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Make Him Obsessed With You

Make Him Obsessed With You

Do you want to build anticipation and chemistry in your relationship? Do you dream of making him fantasize about you? Do you want him to be crazy with the thought of you even when you are not next to him? Believe it or not, all of these things are not only possible, but simple. You CAN make your man obsessed with you, no matter how long you have been together. Try some of these tactics and wait to reap the rewards.

1. Confidence - There is nothing sexier than confidence, but many of us struggle with feeling confident all of the time. If you want to make your SO obsessed with you, it is vital that you feel confident. If you are struggling with this, I strongly suggest you buy yourself some sexy lingerie, clothes that you feel great wearing, and work on your hair and makeup. It is also important to remember that he does not see all of the flaws that you see in yourself. Most men are so happy to see a woman undress or seriously flirt with him that he only sees the prize in front of him. Remember this, because if you cannot exude confidence, you will never be able to drive him into obsession.

2. Flirt When He is Away - Let's face it... If your relationship resemble that of most modern couples, you spend more time apart then you do together. That is why if you want him to be obsessed with you, you have to occasionally engage him while he is away. The key to this one is a little bit of subtlety. Call him just to say hi and when he asks what you are up to, let him know that you have been trying on something special to surprise him with later, or send him a text message asking him if he prefers lacy briefs or thong underwear. These types of suggestions will intrigue him and spark his imagination. Using these types of tactics often, will keep him constantly thinking of you, whether you are together or apart. The key is to be a little inventive and remember to keep it subtle. Mystery and anticipation are sexy!

3. Eye Contact - When you are together, be sure to keep eye contact with him. Science can even back me up on this one. Numerous scientific studies have shown that prolonged eye contact promotes attraction (see https://coopervision.com/blog/look-love-role-eye-contact-human-connection ). With this in mind, use those peepers to your advantage and get eye to eye with your man as often as possible. Doing so will create both attraction and attachment, both of which play an important role in driving him to be obsessed with only you.

4. Compliment Him - Everyone loves a compliment, but men especially love hearing that they are strong and masculine. Take the opportunity to tell him how he rocked your world in the bedroom, or how his strength is a turn on for you. The better you make him feel, the more he will think about you and associate you with feeling great.

5. Encourage Him to Objectify You - Please understand, I do not mean that you should act like a bimbo, nor that you have to become a beauty queen, but you do need to let your man know that you like it when he thinks of you sexually. Many men feel dirty about sexualizing their significant other because society has taught him that this is wrong. I believe this is the reason why many men who are in long-term relationships with absolutely gorgeous women still turn to pornography. Let him know that you want to be at the center of his fantasies. Better yet, ask him what he fantasizes about and offer to fulfill his fantasies. You will be shocked at how much this turns him on. Finally, be sure to dress sexy in something that is not for you, but just for him sometimes. You don't have to do this all of the time. Satin negligees and sweet little baby doll lingerie certainly has its place in the bedroom, but occasionally, put on some crotchless underwear and a garter belt. He will appreciate the variety and it will give him permission to think of you carnally.

6. Show Your Sweet Side Often - Though lust is an important part of driving him into hysteria for you, showing your sweet personality is also important. Sex is great, but lust alone will not keep him obsessed with you. Be sure to show off your sense of humor and caring nature. Also, keep it classy when you aren't in the bedroom. This will not only help you keep him intrigued and make him eagerly await when he will see your naughty side, but it will help him to be proud to introduce you to his friends or take you to a work function with him.

If you consistently do these things, not only will you have a great time and build your relationship, but it will only a matter of time before he is wrapped around your finger and constantly thinking of you. I know, I have been in my relationship for 13 years. We still have great sex and he still can't wait to see me every day. So have fun tailoring these to fit your style and enjoy driving him wild!

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  • @ point #5 If I had the most amazing boyfriend on the planet, I'd still watch porn. It's not about his performance it's because porn is fun.

    And guys are all different. Most want to ultimately make her O hard and fulfill her fantasies. Just doing whatever he wants isn't sexy to guys. They want to know her limits and what she loves. They want real reactions to sex and pleasure not her lying to him.

    All of these tips only work for being manipulative and ending up with either manipulative partners or partners who will hate all the manipulation and leave.

    • I always try to be honest in bed so that it's actually truly amazing. It's cool you've been happy for so long. I didn't read about your long relationship before posting so feel slightly guilty about the manipulative partner lines. I just wouldn't want to pretend anything or have him pretend with me either.

    • Thank you for your feedback. You raise an excellent point. Dishonesty within a relationship is poison and it was never my intention to come across that I am encouraging women to be dishonest in their relationships. I do think, however, that botb parties within a relationship should be intentional I. Their efforts to keep the other interested and attracted. I believe this actually increases the bond and closeness that a couple experiences together. I really can't share a take on ways a male can do that, so i opted instead to present what I have found that works as a female. Thank you for sharing your point of view.

    • Porn does have negative impacts on relationships. Scientists have said anyways... it depends how much you watch it really... just a heads up it can make partners start to want someone else/not feel the same attraction.

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  • "4. Compliment Him - Everyone loves a compliment, but men especially love hearing that they are strong and masculine. Take the opportunity to tell him how he rocked your world in the bedroom, or how his strength is a turn on for you. The better you make him feel, the more he will think about you and associate you with feeling great."
    That's all it takes to win me over. It's rare for me to get a compliment from girls, especially my age.

    • Yeah agreed... that shit is so rare... i get a fair few compliments from straight and gay dudes... women... 0.

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  • This is a fantastic MyTake and you made it even better by adding that you've been with your husband for so long. I've never been in a relationship, but I will definitely use your tactics because of the way you back them up

    I've had a lot of guys tell me they like me confidence and eye contact is totally my thing. I love looking deeply into the eyes of someone who finds me irresistibly attractive--it takes my breath away and makes me melt. I've also read a lot into how men like to be complimented and what kinds of compliments will make him feel the way you want him to, so your advice is right on par with what I've read before

    It's so refreshing to read a MyTake with good advice in it

    • Thank you for the positive feedback 😃. I appreciate it!

    • Thank you very much. I am glad you enjoy it.

  • I agree with these points! There is not a. Offer turn on than imagining what might happen. Great mytake!

    • Oops spellcheck: there is not a greater turn on

  • Hmmm. Valid tips. I practice these things naturally with my current relationship... perhaps through experience. Still going strong. To be fair though... I never did anything on purpose, these things were natural the natural dynamic and development for us.

  • there's literally nothing you can do to make someone obsessed with you long term.
    Its about the mindset of the man.

    • I agree to a certain extent... I think these steps can make a guy sexually obsessed (like want to continually have sex with the girl, and stay with her for that reason), but it won't (at least for most) make him (for lack of better words) love her for that long. That just depends on your chemistry, interests, as you said, mindset, etc.

    • @A_Mental_Mate, I agree with that, to an extent, however complimenting someone and showing your genuine sweet and caring side should be something that increases love and attachment. Thank you for sharing your opinion.

    • well, putting it like that, I do agree with that opinion.

  • Obsession is not healthy - make him like you or value you would be a better title.

  • Why would you want him not to watch porn? Like I care.

    • I actually have no problem with my man occasionally watching porn, but I do not think it should be the only means by which he can have his fantasies fulfilled. This is what I was actually trying to get across. Thanks for the question.

  • Make Him Obsessed With You (Actual)

    1. Get good at fellatio and engage in it daily
    2. Learn to make great sandwiches you can make him whenever he demands
    3. Fetch him beer during football games so he doesn't miss anything
    4. Share him with your female friends and encourage ménage à trois often
    5. Give him hall passes often

    • @GuyAdviceFromGuy. Absolutely! You're on point, comrade. OP should have interviewed for additional ideas before writing the mytake.

  • This is a good take, honestly! But truly speaking, guys get obsessed with girls for no particular reason. You cannot do something specific in order to make him obsessed with you forever. It just happens.

  • THIS!!! HERE HERE HERE!!! You have it down pact for what would hook line and sinker me without question.

    Ladies, take note. This is exactly what men (at least myself) desire in a woman to keep the sensuality alive in a relationship. In turn, we will reward you with feeling like our sensual goddess and will pretty much jump when you say and how high. But also, will want to ravage you and make you our sensual naughty slave who we will drain you from cumming all night without mercy.

    Especially if you show up at our work, if we let you know we're alone here, in a trench coat and just naughtiness underneath (insert imagination here). Or I show up and you are greeting me with a sensual kiss and a crotch grab saying, I'm sorry you had a rough day, let me relieve your stress later. Things like this and then the nice, sweet, but sexy looking lady outside of the bedroom who can handle her shit, but still asks for help if she really needs it. All of what you just said is PERFECT!

    Ladies, this is why this woman is probably happily married and also there is a reason how she got to know these things and think in this way. If you think of sensuality and how much you want out of your relationship and let your imaginations go, you will be rewarded and very happy. Exhausted however, so be careful of what beast you unleash in your man.

    • Just looking through the comments, such as, manipulative and "if I have to do this all the time, or at all and he's not satisfied by me just being me, hell no", or "Guys don't want to have a confident woman" or "I'm not doing that, because, I think it's weird." All of these are comments toward the fact of lack of comfort, or laziness in a relationship. I would even go so far as to say, selfishness. I believe we get complacent, we get selfish, lazy, and expect the other to make all the moves. Or we are ignorant to the fact that relationships change dynamics of how we feel for one another to an extent sometimes. Relationships are never the same all the time. When you have two people who have their own thoughts, you'd be very naive to think that they should do things exactly how you feel they should all the time. Also, to think that you are their everything, so they have no attraction anymore to anyone else is pretty narrow thinking as well and self absorbed... cont.

    • I'm sorry, but I want to be the only guy that drives her sensuality through the roof. Also, I want her to make me desire her every day. That is what this MyTake is explaining. Passion in a relationship is what keeps people invested in it. You can't have passion without truly being open and honest with one another and showing each other how sensual and sexual you make each other feel. You start saying things like, "you're weird, why would I want to do that?" or "why did you decide to call me and just say that? That should be left for home." Or have the attitude that I'm good enough or the relationship is good enough how it is. Or, she must be up to something if she feels she has to be in control or that she has to look this way for me to be aroused. Your relationship has bigger issues in my eyes. It's lacking trust, or a sense of understanding and comfort isn't there. A relationship just doesn't go on, you have to work on it all the time. Especially when married and things like cont...

    • kids or work schedules not coinciding or meeting at work while your wife is at home trying to get the kids to school and practice and dancing and then set the table and your boss yells at you for whatever or you missed your project deadline, then you come home to her yelling to get the kids to bed or bath or whatever and you're tired and you don't really feel like eating the supper she worked hard to prepare and she is tired herself from dealing with home shit. You can't just depend on what worked in the past, to keep the relationship's passion and excitement alive while going through the regular, grueling, humdrum, day to day activities, day in and day out. Variety is the spice of life. Even if it's like surprise trips to wherever or sexual escapades in the car, or flirtatious hints and sexual thoughts. This is what keeps the fun in relationships. Manipulative, you really think your gf/bf, husband/wife is manipulative? There's bigger problems in the relationship then or with you...

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  • This is basically what we do for/to each other on date nights. lol 😜

  • Actually you have excellent points. Although if your in a relationship, and he does love you, he is going to be obsessed anyway. The only extremely ridiculous statement you make is " I believe this is the reason why many men who are in long-term relationships with absolutely gorgeous women still turn to pornography." Sorry ladies, you don't understand how men think. You will never understand how men truly think. Regardless of relationship status, obsessed or not, hot woman or not, sex every day or not... men are going to masturbate and watch porn. It may not be very often, but it is going to happen. Plain and simple it has nothing to do with not wanting to objectify women. it has everything to do with control and gratification. Women can't understand looking at naked people just to see pussy or tits or ass, nothing more. We don't sit there thinking "wow, I wish my girlfriend looked like her, or "wow, I want her more then anything.."... it is just about seeing pussy, ass and tits...

    • i understand it

    • And seeing/hearing a woman cum from getting her body toyed with over and over!!!

    • That was meant for someone else's comment. Sorry. I actually agree with you.

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  • All of those are good except one.

    The problem is the more "Confident" a woman becomes the higher the risk of her becoming bored of the guy. Women only continue to like guys if they are better than the woman. If the women becomes better she has less interested in a guy.
    This is not always the case but pretty much like 999 out of 1K of women.

    • Lol, that's rubbish 😂😂

    • @TiffyPuff Oh heck NO. -I would guess that all divorces that happened from financial problems are because either the guy lost his good job and had to earn less or the girl got a promotion and earns more. -When a guy cries a girl convinces him it's totally fine but the respect meter goes down. -When women are good looking they ONLY date good looking guys or ugly guys that have a hook such as famous or rich. -hell... women won't even date guys shorter than them. An entire life changing relationship is built on height. -women don't date younger guys and the list goes on.

    • You have to match the woman's confidence level then. Women want guys who are on their level and better, not just only better. If you're below their level, sure, they'll start to look elsewhere. Or, they may try to help you gain your confidence. Also, if they are like this around you, purring over your loins, or surprising you with affection and telling you how manly you are and how much they love fucking you, you're confidence will shoot through the roof. So all of this, not only helps their confidence, but yours as well. Which will cement the relationship even more and strengthen the bond you guys have. Because, you'll be thinking, this women makes me feel like her king, why would I want anyone else?

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  • Number 4 is good... what guy doesn't like his ego stroked! Nice take!

  • it really depends on the guy. All of this is 'amusing,' but I would obsess over a girl because of any or all of it. For me, sexual compatibility and physical attraction are all it takes. The tricks you mention can enhance physical attraction, but they can't create it.

    • "The tricks you mention can enhance physical attraction, but they can't create it." I agree, but I assume the poster already means that because the scenarios she mentions it seems that they already have to be dating.

  • You sort of lost me on number two when you mentioned "types of tactics". Just lmao. I mean why the fuck are you trying treating attraction in a relationship by tactful measures. As if you strategically need to plan your actions for a specific outcome. That works in the beginning stages of getting with a girl but nothing past that.

    See, guys are a little bit more perceptive than you might think. If a girl is putting a diligent effort to try and get me to obsess with me then it would by default have an opposing effect. The fact that she needs to "try" to do anything to garner my attention is a huge turn off. I can see past that shit pretty well. It's pretty transparent but girls think they are being witty and shit with it. Just no lol.

    That's now how you get a guy to obsess with you. Those are planned actions, therefore fitting the criteria of what we call fabrication. It is literally within polar opposition of what we call genuine. If it isn't genuine, then it is fake. Fake girlfriends are not attractive.

    Random empty handed compliments that aren't even contextual fitting are the biggest turn off to me. It's flattering to receive a compliment under the one circumstance. It's genuine.

    Girls, don't listen to this. Seriously... It's horrible advice. You want your guy to obsess over you? Be genuine within yourself and with your intentions towards him. Be unapologetic in your feelings/communication for the fact that you are entitled to them. Be genuinely interested in your mans life and his success. Compliment him when you feel it's compliment worthy. Be a badass bitch who isn't afraid to stick up for yourself. Make your man feel good about himself in every way. You're a team ready to dominate the fucking world together. No times to be playing high school games. That shit is for children.

    by the way... If you have to consistently encourage your man to objectify you, then he isn't really objectifying you. If you have to do that, then your man isn't truly dominant by nature. You're controlling what happens at that point, not him. That's not dominance.

    • First, I never encouraged anyone to give compliments that were not genuine. Introducing dishonesty into a relationship typically dooms it for failure. What I did advocate is for women to give their man a compliment when they can. These two approaches are very different and how you arrived an alternate conclusion is confusing to me. Secondky, I can only write from my own experience. I have a long lasting relationship that is actually happy and still full of spark on multiple levels. When I reflect on what keeps it that way, the things in the list I provided have definitely helped. I apologize that you are so easily offended. Hopefully, this explanation will assist you in seeing a different perspective. If not, oh well, to ea h his own.

  • 13 years is a long time

  • Evil woman magic :d

  • Funny how anyone can just post a mytake up and have people eat it up as if it holds weight.

  • 5. Encourage Him to Objectify You
    It is how men are wired... even toward ones we are in love with. Saying "I love your boobs". Or "What a sweeet pussy you have!" Is objectifying you to be sure, but it is saying "I love YOU!" If he sneaks a peek at your assets in a secure place? DISPLAY THEM! It won't take long for him to stop looking away. When you are open like this, it changes things.

  • Lmao.
    The moment you read this & think to yourself "If this is the way to do it, I'll never get one, lol. I just don't do most of these things."
    I guess it's good that this worked out for you, it's just even more than less than helpful for someone like me.

    • I am sorry that you do not find it helpful. I hope you find what works for you. Thank you for sharing your opinion with me!

    • This is basically a good Take, so don't feel bad about it. I'm just not the type for lingerie or for complimenting a man on 'being manly'.

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