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Why I'm More Attracted to Women Who Dress Conservatively

Hey guys! With the results of poll here is the take as promised. I got so close to equal response for two takes I decided to do something different. This take was most requested by men. I will be writing the one most girls chose later today.

First things first I have to make obligatory credits for the voters:

@LouisvilleGirl826 (Huh I wonder if she actually lives in Kentucky. Maybe she knows my ex-fiance :P ) @Fathoms77 @Spiorad_Aisce The rest are anons or didn't comment so I don't know they're usernames. I'm sure they'll find their way here.

So let's look at why I find women who dress conservatively attractive shall we?

First we need to determine what a woman who dresses conservatively even looks like.

Why I'm more attracted to women who dress conservatively

Jeans + shoes + T-Shirt = conservative.

Women, when men say they want conservative they mean that. Not this...

Why I'm More Attracted to Women Who Dress Conservatively

That's Amish for those wondering. That isn't attractive girls. You know that, I know that. That's not what men want you to look like when they say "Dress conservatively"

The want you to look like this...

Why I'm More Attracted to Women Who Dress Conservatively

That's what we mean by conservative. It's really not that hard to accomplish. If you look like this...

Why I'm More Attracted to Women Who Dress Conservatively

...You may attract more attention but then you can't complain about only being seen as a sex object. That's why I say "If you dress like a slut prepare to get treated like one" this particular model isn't going to be seen as a person. She's advertising her body as something to be desired. Therefore people are going to desire it. They aren't going to enjoy her body and personality equally because to me dressing like this screams "I slept with every boy over the age of 14 in a 10 mile radius!"

Now don't get me wrong, I like to look at women but I find the conservative more attractive. Some of you who came here for an opinion from me instead of a brief lesson in social misconceptions this is the part you're here for!

So why do I find women who dress conservatively more attractive?

1: It shows self respect and confidence

There's nothing more sexy to me than self respect. Enough said really. I can't honestly see Girl 2 having high self esteem and I wouldn't believe she would remain faithful. I can see Girl 1 being confident, successful, loyal, mature, and parent material. Girl 2? Not so much.

2: It gives an air of mystery

Let's face it girls. When someone sees you or you see someone else you judge them by appearance. It's not demeaning. It's not sexist. It's just how people work. When the girls are hanging out of your top and your shorts are so short they should be considered underwear it's not as exciting. You can already basically see everything. When she's standing in Wranglers or Silvers and a blouse or T-Shirt on with a beer in her hand? I know what I want to see but she's dressed conservatively so I go nuts. Mentally undressing her then dressing her back up before I go talk to her.

3: She immediately looks like you can bring her home

Get your mind out of the gutter! I mean bring her home to meet the parents. Contrary to popular belief men care about family a LOT more than we let on. Usually more than women. Having your Mother and Father approve of your girlfriend is make or break for most men. A woman who doesn't walk around half naked with her ass and tits shaking looks like a more viable candidate for passing mum and dads testing.

So how do YOU dress Jarhead? Can you live up to your own expectation?

Some of you might be thinking "He's throwing a lot of things out there and he seems to expect a lot. Can he meet his own standard?" The short answer?

Why I'm More Attracted to Women Who Dress Conservatively

You tell me :P

(Yes, yes I can meet my own standard. That's me in the picture if you couldn't tell)

Anyways guys, this is me stating my preference. I'm not trying to speak for all men or start some kind of flame war over this. Just stating my preferences and giving my reasons for having them.

Cheers!

~Jarhead

Mods: This keeps getting put in Sexual Behavior. Please put it in Guy's Behavior or Relationships when you can, thanks! ~Jarhead

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Most Helpful Girl

  • If you don't care about other people's opinions then you shouldn't have posted this in the first place. This is a forum. This is where people share opinions. If you don't care for opinions, don't visit any forums. Simple as that. People are allowed to disagree with you and express their opinions just as much as people who agree with you. Nobody here acts as if your word is law. They're simply disagreeing with what you're saying.
    As for your actual take, I'm going to wear crop tops and shorts when it's hot outside and I don't give a damn if some offended prude thinks I'm a "slut" for wanting to be comfortable in hot weather.

    • I will say again this isn't made to be taken as advice. It's only my preference. Wear what you like. I don't care.

    • EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Preach. 🙌🏼

    • His opinion, don't dress like a hoe

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  • You dress like 14 year old freshman in high school lol. Look like every country boy I've met @ camp pendleton lol. Srs.. nothing but fucking graphic DC shirts and blue jeans. Then they would wear their drill boots with that cringe outfit. Fucking boot 101. You're Canadian though?

    • I am Canadian yes. Keep in mind I also just kind of through on what was clean. Its also not DC and I usually wear a suit because I work for the Government. That would be what I wear when I'm at home not doing anything.

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  • I personally appreciate your MyTake. While dressing in a similar fashion to the girl in white may be stylish or good for hot weather, it is very revealing. Girls who have a problem accepting this should think of what kind of places they would feel comfortable wearing that sort of outfit to, or around whom. Chances are that they wouldn't feel comfortable to visit grandparents dressed in that way, or go out for a nice dinner, for example. That being the case, if your outfit places limitations on where it's apprpriate for you to go, or who it's appropriate to see, then chances are it's "slutty." The outfit doesn't define the girl but her decisions do, and there are ways to dress tastefully in the heat. I dress more conservatively and it has nothing to do with my confidence about my body. Women who are saying that only insecure women don't dress like this/dress conservatively, are just as wrong as those who assume that girls who do dress this way, are skanks. Personally it wasn't until I got older that I had the confidence to dress more conservatively, which is really how I was most comfortable... But being more unsure of myself as a younger girl, I felt that if I didn't dress like these girls who were showing it all off, guys wouldn't look at me. It may be a hard pill to swallow, but that sort of outfit is easy attention and we as women all know the kind of reactions it elicits from men- aka shameless "oogling" and "elevator eyes." A lot of guys see dressing this way as an invitation to objectify a woman without offense towards her, and quite frankly a lot of the attention is usually inappropriate and unwanted. So yes it may be hot outside, but a regular tee shirt versus a cropped version will not kill anyone. Shorts that end below the butt cheeks will not cause heat stroke. Let's not make excuses. It all comes down to the decision of how you want to present yourself and be treated as a woman. Regardless of whether said treatment is "right " or wrong, it is the reality and I think it's worth feeling more like a human and less like an object when out in public. If the attention makes you feel empowered, more power to you. To me it is degrading. I want to be admired, not eye-f*cked by every stranger in the room, plain and simple.

    • I'm actually in the middle of writing a song in this particular topic XD I find I could insult a lot of insecure people by pointing out their flaws in a lyrical sense. I'm feeling a little shit disturby tonight. I agree with you. If the attention is what you're after then go for it. I won't look at a woman who is barely wearing anything as parent material. Sure she may be pretty but I want someone who I can take to Christmas dinner with my family. I want a woman I look at and think "She looks like she could help me raise a family" those who dress like a Kardashian don't look like that.

  • What you like is what you like. What you prefer is what you prefer. There is neither nothing wrong with what you like and what you prefer, just as there is nothing wrong with you. Perhaps you have an “Old-Soul”. Perhaps you’re old fashion. Maybe someone from an older generation was kind to you and you’ve imprinted on their values of what is acceptable dress or behavior. The reasons may be vast, obscure, complicated, and perhaps enjoyable to meditate on and do some inner reflection to figure out why you like what you like, but the bottom line is again, what you like is what you like and what you prefer is what you prefer, and there is absolutely nothing---nothing---wrong with any of it. Relish in what you desire and find attractive and don’t let others tell you something’s wrong in your beliefs or that there is something wrong with you. If others have a problem with your opinions, then that’s their issue; not yours. Some will agree with you, perhaps many, many, others won’t, but still---so what. Be who you are. Trust in yourself and just---be---you. It’s your life.

  • Good take!

    • Be ready for tons of pink dislikes but thank you anyways :)

  • Lol I dress like this I'm glad it's seen as attractive

  • Meh, I don't really care, I dress for myself and if an outfit I like is skimpy I'll wear it anyways cause I like the way it looks. I'll only ever wear something more conservative if I have to (job, cultural reasons in a country). None of this has anything to do with self respect, if it does I just see it as me respecting my body and accepting it as it looks and flaunt it because I'm not ashamed of it, that's just how i see self respect for your body.
    Personally haven't seen any difference in how guys treat me depending on what I wear so might as well just wear what I feel most comfortable in. And I'm not gonna date someone who judges people by their clothes anyway. 💁🏽

    • Lol realest bitch on gag right here.

    • And I wouldn't date someone who doesn't care about their appearance in public. All is fair in money and politics.

  • I won't take advice from someone who isn't stylish himself.
    I don't mean this offensively but you obviously want a girl that dresses in a conservative-plain manner for the wrong reasons.

    I dress like the girl in the crop top and DON'T get treated like a slut.
    I met my Muslim partner's family whilst wearing a very low cut dress with no bra.

    I dress how I like because I want to be surrounded by open minded characters that don't judge based on apperance but matters of the heart/behaviour.

    Your judgements are shallow. Extremely shallow.
    I don't enjoy the company of such as I am very good at spotting anal people compared to those with a genuine warm heart.

    Me and my man look good when we go out. We turn heads.
    If you were to judge us thats simply because you have very little intuition and a closed mind.
    Your idea of a perfect girl is your choice but don't call it advice when it comes to love.

    • Why can't anyone understand that this isn't advice? It's not advice and I don't care what you dress like. I'm just gonna block you because you are far from worth my time.

  • Me too. JAsian women for me; it's in the eyes with them. Skimpy clothes lead me to pretty much dismiss her as a serious person

  • Jeans ans T shirt? Really?
    I'm sure that's just an example not the only way? Personally I hate jeans and t shirt it doesn't look good on me and neither really on most guys, unless they're really fit.
    Personally I kinda like the style that is common in urban china. I always thought I was too short to wear long dresses, but like everyone there does and they look fine

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    Though I know this type of clothes is hard to find here.

    To answer your question, I don't think you dress well. Girls are not gonna care if you show much skin, not that it's common for guys anyway. But jeans and t shirt are just lazy and as I said you need to be quite muscular to rock them. You'd be much better off dressing like this
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    • Don't get confused. I'm at home. I usually wear a suit because I work for the government. I'm wearing lazy clothes on purpose.

    • That and it was merely an example of I dress conservatively so yes I can meet my own standard.

    • Well part of your point was that you could take her to meet your parents and friends like that. What would you wear for that? And generally when you go outside, other than to work. I know you dress conservativley that was not my point. You're meeting a standard that no girl cares about

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  • "I can't honestly see Girl 2 having high self esteem and I wouldn't believe she would remain faithful. I can see Girl 1 being confident, successful, loyal, mature, and parent material." Dude, you know very little about the inner mechanisms of a woman's mind if you think the clothes we wear defines our confidence.

    Also mate, have you ever lived in a Southern summer. Once you got shorts and tank top, you don't go back. And you definitely don't go back to jeans a t shirt. The humidity will melt you in your jeans. If a guy was there holding a fan in front of me and misting me with ice cold water-maybe I'd consider pants.

    Also, I get that you're a dude, but guys have style too! :) Those outfits are a little bland. The first is pretty good, love the boots. But the second is like... just god awful.

    What do you suggest a woman does in the humid summer?
    Are these below outfits, the outfits of a hoochie?
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    • Yeah you comment this on every opinion, but if you post something this provoking you'll most certainly get opinions that don't agree with you wether or not you asked for them. This is a site where we share opinions.

    • @Swedgirl I'm copy pasting it because I don't care about women accusing me of slut shaming or whatever. They aren't worth my energy to type out a unique answer for all of them. My preference is mine. It's not going to change just because yours doesn't match. You don't like it? Then move along.

    • I'm just saying we all have the right to argument against your pereference since you've made it public in this kind of forum.

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  • I totally agree with this MyTake! ( thats just MY PERSONAL opinion). I really liked the way you wrote it and you explained why.
    And I dont know why lots of woman here are thinking that you trying to tell them what to wear... XD

    • Most women think when a man talks about women he's aiming for something heinous. Personally I'm just following orders from a poll I posted about what I should write. I wrote what was voted highest. The fact that women decided to take offence is their own deal and I can't be bothered tending to all the butt hurt teenagers.

    • Yeah, I definitely agree with you, just ignore it xD

  • You're idea of conservative is just plain dull. Like middle aged woman dull. If you have some self respect you don't dress like a grandma when you're in your twenties... that's about as true as saying the second girl doesn't have self respect. One girl looks like she works in a hardware shop, the other like someone stole the bottom of her shorts. Neither is that attractive.

    • They're just examples @TakeMaker calm down XD

    • I'm not excited, don't worry :)

    • I should hope you aren't excited XD sorry the euphemism was too easy.

  • If a guy thinks I'm promiscuous, have low self esteem and am not worthy of being shown to his parents because I like short skirts and crop tops then he's not worth my time anyway. A man who judges me based on what I wear, instead of my character and intelligence, is no man I want to be with.

    • I repeat WEAR WHAT YOU WANT I DO NOT CARE!!! I am not judging anyone by what they wear merely stating my preference. Why do you need to get on a soap box and be offended? Did I insult you somehow?

    • You literally said you couldn't see the girl in the shorts as having high self esteem, and as being faithful. You also said a girl who was dressed provocatively was less viable as parent-showing material. So therefore, you are judging girls by their clothes. And it's insulting to me because outfit 2 is something I would wear, so you are implying that you think girls dressed like that (including me) are promiscuous and not worthy enough for a man to show to his parents.

    • not exactly to ME not to say @Fathoms77 his opinion might be different! To ME! ME! ME! ME! NOT YOU! NOT HIM! NOT THEM! ME! Why can't you understand that?

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  • Grwat mytake man. You can add in it shows that they show off thier virtues like modesty.

  • Or... just let people (men and women alike) dress however they want. You don't have to like it, you just have to respect them as a person regardless of their choice of clothes.

    These takes of guys going into detail how they feel women should dress are almost as tiresome as the penis size questions. Adding 'but this is only me stating my opinion' isn't a good excuse. Please, just stop.

    • You're an idiot. I'm only stating my PREFERENCE. Not my opinion. Preference. I'm not trying to dictate how women dress. Why do all of you girls need to think everything is about you? I'm sharing my stance not saying if you don't meet my standard you're a bad person.

    • What are you trying to accomplish by stating your preference? You don't want to dictate how women dress, so you're not trying to make them change that, right? Are you trying to make girls who dress differently feel bad? Or did you just feel like blurting out whatever was on your mind, without needing any reaction to it? Since in the last case, that's what diaries are for.

    • I was doing what a poll I posted told me to. I asked what I should write and this was highest voted. I'm just stating my preference. I'm not trying to be antagonistic and I'm not trying to tell people what they should wear or put people who don't dress a particular way down. The fact that you take offence to it and are getting butt hurt about it is your own problem. Why don't YOU write it down in your diary?

  • I do dress a little less conservative. But I have my reasons too. I don't date, at least right now. So I really am not trying to get anyone's attention. I think I like to dress "skimpy" because I look good. For one, I'm thin and fit, I love the way I look so I'm super comfortable. I don't think the clothes I wear are trashy. My butt cheeks aren't hanging out. My boobs aren't bouncing out of my shirt. But I do wear a lot of crop tops. So yeah I do dress like the example you had. I personally don't feel sexualized but if I did I see it more as his problem than mine, same as to him not having enough to his imagination, he has no idea what I will be like behind closed doors but if he doesn't like my appearance, he won't get that far anyway. I don't find that I look slutty, sometimes I wear a big men's sweater and jeans. It depends on the mood, so I don't like to be painted in one way.

    • I'm merely stating my preference. What you wear is your deal. Too many people are thinking I'm trying to dictate what women wear.

    • I didn't say you were, you like what you like.

  • Good MyTake! I like it. As for myself, I'm a jeans, Tshirt/long sleeved shirt and sneakers or boots kind of girl myself (in cooler weather), and in warm weather/summer I generally wear capri pants or shorts (not like the ones in the pic though), and sandals (Birks usually). Basically I wear what I find comfortable. I don't wear a whole lot of makeup either, just basic stuff.

    I think people are mistakenly taking this as advice when it's not. They would know that if they read all the way to the end. And also, it keeps going into Sexual Behaviour because that category is automatic when you use key words like sex, slut, penis, vagina, etc. Only admins have the power to change that for you.

    • No, people are taking it as what it is. People need to stop judging others based off of dumb shit like this.

  • Never tell women what to wear lol. Dude, keep that advice in mind.

    • Again, I'm not telling women what to wear. You're worse than the insecure lugubrious lunatics that are saying I am. Nowhere in the take did I say this is what women should look like. I merely stated I like women who look this way.

    • "You're worse than the insecure lugubrious lunatics" You certainly have issues. 😓

    • I do indeed have issues. Though my issues aren't present in calling people lugubrious lunatics. That's merely a statement I've observed through watching behaviour. I'm currently conducting a social experiment to prove that point actually. I should have results in a day or so.

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  • I'm sorry but I don't like your style..

  • I think for me being conservative is not showing too much of skin. I can wear jean, skirt or dress whatever the occasion is. I can only wear knee high short and dress and skirt but beyond that i can't. What matters most is how you definitely carry yourself as you dress no matter what you are wearing. :-)

    • It's not something you're supposed to agree with. You aren't supposed to take it as advice. My word it not law. Don't demonize my preference. Besides I couldn't give a fuck what Americans look like. I'm Canadian. I don't care what Americans look like or what their women prefer to wear. My preference is my own. No need to get offended.

    • I know. I am not an American. I dont care what your preference is.

  • Lol yes I do live in Kentucky, born and raised! You'd have to tell me your ex's name, it might ring a bell...
    Anyway, nice My Take. It's always interesting to see people's different tastes and the reasons why they like (or don't like) certain looks on them

    • I would message you it but you only allow messages from people you follow lol

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