Sometimes we can be unaware of the signs of being in a relationship that is unhealthy, so here are 5 of the biggest signals that the person you're dating is emotionally abusing you.
1. His/Her reaction to a bad situation is always more scary than the situation itself
So something went wrong: you crashed the car or maybe you lost your keys - something happened and now you’re afraid to tell him/her because their reaction is going to be worse than replacing that key, or fixing the bumper. If their reaction is that of anger rather than sympathy, you're in an abusive relationship.
2. He/She is in full control of your money/finances
Financial abuse is a way to keep someone trapped. If you have to hide money, or keep money a secret from your signifcant other or you have no access to your own money or any money at all and they hold all the cards and bank details, you’re being financially abused - making escape that much more difficult.
3. He/She isolates you from your friends and family
Emotional abusers will never admit to their abuse but they know exactly what they’re doing. In isolating you from your friends/family, they’re taking away your support net. If they won’t let you go out without them, if they make sure your friends won’t want to see you or your family can’t call - they are cutting you off from your support net and any chance of escape. If he/she dictates who you can talk to and when, if you feel like your friends are no longer making the effort to speak to you and if your only friend is your significant other - you are being controlled.
4. He/She makes you sexually uncomfortable
If you have to be coerced, forced or cajoled into foreplay or sex, if you are made to feel guilty for not wanting to have sex or feel like you have to have sex to make your significant other happy, you are being emotionally and sexually abused.
5. He/She makes you fear leaving him/her
If you fear leaving because you will suffer being physically assualted, your partner is an abuser. If you fear leaving because you believe you cannot live without them, you cannot cope without them, they do everything for you, you have nowhere to go and you are worthless without them - this is emotional abuse. This is not love.
This is not love. Get out, get help, be safe.
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