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Hey guys! It's me! JarHead!
Today we are going to discuss if it is possible to have TOO MANY sexual partners. Now, this isn't going to be gender biased and in here I'm going to touch lightly on why a person who has been with 100 other people sexually is less desirable than someone who has been with 50. Without further ado, let's go!
What EXACTLY is a slut/whore?
When we think about whores and sluts we think of the girls in high school who blew 80% of the football team. At least that what most guys will think. Girls are more likely to think about the 14 year old girl who lost her virginity to the senior at a house party. The problem is neither of these things are truly sluts. They are closer to just easy, desperate girls who enjoy the attention it gives them. Now don't get me wrong. I'm far from a sexual saint. I've had about 18 sexual partners (that I can recall at least) but I am no man whore. Is that number a little too high for me to feel good about my sexual tendencies?
Yeah. I'd rather it be lower than 18ish. So what constitutes someone being a slut or a whore? Well, simply put, someone who has a lot of sex outside of relationships. This can go for men and women. Straight and Gay. Trans and Binary. It's all the same. A slut is someone who has a lot of sex outside of relationships. One thing I always ask a potential sexual partner is this "Have you ever had casual sex?" if she answers yes? I will not sleep with her. My belief is that sex is something that should be an act between two adults that shows love and affection on the physical plane. I strongly believe that love making shouldn't be trivialized by people who seek it solely for pleasure. So once again a slut is someone who has a lot of casual sex.
====Remember this the next time you decide to mock someone for no reason====
Why is everyone a slut then?
Well to put it easily, not everyone is a slut. That's plain blanket judgement and it's unnecessary. When we assume that someone is this or that and we don't know them it serves only to prove how awful you are as a person. Though offense is taken and not given that doesn't mean that words don't hurt. I always try my best to air on the side of caution when analyzing a person. You can learn a lot more than you'd think by merely watching a person. How they interact, how they walk, how they talk, where they look, and their body language.
Odds are when you hear someone is a slut in high school they're the farthest thing from it. Everyone just do the whole globe a favour and don't fall into the trap that so many people fall into. Don't follow the crowd. When someone is doing something that is clearly wrong you have a few choices. Join in, Defend what's right, or walk away. The first one is never what you should choose. If you don't have the gut to stand up for what's right walking away is always the better option than joining in.
Is it possible to have TOO MANY sexual partners?
So in conclusion let's talk about if it is possible to have too many sexual partners.
Short answer? Yeah. Definitely. How many is too many is the real question. Really that depends on the person. If you're 25 and have slept with 80 people? Maybe it's time to re-evaluate your sense of self worth. If you're 60 and have slept with 80 people? That one is more understandable. My general rule of thumb is your number of sexual partners should never exceed the number of years you've spent on this planet. So why is someone who has been with 100 people unattractive? More experience should be a good thing no? Well, no.
One, just because a man or woman has had a lot of sexual partners doesn't mean they're good in bed. When a woman tells me she's been with 80 men I usually lose all sexual interest in her on the spot. If she's been with 80 men and not a single one of them thought she was worth a long term relationship? Obviously there's something wrong with her. Whatever that may be I know who my Mrs. Perfect is and obviously this girl isn't her. That isn't to say she isn't ANYONE'S Mrs. perfect. Just that she isn't mine personally.
There's also a certain degree of self restraint and self preservation instincts that are shown by people who are sexually conservative. Though that isn't to say someone who isn't sexually conservative lacks those qualities. Though one of the very few things I have learned in this life of mine is not to take people at face value. If someone claims to have restraint, isn't purely impulse driven, and is sexually responsible? A good way to prove that is not to throw yourself at anyone who can fog a mirror (or maybe people who can't if you're into that)
Needless to say not f*cking anything that moves is a good way to show characteristics that are commonly found attractive (guys I'm looking at you) and you'll have a lot more luck finding someone who respects you and your body if you show such character traits. Being a man who is driven mostly by Pride, Honour, Integrity, Strength, Passion, and Respect I always strive to show these things in my day to day life. Which is why I don't have any problems finding women. I deny all forms of sexual contact until date 5 or until we have been together for over a month and I make very few exceptions to that rule.
I also have the rule that the first time it happens she must ask for it plain and clear or it doesn't happen. Though, that is more something for my own defense. If she asks for it she can't cry rape if I end the relationship soon there after. I would do that and have done that in the past. Bad sex makes for a bad long term relationship. That's plain and simple fact that most anyone would agree with me on.
Anyways, thanks for reading!
Cheers!
~JarHead
(P.S I just wanted to give a quick shoutout to @Fathoms77 for mentioning me in his take about best editors of October. Thanks Fathoms!)
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