The Breakdown of "Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

You will always hear girls (generally who have had a busy sex life) whine;

"Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

There are a few factors in why this can be logically explained.

1. Pre-Selection:

- Women base a male's worth on how many and what kind of other women want him

Generally, women subconsciously like other to make their decisions for them or need to validate what they think with others. This is why girls seldom make decisions without asking their female friend's opinions first.

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If a guy is sexually interesting to many other women, then a girl is more likely to find him attractive.

Girls generally want to be "the best/prettiest of all options" so they want a guy who has many options for women but "chooses" her over all the others. This way she "wins" the competition. This is why girls say they want "the nice guy" but generally chase the "bad boy".

A guy who has few women (if any) interested in him, doesn't have a lot of value for three reasons;

1. Why do other girls not like him? He must have something wrong with him...

2. It's to much work and "risky" to have to do the determining if he is good enough by herself.

3. If he doesn't have a lot of options, then she isn't "the best of many", she is simply his only option.

The Breakdown of "Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

Guys, on the other hand, don't validate their opinions with others. If a guy like a girl, he will like her regardless of what his buddies think. "Pre-selection" actually has the reverse effect for men. A girl who has a lot of male attention generally are riskier because they are getting bombarded by guys trying to have sex with her all the time, she can pick and choose any guy at any time to have sex with and therefore it's a higher likelihood she will cheat at any moment of weakness.

2. Ease of access.

As much as women hate to admit it, they generally hold the power over sex. They pick and choose when and who. Unless they are absolutely hideous creatures, they have a much easier time getting sex. Women don't have to validate themselves to a guy to have sex, they simply need to offer. So a female who doesn't hold that ability to a high regard loses value.

The Breakdown of "Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

Males have to "play the game", they have to validate themselves to a female before she will allow him to have sex with her. So a male who is able to do this more often has more value to women because he has been validated.

It's the idea of the American with an abundance of food vs the starving African.

An American who has endless options of food and can pick and choose when and what they eat should have some restraint, they shouldn't be hungry all the time, and they should be more selective about what they eat. Otherwise, they are a glutton, a pig, etc. If they are making poor choices they will affect their health.

The Breakdown of "Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

A starving African has to constantly search for food, is always hungry, and when they find food, they have to take it even if it isn't the best food. If they don't, they may not find food again anytime soon. They can't be as picky about what they eat, and any food is better than no food. An African that is capable of finding more quality food or showing that they are able to get food more easily than others would be considered god-like. He would be seen as someone of value because he (unlike the others) is capable of producing food that the others have to struggle to get.

The Breakdown of "Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

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All in all, MALES are not the ones who "slut shame". Girls who put out easy may not be of long term value, but they are of short term use.

Women are the ones who aggressively shame girls who have been with many other guys.

Because girls are (like I said above) competitive towards other girls to become the "best" woman to a higher value male. Which is why women are "catty".

The Breakdown of "Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

An attractive "slut" makes it harder for a girl to win the attention competition, so they slut shame to gain an advantage in the game.

Since higher value men want a female who also has value, and 'sluts' are generally not good for anything long term. A girl will attempt to devalue another's social capital by 'slut-shaming'.

Even if the girl isn't a 'slut', if she is prettier, or catches the eye of a guy the girl has an interest in, it's a common practice for a girl to try and paint her as a 'slut' or similar vernacular. Be it by calling her the name outright or by making up rumors. This is the worst and most common form of female bullying.

The Breakdown of "Why is it ok for a guy to sleep around and not ok for a girl".

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    So is a lock that is not pickable.

  • Great Mytake.

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  • Women sleeping around makes men feel replaceable, and thusly it isn't okay to make a man upset.

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