Being A Virgin Isn't A Bad Thing

Being A Virgin Isn't A Bad Thing

OK, before I start this relatively short, rants take, I want to state that I'm a virgin and I don't really care.

Anyway, I find that this whole virginity thing is being taken way too out of hand. How?

Well, there's a bit of a double standard for viriginity. Men who are virigns get made fun of, are often portrayed as losers with no life, and are basically considered pathetic. So when they get laid, it's like the best thing ever. (Sarcasm)

For girls, being a virgin is so awesome.(Sarcasm) Just kidding, it sucks too, but not as bad. A girl may be called a prude, uptight or whatever, but she'll probably have an easier time getting laid that. A guy. But that's not the point of this take.

Another reason why this whole virginity thing has become so ridiculous is because people are so desperate to get rid of it. Seriously, I've seems so many questions asking, "Im a 23 year old virgin, is that bad???" NO,ITS NOT BAD,ITS OK.

Its funny how we start off as wanting to wait for the right person to lose our virginity to,or wait until marrige, to treating virginity as a disease that needs to be gotten rid of as quickly as possible. Which is fucking stupid.

I recall seeing a thing on here a guy that was so desperate to lose his virginity that he lost it to a prostitute.

Honestly, it's more sad how people will call others losers for not having sex at a certain point in there lives, when these same people are losers for putting so much importance on something that's not a big deal, and think not having sex is the end of the world.

Lastly, so many people treat virgonity as a ticking time bomb. If you don't have sex by the time you're in your 20s, then your genitals explode. Just kidding. There shouldn't be a designated age to have sex. Sure, when you're in you're 20s, you're young and in your prime. But shouldn't you focus on college, getting a nice job, and just having fun as an adult? Not that sex isn't fun, but it shouldn't be the #1 priority.

The point of this take was just to say that being a virgin isn't the end of the world and you should focus more on your life and enjoy it, rather than about something so trivial.

All pictures are mine. ƪ(•̃͡ε•̃͡)∫


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  • Nice drawings 👍
    The society we live in today is disgraceful. Since you're a girl, you got nothing to worry about. But for many guys, it is like the end of the world. I've never kissed and I'm 27. Most people would probably respond to me with "Man, you are one pathetic loser". It is a ticking time bomb. The longer a man remains a virgin, the less atrractive he becomes to women. He is seen as weird, wrong, gay, asexual, loser, and more. Now we got 3rd wave feminism attacking the USA creating a gender split. That means even fewer possibilities of finding a partner and getting laid. Ugh. Maybe men should go back to mars and women go to venus. Let aliens conquer earth.

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  • Most people lose their virginity between the ages of 15-26, at least according to statistics gathered in the UK that I heard while watching a documentary about virgins in their 40s. As long as you're moving at a comfortable rate, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. If you're turning 35 tomorrow and you plan on having a family, I think it's time to get chopping. Especially if you're a female. But in a lot of cases, people who are outside of the statistics usually have some early trauma that is stopping them from having sex or made them start having sex FAAAAR too early.

    Me personally, I was raised up in a religious household that taught sex before marriage is wrong. You saved yourself for after marriage. Even though I no longer associate myself with that religion, nor practice it, I still find myself holding onto that anxiety that was installed in me from an early age. I'm fine with sexual acts, just not the act itself. Not right now at least.

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What Guys Said 33

  • I approve of lulu! Lol thank you for writing this. Hopefully some people will get this into their heads. xD I am also a virgin and I plan to remain that way 'til marriage. (Mostly I want it to be a special thing I share with the person with whom I decide to spend the rest of my life). There have been plenty of times when I've posted opinions and have had guys reply with "that white knight stuff isn't gonna get you laid." It's just so obnoxious to me seeing how guys pretty much assume that anything nice a guy does for a girl has the motive of getting in her pants etc... it's really annoying =/

    Anyways sorry for that minor rant/tangent :) Really good myTake. Couple spelling issues but then I'm pretty sure that's literally anything written by the human race xD

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  • First of, congrats on having your own opinion, that's a thing to admire.
    Second, this being already a concern at age 16 is alarming.
    Third, a possible explanation for why so many virgin people feel like it is bad, and why it actually is bad:

    Evolutionary, managing to create offspring proves a being to be dominant and fit for survival. Not having been able to mate at an age others usually have longest done so already, possibily indicates others having recognised genetic disadvantages of the individual, be it unattractive physical traits, mental deficits, lack of social skills or whatever. Such an individual will instinctively be given less opportunities to mate. Resulting desperation perpetuates this view in a cycle.
    In nature the weak will eventually be left to die. This is even worse in society.
    Statistics show that at least a third of all humanity thinks that marriage and procreation is THE meaning of life. So someone, who hasn't mated as often as others since early in life, is seen as, and conveyed to be failing at life.
    So mating is seen an achievement, and underachieving causes an individual to fall out of the group and get stigmatised with various discrimination, sometimes even outright hostility. That is our way of selective evolution.
    Society sadly has established and incorporated various unnatural and unhealthy ideals, corrupting the selection and rendering it toxic to the individuals. Only those able to show maintenance of high self-esteem nonetheless, or are able to feign it, are perceived to be fit for this kind of environment and treated favourably.
    So, in fact, being a virgin IS "bad". Not meaning a felony, but bearing serious social disadvantages.
    One might think, people should be smart enough to stand over all of that, but reality proves otherwise, and that is a big problem for all humanity.

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  • It certainly isn't a good thing.

    Sex is a pretty important ingredient for both relationships and having children. Two of the biggest life goals virtually every human aims for and certainly a societal expectation.

    While the actual virginity itself doesn't matter as much, an adult male virgin is going to have a hell of a time garnering interest from women who tend to look at adult virgins as losers.

    You can act like sex doesn't matter at all, but we all biologically crave it. This notion that simply living a healthy, productive (non sexual) life is good enough is total horse shit.

    Telling a guy to just focus on schooling... it's not that appealing to go through your teens and twenties getting very limited sex only to suddenly be semi appealing when approaching ones thirties because women are done having their fun and now seek out a man with a stable income. That is the recipe for bitterness.

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    • Where are you getting this info from? Most women don't look at adult virgins as losers lol. It depends on the person. Some men may look at virgin women as losers too.

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    • Interesting. I'd be very interested to see how many people valued having children that highly, like you've explained. I might make a question out of it.

    • @MatthewCurtis please do 👏👏👏

  • "But shouldn't you focus on college, getting a nice job, and just having fun as an adult? Not that sex isn't fun, but it shouldn't be the #1 priority."

    Most people won't be astronauts or professional sports players, world leaders or Nobel Prize winners... Honestly, most people ultimately derive their happiness and sense of purpose from relationships and children. Involuntary virgins don't have that: no one who kisses them when they get home, no one who looks up to them, and they don't have any prospects for getting that either. That is the real issue, sex is just a symptom: if there are women willing to sleep with you then there are women willing to have a relationship with you. A man who can't get laid has no evidence whatsoever any women would be romantically interested in him. Of course it's unlikely no one the world would want him but a) he can't meet the whole world and b) every year he remains a virgin his stock drops because no matter what women online may say, being unexperienced does lower a man's attractiveness for most women.

    On the other hand there's no point to whine about it on the internet, outside of support groups. Involuntary virgins can chose to either give up, or to keep improving themselves, and maybe re-evaluate their standards, which is the same advice I would give to women who complain they can't get relationships with "good" men.

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  • Being a virgin is good for girls, bad for guys. Girls are looked up to as virtuous, guys are looked down on as weak. I started having sex at 15 and ended that issue so I could focus on more important things.

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  • Only if you're a girl

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  • It's not if you're a girl.

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  • So you're giving a critique of the double standard opinion of virginity in men vs women?
    Or are you trying to defend your choice to remain a virgin at 23?
    Is this supposed to be a kind of resource for other virgins who don't want to hear any static about their sexual decisions?

    Anyway, I totally approve of everything you've said. Well, kind of. I think it's totally reasonable to be a virgin at any age.

    But I think it might be important to keep in mind that there's a very big difference between a socially inept person who is a virgin but doesn't want to be (even if they don't want to admit it), vs a person who may or may not be socially inept but is a virgin because they actually want to be.

    anyway. keep being awesome. artists are usually pretty cool people.

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  • Being a virgin is bad because it means you lost the game of evolution.

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  • But what if you are a 40 year old virgin? Is it bad then?
    www.simbasible.com/.../The-40-Year-Old-Virgin1.jpg

    ^ This is the future me actually.

    I don't make a big deal out of being a virgin at 22 (soon 23) BUT i really desire a good girl and to get laid.

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    • No, it doesn't matter, as long as you're living a healthy productive life. If you're wallowing in your misery and are super desperate, then yeah, that's bad.

    • Sounds good. Expect me to be a virgin when I hit my 30s at least.

  • Interesting

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  • The problem being is that when you are becoming more and more old, people who you could screw with goes pretty fast on their relationships and you just can not follow their rhythm. Because you, sexualy, have 17 years old. And need much more time to let you touched down there, to screw with him/her. You have more doubts.
    I'm virgin to and being virgin is not a bad thing but i know that if someday i'm with someone will be a problem.

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  • Of course, it's not bad. (If you prefer it that way) .
    Virginity is just a phase in life , between mid adolescence and first sex.

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  • Unless you get left by 2 girls in the same week for being one. Then it really sucks.

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  • The message is nice but the pictures can be cringe.

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  • Of course there is nothing wrong with being virgin, unless you have no experience in any form with the opposite sex, social or intimate, especially at an older age! And if you think women have it a bit easier, or men a bit harder, then you are up for a harsh reality my friend! It's the same exact thing. I have literally seen women cry over matters regarding this.

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  • I agree but a virgin guy feels like a loser when he finds out that all his friends had sex at 12-16 and he's still virgin at 20!
    even if most teenagers lie about being virgin.

    and nice drawing👍

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    • this. I'm 20 all my friends lost their's 13-16 and it really took a toll on my confidence. Constantly feeling like girls would rather get with literally any guy but me because of my lack of experience, because let's face it, you wouldn't want to take a round-the-world trip with a first-time pilot. I would be lying if I said that I just don't care, but the truth is I try my hardest not to, but whenever I even begin to think about a girl that I'd like to talk to or even say hi to I'm just too afraid because of feelings I've been harboring and letting manifest inside me for so long.

    • @DabMeister5000 that's exactly what i mean, at first i though girls like virgin guys but NO, western people are different, so much more different, as a person from the middle east... girls in eastern countries care about a boy's past and they prefer to start their life with a virgin (and fresh) man, not for religious reasons.

  • Wasn't there tons of questions like th..

    *sees pictures*
    *drinks bleach*

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  • True lol
    Yesterday I saw a 16 year old guy asking if it's normal to be a virgin at 16 and I was like "What?"😂😂

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  • Haha who in the hell thinks it's "wrong" to be a virgin? I'm sad that I'm no longer a virgin since I wasted it on this guy that I just "liked." We had a connection and I was horny so we fucked. I actually wanted to wait for the one, well that didn't happen. I recommend to everyone to just wait until you meet the right person. Your first time is something you have to share with someone who deserves you and who is kind hearted and will not let you down after having sex with you. If you're not satisfied with your sex free life, watch porn and use toys. No worries.

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  • preach

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  • there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, i personally think losing my virginity was the best thing though because now its a dead topic and i don't have to think about what sex feels like or when its going to happen plus i love sex so... yeah

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  • No one said it was :) I wish people wouldn't be so insecure about it

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  • Rock it girl !

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  • Of course it isn't a bad thing

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  • It isn't a bad thing, but sex helps dealing with stress. So I have heard at least. I have serious stress issues and so far only alcohol help me to relax, temporary. I'm turning 30 soon and living with no sex at all is getting more difficult. Virginity itself is not bad, but when you want to start having sex life and it's not happening, then it might be an issue.

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  • ... except if you are a man. noone wants a beta inexperienced man. they are awkward, effeminate, dont know how to keep our interest and spice things up, dont know how to be masculine and make the relationship work. and reek off neediness and bad sex. so... yeah... it isn't a bad thing... for us.

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    • Many virgin or non-virgin men and women can prefer virgins. Gender doesn't matter. In your case, I am sorry you got rejected by a cute virgin guy, most of us are turned off by sluts like you.

    • ... You should've waited!

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