The Empty Feeling of Porn…

Cuteguy135 Xper 5

I don’t know who has felt or who has experienced it, but it is a reality. At the end of the day pornography is simply you and a screen watching some people get it on.

When I was younger, everything about porn fascinated me. The women, the men, the positions, the kinks, and all the weirdness that was porn. In many ways, I couldn’t get enough of it like any person who had just discovered something new that he or she liked. As time continued, I found what I enjoyed, what I didn’t enjoy and eventually I began to fall into a routine. Sure, I watched new videos, but they were always the same content. The same actresses. The same stuff…

Eventually, I began to notice something… I was not feeling anything.

Sure, I could get off like most people can, but there was no level of excitement. There were no feelings of emotion. It was just that. Getting off. So, I dove into literotica. I began to try out audio stories. I tried new stuff and it helped for a while!... Yet once again, that empty feeling returned. And I began to not enjoy things as much…

The problem with porn or any variation of it, is that there is no connection. As I said,

"It’s simply you and a screen."

Actually, meeting someone, actually cuddling with them, and actually doing the deed yourself is what

makes you satisfied. Sex is not about just getting off. It is not about just satisfying your sexual emotions. It is about having a sense of comfort with someone. So, whether you like it big or small. Rough or soft. Kinky or plain. Go do it with someone and avoid the empty feeling of Porn.

-Cuteguy135

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sovetskii13 Master
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👍 Yeah, porn has gotten boring for me too. I used to have like 60 links to my favorite videos saved. That number has been decreasing over time. I still browse Literotica from time to time. Reading the stories are now more exciting than watching the videos. Maybe because I get to use my own imagination instead of just seeing it happen on the screen. People write some pretty good stuff there.
I don't wanna just go do it with someone. I'm... how do I say this? Afraid of being sexual and intimate. Insecure from lack of expeeience I guess. Too late to staet. And no, I'm not gay, asexual, or anything other than straight.
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menina Master
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I agree with your points, but there are people who have no one to have sex with.
So, sometimes their only option is porn.
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CactusJuice Xper 5
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Sounds like it was becoming an addiction. Any addiction is going to leave you feeling empty. Porn, substance abuse, gambling, etc.
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NicknameShirt Xper 6
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I see myself in this, and I suspect it's a symptom of addiction.. Last year I experienced this big-time. I had watched increasingly hardcore videos, but they just bored me. I dug deeper and deeper, and ended up with a few videos that were borderline disturbing. Then I understood, I could just feel how this was very very wrong. Morally, spiritually, you name it. It was darkness. I immediately abstained from porn, and then denied myself anything more than very general porn.
Maybe it's not a good thing that porn exists..
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- Smith1sim
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  I had practically the same exact experience. It was kind of like a high in the beginning with generic vids, then I went to the more hardcore stuff. I too was disgusted and disturbed and I went through a period where I just dropped porn for months. On the occasion I do watch videos, I watch real people not actors, it's refreshing to see their connection and real enthusiasm.
- NicknameShirt
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  @Smith1sim Exactly. I go through these periods when I just want to watch real people make love, not fuck. Actually, it's very hard for me to feel anything from most women in porn. They act so fake and overbearing, I'm not turned on at all. That connection in amateur-couple videos is after all what I desire myself. I want to relate to that. While that hardcore porn just seems to bring out some unhealthy, bad perversions buried deep into me. I don't want to bring that forth.
hibam Xper 3
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Porn is a corrupted way of showing sexual intimacy, because in the end it's done for financial targets. Commerce ! They are made in a way to make the guy or even the girl obsess over it by all this fake exaggerating acting, they show sex as indifferent and all about instant male needs to "finish". humiliated female actresses, bdsm, extremist male desires turn them out to become aggressive and violent. Porn is not for feeling at all. Guys are human beings and need other things more important like affection , trust, hugging... etc.
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Boorene Xper 6
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Agreed 100%
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- Cuteguy135
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  Thanks :)
machomanstud Xper 5
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100% agree! nice writing bro!
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BlackMaleYou Xper 6
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True talk bro! Same feeling
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Machiavelli Xper 6
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Hater alert.
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Cinnamon-Dun Xper 5
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Very well written. A very nice point of view.
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- Cuteguy135
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  Thank you :)
BCRanger10 Master
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Pornography has indeed poisoned how we view love and intimacy. It is a cancer to our society and it must be rooted out. Thank you for sharing this.
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- Cuteguy135
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  You're welcome :) thank you for the comment
ThisDudeHere Master
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"Go do it with someone and avoid the empty feeling of Porn."

Easier said than done. Some people, me included, can't just up and atom do that.
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Lightspeed-Lemon Xper 6
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You have a point. But to just "go do it with someone"... that can feel just as empty and meaningless, and comes with added danger of STDs.
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- Cuteguy135
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  True. I guess that was a little too blunt. I agree with you. The point was more that its better to have sex with someone than to watch porn because it has more emotion.
abundantlyrich Master
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Why not hump your pillow instead
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- GreenRocket59
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  hahahaha!
- Unit1
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  Fun fact: I do that already 😀 It Feels better than with hand.
- Chase1518
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  its a lot of fun best way to get off
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- Cuteguy135
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  @Chase1518 really? And where would you cum? On your pillow?
- Chase1518
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  no, you put a towel down and then you can keep going but i have never been able to cum again or you can cum into your underwear which is so nice but both feel good but i have never been able to cum again.
- Chase1518
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  I also agree with your statement but i also want to bring one thing up watching porn is now becoming the new sex ed for people who don't know how to do it and it is not bad to watch porn every once in a while (like once a month to maybe once every two weeks) i only watch it maybe once every two months. but I do masturbate like three four times a week. Whats your opinion on masturbation
- Unit1
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  I just release on my pillow and wash it later after i took a nap. Sex life... Check 😀
- Chase1518
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  @Unit1 how often do you do it and do you watch porn with it
- Cuteguy135
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  @Chase1518 haha masturbation is good. I do it 5-6 times a week. I do agree porn isn't all bad. And with this article my point wasn't that it was bad but that there was no connection. I do watch porn occasionally. It can be fun. But in general it isn't good to be using it too much.
- Chase1518
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  no too much is not a good thing at all i went through a phase last year of watching it daily i regret that big time. how do you masturbate out of curiosity if you don't mind me asking?
- Unit1
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  @Chase1518 if i could i would watch porn every day and masturbate every time. I used to do it 3 times per day when i was alone and unemployed. I miss porn a little now because i am busy now and working full time. Now i am just doing it daily after work.
- Chase1518
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  @Unit1 do you find it boring ever
- Chase1518
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  @Unit1 and i think that is to much by the way
- Unit1
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  Meaning i wish i could masturbate to porn and hump pillows more than once per day.
- Unit1
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  @Chase1518 nah. Never got bored for me. I watched it for over a decade now. until i get a girl as sex crazed as i am i will not consider stopping the only sexual outlet i have. And you are not me, so you wouldn't know if it is inappropriate to wank so much or taking away the only sexual outlet you have had for years because reasons.
- Chase1518
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  @Unit1 why don't you read erotica its a lot better than porn at least that's for me
- Unit1
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  @Chase1518 that's your opinion. Porn provides me with motioning visuals and that's just, what i need. The feeling of a female human body can be provided by a body pillow. Eventually the pillow warms up also. Also i would consider getting a fleshlight. I lack the resources for erotica also.
- Chase1518
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  @Unit1 yeah i sort of want to get a flashlight and i also think a doll would be cool but i need to move out of home first haha
- Chase1518
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  @Cuteguy135 do you read and listen to erotica and if so can you p[lease tell me some websites cause i am struggling to find audio erotica
- Unit1
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  @Chase1518 yep. See to it, that you leave your parents roof. I have a body pillow and i love it. It can fill that void to some degree. Audio erotica? There is role play porn for that. Just listen and don't watch.
- Cuteguy135
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  https://www.literotica.com/c/audio-sex-stories
  
  Here is a good site for you guys. Have fun is all I can say. There is some good stuff and some bad stuff but I'm sure you'll figure it all out.
- abundantlyrich
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  Can you confess your sins to the priest please? Not here on my thread.
- Cuteguy135
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  Hahahahahaha, that's pretty funny. Yeah sorry for all the comments.
- Chase1518
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  @abundantlyrich sorry for the comments
rjroy3 Guru
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That's why PoV exists lol
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momo770 Yoda
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As I've said before, I'm not a porn chick. I don't get aroused by watching soulless sex. I also get what you said when you first started watching how exciting it must have been for ya. Emotional ties make sex magical and I like magical things.:)
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- Cuteguy135
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  I've come to live life for the connection between people. My favorite movies and books often are about the characters connecting with one another. I agree that love is magical and that sex becomes heavenly especially when two people care deeply for one another
frozenhorizon Explorer
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Yeah, it totally sucks.
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MatsubuS Xper 4
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Watch some vanilla or other 'sensible' categorised
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hawkeye92 Explorer
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OP uses this sob story at bars to show his humility and how he cares about a girl's personality, and then gets rejected time after time for being a creep.
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lEat70sBush Xper 5
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Well jacking off to Pornhub is good enough for me and has been for 12 years. High-end whores get expensive at $200/hr and I'm lazy, getting a real girl to do it for "free" (sex is never free, if not money then it's time or trade) takes more effort and hassle than I care to deal with. Other than that I'd rather jack off to a 10 than settle and actually and fuck a 5. Back in my 20's during my man-slut days I settled every time and regretted it after (basically ended up wishing I never met the girls I fucked). By 30's I got sick of the bullshit to the point I'd rather not feel anything (it still feels good when I shoot a load = good enough).
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SammOlives Xper 3
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Well there are many people just like me who have no social life.. Its really hard to not watch porn. Since there are no one we can have sex with. ::sad frog.::
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Browneye57 Master
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Bravo. You're actually getting it!
The sad think is that way too many young people view it actually something healthy and acceptable. It's all so fake and they being to believe that is what a real man-woman romantic relationship or sex is about, thereby ruining any chance at having the real thing. Or they want to try all manner of depraved things on them, or agree to orgies and multi-partner.

Sad reality. And it's at epidemic proportions today with it being so readily available on every electronic device. :(
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