First, let me start by mentioning that I am thirteen and so please hear me out. I do not mean to be bigoted or offensive, if you may take it that way. I am just expressing my feelings.
This isn’t really very organised, but I’ll do my best.
Transgender
I think there is something fundamentally flawed about the term transgender itself.
If you wish to define gender as ‘social expectations based on sex and your personal identity’ or something of that sorts, then how can you change your gender? Why would you need to change something that you always had?
Trans= across/change
So if gender is your personal identity then transgender doesn’t really exist in the way we think it does.
If transgender is defined as physically altering your body to have features typical of the opposite sex, then shouldn’t you say something like ‘trans-physical-sex’ or something? How can you have a gender reassignment surgery if gender is what’s in your brain?
And why do most transgender people go through transformation surgery? If gender is not defined by physicality, then why get a physical change? All it does is make a lot of people believe that the only way for you to be acknowledged for what you are is to change how you look. I think that’s completely messed up. I’m not trying to diss any trans people, I’m just saying the system around it seems a bit wrong. Like a lot of people who try to convince trans people, including kids, that they were born in the wrong body. Your body isn’t what makes you, you. A lot of people have no arms or legs but they are still much more amazing people than many able people.
Your body is just something that carries the you inside. If I chose not to conform to the stereotypes attached to my body, that doesn’t make me wrong. If I am small, I can still be strong. If I am not slim, I can still run. If I have brown hair, I can still be pretty. If I have a vagina, I can still be ‘masculine’. If I have a penis, I can still be ‘feminine’. Please don’t convince people that their body is inherently wrong and then claim to support them. I think perhaps one of the biggest issues humanity has faced is thinking that brain>body.
Non-binary
Non-binary is often defined along the lines of ‘a person not fitting completely into either male or female gender identities’
Yes, I know you may not want to be aligned with stereotypes, but stereotypes will never go away. Nobody fits into masculine or feminine fully. But while I think the label non-binary may have good intentions, identifying as non binary doesn’t necessarily actually mean you don’t fit traditional stereotypes. It’s not so much the label as the actual effort to eradicate the stereotypes. And a woman/man who fits stereotypes should not be shunned for it.
I feel in a way that non-binary could become its own binary. If male and female form a binary then what is in the middle? Intersex is not a gender. It is hard to consider gender a complete binary if there are no exact defining points.
And perhaps if non-binary wasn’t a gender per se, but rather a movement, in 30 years gender would be a thing of the past. Claiming that gender is a social construct and then construct more terms for gender seems counter-productive. The more we continue to identify ourselves by gender, binary or non-binary, the more it will still exist and gender stereotypes will emerge even for those identifying as non-binary.
Biological sex on the other hand I think should not be bothered at all because it’s a part of genetics and is useful in medicine and stuff. Even though we are making strides gender-wise, I still have the dilemma of wearing jeans to my graduation and face rude assumptions of my sexuality or be stuck in an uncomfortable dress.
Thanks for reading and feel free to share your opinions!
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