything to acquire you including hurting / harming you, those you love ; it isn't as funny lol. You choose one , the rest go vehement, can't bloody work with them parading around your chamber etc - can get a bit and a lot irritating...

    • Yeah I guess there are no hard and fast rules so to speak, but how does a guy 1 for example get to see her less innocent side that other guys like 2 may see? I like your point about the other side of the fence! Tho I'm not sure we'd complain about a college threesome? For each of the points 3, 5, 6, 8, 14, 15, and 16, SEPARATELY how would she react to each guy and why? Thoughts?

    • There's ONLY ONE answer 'perception' thus comfort or discomfort :) Perception is supreme, nothing beats perception <3

    • Thank you buddy for liking my opinion :)

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  • Look,

    • Pressed Enter... Look, people don't actually care what you do objectively. They care about being right, which means they care about how well what they expect and what actually occurs matches up. So that extends to what they expect from you. We all one that one person who is just totally crazy but it's allowed because they have a reputation for craziness. Its why there are people who say loudly that they "don't give a fuck" Even when they do because eventually people begin to belief them and it becomes normal for them to react crazily. People don't actually care of you act any which way, only if you deviate from the way in which they expect you to act. This is why women like assholes and confidence early on, because it makes the men stable in a sense. Even if they are terrible the women know what to expect, they begin to get wise to their games Even if the games suck. Its the consistent behavior that attracts them. TLDR; act like the man you wish to be perceived as. Be that man.

    • So for your little though exercise... Basically all you have to ask yourself is what the woman expects from each man, and you'll see that you're right. She will expect different things from each man because she expects each to deliver MORE OF THE SAME.

    • Very very interesting points! But what I mean is say a genuinely good guy (so someone who is confident, suave and good to her, respectful, polite etc), can he say dirty things and have her posing and being very touchy/naughty around him? In general and separately in the bedroom? As for the two guys mentioned above, how would she react for each of the points 1-18 above separately?

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  • If the girl is mature enough, she wouldn't pick the bad guy who uses some manipulative compliments to get into her pants. I know a lot of girls do, but not me. Perhaps they find him to be outspoken and has more 'courage' than the nice guy. I have met a lot of guys who are like this and I don't give them time of day. They probably say the same thing to other girls whom they find to be attractive. Yes I agree girls could react differently to two different guys. I admit I do this too. Generally I appreciate any guys who compliment how attractive am I but I definitely get more excited if I am attracted to him too :)

  • When a guy acts like he is not interested, and he has a lot of confidence... omg thats so sexy :o i try so hard to get his approval you know... its bad but it all makes it exiting... its like a game

  • Yes she will react differently because even if she thinks both guys are "sexy/hot", it's likely that she will react in a positive way to the respectful and moral guy if she also has morals.

    • This is very interesting! Ok pls clarify, are you saying that even if both guy 1 and guy 2 are hot to her, she will react positively to guy 1 who is sweeter to her? So is she warmer to him being dirty and talking very dirty to her? For each of the 18 points, who would she be warmer to and why? I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on each point, try it out?

    • One reason why the nicer guy would get a positive reaction is because, the woman would take it as a compliment because she would feel more comfortable around the nicer guy. Now the guy that isn't nice, might get a negative reaction, because the woman would assume he is just being creep and or rude.

    • Right so she'd actually take a sexual/dirty compliment better from guy 1 over guy 2 as described near the top of the take? Interesting! So for points 3,5,6 and 8 who'd she respond to and why that guy? And thoughts on points 14-18? In addition who'd she love to hear something like "beg for my cum you slut" from?

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  • The difference is that only guy 2 doing/saying those things makes sense. So when it's him doing/saying whatever the girl thinks "that's just him" and she'll be ok with it. Because he's simply being honest about who he is and isn't afraid to show it. Essentially being truly confident and upfront.

    Guy 1 doing/saying those things are out of place. She either doesn't know what to think of the guy or she doesn't fully trust him. Because who he's presenting himself to be and who he really is don't seem to add up. The girl doesn't think "oh that's just him". She's thinking "what's his deal?". So she might give him shit doing the same thing guy 2 gets away with seemingly for no reason.

    It's like listening to a guy talking about being in a fight and you can just tell it's not true and that he probably has never been in a single fight his whole life. You can't get away from who you are. So if you just put on a front vs actually being yourself, people are going to know something is off unless you actually change who you are.

    • That aside. The hotter you are the more you can get away with. I recommend working out lol

    • Say they both work out though. Like I said both equally physical attractive. But one treats her sweetly and the other doesn't so sweet texts and poses etc. For each point can you clarify why she responds to which guy and why?

    • The 18 points

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  • Well, it's extremely hard to figure out what you want me to do from the way this has been worded. I think you're asking what response Guy 1 would get compared to Guy 2 - this should have been made clear in the first paragraph, by the way.

    Obviously, Guy 2 is more of an arsehole so when he says sexual things such as the ones in that bucket list, it will come across as more natural / more congruent. If the woman is sexually inclined, she is more likely to receive those things well: funny, sexy, smooth, charismatic, etc.

    Guy 1 is not like this naturally, so if he tries to say things like that, the girl will sense that his behaviour is not natural / not congruent, and she is more likely to perceive him as weird, creepy, etc. This is the case even though Guy 1 is saying the same literal things as Guy 2.

    • Thanks for getting back. Yes, it needed some fine tuning, I think the original picture messed up the original submission and by that point I had lost some of the nicer wording sadly! So are you saying, that guy 2 can do anything since he is less sweet in general? So even an innocent women who feels the hots for him in the moment will let him get away with that? Guy 1 is also an attractive person to her. He is maybe more suave and smooth than blatant and brash. He is sweeter and texts her etc as explained above. So if she is attracted to him, in the moment will she warm to those things? In terms of what I'm asking I did try to put that in the top quote: "The guy who acts dirty, gets to see her really dirty side. FOR EACH OF THE 18 POINTS BELOW provide your thoughts:" So for the 18 points, can you say how she would respond to guy 1 and guy 2 (or pick one of the guys she'd prefer) AND state why. Does that make sense?

    • I think it's possible for you to edit the mytake (see bottom right corner), then I again I might only have that privilege because of my editor status. Still, generally speaking it's better to post your questions in the appropriate section and filter out explicit language but I'm not a moderator or anything: this is just a heads up. '[Can] guy 2 can do anything since he is less sweet in general' It's easier for smooth, charismatic guys to get away this kind of thing, especially if they happen to be good looking, rich or have a good job as well. That sounds pessimistic but it's just the way the world is: guys with looks, money and status do better in all aspects of life - getting jobs, getting women and having successful relationships in general. 'Guy 1 is also an attractive person to her. He is maybe more suave and smooth than blatant and brash.' ...

    • [PT2] ... Well, now you are beginning to describe a more confident man. Obviously there is going to be overlaps and it's never black and white as nice guy versus douche, alpha versus beta, 'guy 1' versus 'guy 2'. I wrote the original post on the details you gave me, you might want to rephrase your question paying close attention to what people on here have told you. 'In terms of what I'm asking I did try to put that in the top quote' Yes I know but the layout, phrasing, title and everything was vague/confusing and a little jumbled up since you posted further instructions half way through the take.

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  • 10/10 I won't add stuff to it as I don't want women's / feminazi picking on my opinion

    • Thanks. I hope it makes sense. I would like to hear your opinion though! So for each of the 18 points, which guy would she prefer/how would she react to each guy and why? E. g. 1. Guy 1 over guy 2. With the first she feels she knows him. Guy 2, she'd feel slutty 2. Guy 2 over guy 1. She feels like she can do anything with the 2nd since they're not close, less social drawbacks, she can be a slut. 3. Guy 2 over guy 1, she'd let him call her anything since it doesn't matter. This is just an example of course. Would appreciate your thoughts

    • Pls help me out on this take? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

  • Yeah women respond completely based on how hot they think you are

    Melanie iglesias, way high up on celeb crush list Mmm😍

    • Yep on Melanie. But for each point how would she respond to each guy and why?

    • Pls read guy 1 and guy 2 again. Both are hot for her. But they are different people. So for each points, how would she react to BOTH

  • This question is weird in a perverted way but I will answer it.
    It depends on the woman. It is incredibly rare for a genuinely nice/kind/moral woman to be attracted to an evil man, she MUST be a complete idiot, no other way to explain it. Only evil Jezebel women like evil men because like attracts like.
    A truly nice/kind/virtuous women will NOT engage in any of those types of acts. If a man were to approach her she will become extremely uncomfortable, insulted and angry. In fact the man will sometimes be slapped across the face. There is no such thing as an innocent slut. Ever. It is all an act. They pretend to act innocent because they know men are subconsciously attracted to that so they do it to seduce men. A truly innocent women will not even think about sex. She will be more spiritual and care about deeper things, things that matter.
    An innocent woman who becomes married and has sex with her husband is NOT being dirty or slutty, she is still loyal and pure (unless she cheats). It's natural to sleep with your husband. Only a woman who sleeps with many random men can ever be a slut.

    • Very good points. Look I see what you mean about women acting innocent, so why is that? Also nice picture. But why would a woman maybe act more innocent for a 'good guy' like guy 1 for instance? What I am asking is? 1. Read the descriptions of guy 1 and guy 2 above. 2. For each of the points 1-8, choose/explain which guy she'd prefer that with. 3. Explain why she would act like that?

    • Can u help me out on the updated take? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a30669-do-women-have-dirtier-sex-with-guys-who-don-t-care-about-them-what

  • Depends on the girl. I guess.

    • Ok clarify for each point?

    • As in would they prefer whom for which?

    • So for point 1-18, who do they prefer and why?

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  • didn't read all of it sorry

    but anyways
    yes a woman will react differently to the same thing coming from different guys... i dont see how that's surprising lol

    let's say a sexual comment on her body...
    if her husband says it... it can drive her wild...
    if some random pig on the street said THE exact same thing in the same tone and the same way... she will feel very violated and hate that man on so many levels deep down, she would want to get out o that area as fast as she can

    kissing
    if her husband randomly kissed her out of nowhere... she will just melt
    if someone randomly kissed her on the street... well we all know how that would usually go lol

    so yes... its not about what is said or done... it's about who says it and does it...

    its like when your friend calls you ugly and you both laugh about it
    but if someone you dont know or hate calls you ugly you'll probably fight

    again i dont see how that is surprising in any way lol

    • Agreed on your so doing it. Pls read guy 1 and guy 2 above and comment for each of the 18 points. It doesn't take long, look forward to ur thoughts

    • It seems the other way round though?

  • Not entirely sure I know what you're asking but ill try answer it. So you have 2 guys both fairly good looking but 1 guys an ass and the other is sweet. I wouldn't get with an ass hole. If he didn't treat me rght and called me those horrible names I'd punch his dick. I'd rather have fun and wild experiences with the nice guy providing he was up for it. Any sane woman would not choose the ass hole.

  • Depends on what she's into. Some girls just want sex and not a relationship. They're "freer" as some would say, then you have the girl that wants to get to know the guy and doesn't want to be with someone that'll hurt them. She could also act differently cause she's really both ways about it. Why guy 1 she would act more presentable to your family, and with guy 2 she'll be a slam piece. It all really depends. If she goes for guy 2, then guy 1 should just move on and look for someone else. She may not want a long term relationship yet or ever, and she also might be trying to "tame her wild side." It all honestly depends. If she's a fully grown woman and going for guy 2, then don't even bother with her. She'll probably also have a relatively shitty relationship and not trust men again. That's a trend I've noticed with some girls, or they attempt suicide. But that's in high school where they do that. If she's with guy one though, then she's more mature or doesn't want to die alone and wants a normal relationship that isn't based around getting fucked constantly.

    • This is a good point. I see ur point about a women being freer in that sense or looking for just fun pen a relationship. But what about the same woman and two guys as described above. So for each of the 18 scenarios, how would she react to each guy and why?

    • Oh, I've got no idea mate. She might be ok with it with either of them. But I wouldn't be surprised if she goes for guy 2. Guy 2 just seems more "free willed." Although guy 2 is the guy that women also end up hating a shit ton, and then call all men like guy 2. This shit is confusing, and sometimes I wish I was A-sexual because if this stuff. I know a guy that's A-sexual and he said it's an advantage cause you have no libido at all. Therefore you can just do what you want for yourself.

    • I know right? Have a crack at it tho I'd like to hear your views as you seem to be on to something! So for instance u mean Eg 1. She'd prefer guy 1 as she is closer 3. Guy 2 she'd probably prefer to call her that or let him get away with it and enjoy it too as she is worried about her rep with guy 1? So for some of these 18 points, what do u think, briefly for each? Can a good guy not see her sexual side?

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