What Prevents Men From Going Bitter?

[Anonymous]

Sex

Getting laid helps prevent a man from going bitter. We all know that's not a secret. Unless he's asexual, men need sex, not masturbation, in order to stay happy. No one likes to keep getting rejected for something they really want. Pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, makes people happy.

Bromances

Friends give people company and happiness. Guy friends can relate to them the most. They feel more comfortable around guy friends because there is no pressure to act a certain way. There are certain things they can bond over with their guy friends.

Family

Having a good father figure and being happy whenever he's around his relatives can also prevent a man from going bitter. His family doesn't stress him out or make him upset/annoy him in any way.

Stability

What I mean by this is having a stable job and/or getting good grades, having a good reputation in school or at work, and generally having a stress free life. A man who has his life together is more likely to be a happier man than a man who has a poor life.

Exercise

Men who exercise are more attractive than those who don't. This will help them with getting laid more. Exercise also helps people become happier.

[AleDeEurope]

Agree with all this, but I would have add one more, and the most important imo: get out.
If you get out of your cave and meet different people, especially women, you'll realize how many different kind of women are out there, they're not all heartless gold diggers, nor precious princesses. They're all different, so becoming bitter at all of them is completely stupid.

This could be applied to women to.

[AleDeEurope]

Good Take, by the way :)

[myTake Owner]

Thank you :)

[BraveHeart97]

So MGTOW lied to me then?

[AleDeEurope]

@BraveHeart97 MGTOW's shit xD

[Sara413]

Being raised to have self respect without a sense of entitlement is what keeps anyone, male or female, from becoming bitter.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Not entirely true. Repeated injustice - and inability to fix it, can drive someone to despair just as much as not getting the toys they want. Only, it's a bitterness grounded in more reasonable complaints.

[Sara413]

@ObscuredBeyond People's ideas of what constitutes "injustice" are a better predictor of bitterness than anything that actually happens.

[Sara413]

@ObscuredBeyond All the bitterest people I've ever met are always that annoying "the world owes me something" type that never put in what they want out of the world, who blame others for everything wrong in their lives and never take ownership of their own choices and the role they play in determining their own future. They're those assholes who blame the opposite gender as a whole for their dating failures instead of figuring out what they're doing wrong. They're those assholes who piss and moan about their shit job but can't be bothered to go after further schooling or chase down something that will make them happier. They're those assholes who complain about their weight or acne but don't put any effort into changing their eating habits. Everyone faces challenges and everyone has failures, but everyone also has a choice to either learn what they can and move forward, or become bitter about it and stew in self pity. I have no respect or patience for the latter.

[ObscuredBeyond]

You've never seen school faculty incompetence like I encountered it as a child. And I read stories almost every day about other schools now, and I wonder how an institution that stupid can even still function.

[Riverock]

I get what you're saying but there are sometimes reasons why people can't make their life better. It's not always just laziness. Personally I have my issues that make it pretty impossible for me to get a girlfriend but I know that they're primarily my fault (or at least, they aren't the fault of anyone else).

[CoralSun]

Lovely take, thank you :)

[loveisbeautiful]

Sex, is a temporary happiness and maybe it's what men wants but it's not all a man needs. And, it's not guarantee he'll never be bitter or upset about something. That's not a realistic belief.

Bromances are great and all but what if a guy gets along better with women than men, then what? And, how does a man having male friends prevent him from being bitter? That seems kind of odd doesn't it? Having friends doesn't prevent bitterness, it just means you have friends.

Family is not something everybody is lucky enough to have and that can't always be controlled. Not to mention, there's plenty of guys with great supportive families that have bad attitudes and guys that have crappy unsupportive families and are the happiest guy you'll ever meet. So, family doesn't always necessarily determine how you'll turn out.

Stability is great, everybody wants that but good luck having a stress free life. Unless you live in unicorn utopia, that's an idealistic wish.

Exercise, is good but it doesn't make you attractive you kind of either are or aren't. Not to mention, those guys in the picture with the muscles creep me out, I don't find that appealing in the slightest bit. Yes, exercise is good for you and should be done if one chooses to do so but lots of people workout and are still bitter or are just a plain ass. Again, exercise doesn't guarantee a bitter free life.

Does any of what you wrote seem at all naïve to you? I'm a realist and logical person and I don't believe this is from realistic perspective but of an idealistic perspective because nothing in life is that simple or guaranteed.

[phil2]

Religion, Forgiveness and just morals

[Scrambledagain]

Religion is the massive spear that destroys men and makes them bitter to begin with. It gives men delusional tools of coping and problem solving to life's common situations. When they don't get what they need, they start to feel resentment, and worse don't know how to get out of it because their world and opinions circumnavigate the one core thought of religion (bashed into their minds when they were young children). This results in cyclic and self sabotaging behaviour. Go google all the pain expressed by many individuals in psychology forums, Most of them have one common denominator: raised by a religious/conservative family.

[phil2]

@Scrambledagain you can see it how you want to but I don't see it that way. Read the book boundaries

[Riggers]

Ah yes. Religion. The single biggest cause of war in human history. also apparently stops bitterness? Lmao

[NectarOfPuss]

Bitta honey goes a long long way
if you have one head and it will last all day

that's a commercial that I remember when I was six years old. That's all I know about being better

[Jaded5990]

I thought it meant preventing their cum going bitter when I read the title lol

[TayTay21]

Maybe, maybe not. I don't think anything can keep a person of either gender from becoming bitter if they feel frustrated in a part of their lives that they feel is very important. There are people who are incredibly successful who are still bitter because they missed out on one particular thing in their lives that continues to haunt them.

[Sigh82]

Men make more of an effort to move on, I think.

[Soteris]

This is actually fairly sexist and demeaning. Not cool at all.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Even without most of these, sex and stability would go a long way for me. Especially stability, which seems to sift through my fingers like sand at the beach, an ever-elusive goal. Three steps forward, two steps back.

[itsallover]

Not having a sense of entitlement.

[Billlewis]

I never get bitter over not getting any pussy, because I know I don't deserve any.

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

I don't know about this. Trying to solve a bug in a code by debugging 100,000 lines of code is a neat way to keep your brain occupied. Riding a motorcycle like a bat out of hell is also a nice way to keep the adrenaline pumping and middle finger up high. Riding a car like you stole it, is also a nice way to keep adrenaline pumping.

You know men aren't as bitter as you may think. This entire idea of man being bitter because of sex is laughable. I got bills to paid and shit but still stop to enjoy life. I don't hit the gym because I'm fit enough and no matter how much sweets I consume in high kilograms I don't get fat. So yeah, you should really reconsider this idea of man and bitterness.

[rigmarole]

Hilarious... If you don't want animosity from men just cut the bullshit, be an honest and a good person to them. Do that, and people will be good to you. If you can't do that, then it won't matter what's happening in a guys life, he's still going to dish it back. Nice projection though...

[ThisDudeHere]

The only thing out of these that I have is family. Even so, I have somehow largely avoided being bitter.

[Lightspeed-Lemon]

Sex really depends on the context. There's people out there who compulsively have a lot of casual encounters and it doesn't lead to happiness. Do hookers ever look that happy? lol.

Even stability isn't for everyone. Some people will be happiest in a stable marriage and a 9-to-5 office job. But others despise that kind of routine, predictable existence and would honestly be happier moving around, not being tied down to anything. Rock singers, soldiers and astronauts may only work sporadically and have a lot of stress but they're living their dreams. Just depends on the individual. But all the other points are valid.

[peterjones]

Pretty well identified, yes.
Also a reason I think that whole 'but girls like sex less and guys always want it' myth should be abolished properly (well organised research showed sexual drive is equal but females succumb to social pressure to appear less sexual - we have church repression to thank for that BS (and no my dear feminists, it wasn't all men)).

[ProbablyTooMature]

Hey, I have that duvet (just in a nice gray instead of that horrendous green).

[Jager66]

I think a lot of guys just hate the current state of the sexual market place, it rewards shitty behavior and punishes good behavior. This is especially true for men, because they are expected to shoulder most of the risks, so lots of guys learn to fear participation.

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[Sabretooth]

'' it rewards shitty behavior and punishes good behavior.'' so friggin true.

[legs_n_sheets]

Well...

Can't say much because you are right. Having all of this without getting married, nor paying for hookers would result in a very happy individual.

[Transigence]

Getting laid and even having a relationship isn't all that important, and bitterness over the lack of any of these things can be overcome simply by being self-actualized. (Heh, "simply be self-actualized..." "all you gotta do is...")