Sexual Relationships 
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Are you a virgin? Do you want sex but have no partner? Look no further! Here's my Take on how to be happy and healthy as an involuntary celibate person.
1. Read Wikipedia's Sexuality portal
If you are an adult in the West, then you are expected to have sex at an early age. However, if your mind is not informed about relevant sexual knowledge, then you may appear awkward around your peers. Therefore, you should arm yourself with Wikipedia's Sexuality portal. It provides you with basic knowledge about sex, the stuff that you may not see or hear about through a formal sexual education program. It also provides realistic images of coitus. The images are important and relevant in your sex education, because they show you what sex is or what people refer to when they talk about "sex". You can also find an informative article on "Sex Positions". That article is extremely helpful in understanding the terms of sex in the Anglophone world. Go ahead. Click around. Explore. Learn.
2. Use Bing to search for pornographic videos.
Bing is definitely better than Google in searching for pornographic videos and adult materials. However, I think it goes a bit too extreme. Sometimes, I want to find a clean article or image on Safe Search, and Bing will say that it cannot find anything. So, I usually switch to Google for clean articles and images related to sex. What I like about Bing is that I can simply type a sexual term (without Safe Search, of course) and get a whole gallery of porn in images and videos. The videos page allows the viewer to watch a series of porn, one after the other, and if one ends, another continues automatically. You should use porn as educational/instructional material about sex. Pornographic videos can show you how all the sex positions really work and how humans have sex. If you have speakers or earphones on, then you can hear the sounds the people make. The visual and aural experience seems so real that it may be difficult for a normal person to maintain composure and not feel sexually aroused.
You should definitely study how people move during the sex positions. In many porn videos, the common pattern is that the man's penis goes in and out of the woman's vagina. You may try it yourself in the safety and privacy of your home. If you are a man, then you may slide your penis between two pillows and rub your penis against the pillows. If you are a woman, then you may lay on your back, knees bent and elbows propping up your upper body for support, and rock back and forth, squeezing your pelvic floor muscles. Add some sound effects, and you can do a pretty good simulation!
Sometimes, you not only want to imitate the motions and vocalizations, but also the sexy physique. If your body is not really in shape, then you may try to get your body in shape. Getting your body in shape can enable you to twist and turn and dance around flexibly in bed. (A fit body can also add years to your life too, but for the sake of this Take, let's just focus on sex.)
The only bad things about porn are that many porn videos don't promote safe sex practices and that many porn videos may seem extreme/violent against women. In Hot Girls Wanted (2015), young women are lured into the amateur porn business through Craigslist, thinking that they will become rich and famous. In reality, they will get STIs, health issues, homesickness, physical brutality through the acts that they have to do to make money, family issues; and their career in the amateur porn business is always short-lived.
Although pornography does provide a realistic simulation of sexual intercourse, you should remember the cost of real human lives that are paid during the film production. Hot Girls Wanted (2015) does a good job at exploring the dark sides of the amateur pornography industry. The amateur porn business is not an ethical business. The actors and actresses are not protected. Once they are used up or lost their value, they are forced to leave. There is no worker's compensation for injuries; you have to pay your own medical bills out of pocket. One girl in the documentary develops a cyst in her reproductive system and has to go through surgery. She has to pay the medical bill with her own hard-earned money. The cruelty of amateur pornography is one feature that outweighs any benefits derived from it. Just use porn to gain ideas about motions and vocalizations, but don't overindulge in the consumption of porn. Pornography is highly sexist and espouses rape culture. The more men watch porn, the more they become de-sensitized by the negative emotions (fear, anger, anxiety, sadness) expressed by the actors, which may influence their interactions with real women. Real women feel pain. If they feel pain or uncomfortable, then they will give an expression that would indicate that. If men ignore the painful expression, which is a cue to stop sex immediately, then they automatically become rapists. For women, I would be surprised if they don't feel paranoid about men or fearful of men.
Pornography is a necessary evil. The plus side is that it can supplement your sexual education on sex positions, motions, and vocalizations. And there are many downsides. However, if the sex positions, motions, and vocalizations are taught in schools, then porn is not necessary at all as an instructional tool. When I took a health class in high school, I learned about orgasm and the human sexual response cycle. If you read online pop magazines, then you learn that people do indeed make noises and move during sex, and you can see and hear these things in porn. Sex positions, vocalizations, and motions are also acknowledged in the scientific literature.
3. Dig into the scientific literature about sexology.
If you want to satisfy your intellectual curiosity about sex, then you have to look into the peer-reviewed literature. You can read research studies about sexual attraction, sexual behavior, orgasm, sexual response cycle, sexual phobias, sexual disorders and deviances, and others. The more you read, the more you become an expert in sexology. If you don't want the dirty mind of a porn addict, then you should read a lot of research papers. They are clean and diluted. And they make you an educated person with sharp critical thinking skills. As an educated person, you may be able to find a date, as you impress your neighbors and friends. You don't want to limit yourself to sexology; instead, you should read whatever academic topic that grabs your attention or piques your interest -- chemistry, biology, physics, mathematics, engineering, computer programming, history, philosophy, linguistics, etc. Sometimes, a young man or young woman just needs the brains to attract a mate.
4. Let your mind be consumed by other activities and priorities.
Life is not about sex. Life is about the pursuit of happiness. If you find yourself involuntarily celibate, then you should let your mind be consumed by other activities and priorities. Over time, you will desire sex less and less. If your level of sexual desire does not decrease over time, then you should talk to your doctor and see whether there is some way to decrease your unwanted high sex drive, as it interferes with your life and everyday routine. You may want to eat foods that would decrease your sex drive, freeing your mind of unwanted sexual thoughts and feelings.
5. Relax.
Find a quiet place for private meditation. Relax. Let your mind be blank. Loosen your muscles. Just because you are involuntarily celibate doesn't make you any less of a person. If society is making you feel bad of yourself because you don't have an active sex life or a significant other, then you should ignore what society is telling you to do. Appreciate the things you already have, because there may be someone who is less fortunate than you.
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