Hey, everybody! Guess what? I got a new laptop! That means I can spend time actually writing these articles! I tend to drop off the planet rather frequently don't I? Well, this time hopefully I won't do that all the time!
Anyways, so I posted a poll a couple weeks ago asking women if they were aroused sexually by looking at penises and I came across something rather interesting and I thought I would share my hypothesis with all of you on my fancy new PC!
So to answer the question seems to be rather... complicated. The answer is Yes & No. Strange right? Well, I decided to run a bit further with this topic and ask around with some personal friends. I asked people from all backgrounds and all manner of upbringings to determine the cause of this strange answer.
I then back checked this with my answers on G@G and saw some really odd things. We all know that given an anonymous platform to voice their opinions on people tend to be more honest. This isn't something that is new to the human race. This is something all of us fall victim to. Even myself. Being a public speaker I have a rather bad habit of sugar coating things when I am the center of everybody's attention.
To put it simply the differences I found is that women in person seemed to say yes they were versus when I gave people an anonymous platform more women were answering that they weren't or that there were specifications to being aroused by visual sexual stimulation. This struck me as odd. Were these women I spoke to in person lying to me or were they being more truthful?
I have determined that these women weren't lying but more or less trying to "spare" my feelings. I determined this by Aasking both my fiancee and my close personal friend, for the sake of privacy, we will call her, Angela. Angela is A-Sexual. Which means she doesn't partake in, nor have an interest in, having physical intimacy in the form of intercourse. So I thought, who better to give me a proper opinion on these differences?
This conflicting data puzzled me rather greatly. However, Angela cleared it up for me rather quickly by telling me that women were trying to spare my feelings as if I weren't conducting a study. So I must solely rely on the data I collected on G@G.
The data I collected on G@G was interesting in and of itself. Most women said that they aren't visually sexually stimulated by random penises unless they belong to somebody they have an emotional connection with.
So my question after this is was does the hormone Oxytocin have a reverse effect on Men versus Women? We all know that as men as we get further into a relationship our sex drives diminish. Now, this is very commonly attributed to as men get further into their lives their bodies stop producing the male sex hormone Testosterone and women's bodies produce more of the female sex hormone Oestrogen.
This can't be the only factor, can it? That wouldn't make any sense now, would it? Seeing as men who are older still, have the desire to have sex. This is a strange occurrence. When men are in a new relationship we are like sex hounds. However, as the days turn into weeks and weeks into months and months into years that seeming un-quenchable sex thirst seems to, if not die completely, at least diminish substantially.
If you don't know what the hormone Oxytocin is, allow me to explain. Oxytocin is the brain chemical responsible for things like emotional attachment and often works in tandem with the hormone Serotonin which is responsible for feelings of happiness and fulfillment. Serotonin is counter to the hormone Cortisol which is responsible for feelings of grief, sadness, and depression.
Your brain is a dangerous balance of hundreds of electrical impulses, chemicals, and hormones. So why am I telling you all this? I am saying all of this because at the end of the day whether or not you become aroused depends on your bodies reaction to stimulus and how your body reacts to a stimulus depends on the way your brain registers that particular stimulus.
The reason in the beginning of a relationship men turn into unstoppable sex demons is because that newly acquired dose of Oxytocin gives the male human a jolt of Testosterone and Serotonin, as well as Dopamine that is meant to kickstart the reproduction cycle. At the end of each day, we are all still victim to our own biological wiring. This is nothing new to humanity as we have been trying to make ourselves inconsequential to our own nature for thousands of years. Alas, it cannot be done. At least not without modifying our brains and bodies themselves, directly.
So why am I saying all of this? Because all this all loops back around to the study. Does Oxytocin have a reverse effect on men and women? Most of the women in the study have communicated that they are only visually stimulated by somebody they are with romantically. What this means is that in order to feel aroused from visual stimulus alone a woman must already have that pre-existing connection through Oxytocin. Which would mean when they see their partners genitalia they get a dose of the afore mentioned hormones like Oestrogens and Serotonin in order to kickstart the reproduction process and get their body ready to conceive a child. Hence, being aroused.
So, how I came to the conclusion that men and women have different responses to Oxytocin is that men's libido dies out after a finite amount of time. Where as women's seems to increase or if not increase then not diminish substantially. So, my hypothesis is that the neurological receptors in a man's brain that receive Oxytocin become numb to the receptor, hence why that connection that fuels the reproductive cycle dies out after a certain amount of time.
Don't misunderstand, all people are different. That is why this is a hypothesis. This is pretty much all the data I have. This is the end of this hypothesis. I will follow this up sooner or later when I have the data to make this a theory instead of just a hypothesis.
Thanks for reading!