4 Ways of Giving Your Sexual Chemistry a Boost

4 Ways of Giving Your Sexual Chemistry a Boost

Even in the most passionate relationships, it’s only natural for the physical side of things to run out of steam at some point. In rare circumstances, this can be an indication of deeper-rooted problems. But for most, the initial flurry of excitement and enthusiastic bedroom athletics are symptoms of the first flushes of new romance. Eventually, contact becomes less spontaneous, and the actual sex more infrequent, if at all.


There can be any number of reasons for this flagging interest in what is, after all, such an obvious and highly enjoyable expression of love for one another. Tiredness. Being in a mood over a family situation. Stress at the office. The good news is that your love life can be invigorated relatively easily. Here are four ways how.


Re-ignite that chemistry

4 Ways of Giving Your Sexual Chemistry a Boost

This might not sound very sexy but any physical relationship relies on the production of a chemical called dopamine. When this is released by the brain it stimulates the human body in many different ways, but some of the sensations it provokes, especially sexual gratification, have been likened to the experience of ingesting addictive drugs such as cocaine.


However, dopamine doesn’t always have to be seen in the context of sex. Remember how you felt on your first date together, when those butterflies were swarming around your insides and there was a spark of electricity simply holding hands in the dark in the cinema? Those involuntary sensations were down to the release of dopamine. So a key to injecting a much-needed adrenaline rush is to recreate those initial get-togethers.


Think outside the box when it comes to arranging nights out – especially if these encounters have steadily grown further and further apart on your calendar. Visit a brand new restaurant. Sample a national dish you’ve never tried before. How about taking up an exciting pastime, such as Latin American street dance classes? As you sashay around that floor, getting sweaty while you gyrate to the salsa or mambo music, you’ll soon have that dopamine sluicing through you again.


Get smoochy

4 Ways of Giving Your Sexual Chemistry a Boost

Couples in the early stages of romance can sometimes be spotted a mile off. They’re the ones in the café who only have eyes for each other. They’ll constantly be whispering sweet nothings, stroking each other, and kissing. This type of intimate contact should never be abandoned once as you get more familiar with one another. So you shouldn’t feel you need an excuse to go in for a quick cuddle, a peck on the cheek, or a full embrace that leads to a lengthy kissing session.


This level of physicality can strengthen your bond, giving both of you a glow inside as you are reminded of those heady days. Depending on where you happen to be, it can also be a precursor to more intimate activity later on.


Get to know each other once more

4 Ways of Giving Your Sexual Chemistry a Boost

The longer any relationship lasts, the greater the temptation to take one another for granted. Spontaneity goes out the window as one party’s advances are spurned, the excuses ranging from fatigue to sudden headaches. There might be occasions when you both get lost in your own respective worlds, one of you staring at the TV screen while the other is lost in a smart device, headphones jammed in.


It’s good to take time away from electronic distractions. Turn off that TV. Pop the phones into their chargers in a corner of the room and leave them there. Instead of relying on outside stimulation, indulge in what drew you together in the first place, chatting about your mutual interests. By all means, reminisce about the things you did together as you were getting to know one another initially, but also think of the context of the present, as well as discussing your plans and aspirations for the future.


Stoke the fires

4 Ways of Giving Your Sexual Chemistry a Boost

Sex is certainly one activity that can lose its appeal the more comfortable you become with each other’s company. As with anything else in life, familiarity breeds contempt. Any activity that becomes repetitive is bound to lose its appeal. Again, this is easily remedied. Sexuality is such a broad subject that there’s absolutely no need for your physical relations to ever stray into the ‘stale zone.’ Exploring new ways to introduce degrees of pleasure into the bedroom is guaranteed to bring you closer together.


Whether you snuggle on the couch to watch a steamy film, surf into erotic websites or read out passages of an explicit novel to one another, there are many ways to ensure your levels of sexual excitement remain stimulated. There are so many things you can share to boost that chemistry, from dressing-up and role-playing to getting frisky in outside locations or even searching for a third party on the online dating site. The possibilities are endless, which is great news for your love life.


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Most Helpful Girl

  • This goes for everyone okay.
    "Fore play isn't just for the bedroom"
    It should be done all day to build up the anticipation and desire for love making.
    It's a sneaky squeeze while out in public.
    It's a sexy text or two.
    It's making out on the couch.
    It's the dirty whisper in the ear.
    It's the I want to f@<k look in your eyes.
    We have three kids so we can't do it when ever we want but we can definitely tease each other.
    and onlookers wouldn't think that we've been together for 14 years, because we look like and behaving like we've only just started dating.

    Everything that you have written is true and it's something that me and my husband have done after almost going our separate ways.

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    • What you didn’t mention is that foreplay makes a Man hard, and if he gets an erection without finishing with you he’s just going to have to masturbate so he won’t get blue balls. Foreplay is sexy, but frustrating when you can’t “finish” together

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    • @goodwife we aren’t a fancy couple that like to get dressed up. Fancy to us is room service at a hotel for a night.

    • @mrsingle That sounds great too.
      I'd love to do that with my husband one weekend.

Most Helpful Guy

  • And here lies the problem. You know the real way to having sexual chemistry? HAVE ROMANTIC AND EMOTIONAL CHEMISTRY!!!

    I have just blown your minds.

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  • This is a fantastic My Take and from a guy as well! LOL
    This is such an accurate message about how to keep things moving smoothly along sexually. I've only got 5 years of marriage behind me, and already my hubby and I use these things to keep our fires going. As a single gal sex was something i never got tired of and did my very best to get as much of it as I could without any real connection with my partners. Then I met the guy who later has become my husband and the love of my life and gosh do we love those times we get to have that fun and giddy sex we had in the beginning. With any of us no matter how much you love one another work, kids, worries take away the majority of that banging time that we had in the beginning. Keeping it fresh and fun takes work and in the end well worth it.
    Thanks for a great My Take

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    • this was a really good answer. the down voters must be hormonal.

  • Interesting MyTake.

    I like randomly kissing, cuddling, and caressing to make him feel sexy.

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  • I think this is a great take, and some very good helpful points.

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  • I'm glad I'm a virgin.

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  • <3 <3 <3 thank you so much for sharing this x

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  • Thank you

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  • Thanks for the advice

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  • I'm a virgin so I hope I remember

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  • Thank you great take!

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What Guys Said 19

  • Sex is fine but a loving relationship is not just how many different positions you can master or how long your sex sessions can last its about sharing your life with the one you love.. Best way to see this is watch a couple who have been married 30 or 40 years they are like one person and enjoy each others company through thick and thin...

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  • Agree with everything exept inviting a 3rd party.
    Sex should stay within the relationship between the couple.

    Infrequent sex / no sex + a 3rd party =ruined relationship.
    I dont understand how people still say this bs as advice

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  • I have a suggestion. Don't wear a fedora like in the last pic

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  • Always be willing to explore you an parterners sexuality be open minded you'll go slot further both partys happier cause of it

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  • Allow your partner to be attracted to other people, and that that's okay and normal. Which it is.

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  • exercise also

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  • Great article, thanks!

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  • Interesting information, thanks for sharing!

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  • sweet

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  • Thanks for the advice. Keep it up! 👍

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  • Thank you

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  • Good advice thanks.

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  • I will use these

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  • nice take.

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  • also try BDSM a bit and possible swinging

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  • I'm single but if a friend of mines that is in a relationship ever needed advice and help, I'd suggest they read this if they are having problems with the sex in their relationship.

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  • Interesting take...

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  • is it weird if this turned me on? :P

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