How to Get Your Woman Off Without Touching Her

An age-old question here on GirlsAskGuys focuses on men wondering what they can do to get their ladies to have an orgasm, the Big "O(hhhhh)," climax, push her over the edge, etc... You get where I'm going with this. Well, I am here today to take it one step further. Compiled below is a list of ways to get your woman to the promised land without - yes, I said WITHOUT - touching her.

How to Get Your Woman Off Without Touching Her

"How is such a thing possible," you may ask? "But I want to touch her! Where does that come in?!" Great questions, dear reader! Here is the thing, what I have written for you are things that will stimulate your boothang's mind and heart, not just her lady bits. Get her mental juices flowing first and then you can put your hands all over her. Why? Well, these suggestions may make it easier for you later because it has been proven time and again that women have trouble getting there for a multitude of reasons, including psychological ones. If you can get her to relax her thoughts, ease her worries, and let her know you care, you will have a higher chance of getting her to climax in the bedroom, in the car, on the kitchen counter, or in the shower.


Okay, so without further ado, here we go!


1. Give Her Compliments


From the time we are young, us girls have seen beautiful women in the media, heralded for their feminity and gorgeous assests. In today's world, that means she needs to have ample breasts and a big, ol' booty. Hey, if that is what you are into, I totally get it. However, not every man is into those things (or simply do not care that much) as many male users have posted over and over again on this site. Many females may be having thoughts such as:


- "My boobs are too small. I am not as much of a woman because of this."
- "My butt is flat. Every guy wants a bubble butt. No one will want me."
- "I have an outie vagina. How gross. What man wants to be around that?"


Whatever you may like, let the woman you are with know how beautiful you think she is. You are with or interested in her for a reason after all, no? If she feels desirable to you, it will be easier for her to forget about her self-esteem issues, feel sexy, and open up more during sex.


2. Communicate with Her


Knowing how to use your words properly will work in your favor. You can make yourself a very desirable and sexy person yourself to a woman if you can communicate well. If you can hold conversations and not ask about her tits... or simply just stare at them constantly, it goes a long way to her. It makes her feel less like a sex object that you will hit and quit and more like you truly care about her as a person. Again, this allows her to feel closer to you, ultimately allowing her to let her guard down.


Also, it is totally fine (and encouraged) to tell her that you miss her, that you care about her, that you love her. Sure, actions speak louder than words, but that does not mean it would kill you to call, text, or tell her in-person that you have been thinking of her.

How to Get Your Woman Off Without Touching Her
3. Have a Sense of Humor


"If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." ~ Marilyn Monroe


Okay, so that quote may not be entirely true, but it is not entirely false either. Most people love to smile and have a good time. If you show your girlfriend, your date, or whomever that you can enjoy yourself and are not serious all the time, it shows a lot about you as a person. We want to laugh. It eases tension and stress from our daily lives, which - yep, you may have guessed it - can cause females (and men for that matter) to not be able to climax. Too much eating away at our thoughts can detract us from fully enjoying being with our man. Make her giggle and get her mind off of the negatives and onto savoring every pleasurable moment with you.


4. Show Your Intelligence


Let's face it: intelligence can be super attractive. Knowledge is power. A man who knows how to hold a conversation as mentioned before; make witty, sexual jokes to combine with the above point about humor; and get her thinking will stimulate her mind. There is a reason many women like to read erotica over watching porn. It gets her wheels turning, and a guy who can do the same is golden. However, keep in mind to not make yourself seem superior to a woman with all that you know. That just ends up being a turn-off.

How to Get Your Woman Off Without Touching Her

5. Be Ambitious


Showing your lady that you have goals and a drive to succeed, to do more, is ridiculously attractive. Lying on your old, ratty couch all day and every day, eating Cheetos, albeit delicious, does not send someone the best message. The same thing goes for whining about your dead-end job and doing nothing about it. Stop it! Go out there and show that you want a better life for yourself by applying to different jobs. Both show that you are lazy and do not want to work hard. That can translate to, "He is lethargic in all aspects of his existence, including the bedroom."

You do not need to have a six-figure income, a mansion, and three cars, but you do need to show that you care about your life. Ultimately, showing some passion for the things in your world can demonstrate that you will have a fire with her as well.

How to Get Your Woman Off Without Touching Her

Okay, folks, my time is up for now. Keep in mind that there are other traits or qualities that could be added to this list, but you get the general idea. Feel free to comment and add the ones you think are important!

#BATTLEROYALE #TeamRJ

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I LOVE this mytake!! It helped a lot and now I just need to train myself on how to do all these things, thanks so much for your thoughts! And number 1 stands out especially because I'm one of those few guys that doesn't care/isn't into the biggest whatever, thanks so much for acknowledging those guys! We don't get noticed that often and it means a lot to be known :D

    • Aw, I'm glad it could help you out! 😊

Most Helpful Girl

  • agree with pretty much everything except for the sense of humour part. i really don't get why women say that's important. it's not even on my top 10. like, he should be good-natured and find stuff funny and laugh now and then but if he rarely makes jokes or his jokes suck it's not a big deal.

    • Hey, every woman is different. Substitute something else in that slot then. :)

    • A sense of humor is not about jokes. It’s more about insights, ironies, and a way of viewing life’s indignities. The closest it comes to a joke is someone will usually make the funniest observations. It’s not something you can work to achieve but you have one or not. I think a sense of humor is the greatest sign of intelligence

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  • Reallllly good communication makes me wet #mmhmm

    As far as compliments, I feel like I should attach a warning label... well, not really a warning label so much as a footnote:
    Give compliments (1) that are ORIGINAL, (2) that will help her shore up her insecurities and/or (3) that really get at her core values.

    (1)
    ORIGINAL:
    Pick out the 3 or 4 most obviously beautiful or striking things about her. Remember these 3 or 4.
    Okay...
    These are the things you SHOULDN'T compliment her on all the time.
    That doesn't mean "never" -- but it does mean that those particular compliments may be grating or annoying to her, if she's heard them one too many times (especially if there's usually been an agenda behind them).

    Instead, find UNIQUE things about her that you really love. If she's the girl for you, there should be tons of these.

    (2)
    HELP HER SHORE UP HER INSECURITIES:
    Does she really hate X part of her body, or Y thing about her voice or her mannerisms or whatever?
    Then surprise her by saying how much YOU like that thing. Then just let the compliment sit and "simmer" a bit. (If she responds with "no way you can't be serious, my ____ is awful" -- DO NOT TURN IT INTO AN ARGUMENT. Just say you mean it, and be done with it.)

    Insecurities don't disappear overnight, but, over time, this will help A LOT.

    (3)
    GET AT HER CORE VALUES:
    Does she value persuasion and getting her ideas across? Tell her she's an awesome speaker, and that it's sexy how she delivers her words with such confidence.
    Does she like repairing relationships and bringing people (back) together? Tell her how much you appreciate that -- and note her role in bringing you or yr friends back into contact with anyone meaningful in yr lives.
    Etc.

    • Good points! Compliments shouldn't just be thrown around as another user mentioned. That makes you come off as creepy and/or desperate.

  • This is great! Well done!

    In general, being able to orgasm is just as much mental as it is physical (especially for women) and these points all factor into that.

    "If she feels desirable to you, it will be easier for her to forget about her self-esteem issues, feel sexy, and open up more during sex." <--- THIS 👍😊

    • Thanks, Honey! That quote you pulled out is especially important to me, too. That, and the point about humor. 😛

    • Yes, for sure! That's all so important. :)

  • My panties are officially wet... wait I'm not wearing any.

    • 😏😏😏 Hello there.

  • lol, I'm agreeing with you so far today on everything.

    - With a mental connection, the rest follows. Oh, physical and sex is important.

    Without a mental connection with a dude, the rest is moot.

    • Hey, I'm not complaining. 😏 So true, though! They all work together to create a more passionate relationship.

    • Can we just talk about how hot the "communication" part is? <3

    • What, like... him telling you what to do in the bedroom? ;P

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  • Very nice mytake. And very well written. And you make very good points.

    • Thank you, sir! I'm glad you approve. :)

    • Your very welcome.😎

  • Yep, this is all ore important than wondering where the G spot is, etc

    • Indeed! Gotta start with mental seduction first. ;)

  • Up next...: "How to give your guy intense pleasure without touching him"
    Try writing that. I dont read takes on how to please/serve/worship/whatever to women UNLESS it says what the man gets back. I've dropped from that particular game.
    Dont get me wrong... the take is informative... bt its lacking a part 2 which is what the guy gets in return. I'll wait... and if u can't write that then I guess ur just another reason why I stopped woman pleasing.

    • You're such a sweetheart. Where did I say in this that you need to serve or worship a woman? Oh, right, nowhere. 😜

    • well... you proved my dumbass wrong huh lol...

    • Haha. Not dumb, but perhaps you underestimated me. 😉

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  • BRAVO!! #BATTLEROYALE

    • Thank you, lovebug! I appreciate all the support you've given me with this. :)

    • It's what I am here for.

    • Oh, I forgot my shameless plus for a second time. #BATTLEROYALE #TeamRJ ;)

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  • #4 & #2 hmmm I need a mop already 😞😂

    • Lmaoooo. Hold onto your undies, girlfriend. Get a man that can give you those things.

    • I'm here to give you those things ;)

  • i love it, also, i love how you have a sn gif at the beginning

    • Haha, it was very fitting for the Take! Thanks for the support!

  • Awww man xD I thought you were gonna tech us hot to use brain waves to make random chicks on bus go

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    • Lmao. Maybe for a future Take, I'll reveal that secret. ;P

    • lmao

  • You missed something super important.

    Dat ass.

  • I've never read something so true!

    • Oh, man, I'm honored to read that! Thanks for checking it out and sharing your thoughts. If you have any other points to add, please do so. :)

  • Yes, communication is a big thing (to me), and it does build connection, which can affect a woman's desire to be with her partner in the bedroom. If both partners feel emotionally connected, they'll want to physically connect.

    Compliments (preferably truthful) can make women sexually comfortable... absolutely. Ambition is a big turn-on, that is true in my case.

    • Thanks for reading! Glad you could find some truth in this. :)

  • "It's the mind that turns on more than the body"
    -- @HandsomeRaj

    • Raj is a smart dude. 😁

    • Yeah! One of my idols 😇

  • Win! Great job, great article. Thanks

    • You're welcome, and thank you! I like your username, too, haha.

  • Ma body is ready Moolady ;) hehe

    This has to be like your first mytake baby doll! x YOU SHOULD WRITE MORE MYTAKESSS lol just saying :D

    • It is my first myTake ever, indeed! I was super nervous to put it out there, too, haha. Thank you for the vote of confidence, though... and I'll see you later tonight! ;)

    • You did REALLYYY well! I had to do a double take on the Mytake because it had your username on it LOL keep up the good work babes <3 oh yeahh ;) mine or yours?

    • Lmao, yeah, someone else was like, "I thought it was weird seeing your username with a myTake." XD Thank you, thank you, thank you, though! I appreciate the support! :) Any other ideas you'd like to share with the men here? Hahaha. Ohhhh... I've always wanted to go to Australia. I'll be right over (in, like, two days with traveling). ;P

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  • This isn't bad advice, but I've still never had a girlfriend. Many of these young women are simply too picky, and it's the truth. Too many of them expect guys to be loaded with money.

    • Still surprises me because none of my friends are like that.

    • @EmpatheticLady I've lived in the same city my entire life, so part of it makes me wonder if it's my location. The people around here are SO closed-minded, and their definition of "successful" is someone who makes "good" money.

    • Honestly, that may be the case. Broaden your horizons and search a littke farther out of your community.

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  • Totally agree

    • Hooray! Thanks for reading!

  • Totally agree... and well written... got the message across without overdoing it. You are a great writer and apparently, a smarty pants (intelligent and you get it)!

    • 😳 And you are a flatterer! Haha, thank you, though! I definitely wanted to make this clear and concise, so I'm glad I achieved that for you!

    • You rocked it for sure, I need to print this one out for the scrap book. I've got most of it, but one forgets over time. Thanks again!

    • Oh, I'd be honored if you saved it. 😊

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