Why Society Prefers Virgin Women

Why Society Prefers Virgin Women
Have you ever wondered why it's seen as an accomplishment for men to have sex with multiple women and why it's seen as a disappointment for women? I know a lot of you are going to dislike this take, but keep in mind I'm just being honest & telling you the actual reasons. This is why society prefers women to be virgins.

Why Society Prefers Virgin Women

Lady like

It's simply not lady like. I know a lot of women reading this right now are boiling in their seats. Well, that's one of the main reasons, it's not lady like at all for a woman to want sex with multiple men. It's like she's chasing after penis which is very unattractive. People believe women are supposed to be like butterflies, you chase after them but never catch them, until one day a butterfly lands on you, and you know that butterfly is yours to keep. That's how it is in books, movies, fairy tales, and just in general. It's not very lady like to have slept with over 10 men. Imagine this discussion with a bunch of other females, telling them you've slept with over 10 men, and the rest of them are probably virgins.

Why Society Prefers Virgin Women

Overused

Men don't like women who've had sex, because they believe the vagina would be all used up and worn out. I know it's been proven that vagina's are elastic, but think of it this way. I'm pretty sure you all know what a mouth guard is right? A piece of equipment athletes use to protect their teeth from being damaged. Would you want to use someone else's mouth guard? That they've had all in their mouth for such a long time? They've got their spit all on it and whatnot, would you want to use that? Even if they wash the mouth guard, you still wouldn't want it? No, you'd just prefer to get your own brand new, never used mouth guard.

That's how men feel when it comes to vaginas, why would we want it when we could just get a fresh brand new one. The only difference is, another mans penis was actually in the vagina, so it's even worse. Would you put a mouth guard in your mouth that's had some guys penis on it? Even if it's been washed... no, the fact that some other man has put his penis there is not attractive, especially if multiple men's penises have been down there. With penises, you won't be able to tell the difference, no matter how many times a guy has sex, his penis will still feel the same. Vagina's on the other hand do stretch, and the feeling slightly changes after she's had sex a few times.

Why Society Prefers Virgin Women

Experience

Men like to impress women, believe it or not we do. That's why men show off in front of women, we like to make them smile, giggle, and just impress them. Well, you can't impress a woman who's seen and done it all. Men love to see a woman's grimace, or just to hear her say "Wow". When a woman has had sex with a lot of men, most likely you're not going to be the best she's had, so nothing you do is going to surprise her at all, she's already done it. Also, it makes it even worse when she pretends to be surprised.

It's very easy to make a man say "wow." Literally, you can make a guy say wow just by flashing him, even if he's seen your breast a billion times, he's still going to be impressed.

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  • Well then some men truly are hypocrites? Virgin women are better suited with virgin men and vice versa.

    How do you think women feel knowing their so called partner has stuck his dick into several vaginas, and what not. All that spit etc on it even if he washes it, it's still used right? It doesn't feel good especially if there is a risk of him carrying STD's.

    If men think they are entitled to virgin women they should remain virgins too.
    It's not fair on the individual that they are expected to refrain from sex when men can sleep around yet expect women to remain virgins.

    • I'm not saying women can't prefer virgin men, I'm only telling you why men prefer virgin women

    • The penis doesn't change after sex, the vagina does

    • Sorry but I don't want a Virgin man

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  • How is this blue anon trolling garbage *featured*?

    • Thanks for the positive feedback Mr meatballs

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  • I'm sorry but as a virgin myself your wrong with this. Society doesn't care about virgins or virginity. Both men and women in God's eyes should be virgins until marriage. Not outside of it. If you think a woman's value is better because she's a virgin for the experience, then your no different from the man-whores who chose to be one. A person should love you for you, but if the person being a virgin is your requirements for the right reasons then fine. Wrong reasons such as you wanting to impress her in bed, then you can forget about getting a virgin to want to have sex with you.

    Sex isn't taught, it's learned together with your spouse. And your description as a virgin is why I wouldn't date. You have to remember that people have different views of sex and have grew up or was taught differently if they still hold those views from their parents. Overall here is the difference:

    1. Yes, men in general may prefer virgins BASED ONLY on his beliefs.
    2. BUT, Secular men can care less about it generally ONLY if
    3. However, most secular men want a woman who will have premarital sex with him.

    You say it's not lady like to sleep around but know that it's not being a man by sleeping around with different women and paying whores for 1st time either. Sex isn't just a physical matter, it is a spiritual matter as well.

    • u are right

    • Its not lady like to sleep around, its not gentlemanly to sleep around either. Most women dont want virgin men. they want a man with experience. Through out history women have shaped what it means to be an attractive man and men have also shaped what it means to be an attractive woman. For me virginity isn't a must but I certainly dont want a woman that treats i like food.

    • Well written

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  • Although I can see that some men feel this way, and even some women, my ex-boyfriend (we were together for 3 years) told me he dislikes it. He said he´s had 2 girls that were virgin and they had no idea what to do or what not to do. He said that it was rather annoying...

    Also I´ve seen many comments here by guys that want strong, opinionated women, women who are able to enjoy themselves. You hardly can expect such a woman to be a virgin for a long time, waiting for the "right man".

    I personally think that a large number of men who prefer virgins are either very religious or have something small-ish in their pants and dont want the woman to have a comparison, to know the feeling of an average-sized or bigger penis inside. Those men are insecure and they may or may not know about it.

    Also society changes very slowly. If we glance at history and it is not that long ago when women used to marry in their very early twenties. When they reached certain age (lets say 27) they started to be seen as spinsters, not likely to marry at all. They usually married an older guy - who finished apprenticeship, education, military service and established himself in society and start earning to be to afford a wife (who in a more distant times were not allowed to work or it was frowned upon) (This is also a reason why some women are (and lots of them are called) gold-diggers.) So the age difference contributes to the virgin-female factor and non-virgin-male status. Women should have been chaparoned for a loong time too. For centuries men perceived women as virgins until they married (and religion plays an enormous role in it too).
    Today women get married in their late twenties, early thirties, you cannot expect a woman to be a virgin for that long. You would not deny a man sex for that long.

    Don´t forget that women were often assigned a husband and she had very little say in it. In many countries women mostly had no rights until the previous century. This contributed to the fact hat a lot of men felt and lots still feel superior to women. If they feel superior they think they have more rights - a right to expect more - to expect a virgin.

    What is the difference in sticking a dick in lots of vaginas and a vagina having more dick? It is the same. Vagina is elastic (and the elasticity lowers as a woman AGE) and tightness and "looseness" is also a matter of level of arousal or lubrication. And there are always Kegels exercises.

    • I should write that as my MyTake. everyone has the right to choose - if you prefer a virgin - find a virgin. Sure you have some reasons to do so. But there are lots of reasons for the contrary too. Don´t overgeneralize.

    • Well, you are 26, 3 years ago you were 23 Assuming your boyfriend was around your age... yeah, that's pretty common for young men to want older experienced women, it's like having your own personal porn star... & the difference is the mouth guard theory We are straight men, while we are going down on a woman are minds are not blank, we wonder... "How many guys have been down here" "How many penises have been in here" We are straight men, imagining penis almost makes us wanna puke... & trust me there's a huge difference between an older woman's vagina & a younger woman's vagina They won't look or feel the same at all, depending on the amount of sexual partners they've had.. typically the older woman's had more sex (at least I'd like to think) That's why her vagina is going to be more "loose" If you still don't believe me, look it up. Penis on the other hand, doesn't change at all with age.. Besides them becoming limp

    • I did not disagree with some of the arguments you presented... I understand most of them and I can accept that some men feel this way... However, and this I have to stress out, you over-generalize... "Society" prefers virgins? Even if you substitute it with "Men"... did you mean - "all men" or "most men"... I disagree... It depends on the circles of people you are in (i. e. I am often left speechless by stupidity of some people, it is sometimes unbelievable for me that people can say - or think - that. {not opinions, facts}, because I encircle myself with intelligent people)... so, if you want to say - "Most guys I know prefer virgins" I wouldn´t argue, because I dont know the men you know. You might think "How many penises have been in here", but saying this about all men? I would make it a poll here if I were you. It is a very strong claim. I would think most people dont think much when having sex. I certainly never wondered "Hmm, in how many vaginas have you been in?"

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  • The arguments 'experienced' and 'overused' all work for men the same way.
    Concerning your first argument as to why society prefers virgin women, what you're saying comes down to 'because society prefers it that way'. 'We think they should not be promiscuous because we think they shouldn't.'
    I'd certainly agree that there is a logical explanation as to why women are more socially required to 'keep it in their pants' than men, but your arguments have no part in that explanation.

  • Cultural notions about the value of purity, and insecure men who can't bear the idea of being compared, are both complex issues unto themselves. They are opinion based, value based, and emotion based arguments that ultimately come down to individual worldview and personal preference.

    But your statements about the vagina being "used up" or somehow soiled, are simply inaccurate, not to mention overtly hypocritical. You yourself admitted that the vagina is elastic. And it's true. It's a muscle that can be strengthened and toned through use and exercises. You CAN'T always tell the difference between a vagina that has had sex and a vagina that hasn't, especially since sex is not the only activity that can stretch or tear a woman's hymen. As far as comparing a vagina to a used mouth guard, don't you think the idea of a penis that has been inside someone else's genitals is a little gross too, if you actually think about it? In what way does it matter more with vaginas than it does with penises? Please explain.

    • I will help you here a little. but before I do I will let you know I dont expect a woman to be a virgin. A lot of men care about virginity and they are disgusted if a woman has had many men. On the other hand it is up to women to hold men to those same standards. If they did men would sleep around less. Well I've met virgins that wanted only virgin men. I've met girls that have experiences with players and they get triggered by a guys multiple partners to. But im sure almost every woman dont want to be with a virgin guy. I even read a comment here with a woman saying, "Who wants a virgin guy?" When I had my first sex there was this pressure I had a man to be good in bed, to know what Im doing (as the nature of female pleasure isn't always in plain sight), to have experience. This pressure wasn't from men. It was from previous comments I heard from girls about sexually inexperienced guys.

    • @BlackMaleYou You're right, there is a lot of variety in what people want and prefer in their sexual partners. But the main issue for me is that these expectations manifest in such wildly different ways. Yes, there are women who want or prefer experienced partners. Okay. But I've never seen anyone, of either gender, refer to a virgin guy as worthless, trash, garbage, etc. The thing is, a virgin can always gain experience. But if someone is worthless as soon as they've lost their virginity, then there's no way to improve that situation.

    • there are women that call virgin guys worthless in bed, that wouldn't wanna sleep with a virgin guy, dont want to marry a virgin guy. Some guys in their 20 hide the truth that they are virgins until it is obvious in the bedroom. For personally almost all pussy feel the same, only few were extra tight and only one was loose because she has a child, the real difference I see with women is 1) their beauty cos like most men im super visual during sex 2) their sexual energy and enthusiasm towards sex (a passive woman during is not very special in bed but a woman who is into it and seizes her pleasure is). Most men cum with almost every girl they've been with virgin or not. Most women dont get to cum with most men, so there is a clear distinction from one man to the next. A guy who makes a her cum is seen as experienced. A lot of women dont waist their times on virgins guys. I grew up religious and I was saving my dick for marriage but I fell in love at 21 and shit happened!

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  • Ehm do they?
    I mean talk for yourself about preferring virgins, I don't think it's fair to say society in general does. I'm still a virgin and I get mostly the opposite idea

    And ehmm, women aren't mouth-guards... duh!
    I think it's quite when bad when men objectify women by I don't know going to strip clubs or something, but this is even worse. Your girlfriend/wife is not an object. Whether she's a virgin or not she's a person with her own insecurities and flaws, she won't be "brand new"
    Vaginas stretch snap back into shape everytime you have sex, they do not necessarily stay loser, even after childbirth, so that's a bs excuse trying to justify this behavior in men and punishing it in women

    And look, I wouldn't want a guy who has slept with dozens of people either but I strongly disagree with the objectification you're using here and I would never do that a guy

    • i didn't call women mouth guards.. i said theory the·o·ry ˈTHirē/Submit noun a supposition or a system of ideas intended to explain something, especially one based on general principles independent of the thing to be explained. & the fact that girl has been with men before us is simply not attractive..

    • You didn't say theory AND it's not a theory, it's a metaphor. A misleading and offensive one, because again... women are not mouth-guards, that you can toss aside You misunderstood what a theory is. If it was a theory and you ARE in fact saying that women are literally mouth-guards, assuming you think your theory is correct

    • ^this

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  • Let's get real. Virginity is a social construct based in antiquity (for the most part) that focused on making sure that the woman was pure so that men would, no doubt, question the paternity of any potential offspring. I respect both sides. If you decide to wait till you get married to have sex then more power to you. If you decide not to wait then more power to you as well. Why shame people into making it seem that a woman is less of a human because she partakes in a pleasurable activity between two (or more) consenting adults.

    I've been on sides of the spectrum. I was told you'd get too loose or you'd be immoral if you lost it before marriage hence why I lost mine at 24. Do I regret not losing it sooner? Absolutely! I would have liked to have lost it around 20/21. Sex is pleasurable and as long as you're safe and not creating chaos why should I care what other people do on their mattress. Am I less of a woman because I enjoy sex? Am I loose like a ruberband? No! Tightness and looseness is subjective and hereditary might be more of factor in that then anything!

    We are not ladylike because we chase penis? Life is too short to not enjoy something that was created for pleasure. If you and your partner get tested, use condoms and/or birth control what does it matter. Ladylike behavior is another construct to confine women!

    Think about 😊 OP you would not be here on this earth had your mom and everyone's mother been so ladylike as you so phrase it.

    Also, let's say you save yourself for marriage and after you get married you have sex 20 times a month. Your logic is that she will be loose so you should probably divorce her and get s newer "model"? you're comparing women to obejects that have mileage and that's not how it works.

    • You don't know the relationship between my mom & dad or who she's had sex with & why do you think I'm so strict about virginity? I was raised this way By my mom so if you think I'm strict about it you couldn't handle her. & yes my moms very lady like

  • I don't think "society," at least not Western society, really prefers virgin women anymore. Society tolerates virgin women more than virgin men (perhaps unfairly), but it's seen as a little odd for anyone to be a virgin past their early 20s. I was still a virgin at 17 and honestly felt some pressure to lose it in order to be "normal." From what I see, most of today's Western men are a little wary of virgins over about age 20. That is not to say there's anything wrong with being a virgin, for men or women. I just have heard a lot of guys say they don't feel comfortable having sex with a virgin, that it's too much emotional baggage. I personally think that's stupid too, but still. Your take doesn't make me mad, I just honestly think you're incorrect.

  • I'm a virgin and I find it to be quite the opposite. Being called a prude, uptight, and all. Guys don't want virgins. They want a girl who spreads her legs twenty times a day now.

    • Huh, what?😂😂

    • @Halucinator Doubt she was serious

    • Good looking guys usually don't want virgin girls but inexperienced red pill types are usually into them it's really common for a girl to be a virgin so it's boring.

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  • Probably has a lot to do with biology. Men can spread the seed, and women can only have one baby at a time (or multiple from the same father at least via twins, triplets). Also its more risky and more energy consuming to raise a child in you for 9 months.

    And then somehow human culture tried to instill values around this

    • it's important to note that many cultures do not follow judo-christian- like values where women keeping her virginity till marriage is sacred. Lots of polynesian cultures and cultures in africa give women a lot of sexual freedom.

    • Its because men instinctively do not want to raise another mans kids. Ill never allow myself to be a stepfather no matter how much I care about her. Its not even really an emphasis on virginity but an avoidance of promiscuity because there's no way to know if a promiscuous woman is having your baby or your neighbors (before DNA testing) thats where these concepts originate from.

  • I didn't think they did lol

    • They might say they don't because they're whipped, but if they could actually choose, they would choose for the girl to be a virgin

  • Whores, Virgins, Lovers are on the same pedestal for me.

    I won't judge a woman on her sexual experience.

    However, I disagree with the entirety of this mytake. I don't hate you for it. It's just my belief.

    1. High priestesses, Cleoptra, Devdasi's have been seen as very feminine.

    Choosing whom to let in doesn't mean you have less sexual partners.

    Even Jesus did not judge the prostitute Mary. (I am not religious, but this is what is mentioned in the Bible).

    If you go back in history women in civilisations like Indus Valley owned property, were smart and had sex. They were seen as highly feminine.

    Kamasuttra. The word kama now translates to whore. Was known as sensuality itself and a form of feminine art.

    2. The size of a baby's head is bigger than any penis. A woman cannot become over used.

    Also many women who get raped are killed in countries because of this thought process.

    3. I asked a poll question. Several men did want experienced women.

    • Well, if women had babies being taken in & out of there repeatedly, I doubt the process would even hurt half as much & no, it wouldn't close back up.. unless the babies stopped coming. Yes that's true, several men do want experienced women, but mostly young men. Know why? because they want someone who's going to make them feel amazing in bed, that's it. That's the only reason. Why would a man that pictures himself with a woman for the rest of his life not want her to be a Virgin? He wants to impress, he'd want to explore, but her ship has already reached the destination... She knows it all..

    • This take is very sad, and I see that we must just agree to disagree all while making sure we just find like minded people to have relations with. I really don't care to reason with someone who holds these beliefs, he'll learn or not, whatever.

    • I agree with everything you stated except “I won't judge a woman on her sexual experience." That tells us everything we need to about his/her relationship commitment.

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  • You're simply sexist. It's okay. The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.

    • "u dont accept us hoes! you are sexist!" look he is sexist not because chastity is a bad thing, more like because he encourages men to be hoes but only them.

    • @levantine99 Actually, I never said chastity is a bad thing, but neither is embracing your sexuality. Live and let live.

    • well life is a subjective thing. he is right that girls are becoming more sad, and broken and wasted when they spend themselves mindlessly. thats not life, and not interfering is being a part of the problem. so your phrase sounds more like, "be an egotist, dont give a fuck about anyone". i used to be a secular and even got invloved with some dudes that smoked weed etc, thats not life thats hell. the problem with real Life, is one must live it first to have a measure of comparison with everything else... .

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  • FAKE NEWS!

  • it's not about the worn out or anything like that. it's just that you know there has been another guy with that body. That's all. The fact that he knows. It's the thought and the fantasy, it's all gone. As simple as that.

  • I guess men are fucking each other since women are supposed to remain virgins forever. Thanks op, didn't know that.

    • wouldn't blame them?

  • " why it's seen as an accomplishment for men to have sex with multiple women and why it's seen as a disappointment for women"...
    In my envoriment/culture it's a disappointment for both gender. Promisciousty is badly seen whether you are a man or woman.

    • If vaginas get worn out, don't dicks get worn out too when they fuck many women?

    • But men are relentlessly bullied and mocked for being a virgin by both men and women.

    • There is a phrase for guys of if you don't use it you'll lose it. For men it's the opposite.

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  • So a woman is an object, like a mouth guard right? A woman is a piece of property, not her own person, not an actual human being living her own life. She exists only for the dick of ONE man. That's her sole purpose on this earth.

    Controlling, abusive, insecure - that's what you are. And I hope every single woman who comes into contact with you realises that.

    • All these pathetic little insecure boys downvoting me because they treat women like objects!! Keep proving me right guys.

    • I never said women were objects, I was talking about vagina's/virginity. & you can Say what you want , but I'm only being truthful.. what man has disagreed? What man has said "I don't want a girl to be a virgin when we have sex" You won't hear those words from a man The only men who want women who've had multiple sex partners are the ones who are only in it for sex, they know you're good & they want an awesome experience.. I'm not saying a woman's sole purpose is for one man, but if you sleep with many men, don't expect them to want you... I mean it really can't be that hard to keep your legs closed...

    • No you spoke about a woman as if she were a mouth guard. An object. Her only worth is in the use or there lack of her vagina. Because all you want is a woman you can treat like an object. You wrote the words son, not me. It's not hard to interpret what you meant. Plenty of men have said that and say that everyday. Here and off GAG. Those are men that say that. Not boys. I would also add I have zero against virginity as a choice, to save yourself for your husband. But those women are not better nor worse than any other. Because they're not objects for you to just fuck. If you're not a virgin? You're a hypocrite. Which completely devalues your entire argument. Why can't you keep your legs closed? Why aren't you a virgin?

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  • The only problem I have with this take is the hypocrisy. If sex is so spiritual to you, don't hoe around yourself. If you're not a virgin, you have no right to expect your partner to be one.

    Women have standards too. When you find your fair maiden, don't be surprised when she wrinkles her nose at your number.

    Yes, it's important to me that my life partner is a virgin. Yes, I get a lot of backlash for it. I'm not very religious, but sex has sacred and romantic values to me. It's for that very reason that I've decided to wait for my true love. I need to have something I can offer her in return.

    I am many things, but I am NOT a hypocrite.

  • Ahh yes, all a woman is her vagina.

    Our personalities (and looks) should have nothing to with people wanting to sleep with us, it's all about the number of partners.

    Wanting a woman to be a virgin is acceptable if you're religious but only if you feel such should be true for men.

    Other than that, you have to be very delusional if you only want to have sex with a woman if she's a virgin.

    I'm a virgin, and I sure as hell won't be giving the goods to a guy who wouldn't sleep with me if I wasn't one.

    • "I'm a virgin, and I sure as hell won't be giving the goods to a guy who wouldn't sleep with me if I wasn't one." ^^ ♥️ Wise woman.

    • I never said looks didn't matter If a girl is not attractive then I mean it's no surprise she's a virgin, it'd be expected. but I don't know, they tend to be the ones that give it up easier because they know that chance might never come again 🤷‍♂️

    • @redeyemindtricks. Me too° 😊

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