Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for Their Actions (aka Rapists)

Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for their actions (aka rapists)

Perpetrators use rape-supportive attitudes and sexual assault incident characteristics to justify forcing sex on their victims. Logically, perpetrators who can justify their behaviors are at increased risk for future perpetration.

If you don’t know what perpetrator is, It is a person who carries out a harmful, illegal, or immoral act. In this take the term perpetrator shall refer to the rapist. And rape refers to unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body parts, or foreign object, without the consent of the victim.

Recently, In 2005 Rhina Wanger and her colleagues from Wayne State University, Detroit carried out a study of perpetrator’s behavior. This study examined the relationships between rape supportive attitudes, sexual assault incident characteristics, and the post-assault justifications of 183 men sampled from the community who self-reported committing at least one act of sexual aggression.

Men’s sexual aggression toward women is a pervasive problem in U.S. society. Between 25–57% of men report having perpetrated a sexually aggressive behavior against a woman since the age of These acts range from verbally coerced sexual contact to physically forced penetrative sex, with verbal coercion and the victim’s incapacitation the most commonly reported tactics

Justifications given by perpetrators for rape are as follows:

1) Women are Seductresses

Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for Their Actions (aka Rapists)

Seductress is a woman who seduces someone, especially one who entices a man into sexual activity. A woman can seduce someone but perpetrators assume that all women are seductress, meant to get fucked or always have sexual motives when interacting with a man.

2) Women mean “YES” when they say “NO”

Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for Their Actions (aka Rapists)

No wonder wrt this point since #MeToo movement. When she says “No” she secretly or subconsciously means to say “YES”. Every woman is a slut deep inside but keeps saying no so all you’ve to do is push her little bit (Rape her) and she’ll accept it.

3) Women are sex objects

Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for Their Actions (aka Rapists)

A common medieval thought, women are sex objects whose function is to be sexually available to men at all times. Women are created for only one reason i.e. Men’s pleasure. They’ve no motive in life except pleasuring men and producing babies.

4) Men are entitled to sex for being “MALE”

Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for Their Actions (aka Rapists)

Similar to the previous point, it says I have a penis and because of that, you owe me sex because….. I have a penis! They assumed that as a man they could take what they wanted from the woman and hence raped her.

5) Most women eventually relax and enjoy it

She actually enjoyed getting raped (how?). That’s one of the reasons given by rapist to rape her. Even when holding her at a gunpoint, they actually thought she is enjoying getting raped.

6) Nice girls don’t get raped

Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for Their Actions (aka Rapists)

Like nice guys finish last, nice girls don’t get raped. They’re always fully clothed, they aren’t promiscuous etc. But inversely it also implies she deserved to be raped because she isn’t a “Nice Girl”

7) She asked for it

She wanted me to rape her. That’s a ridiculous logic but considered true by the rapist. “She wanted me to rape her”. I think as long as it isn’t a sexual fantasy, no woman will want to get raped without consent.

8 ) I was unable to control my sexual urge

Believe me, although it isn’t a valid excuse, it is most logical of all arguments. I couldn't control my urges hence forced them on someone. I know it isn’t justifiable but sounds most logical yet rapist has to be blamed 100 percent. It is the only justification in which rapist doesn’t blame women for rape (!)

9) A Husband cannot rape his wife

Justifications Given By Sexual Perpetrators for Their Actions (aka Rapists)

Marriage gives you right to have sexual intercourse with your partner even without their consent. In other words, it is “Love” and not “Rape” if you’re married to that person.

10) It was a minor wrongdoing

This is most laughable of all. Basically, you’re not accepting rape as a crime. Wtf? Is a rape joke or something? You’re destroying someone’s sexual life and yet you’re labeling it as “minor wrongdoing” ??

Note: These points do not reflect author’s views. Founded by a scientific study and published as a scientific paper, those are views of confirmed rapist form Virginia prison.

What do you think of those justifications? They’re absurd in my opinion but you’re entitled to share yours! I’m enabling the anonymous option for the same but if you write comments justifying rape, it might get removed due to G@G posting rules.

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  • I don't agree that women are coerced into being raped. As a woman you have a responsibilityto make it clear that you don't want to have sex. Not be indecisive, allow it to happen, realize you didn't want to after all, then cry rape. If a guy tries to talk you into having sex, it isn't rape if you allow it to happen.

    As far as women dressing sexy, I agree it's not an open invitation to have sex with them. But if I wear a low cut top I'm not gonna say I'm being sexually harassed by a man looking at my cleavage. I take it as a compliment that they are attracted.

    I have experienced real sexual harassment in Jr. High school. I has one main guy that would slap my ass when ever he walked passed me. And one night when I was walking to a friend's house, him and his friends jumped out of a canyon and surrounded me. He started grabbing my boobs as they all laughed. After tripping me I got up and ran. They had bikes so I had to hurdle bushes in the neighbors yards to get away. He even got my number from someone that knew Me, called my house at midnight, and told my step dad, "I want your daughters f'cking body." Point is that is sexual harassment. Not some guy checking me out.

    My ex's teenage daughter tried to cry rape so her boyfriend wouldn't find out she cheated on him. She snuck this guy through her window. Her boyfriend thinking she was raped told her to tell me. She put on a good performance. So I took her in the room and said we need the clothes you were wearing because we need to call the police and report it. But before I did I asked her did you say no? She said yes. I told her if we accuse him and they find out you lied then you will go to jail. So i asked her once again did you say no? She said,"Well in my head I did." As if I guy can read your mind. I was pissed because she was willing to ruin this guys life just so her boyfriend wouldn't know she willingly slept with the other guy.

    It just seems that women are crying rape and sexual harassment when it isn't in some cases. And really it's a smack in the face for people who really have gone through that.

    • I once wrote a very G-rated inquiry to a coworker after she was giving me mixed signals. I double checked the company policy guides and flagged my managers as well. She said no. So I left her alone. Three months later, out of no where it was brought up as a pretense to fire me. I have been struggling with my attitude towards women ever since, considering the manipulative evil false accuation has done to us. But reading your post gives me hope. Maybe you all aren't out to get us, and that some women would actively stand against the abuse of accusations. What you want through WAS true harassment. I harassed no one. They really were wrong. And THANK YOU for not letting your ex daughter get away with jailing an innocent. She doesn't deserve a boyfriend if she's going to cheat. We men respond to a firm no. Just be encouraging to us to find a wife with someone else. I'm glad some women understand thanks already. God bless you. I'm borderline crying.

    • Nice comment. I like your way of logical thinking. Whatever happened to the other guy that harrassed you? didn't your stepdad call the cops or something? Or at least his parents.

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  • Thanks for sharing your Take. No comments my brother. I am glad that your Take is promoted. Keep writing interesting Takes GirlsAskGuys Community.

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  • There's something that's missing here...

    These justifications are given after they have been caught and are forced to answer to someone. However, in my opinion, all of these justifications completely miss the point.

    The underlying issue with rape (or other crimes) is simply that the perpetrator does not value your life, or your well-being.

    A person rapes another person because they do not care for the victim's life or well-being. A person robs another because they do not care for the victim's well-being. A person murders another because they do not care for the victim's well-being.

    That is the underlying issue with ALL crimes, including rape. However, given the decline in society values today, it comes to no surprise. Gone are the days of family sitcoms. Every new television show on Netflix is all about glorifying violence, murder, rape, and deception.

    House of Cards, Narcos, How to Get Away with Murder... CSI... etc. While men may be the ones to commit rape more often, the same "I don't give a shit about other people" is why women tend to commit other types of crime like child abuse and theft.

  • For those who aren't in hell yet, I'm hoping it's still getting hotter!

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  • These, and similar excuses, can be found in all kinds of abusers. I recently started googling pedophilia after stumbling upon someone saying that there are lots of pedophiles who don't act on their urges. I wanted to see if someone had interviewed a pedophile, just so that I could maybe understand someone's personal experience, rather than read scientific research about it. Ended up finding an article about a man who had lots of graphic pictures and videos of children on his laptop. When asked about whether he thinks it's right or wrong (or something along those lines), he explained that he thinks the children enjoy themselves and that in certain pictures or certain videos, it seems like they're having a good time. Absolutely mind-blowing.
    But then I read that it's a very common mindset to have among abusers of all kinds. They'll start normalizing what they do and what they feel because otherwise they'd walk around with a heavy conscience. So it gets to the point where they start projecting their feelings and thoughts onto whoever they're abusing, thinking that they actually deserve or even enjoy it. It's sick.

    • Picking fight with everyone on this thread, aren't you? People are sick. Just look at upvotes and downvotes

    • Yes because fuck the rapist apologists on this godawful site.

    • hmm, an interesting though if i had sexual explicit videos of my self from when i was let's say 15 and I chose to share them now. Would that be wrong? kinda interesting to think about as it would be fine by me. As I believe all action that does not harm anyone but your self should be allowed.

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  • I can't even begin to guess how many times 6 has been implied and taught in my messed up community. This type of thinking is taught and spreads throughout our society, we first learn it in our homes, on tv, from our neighbors. Then you have high school students like the ones below, some of who will stop thinking it's ever ok for rape to happen but others that won't, and they will spread their ideas.
    www.lisashea.com/.../whenisrapeok.jpg

    • Copied me

    • @ladsin lol who me?

    • :3 :3 :3

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  • I find it interesting how it doesn't address all the excuses women use when they rape, like how one female teacher who had sex with her underage student stated how she felt like she was the victim.

  • They say you want to be raped if you smile, you're a bitch if you don't smile. If you dress nice you want to be raped, if you don't you're a lesbian. There is no way to win against crazy, the sad thing is only the percentage of people that actually are that disillusioned. Speak softly and carry a big stick... They only need be be so boisterous about nonsense because.. well you get the metaphor.

    • So honestly, as a guy, I have not found this ^^ to be true. I know that the way guys act towards girls is definitely different than the way we act around each other. Is it really that extreme?

    • @winterfox10 really? Might be only in certain circles but I've been around a lot of men, all my college classes were 100% male if not counting me, my work is 100% male not counting me. I've seen guys tell a girl how much they love her and how they have no clue how she could think otherwise on the phone then hang up and call her a stupid cunt, or call another girl and give the same speech (different guys). If you get a raise it's because you blew someone, if you're better at their job than them it's because you had it easier, the jokes I commonly hear are like "the rule of thumb should be a rule of wrist"(the size of the stick with which you are allowed to beat a woman). The guys at work all talk about how good she is and how they'll get at that until she ignores them then it's all what a bitch she is, I mean I can't think of a single man I've known that doesn't do this... So if you never see it I want to know what circles you run in because I might change my environment.

    • I'm in a pretty darn liberal environment... so maybe that's why.

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  • People make up a LOT of excuses to convince themselves that what they're doing isn't wrong.

  • Ok, so we aren't talking about people who just claim rape and destroy the persons life by sending them to prison?

  • She was wearing revealing clothing 👎

    • Yup. That comes under "she asked for it" since they consider revealing clothes as an invitation

    • Yep my brother thinks that women are to blame if they were wearing revealing clothing and that's when the fight started.

    • Look at the downvotes on your opinion. Your brother is not alone b

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  • There's no good excuse. Just to point out something about the last 3
    8.) They could just as easily go home and beat their meat.
    9.) This used to actually be a law. Sex was considered a marital right.
    10.) That Brock kid's recent case reminded me of this. His lawyer said he shouldn't be punished too badly for "20 minutes of action."

    I think an important one to add that the researcher didn't notice is that men think if they payed for the date they deserve sex. www.lisashea.com/.../whenisrapeok.jpg
    this list is quite telling.

  • In Hungary if someone tries to rape you, you can kill him. There won't even be a trial. The police check evidence, files the report and period. I also think in Russia it is the same. Nice writing by he way!

  • Given your positions in the past, I guess I don't really understand the take. But feel free to elaborate.

    And just to refresh your memory, we talked a bit about your position on stereotypes regarding Indian males. You also talked a bit about you had decided to be asexual.

    Was that a bit of a smokescreen?

  • I would really like some sources as some of these statistics seem quite preposterous.

    • read its, would say it got decent content. But it's clearly trying to frame it as all of these account were rape. Also the margin 25–57% is a ridiculous one incredibly loose and odd. If you want a better view of this look in to this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uvUSKkahl3M

  • Rapists are pathetic. That is all.

  • In my opinion... these that are listed are in my opinion sounding like it's a brain problem/or they have made it their reality.

    When it comes to girls, in our society now, the fashion trends are kinda pushing towards "it's cute" for braletts to be visible through clothing/skin tight/short shorts/mini skirts/crop tops... And it's not necessarily bad but it definitely isn't good either. And then there's some girls who dress like that--for attention, saying it's just cuz they like it and it looks cute/sexy, then some guys start staring and getting sexual thoughts about them. That ain't good, why not bring back modesty?
    There are girls who claim rape, there have been many instances, for various reasons as well, and jailing innocent guys because they didn't give two shits about another person's life. Like it goes 2 ways.
    And I'm not saying rape is alright, I'm in no way supporting it. I'm just saying that there's bad guys in the world, and bad girls in the world too. It's a good take on one side. Not sure if I explained well enough from my opinion, but there it is.

    • Oh, thank God. Hope. I came in here expecting a bandwagon of male bashing and hate. I came in here expecting to find more justification to not care about the issue, because no one ever seems to think of the innocent guy. Thank you lady, for giving me hope. On the topic of rape, I agree that it's wrong, but I grow tired of paying for someone else's sins just because I have a penis. It's good to feel forgiven for someone else's sins. Thank you again.

    • @TheHolyDarkness I would like justice for all equally, not just one sided:)

    • @TheHolyDarkness Sadly you only have to read the comments on this to see what most men think of it,, and it is not good!!!

  • Not one person in their right mind would rape someone (at all) and use any of those excuses as theirs and if they do, they have some sort of mental issue. I can't believe there are rape supporters on this take, vile creatures if you ask me! Good take!

    • it's actually a really interesting subject, a lot off normal people rape without knowing they did it. Due to misunderstandings and confusion and a lacking sex-ed. here is a really interesting video about it http://bit.ly/2Ga6i9G :)

    • @Cozybcuz Thanks for giving me the link to that video, I haven't watched it yet but I will as soon as I'm home. I just don't understand how you can rape or sexually assault someone and not know it! But I'm presuming the video will help my understanding in that?

    • It's only one of the reasons, there is also some studies that show that a majority off all rapes are committed by the same people. so it's more or less both normal people and people who display anti social behaviour. Over all it's an incredibly in-depth social issue that should not overly simplified.

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  • Excuses, excuses. I wonder if anyone can even justify child abuse.

    • Usually it's something along the lines of "Well how else is the kid gonna learn?" or "My dad/mom did the same to me growing up and I turned out well."

    • @winterfox10 but murder kids?

    • Abuse and murder are two VERY different things. I don't know anyone who justifies child murder

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  • Great myTake! Thanks for outlining these.

  • Lol, you gotta love all the male down votes on female comments. It just goes to show how out of touch men really are with this problem. I've never been raped, but I've been assaulted, and at least three of these things you listed the guys used as an excuse to put their hands on me.

    Silence won't be broken, though, until men accept that a lot of the members of their gender really are just trash or flat out stupid. It sucks for those that don't do these things, but honestly, even if you aren't a guy who would ever assault or rape a woman, you're just as bad as they are if you are going try to reason why the assault happened.

    Bring on the down votes, dudes. No fucks given.

    • Some women misuse the laws by filing fake rape charges and fake sexual harasment charges against a man. They use it as a weapon to get whatever they want in return whether it be money, comittment, marriage etc. It gives the woman a very strong negotiating position, is it false?

    • 2 downvotes in 8 minutes. That's really fucked up :(

    • @AdamWolfHunter Literally doesn't have anything to do with my comment or the Take. The Take is about excuses perpetrators use, not about the lies fake victims tell. If you wanna bitch about that, then go write your own Take about it lol. Stay on topic please.

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  • All of these justifications are absolutely idiotic, and after reading this, I had this interesting thought exercise: Try replacing "rape" with other types of crimes, like theft and murder. Here are some examples based on the point numbers you presented:

    1. If you're gullible enough, you deserve to be swindled. Don't hate the player, hate the game.
    2. The "No means Yes" argument to me is similar to acting on the perception of being asked for bribe. Example, a police officer pulls you over, you decide to try to bribe them and completely misread, and think that they want a bribe. You decide to wedge a $100 bill between your license and registration before handing it over. The cop didn't ask for a bribe, you you assumed that "License and registration" is a euphemism for asking for a bribe. Next thing you know, you're being arrested for attempted bribery.
    3. Remember when black people were 1/3rd of a person, and weren't even treated as human beings? Yeah! Me too.
    4. Related to the previous point: A land-owning white slave-owner may justify their enslavement of others by claiming that the're inferior, denying them their humanity, or citing some unrelated biblical account about the children of Noah in a convoluted line of thought.
    5. They call it disturbing the peace, rioting, and vandalism. I call it being a great INSERT NAME OF SPORTS TEAM fan! They should join in and destroy their own stores, cars and other property.
    6. Careful people never get mugged. You got mugged; you weren't careful enough. It's also similar to saying "Innocent people don't go to jail". Oh! You're in jail? You must be guilty! Newsflash, that's not always the case.
    7. The boss at a business left the safe open accidentally; it's like they were asking for the money to be taken.
    8. I couldn't control my rage, so I killed someone for mocking me and making fun of me, and hurting my feelings.
    9. A child can't steal from their parent. You see, your parents are supposed to raise you and provide for you; which includes money they give you or spend on you. Therefore, I'm entitled to their hard-earned cash, so taking it without their permission or consent is OK!
    10. Slavery is in the bible and has existed for all of human history. It may be a "hideous blot" as Thomas Jefferson called it, but as bad as it is, it's justifiable somehow.

    Anyway, my point isn't to say that rape is better or worse than any of these crimes and immoral acts, but that trying to justify it is criminally stupid.

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