Cheating is All About Power!

[gobsmacked3]

My inability to comprehend the 'why' has always peaked my interest over cheating.

Why would anyone choose to be in a relationship where loyalty is its central premise if they have an appetite for others?

The emphasis being on a person wanting to be in a relationship

Wouldn't sense dictate that they stay single where they bed anyone and everyone they like?

My explanation of cheating revolves around this question:

' If you were guaranteed to sleep with someone and get away with it, would you cheat on your partner?'

I have no doubt a person with a cheater's mindset wouldn't do it for the thrill is not there. It would fail to quench their Sociopathic mindset and their love in the sense of power felt by living on the edge.

They love to have that closet life that is protected by the adoration they have cultivated in their partner through their charm and charisma. Getting off on how they can readily take advantage, treating kindness as weakness and duly abusing.

When, and if they are found out, their lack of empathy is chilling

If you have ever been cheated on or been privy to another experiencing it, does this aftermath sound familiar?

With it never being about them, or their many flaws but always put back on the victim. Done so in a subtly cruel manner. By tapping into the past cultivation they have put into them. Making the one abused question their role in the betrayal and on a surreal level accepting the ownership of it.

Feeling guilt and regret while the abuser basks in the increased power they now have. Tantalised by being caught but still avoiding responsibility or repercussion

At this point their manipulation is complete.

A brief honeymoon period of renewal might follow with them tapping into all your trigger points to draw you back into their web. You trust, deluding yourself into them being changed and will never betray you again.

As they are gazing into your eyes telling you how much you mean to them and how much they love you.

Their mind is racing over a catch up with their bit on the side tomorrow as the hold you close all night.

[Anonymous]

Good take. Tbh I don't know why someone would cheat if they wanted to be with someone. That means they don't right?

But then do women do things for some men and not others? You just inspired me to write this. Can u check it out, what's your view? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2071821-are-many-women-such-as-these-see-examples-far-kinkier-with-a-lover

[gobsmacked3]

Thank you- i will in a sec

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks, look forward to your thoughts

[dreamingincake]

The thrill of it is such a good point! And its unfortunate that some indulge in this feeling at the cost of someone else. I wonder if they only cheat because of this feeling in the first place.

[gobsmacked3]

i cannot fathom it on any level for the one thing you want to avoid in life is stress Why would you do something to rain that down on you unless you love the thrill on being on the edge

[Rising5]

I haven't payed attention to takes on here, but this is the best one so far, very interesting. Cheaters can't cheat without their victims, when the roles are reversed they hate it.

[gobsmacked3]

All about power for if it wasn't they would stay single and be with whoever they want with no stress at all

[douride2]

Great take. It happened to me once. I was taken in never again.

[gobsmacked3]

thank you

[slimstiffy]

great take man. makes a lot of sense.

[gobsmacked3]

thanks for the kind words

[slimstiffy]

you are welcome

[Anonymous]

If it is that they want to do something behind their partners back and see if they get away with it, then society will continue as it has been.

If it is just that they want a variety of sexual partners, then the cuckold lifestyle will become more common.

We have to wait ten or twenty years and see what happens.

[gobsmacked3]

if you want more partners in a relationship, man up and breach the topic of an open relationship with your partner

[Opinion Owner]

Still, they really should make their intentions clear from the beginning so nobody gets involved/invested in something that won't work for them. Being open and honest with their mate from the start is what needs to happen.

[gobsmacked3]

true- 'i want to be with you but what are your thoughts on open relationships...'

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. That way the expectations are clear and everyone know what they are getting themselves into.

[Anonymous]

Anyone can be a cheated and cheaters cheats for different reasons. Is not that simple, most people love to generalize and say cheaters are this way and the other. Cheating will always be awful and is something we are all vulnerable to to do.

[gobsmacked3]

I disagree for it is choice to cheat while being attached If you are tempted by another, man up and finish your relationship and go for it

[Opinion Owner]

Indeed there is always a choice however there are situations capable of making you do a bad choice based on a wrong judgement and no one is immune to that. I am not saying cheating is acceptable, what I am trying to say is that instead of seen cheaters as the worst persons on earth let's see them as an example of how low we can drop as human beings if we don't get in touch with who we are, with who we want to be, what we want and where we want to be. I feel like if we don't answers those questions clearly, one way or the other we will screw up some aspect of our life.

[Anonymous]

Great take

[gobsmacked3]

thank you

[Anonymous]

cheating is not a good thing

[gobsmacked3]

very true