Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Recently I realize how big of a piece of crap my ex best friend was and I realize that her boyfriend parents fail him in a way. They fail him when it came to self-respect. Now before anyone goes off and says "how you know he doesn't have any" blah blah blah. Let me explain why I realize little boys (a lot of them) and little girls (a lot of them as well) are not being taught what is self respect and why they need it. This is a problem because it makes them targets in their dating lives, work lives etc to be doormats for other people. Hell maybe some people like being doormats but I think no one wants to be a doormat it was raised into them to be one. This is where parents are failing and they need to step it and change that. For some kids it's too late but other parents its not so here how parents are not doing their job and why they need to change that.
1. self-respect is needed when you dated a problematic person
This happens a lot in high school you "fall in love" and you tend to spend years in high school with this person hell this can happen in college/University. But I bet many of us have dated a problematic person during these years (problematic=piece of shit) and if we could go back we would to change some things that happen with this person. But here is becoming a problem parents are 1. not knowing what is going on in these relationships (because they not asking or they made their child feel they have to hide it) and second they are not teaching their kids what is acceptable behavior from this person. So back to my ex-crap friend and her boyfriend I am going to give an example now where I think his parents fail him in that sense. (Crap Friend name will be D for now on and boyfriend being T) So D is a "Muslim" and she felt that her family cares about the guy she marries to job title and him being Islam is extremely important. Remember I said she problematic so she decides to lie to T and say he has to give up his dream job in order for her family accepts him. He is going to an apprenticeship for a mechanic because he wants to do it and he loves it. By the way she lie because she didn't mention that he can either change his job OR convert to be a Muslim. So you know what she try to do? she tried to make him turn into a cop and here the thing she has a fetish for cops. But eventually, apparently she has regret trying to do this to the guy and eventually came clean about it. He was willing to turn into a Muslim to marry her after she said that and that was that. But here the problem when I heard about this situation I realize he doesn't have self-respect. IF HE DID he wouldn't let what she did slide why wouldn't he question her behavior after she came clean? why would you EVER consider marrying someone that was trying to force you to give up the career you love for them just because they say their family would accept you if you did? How you know they are telling the truth? I mean she did try to change him into a cop how you know she didn't made up the lie just so she can have a cop husband. Also this is a big red flag and funny thing is I don't think he ever told his parents what she did because maybe he doesn't want to hear doubt from his family about marrying her.
I decide to this in parts and see how this one goes then I made a few more. Let me know what you think? do you agree some people need some respect for themselves and not put up with another person BS? how do you think people or parents can change their child or themselves to be more assertive in life?
What Girls & Guys Said
1 2I've just given up on ever liking myself
Why? your a lovely person
Respect for others should come first. But, yes self-respect is important to have.
Agreed!
Seriously I keep meeting people around my age trying to change the people they date. LOVE THE PERSON FOR WHO THEY ARE DON'T DATE JUST TO MOLD PEOPLE INTO WHATEVER YOU WANT THEM TO BE.