Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
So you just met someone and you are smitten! You picture a relationship, and are definitely imagining the sex. You want to impress, and want to stand out from all the others. Maybe if this person had a sneak preview of what they can have, it will catch their attention. Yes…it seems like a great idea, since you’re already talking and texting sexy.
If you’re a guy, maybe it’s that bathroom shot where your hand pulls down your shorts just enough to see your pubic hair and the head of your erection. If you’re a girl, you could be lying on your bed, positioning your boob just right to let him see how supple it is. Then you take the selfie. You check it out. If it’s not right, you take a new one until you look like someone straight out of a magazine.
*Send*. It’s now no longer yours, but someone else’s to do with what they want. You think you trust the person, and you want them (and only them) to enjoy the photo.
For the first while, this could very well be the case. But why do you disregard the thousands that regret doing this every single day?
An impulsive act meant to impress is so often ignored because so many people just think, “No.. he/she won’t do that to me.” Or, “We’re dating, he/she isn’t going to want people to see it.” Or, “He/she sent me a nude, so we’ve both got ‘something’ on each other.”
Here are some things to keep in mind before you even take the selfie to begin with. I can only speak as a woman who has had some experience with men sending me pictures, and the threats I’ve heard men tell me about nudes they have. So please, if you’re a man and want to express your opinion, they will be welcome.
Many Things Can Compromise Your Privacy
Notice, I said “things”, not just people. Just because you have a passcode on your phone or your computer requires a password to unlock does not mean devices cannot be hacked. You don’t even need to lose your phone to be worried. If someone wants to do it, software is available to invade your phone or computer. A guest profile on a computer might as well say “Trespass Profile”. As for the phone, Google “how to hack a smartphone” – dozens of sites pop up, including apps. Forums are also available for a network of people wanting to spy on others to get support.
People You Don’t Even Know Can Compromise Your Privacy
I’ve worked in a mobile phone call centre, and every single account can be accessed by an employee. That means they can gain access to pictures of your dick too. I’ve caught people compromising the security of people’s accounts and they’ve been reprimanded, sure – but the damage was done. Anyone can catch you unlocking your own phone and memorize a simple four digit code. If your phone is easily snatched, a passcode is useless. Popping out the memory chip also has no security.
You Can’t Trust the Person You Think You Can
There is too much of the unknown about the person you are getting to know during the primary phase of the relationship. Sure, they talk sweet and seem genuine. Every psycho out there does before they turn on you, which is why there are enough experiences from people who claim “they didn’t know” or “didn’t see it coming” when the other person turned evil.
People who beg and plead for a nude likely have done this before. Usually people who have never received one or never asked will not have a clue how to go about requesting one without seeming like a fool. People who insist and then create reasons why you should do it are using tactics they’ve used on others in the past. What’s more – the almost-inevitable chance that someone is careless with your photo. All too often, someone swipes through pictures of their cat to share with someone, and instead end up swiping by a photo of your pussy. Oops.
Treat Your Selfies As If They Will Be Shown to Your Boss or Your Parents
If you do want to send a sexy photo, is it something you won’t really care if your boss or parents will see? Having a nice, inviting shot of you in a bathing suit is one thing, but an erect penis or your pierced clit is another. If you have no problem with compromising your virtue with people whose perception of you is important, only you can decide. Keeping a thought in the back of your brain, “What if Mom saw this?” might make you think twice.
People In Relationships Don’t Need Nudes
If you’ve established a relationship with someone, and have even been with them for a while, is it necessary for them to have a nude when they can see you whenever they want? It makes more sense to have an inviting photo rather than a nude. Your partner should be able to proudly show you off to others on their phone.
It’s More Sexy to Keep It Secret
Part of the intrigue is to wonder what’s underneath those shorts or tank top. People can easily see if they like the shape of your body and can get a good idea of what you might be like, but it can drive people crazy to want more and pursue you in a good way. If you give up the goods in a nude, it’s game over. Plus, giving up the goods might be an indicator that you’ve sent pictures before and you don’t mind people (sometimes strangers) seeing you nude. Unwittingly, you could be sending the message that sex is easy. I’m-here-if-you-want-me.
It's no wonder why people complain that they can’t find a decent person because they let the sexual component be the front-runner of the relationship, when it traditionally should be the last. The intent is to meet, get to know, then experience intimacy – in that order. When we throw out the sexual component first, it cries out that you are not worth meeting or getting to know, and that you place your nude body as the importance of how you are perceived. When you reserve that part as being the last thing for someone to experience, the more sexy you actually are.
Prepare Your Explanations When The Photo is Leaked
Your nude is out there, and sure enough if something bad happens, the person who has it can use it as leverage to blackmail you since it’s the most vulnerable thing about you they have and can hold against you. You might have to prepare what you’re going to say to your boss, co-workers, friends, family, and future boyfriend/girlfriend if things go very badly. Yes, you will be the victim, and no one ever looks good exposing their ex, but you were not a victim at the time you willingly took a photo and sent it.
Even if you are simply looking for sex and don’t care much about it today, doesn’t mean that you are going to be the same person a few years from now. Circumstances can change. Photos of you now are not just reminders for the person you’re sending them to but a reminder for yourself that you didn’t just respect your virtue, but you valued your security.
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