We have become a very sexualised generation. Today, young people live in a world where sexuality and pornographic content is rammed down their throat from a young age, and it is all over the media. If you want sex, either you can pay for it, or you can just go on tinder. As ever, the 80/20 rule applies however, so this means that it is only a small minority of men that will be successful if they do not plan on paying for sex or downgrading to a low quality woman. The average woman will have hundreds of hits on social media, but the average guy will have virtually nothing, making it ten times easier for the former to get what she wants. The average guy will have 80% of the male population to compete with he wants to get anywhere.
This situation of dating inequality has arisen because of two simple principles: Bateman's Principle and the sexual economics of supply and demand. Bateman's Principle suggest that women will be less invested in sex reproduction because upon average, they can only fertilise one egg cell over a 9 month period, whereas men can theoretically fertilise thousands, if not millions. This principle means that biologically, women are programmed to settle down with just one man - at the very least during the period of child labour - the Beta provider male, and have sex with the Alpha hunter male who successfully manages to spread his reproductive fitness through his seed without the burden of commitment. Supply and demand applies here because if a woman is less sexually invested, supply (sex) is low and therefore seen as a rare and valuable commodity by demand (men). The inelastic supply and demand curve of human sexuality merely serves to excacerbate male investment into sexuality and diminish female investment. This is why the average woman does not see sex as a necessity: they have a low investment due to Bateman's Principle and the inelastic supply and demand curve of human sexuality. To the average man however, sex is a rare and valuable commodity that is responsible in order to ensure survival of the human gene pool.
In a world where supply and demand for such an innate biological requirement is inelastic, the iron triad will underline what it is women are actually looking for out of dating and relationships. This is money, marriage and validation and I will show how these three factors are not in fact independent of one another, but strongly related and correlating.
Where there's high demand, there's profit to be made and if the average man is so highly invested in sex, then women (and the alpha male 'pimps' who control these women) will definitely have a bargaining advantage that will enable them to make money. If women are low invested in sex because of Bateman's Principle and the inelastic supply and demand curve of human sexuality, then the average woman certainly will not have sex with the average man unless there is something else to be gained. One of these things is money, or more generally wealth because there are other tangible and intangible rewards that a woman can gain. How can the average woman gain wealth from human sexuality? This is in one of three ways:
- Professionalism: prostitutes, porn actresses, escorts and professional strippers can find a way to earn money from the market of human sexuality
- Marriage: women that marry an unattractive but wealthy man have access to the financial reserves he can provide her with.
- Other forms of manipulation: men will buy expensive gifts for a woman they are dating, they will buy drinks for a hot woman at a bar, they will do favours for a woman they are sexually interested in, the list goes on.
What makes marriage so desirable for women? Some of the reasons have already been listed:
- many women want a stable, committed lover to provide for her offspring who often happens to be from a previous relationship with an alpha male seed carrier. Ideally, the alpha male would also be the committed lover but most women find this an impossible task, so they 'settle' for the beta male provider instead.
- many women want money and marriage as has been demonstrated above can be the source of financial stability and security that women are looking for.
- validation: if a woman manages to capture the desirable alpha male and force him to commit, she feels more fulfilled in life.
If the supply demand for human sexuality is inelastic, then it is also true that it is somewhat inelastic for marriage, however the situation is the reverse: whereas women are the 'gate keepers' to sex, men happen to be the 'gate keepers' to marriage. But, and this is the big BUT, men will 'negotiate' for sex by agreeing to marry: this gives them a more steady and reliable stream of sex than could be guaranteed for them as a bachelor. This is what makes the supply and demand curve for marriage less inelastic than for human sexuality; because sexually frustrated men are likely to inevitably surrender themselves to the wedding aisle. Women are also less invested in the beta male lover / provider who they by and large find sexually and romantically unattractive, so this further diminishes the inelasticity of the human marriage supply and demand curve.
This isn't what you might think at all. Most women are sick of genuinely appreciative, kind and polite men who tread on egg shells to try and treat them right. Women do not get their validation from having sex with guys. Instead it's the bold and brash guys that make the move and step forwards that get exactly what they want.
A user on here recently posted a mytake about how to get sex on Tinder. These women responded positively to provocative and sexualised statements that he made such as,
"Whatever tickles your pickle."
"What are your thoughts on handcuffs."
"I want to take off my shirt, pin you up against the wall, tease you and f**k you as hard as I can until tomorrow morning."
In short the gist of the successful man's sexual strategy is about manipulating the self-esteem of low quality, low intelligence but physically attractive sluts. PUA literature, seduction forums and even bodybuilding miscellaneous sub-forums are full of this kind of material: on one hand you have the successful players who have learned the hard way that "treat 'em mean keep 'em keen" actually works. And then, on the other hand, you have guys that are unsuccessful with women that are looking for advice, but want to get success without treating women disrespectfully. Unfortunately, this method is rarely successful and those guys wind up being treated like dirt. They have been rendered the 'internet nice guy' regardless of whether they approve of such a label and now they are the source of ridicule by both genders (although women will pretend like this is the kind of guy they are looking for so as not to appear manipulative, superficial or shallow).
A guy that throws cash at his woman?
Ok, that is a source of validation but she would not have sex with him or give him any attention if it was not for the money.
A guy that wants to marry her?
It is generally good for a woman to be seen as desirable and get married (preferably before 30), however as mentioned before, women prefer for the alpha male to commit and this is the highest possible peak of validation a woman can experience.