The Difference Between Male and Female Sexual Arousal

First I want to state that I am talking about biological sex differences in human anatomy, So I am referring to gender male/female in a purely biological sense. Even those who identify as a different gender (Gender Dysphoria) show these same brain structures even though they identify differently.

Second if a pathologist found a disembodied brain, could they identify it as a male or female?

The Difference Between Male and Female Sexual Arousal

The answer s actually no. They could measure the size, the grey matter/vs white matter but they could not say 100% if the brain was male or female, they could say it was most likely a man's brain or a woman's brain but 100% certainty no they could not. But in general a women's brain has more white matter, and a man's brain has more grey matter (source) "Gray matter represents information processing centers in the brain, and white matter represents the networking of – or connections between – these processing centers." See this article for more information.

But, if the brains were functioning and connected to an fMRI machine it would be quickly obvious whose is whose and which is which. As an example here's a pair of videos showing the difference between male and female orgasm.


And there are reasons for this: The cognitive differences between men and women. Stanford University.

Now to the point of my article. One of the things that I wish women understood about male arousal. The section of a man's brain that is stimulated during arousal is his senses. Especially his centers for sight. A guy literally sees sexy. While a woman thinks sexy. Study showing the differences in male and female arousal.

A woman can see something that she finds sexy such as:

The Difference Between Male and Female Sexual Arousal

But the process is like this. Image, then thought about the image, then sexual response. While in guys that middle step that thought is not there.

So a guy sees a sexy image:

The Difference Between Male and Female Sexual Arousal

It goes image, sexual response, then thought..... So when we talk about sexually objectifying women there is an assumption that guys have a step to stop that response. They do not. Even a guy having sexual fantasies triggers his sense response (imagination of images) rather then a direct sexual thought.

This is a profound difference in responses. So next time your guy sees something attractive, understand that they can not help it. The sight alone was the trigger, not thoughts behind it. Of course a guy can then think, and react appropriately, turn his head, etc. But that initial response is hardwired, and there is nothing that he can do to stop it.


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  • Genius from you, as always

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    • thank you.

    • No, thank you.

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  • This isn't the problem women have with being sexually objectified. It's in how you treat us differently based on whether you find us appealing or not. It's in how you define us based on what we look like, without considering other factors.

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    • Yep - and THAT is a whole lot MORE natural than this crazy idea you're all equal.
      There aren't any women that will treat fat guys and movie stars equally - and guys simply live with it. But last decade a whole bunch of unattractive females decided they will get treated like equals, which they never will.
      Complaints to be sent to your parents only, sorry love... You can, by all means, enjoy and share other parts of your persona by the way - just not the nasty 'well I'm equal (ly good looking)' baloney.

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    • @Erwen I think you underestimate the efforts women do go through to find suitable partners to date and attracting them. I mean, I know men still do most of the "cold opens" in approaching women, but bit by bit, women are getting more emboldened to do the approaching.

      But I wasn't speaking of just whether a person will ask us out or not based on how we look. I am referring to all different kinds of situations where women are treated differently based on how they look.

    • @MlleCake I think the point I was trying to make by introducing the power-when-it-comes-to-sex argument is that women judge and turn men down constantly based on looks. If you've ever dated online you may know what I'm saying or heard your girlfriends say so. Everybody gets rejected, but especially men because we still, despite the exceptions out there when it comes to women with initiative, make the most moves.

      So in my mind, women being turned down because of their looks in any context makes up for the fact that you have the option to get a man to pay things for you or to become a housewife for. It makes up for having much more selection when you're looking to have your ego stroked about how attractive you are or just to have the option of meeting a lot of potential suitors. Having oestrogen and major you seem to downplay that. Yes, it comes with some disadvantages, but life can't just give you *everything*. You still need to eat dirt like the rest of us too sometimes. lol

  • I disgree, sometimes when I see something of a sexy nature it's image and arousal and no thought. My thoughts usually come last or not at all.

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  • Women aren't complaining about you having sexual desires. We are perfectly fine with you thinking a woman is hot. That's normal, that's natural. What we do have a problem with is when you use that desire as an excuse to treat someone as less then human. This isn't rocket science. Thinking someone is hot is fine. Masturbating in front of them without permission is not. Telling someone you think they look nice is fine. Touching them without their permission is not. It isn't the thought that is the issue here it's the actions.

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    • Male sexuality has little or no social value. I agree that there are appropriate actions and inappropriate ones, but that changes on the sex of the performer. Further the accepted social response to inappropriate actions also changes by sex. As an example a guy can not cat call a woman, but a woman can (and do) cat call men. A great example is this video where a woman just sits on strange men. watch it and look at how helpless they are when their personal space is invaded rudely. Further take a look at the one the guy who's girlfriend breaks up with him for being a victim of assault. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f14K1LEsLLI

    • There are certainly issues that men face particularly regarding believability in sexual assault cases. And that needs to change. I'm not arguing that men don't have issues too, I'm arguing that being more visually driven doesn't excuse your behaviour. I don't care if you find someone sexually attractive. I care about how you act on that sexual attraction. And that goes for both genders.

    • This was not to excuse sexual misconduct it was to clarify where voluntary and involuntary response exists within the male psyche. There is no excuse to act inappropriately, until the expectation os beyond the biological capabilities of the accused. This was an attempt to make that line clear.

  • I like the scientific reasoning, even if feeling a bit blehh for the brain image...
    Anyway my boyfriend sometimes happen to look at other girls, his friends, I don't say anything because I can't know what he thinks but ik he loves me, though if the take says that it is scientifically unconditional for men to look and have thoughts about other women (even if not something 100% sure) I can understand but that doesn't mean I can just let it go without asking him kindly about it
    Yeah not asking every time, after the first time he tells me then I can understand him, sometimes it is nice to talk about this kind of things in a natural way without sounding obsessive, it is part of the relationship to talk and understand each other in my opinion, no need to show brain scans to your partner as evidence heheh

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    • He doesn't have thoughts, that's the thing. He looks because that's reflex. He won't remember what he saw probably moments after he sees it because its not a particularly involved process its just as he said, a reflex with no thought in it.

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    • Yes there can be thoughts but that's highly improbable. you know what happens when a guy looks at porn while in a relationship? The vast majority of men think of their significant other. So the stimulus is the visual but the thoughts are for a person they have a connection with, usually (obviously if the relationship is falling apart then they are less likely to do this). So what I am saying is do not presume their are thoughts simply because he notices when a girl is wearing a low cut top or something. That's rarely how that works.

    • @hellionthesagereborn but I can ask him kindly anyway, like I said not obsessively

      And besides, the mind never stops thinking there are always thoughts even if yeah not consciously sometimes
      https://i.imgur.com/CbWKL.gif

  • I've never had a problem with a guy seeing something attractive. thought this was going to be about orgasm lol :)

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    • Science can't even figure out certain aspects of the female orgasm...

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    • The cancer doctor said "it will be the end of your sex life" but I would not back out after the VA & taxpayer paid so much to fly me cross-country. But the night before I discovered my ED was just psychological. I did actually recover ability in a few months but now it is gone (almost) again and I don't know if it is psych. again or physical. I work 7 days or nights per week and have gained about 7,500 VIP contacts but am not yet the Mr VIP, just a 2B. What I do is risky as in trying to combine all 993 State militia into one force. One friend is Secret Service, another Crown Prince, an actress, supermodel, Playboy, Penthouse, the Republican part of the house & Senate, CEOs, religious organizations, militaries and governments.

    • @UnaKaizen "never had a problem with a guy seeing something attractive" I'm not sure what you mean. Can you clarify?

  • Hmmm... i always thought the looking was reflexive. I guess this is the proof.

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  • It seems the cuteness arousal (?) is reversed in men and women. Women see something cute and instantly go "awwwwwwwww my god!!! sooo cute!!!" while men don't get triggered by cuteness like that haha.

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    • Bend your leg at an acute angle. It get's me. LOL

    • They get triggered by cuteness in girls. It's just of a different nature to the cuteness of puppies.

  • So we don't even need the visual triggers? And fullas rely on them? Oh shucks.

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  • To me, sounds turn me on more than images. (Whispers, moans, etc) It seems that men react more to visuals but I'm not sure.

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    • Naturally people have individual turn-ons. Generalisations are generalisations to simplify and not have to take every single individual into account.

      As a general rule of thumb though is that men watch sexy and women think about sexy. It's why the majority of porn-consumers are men while erotic literature (which is essentially written porn) are women.

    • @rocksongwriter you are right us guys love it all and so do you girls lol

  • Ok, time to put this to a test.

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  • Nice myTake

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  • Interesting, very interesting.

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  • Interesting.. lol

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  • İntereresting

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  • Oh really🤓

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  • Interesting

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  • very interesting

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  • Shit Im a dude apparently

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  • Wait am I a guy? Or just have a guy brain lol.

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  • It's the difference between in and out

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  • The number of times I've seen this explained to women is ridiculous and every time women refuse to understand the basics of biology and choose to hate on people because of it. On the other hand when a woman says, "It's natural" everybody is supposed to accept that as a full explanation for whatever crappy behavior she wants to exhibit.

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    • Hence the complicated explanation

    • Push back at feminazi crap when you can be bothered, let them drown in their anger when you can't.

  • This has made me kind of curious. I wonder if, considering that there is a degree of neuroplasticity in the brain, whether it is possible to remodel the male brain to behave closer to the female one under orgasm. Thanks for the mytake, it was very interesting.

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    • Found this: www.science20.com/.../would_female_orgasms_kill_men I am no neurosurgeon, nor can claim to have an understanding of the topic. From what I understand, they are stating that you can electrically induce similar brain waves to a female in a male, but it would put their health at serious risk. If you know anything about this (including if you think that these guys are spouting crap) I would love to hear it.

  • Does this prove only men are visually stimulated or does it prove that women are also visually stimulated?

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    • Men have a primary visual stimulation. Women can be stimulated visually but as a secondary reaction.

    • How does a woman’s visual stimulation work?

  • A pathologist could via dna.
    If it has xx or xy chromosomes

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  • The difference is that you can get a man aroused if you show him a naked woman, while no one can ever figure out what you have to do to get a woman aroused.

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  • Glad to see some acknowledgement that we can't help but be attracted to women.

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  • "Straight" women are more aroused by the female body than the male body. Every test ever done has shown this to be true. Lesbian porn is also by far the most popular genre of porn to women according to pornhub statistics.

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  • It's not entirely true. Perhaps not true at all!!!
    I had this courage to say so because I think you are an open minded person.
    Let's begin with an example.
    If whenever I ring a bell, you get to eat a pizza. And continue this for some time.
    Then...

    Bell = stimulus.
    Pizza = reward.
    A time will come when you will automatically be hungry just by the sound of a bell.

    Now if the brain imagery or MRI is to be tested between you and a normal person to the reaction of a Bell sound then...
    You will salivate and get hungry but not the other person.

    Similarly here also.
    P*** or sexual images = stimulus (Bell sound )
    Arousal = reward (hungry)

    and due to culture men and women have it different stimulus. Eg, less sexualization of men or over Sexualisation of female body.

    So the thought process and the reactions vary with sex images.

    Nice take and do reply me buddy.
    #HaveANiceDay

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  • Women can have multiple orgasms after such heavy explosion?

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  • That's correct! Men are aroused through sight. Women are aroused through touch.

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  • meh. Women are excited by what they touch, men by what they see.

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  • I don't see any sexy images at all. I just see 2 human beings.

    The arousal was given to us by our Creator and was meant to use with wisdom instead of temptation.

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  • When a man is aroused his zipper presses against his fireman. When a woman is aroused her gigi swirls.
    That's the difference.

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  • Women don't have a physical libido. They think about what arousal is supposed to look like.

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  • L OVE IT ALL

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    • GUYS AND GIRLS LETS HAVE A PARTY LETS ALL MEET UP IN NEW YORK

    • I'm all the way on the other side of the country. And quite busy.

  • Nice one

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  • Interesting indeed. Thanks for posting.

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  • Women aren't sexually attracted to men

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  • Men like tits and ass, women like big cocks and $.

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  • Interesting myTake

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