Dear whiny men,
It's disconcerting that some of you (EMPHASIS ON --->SOME<---) believe that this world has apparently gone to hell in a hand basket because ALL women exist to, in your words, what, suffocate you, or only date literally the worst your sex has to offer us, or take all your money and run, or ditch their so called ordained role of unemployed intensely devoted wife to you and baby maker to your offspring. So you feel that these are the sole reasons your life is horrible and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, do you?
Come on friend!!!! Really? Some of you are the same exact people that like to tell minorities that they should get off their asses and stop blaming white people for everything wrong with their lives. You are the same ones who tell poor people that they have plenty of the same opportunities as rich people, if only they'd try a little harder. You're the same people who think anyone with a "label," shouldn't get any "extra privileges" handed to them because we can all just, you know, pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and do a little extra and fix our lives....EXCEPT... when it comes to your relationship to women. How is it everyone else needs to STFU and deal with their lives and their own situation and own up to their part of all of this, except apparently you?
Oh let someone mention the word women, and your face flushes, and your head practically explodes. Women, women, women...boom, boom, boom! If women were truly so all powerful and controlled every aspect of life, why aren't we in the majority of power positions on this planet? Why aren't we making equal pay around the globe? Why are women still to this day fighting for fertility rights and maternity leave and the right not to have the worst of you (which you claim we all date) punch us in the face or rape us and get away with it without so much as a slap on the wrist? How can you possibly have so much power in this world and still feel as though you are somehow completely helpless creatures incapable of scraping together your lives in the presence of a woman?
Everyone has bad experiences with someone or something. It's just a fact of life. Of course many of you have had some bad experiences, but when you take that, and make it your blueprint as to how apparently the entire rest of your life and everyone you meet in the future is going to be with no deviation and start blaming even the completely innocent of injury to you, that's when I'm going to pull the whiny man card and call it for what it is. Bullsh*t!
When sh*t doesn't work out in your favor in this world, the competent, the intelligent, the problem solvers, the successful people, they take the hit, analyze it, and they find solutions. They don't spend years of their lives whining about how unfair the sh*t is because while you're busy wasting time doing that, the rest of us, including your fellow man, will have moved on and found ways to improve their lives and future relationships.
Here is a reality of your situation: just because you are a man and you merely exist, does not mean happiness, money, a perfect relationship, a perfect marriage, kids, a great job, a great house, any of that, is guaranteed you OR anyone else on this planet. You think just because you're a good guy, a girl should automatically just fall into your lap because you give her an ounce of kindness, or just because you got married, life should be perfect from there on out? You gotta get that fantasy out of your head! Even in the best relationships, there are issues and issues that are caused by the TWO people in those relationships.
Women, plural, are individuals. Different minds, different experiences, different wants and needs. There is no one size fits all and yet, in the whiny man's mind, no woman can ever treat you well, or ever wants the good guy, or only wants your money, or is taking over everything when that is so far from reality. A woman can even present herself as the exact opposite of your negative script you have in your head for all women, and you still refuse to see that it's not all women. It's so easy for you to slap those labels on all women, but let a woman say "all guys this, or all guys that," and OMG, that's soo not true, let me write a full page brief about it in the comments. Can't have it both ways.You can't keep projecting your insecurities or all your past relationships on every woman because every woman is not the same. The only person that hurts in the end is you because you are so wired to doom all women and all relationships to them, that you wouldn't be able to see good if it walked right up to you.
Don't let hurt or this level of delusional thinking take over your lives. Instead of play the pity party role, as you suggest to anyone else with a label, pick yourself up off your butt and go out there and find a solution in a new person, in a new experience, in making yourself a better person, whatever it takes, because the world doesn't stop and wait for any of us to sit and whine about it all. Women aren't going to go away no matter how deep a hole you live in by yourselves and this idea that you can avoid women in anyway or that other men should is just insuring that you will literally rid yourself and others like you right on out of existence because survival of the fittest doesn't happen if you're not even on the chess board.
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