I've just read a post on here from a young lady asking "how ofter do you fantisise about throat fucking?" Obviously directed at men I mean you can't fuck throats with vaginas and if they can reach the throat (and i ain't judging) but you got a fucking problem! Just saying. Anyhow This made me question the role that media (this includes pornography especially porn) has in society as far as how we view each other as opposite sexes in a sexual capacity. My view when I read this girl question was this, (brace yourself, you may need a kindle to read this cause my response wasn't half hearted)...
"This is not a functional sexual practice (throat fucking) it's just through hypersexualisation of men through porn and the media we fantasise about shit like this! We treat each other like objects and fuck dolls! It feels much better when really respecting and using sex like a conduit to connection with someone on an emotional level whilst taking care of each others physical pleasure! Feel much better and more satisfying! If you want a man who treats you like that well that is sad but you live and learn I guess. There's a lot more to you as a woman then just your sex appeal or sexuality or how much you appeal to men in comparison to other women!! Nothing wrong with female sexuality don't get it twisted!!! That should be celebrated but in a way that isn't taking away your humanity and making you an inanimate comodity for men to use to get one off! Ladies know your worth!"
My opinion is that in a general sense it impacts women in a negative way. I think women are made to feel that they have to live up to the impossible beauty standards of the media and are to feel insucure about their appearance. Porn is geared towards male satisfaction and portrays the women on screen as nothing more than body parts that exist for male gratification, this surely give young women the message that they have to appeal to men in sexual capacity and that how willing they are to be objectified equals what they're worth. There is no avoiding this message for women, I mean look how sexual a lot of womens clothing is compared to men.
For young men the message isn't that women are people with feelings and needs of their own but that they are a meat puppet that is willing to be used. I feel that this impairs peoples ability to have real compassion and emotional understanding. Porn is highly addictive and alters your state of mind with the altering levels of dopemine and othe neuro-chemicals (thats a lesson for another day) and when the soft porn doesn't cut it you move on to more hardcore until that dosnt cut it and it can even get to the stage that the only way you can get a release of dopamine is to watch things that aren't in alignment with how you feel naturally i.e. Straight men watching gay porn or things like beastiality etc. (There is a whole movement and a lot of info on this subject so google it if you want to know more).
This begs the question is it really condusive to the natural human condition to have fetishes and other manifestations of sexuality that may or may not stem from porn or is it something inherently dysfunctional within humanity in general? I'm an example of a man who was addicted to porn and has felt first hand the affects that it has on a mans attitude towards women. I've overcome this and I view women with a much larger degree of humanity, I mean I didn't veiw them as alien or animals but merely as body parts that were there to be ogled and during sexual intercourse to be fucked aswell as ogled. This was automatic and sub conscious although I knew deep down I didn't really view women this way and it's not at all how I felt about them so in essence I was just avoiding myself and hiding behind 'I'm a man, I love tits and ass and boys will be boys' like it somehow earned me respct.
My conclusion is this, I think men and women have to start listening to our own feelings more and make an effort stop consuming any media that causes us to view others as objects. We need to connect with ourselves first and then with others. We are sexual beings and it's the reason we're all here, it's the cause to our effect and it's beautiful and therefore I think it's important to experience it in a way that isn't the result of dysfuntional beliefs and low self worth and emotional disconnection.
Thank you for reading if you got this far you deserve a medal. I'm not a pro writer so this may have some loose ends. Please leave your opinions thank you!
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