It's Not All About You...
Intro...
What I see here all too often is entitled women acting as if us men go to the gym and build our bodies solely for them and their attention. This is entirely false for most people that actually have impressive physiques. When I first started lifting, yeah I wanted attention from women and that was one of the reasons as to why I did it. Note that this was when I first started.
When you actually start building a physique and start seeing the results, it turns into something so much more than being sexually desired by women. The amount of discipline and effort that you have to put into building a physique would be considered ridiculous to the average person.
It takes a lot of work...
You have to have so much amount of sleep. You have to drink a certain amount of water. You have to have a certain amount of protein, carbohydrates, and dietary fats a day. You have to make sure you're getting in certain micronutrients with every meal. You have to eat every couple hours depending on your metabolism. You have to eat certain foods at certain times so that your body can utilize that food in the most optimal way. You also can't drink alcohol for the most part because alcohol will pretty much ruin all efforts that you're putting in. You also have to train your ass off at the gym.
If you're using anabolic steroids and/or exogenous testosterone in any format, you have to pay attention and manage even more! You have to get constant blood work to keep track of your lipid profile, your E2, your free/total testosterone levels... etc. You have to have a certain amount of estrogen in your body to build muscle during bulking season. You also have a certain amount of testosterone and you have to control how much of that testosterone is being converted into estrogen. As a steroid user, you can't really eat red meat or many dietary fats at all for this will offset your LDL to HDL cholesterol ratio followed by a number of other issues. The list goes on and on...
Now I'm not saying that you have to do all of the above to build a nice looking physique, but to actually build an impressive physique that turns heads, you absolutely have to live this extremely disciplined lifestyle. If impressing women was the guys primary motive for doing all of this, then he would just give up because it's just that fucking mentally and physically draining. There has to be some passion behind why you do it, otherwise, you'll just give up.
We're just not motivated by the interest of you...
What motivated my passion? Well, as I said before, one of the reasons why when I first started was women. As I also said, it turned into something else that means so much more to me than being sexually desired by women.
When I train, it's almost therapeutic because it's the one part of my day in which none of my life struggles matter anymore. I get in my zone and forget about everything else for an hour or so. This is also how I channel a lot of aggression that I have. I get out of the gym, my dopamine levels spike, and I feel amazing for the rest of the day.
When you put all of your efforts into something, and consistently do things that you might not have wanted to do at the time, but force yourself to do it anyways, the yielded result is success. I can't tell you how immensely satisfying it is to see all of your hard work turns into something that you can be proud of. That moment when you take off your shirt in front of the mirror to take a shower in the morning before work and say "Holy shit" ... well, that feeling is empowering as fuck.
Lifting and bodybuilding have always been there for me even though some the darkest times of my life. No matter what was going on in my life, I was always able to train and put in my efforts so that I could feel some type of success in my life. Lifting and bodybuilding have made me a better person today. It taught me discipline and it taught me how to work hard. It also taught me that I have control over my life and my success. I instill everything that I've learned from bodybuilding and lifting into everything that I do in my life between university studies, my relationships, and my professional life.
You all can go to the clubs every night and get hammered, or play video games, or smoke weed, or do whatever the fuck you want to do to unwind, but I much rather be in a gym blasting my headphones and lifting heavy ass weights with a friend. I won't judge you, so don't judge me.
Arnold even described it as being better than cumming...
Our passion becomes stronger over time, but not because of you...
A lot of guys who get into lifting and bodybuilding do so because they're not very confident in themselves. I'll respond by saying... what's wrong with that? If you're not confident with yourself, and you're willing to make a diligent effort to change that, then that should be admired rather than mocked in regards to some negative stereotype.
Putting all of that effort into it, and seeing results... well, it reminds that guy who might not have been very confident in himself that he has control over his life and his life doesn't have control over him. He disciplined himself and as a result, reached a goal that he can be proud of. It taught him that discipline and hard work can do a lot. I've trained with noobies at the gym and have literally seen them transform their physique, and as a result, their entire demeanor transforms as well. How they carry themselves, how they walk, how they talk, how they stand, it's different. I fucking LOVE seeing that. I love being a part of someone's transformation.
Concluding...
The attention from women is only an additional perk to all of this. We're posting pictures of bodies because we're proud of our hard work, not to satisfy your interest. Women, the world doesn't revolve around you so get over yourselves.
Also, we genuinely don't care if you want to go out of your way to tell us that you apparently don't like a well proportioned, lean, and muscular physique even though it's biologically attractive on a universal level. Preach all you want, you're just background clutter to us. We're too busy with all the hot girls.
In my experience, above average women love a muscular, lean, and well-proportioned physique whilst below average women seem to despise it. This is considering that your physique doesn't surpass a level of being too extreme. I'm not saying that there aren't outliers to what I've experienced, but it has been what I've experienced. I've been an average dude, and I've been a shredded dude. The difference is day and night.
On another note, I'm hoping that there will be a guy who reads this, and it motivates him to actually get into lifting or bodybuilding. If that's the case, then message me and I'll start you off on the right track. When I tell guys who struggling with confidence and women to start lifting on here, it's usually just dismissed as some douchey response. Well, it's really not, and I've explained why it's not in this whole take.
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