Seriously, guys. Just stop. You're bringing your warped perceptions into reality and for a lot of women, it's either scary or just plain bizarre.
I've dated my fair share of men over the years but recently, it seems like I'm only coming across guys who believe all sex should be exactly like it appears in porn. Not only do they expect me to do certain things I am NOT comfortable doing (a big fat thank you to all that twisted porn out there), but there's another nasty little consequence, and it doesn't involve women:
Men are putting immense pressure on themselves and it's turning them into fucking basket-cases in bed.
The guys in porn aren't normal. The penis size isn't normal, the stamina isn't normal, NOTHING about is normal. If your expectations are based on that and you're not particularly familiar with the whole sex thing, you're going to be in for a very rude awakening. Most guys are not Casanovas. I mean shit, most of them don't even know how to satisfy a woman for more than fifteen minutes at a stretch. And yet, they're putting even more pressure on themselves by watching a bunch of totally unrealistic porn, and then freaking out because they can't mimic it.
Yes, this is really less about making us women do crazy stuff in bed (or thinking we're going to act and react like the female pornstar), and more about what this porn is doing to men's heads. It's really screwing with them badly. You'd think they'd be able to separate reality from fantasy but strangely, it seems it's becoming a bigger and bigger issue, even among older men. I expect guys in their teens and early 20s to be a little messed up because of all the porn, combined with a significant lack of experience. But what is the deal with guys in their 30s and even 40s? Why are THEY suddenly having trouble differentiating between fact and fiction?
I'm not really sure what's going on, but all I can say is: STOP WATCHING SO MUCH PORN! Maybe you guys are seeing it as educational or some such crap, but it isn't. It's just filling your head with all kinds of impossible junk, and it's not going to translate well to the real bedroom. Real women simply want to be loved; they want the best you've got, sure, but they really just want YOU. The real you. Not the fake dude who thinks anything less than an hour of sex with 78 different positions and 4 orgasms is a failure.
Sometimes, there is no orgasm for us (and no, it's not always your fault, guys). Sometimes it's just not that great. This doesn't mean you should run out and slit your wrists, or get all depressed and wracked with anxiety whenever the clothes come off. It's the porn, damnit. It's turning you all into horribly self-conscious freaks who just can't seem to find the reality. And you know, it's not my responsibility to show you just how out-of-the-realm you're being. Maybe you should just stop watching so much porn and start doing more real women, or something. I dunno.
I just know this is getting ridiculous.
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