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Myths and Truths: Squirting, Female "Cumming" and Female Ejaculation

Myth: Women Cum

Truth: Cum is a noun and it comes from the word scum, and relates specifically to male semen. Women do not produce semen. We do not cum. We come. Originally, in erotic literature, the male and female orgasm were both referred to as "coming" or short for "the orgasm came". People heard the word come and assumed it was the same at the word cum, so now virtually everyone uses the term cum wrong (as a verb, it's not a verb).

This misuse over about the past 25 years has led many people to think that most/all women also produce some sort of ejaculate, and women are even told they should be ejaculating and just need to be taught. This leads us to another myth...

Myths and Truths: Squirting, Female "Cumming" and Female Ejaculation

Myth: All women squirt

Truth: Squirting is one of two things. One is rare and will happen on its own. The other is less rare, and when it happens on its own, it's considered a medical problem. Read more -

In humans, in the first stage of fetal development, the beginnings of what will become the male prostate form in both male and female fetuses. In the second stage of development, the mother's body feeds the fetus a sex-specific cocktail of hormones, and that causes the prostate to develop in male fetuses, but not much in female fetuses.

Very rarely this gland, called the Skene's gland in females, develops enough that it can produce fluid like what the male prostate does. This is incredibly rare. In fact, it is so rare that it took decades of study for doctor's to discover functional Skene's glands in women, as they are so often just vestigial.

These women will naturally produce the fluid in small quantity at time of orgasm, through the urethra, and it will happen whenever they orgasm with no special stimulation required.

This phenomena is so rare most of us will never see it. (Coates, 1991) That is true female ejaculation.

Myths and Truths: Squirting, Female "Cumming" and Female Ejaculation

Then there is another phenomena. It is called coital incontinence. It is not female ejaculation. Coital incontinence can happen for many reasons, and it is often treated medically.

What is popular right now is manipulating the urethral sponge to irritate the urethra and then the woman forces urine out to produce a noticeable "squirt". That is essentially what is happening when it is seen in pornography. It is often associated with the G-Spot, but there is also not anatomical evidencefor the existence of the G-Spot to begin with, so the two myths have become intertwined, each adding credibility to the other.

What is often misunderstood about this kind of squirting is that is is not in any way related to orgasm, and trying to obtain it requires motions that may actually interrupt a woman's sexual arousal cycle so that she won't actually orgasm, just pee really hard. Many women are told this is some awesome ultimate orgasm experience, but it turns out to be just meh for them.

There is not some hierarchy of better female orgasms. Our orgasms are all clitoral, no matter how we reach the orgasm (even mentally). onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ca.22177/full

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  • Depends on your source. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/come shows at 2. j. that come is a verb: to experience orgasm.
    Also, the Urban Dictionary has it as a verb and for both sexes. www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=come
    Further searching I found
    "People use both come and cum as a verb to mean the experience of having an orgasm, and/or ejaculating, whether ejaculating means secreting semen from a male or (controversially) any fluid that may be secreted from a female, at orgasm; and as a noun meaning semen or (controversially) any fluid that may be secreted from a female during orgasm." at ell.stackexchange.com/.../49055

    So verb or noun, and male or female.

    • Urban dictionary? That's your source? lol

    • @yougurt - Urban dictionary is "one" of the sources (which anyone who can read could easily see - better brush up on your skills), and is one that closely reflects how a word or term is currently being used.

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  • Thank you!
    Kind of over hearing how all women can squirt and "you just haven't found the right guy to make you do it yet" 🙄
    I'd really rather not piss everywhere, thanks!

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  • When studied in a scientific setting, it was not cum. It was pee. This was checked on multiple women, and it was always mostly pee mixed with minor amounts of fluid from a wet vagina. The gland you speak of it too tiny to produce any noticeable amount of fluid. it's certainly not enough to "squirt". That gland is the size of a small pencil eraser. You do the math. Giant bladder squirting copious amounts of pee... tiny eraser sized gland squirting anything anyone would see...

    • I'm just putting this here for people to see in general. I figured it's more of a summary.

  • It's funny to read the replies from men to this. They really want to believe their ladies didn't just piss on them. It's involuntary, but they did. If it was clear and not smelly it's because they were hydrated. Good for them.

  • Myths and Truths: Although interesting I've never been interested enough to research female squirting, ejaculation, and/or female orgasms.
    We do not cum, we come.
    Cum comes from scum.
    Virtually everyone uses the term cum wrong.
    Whoever said a female produces semen?
    I won't comment unless I'm sure about what I'm commenting on, a woman cumming/coming, squirting, ejaculating you're incorrect. The well written information you provided is mostly " Myth " and very little
    if any " Truth "

  • I dont know the science or biology of what happens-I just know it happens to me when aroused

  • I disagree with one section. The clitoris actually has two spots in the vagina where it can be touched. The deeper of the two (closer to the cervix) is WAY more sensitive, and the orgasms feel different. The mythical "G" spot actually produces what many call a "tantric" orgasm.

    • *Some* women do find they have areas inside the vagina where the vaginal wall just happens to lie very close to a sensitive area of the clitoris. But it is still the clitoris that has the orgasm. Only about 25-30% of women can orgasm from simple vaginal intercourse, partially because these "spots" are not common to all women. The thing is, each woman has orgasms in her own way/ways. There is not a better or worse way, a right or wrong way. Women who do not orgasm from simple vaginal intercourse (most of us) go around wondering what is wrong with their bodies. Women who find they like only external stimulation are treated like they are not having as good of orgasms as women who have these internal "spots". And now women who don't squirt are treated like they are "missing something" by people who don't even know what squirting is. How YOU orgasm 1. deserves to be explored 2. deserves to be given equal priority in sex 3. deserves to be treated like it is good, and "enough"

    • Please read, regarding the G-Spot: onlinelibrary.wiley.com/.../abstract

      onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ca.22177/full

  • Great post. Unfortunately I cannot squirt.

  • My opinion is that most female orgasms are clitoral, from what I've read. But, while certainly rare, I've had sex with at least 3 or 4 women who ejaculated. And it doesn't come out like, or smell or taste (or on the sheet, look that much) like piss. It usually pushes out with force, along my cock if Im inside her, or gushes out if Im not. Girls are also depressingly self-conscious and if they thought it was piss, theyd react differently. As I absolutely love it, I've looked it up, and the scientific name for it is 'prostate-specific entogens'. I expect that many girls just dont do it, but those who do, its the most awesome thing.

    • Read my response to the thread, yo.

    • @DonRomeo, science has confirmed that all female orgasms are clitoral and only clitoral in nature. By all scientific measure of what an orgasm is, the clitoris does it, and no other part of the body does it, except that part of it that must be translated through the human brain. Every other kind of feeling we have that is extra clitoral can be called pleasure, can be called arousing, can be called stimulating, but the female orgasm happens in and because of the clitoris. You may not believe me, but it is not really in dispute among anatomists and physiologists at this point. The problem is that MOST people still do not know what the whole clitoris is, how it's parts function, and all the ways it can be stimulated, and I can show them the red letter proof, but they still argue, because the WRONG information is so deeply ingrained in our cultural understandings of sex, women, pleasure, sin, decency, and we even have a lot of facts wrong about the penis too.

    • If a woman squirts a liquid that pushes out with force, comes out of her urethra, and is watery in consistency, more volume than a teaspoon: every test that every scientist has ever done proves IT IS URINE. Even if it looks clear and doesn't have a piss smell or taste to YOU, the casual, untrained observer who doesn't have the lights on, and isn't having the substance tested for chemical composition, it is yet STILL URINE. The other kind of female ejaculation, that is not pee, is not like any of those things you described. It took scientists a long time to prove that over and over, but they have done that now as well. The only debate is whether it's ok to dig it if it is piss, and that, my friend, is up to you. I decided the mess and the hassle were just not worth any gain I experienced 99% of the time because it actually isn't all that pleasurable, I can control it, it almost never has anything to do with an actual orgasm, and then sometimes I can't control the spasms for an hour.

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  • wow, this is more informative than actual sex ed b (=^‥^=) o

  • I never been able to squirt no matter how hard i tried

    • Good, that means your pelvic floor muscles are healthy and functioning properly.

  • I remember my mother similarly clarifying cum to me over 20 years ago. The squirt topic only became an issue that applied to me when my boyfriend insisted that I actually did it. At first, I was embarrassed because I thought I squirted pee on him due to so much excitement and/or stimulation. Later, I got fascinated with the thought that I have excessive vaginal lubrication not only flowing out but gushing and squirting as well. That's probably the "top of the line" or "cream of the crop" orgasmic rush. Unfortunately, I have experienced this only a handful of times. It doesn't mean my usual orgasms aren't eyes-popping, body-quivering fantastic.

    By the way, I like the water fountain touch. I thought it was amusing. :)

    • Actually, squirting comes distinctly from the urethra, not the vagina.

    • I was embarrassed like you because I thought I had wet myself during an orgasm. It didn't happen for me until I was about your age and it was when I had a wild streak and dated and drank a lot. After it happened if anyone squeezed my butt I would have an orgasm and squirt and I also would get really wet during sex when before I was always kind of dry. I dont know what it is or what actually causes it but I do experience it

  • regardless of what you want to write about it, it is gross. I was flinching every time I was eating her out. I just couldn't keep dating the last woman I was with. It certainly wasn't the only reason I broke up with her, but it was a big reason. Had she talked to me about it before we had sex, and had I been able to understand before it just happened, it would have been better for our relationship. My advice to women, especially older women, don't leave the guy in the dark until you have sex and this happens. Had she done that while I was eating her out I would have puked everywhere. And I am not bullshitting.

    • I'd puke at a mouth full of pee too! lol

  • When I squirt it doesn't come out of my urthetha. When it first started happening I was very proactive in finding out how it works for me. It squirts out of the same gland that produces thicker white come. That little thing that keeps a woman's vagina moist during sex. It Also doesn't interfere with my regular clitoral orgasm that produces more come as it's happening. They go hand and hand. So although some women may have issues where what they are squirting comes from their urethra do to maybe an incontinence issue, it's not what I refer too as squirting. And I want the few ladies out there to not be ashamed about it as it is a normal thing that comes at a higher state of arousal. It doesn't taste like urine and most guys love it when they turn a woman on so much it happens. So whether it happens or not it's completely normal. Just making that point clear since the writer here would have you think it's a medical condition which sound like it's something bad. So you are normal if you do it and normal if you don't.

    • There is not a gland that produces "thicker white come" in a woman. If the liquid you are speaking of comes out of your vagina, it is blood plasma that seeped through the walls of your vagina, essentially your regular vaginal moisture turned up a bit because your body is lubricating for sex. The Bartholin's glands also produce a clear squalene type fluid down near the bottom of the inner labia, not from inside the vagina. If the fluid from the vagina is especially white, that simply means it has cellular matter like shed epithelial cells from the vagina and bacteria like lactobacillus. Yes, women's vaginas naturally tend to lubricate more when aroused - not always, and it doesn't necessarily indicate a higher or better state of arousal. It doesn't squirt out in volume when a woman orgasms either. It's just been building up in the vagina during the arousal and plateau states of the female arousal cycle. It certainly isn't anything to be ashamed about either way.

    • But involuntary coital incontinence is an actual medical problem for some women, and those women deserve to know it can be treated if it has become a hassle for them.

  • I know my girlfriend produces this creamy stuff. I guess she's rare?

    • The cramy stuff is not ejaculate at all, and it's doesn't come squirting out, nor is it from the urethra. The creamy stuff is her natural vaginal lubrication (mostly blood plasma) that is made cloudy by three things: friction that oxidizes the fluid, cells that slough off from the walls of the vagina, and lactobacillus and other similar NORMAL bacteria in the vagina. In some women, a lot is produced, but it isn't something that increases because of orgasm - it doesn't come like a flood. It's just the moisture that was in the vagina carrying the cellular material out of the vagina because that's how vaginas stay clean. It mostly comes out via gravity. I refer to it as "creamy goodness" like it's the filling for a Twinkie.

    • The CREAMY stuff, not cramy stuff. Sorry.

    • She has a lot of orgasms too though.

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  • Great piece! Unfortunately, the one time i had sex in my life i did not achieve orgasm. I am somehow only able to achieve it during masterbation. Is that bad?

  • Finally description of the mythology of common squirters. The best description I have ever heard to a real "squirt" is a woman explaining it as an emotionally coupled event related to her emotions. With that the event proceeds with a fairly long build up of the Skene's swelling to the point of pushing the penis out. Near this point she then ejaculates real ejaculate. So anyways there is peeing which I understand well and then there is the actual "squirt" which many seem to claim do. Okay.

    • The Skene's gland doesn't really squirt or bulge in size when it produces the fluid. That's the thing. When you notice the engorgement in the first third of the vagina, that is simply the normal erectile tissue of the clitoris, and occasionally you can feel the bladder bulge. You don't have to manipulate anything in the Skene's gland to get it to produce fluid. It either will or it won't, and if it does, what comes out is not usually a strong "squirt". The Skene's gland is non-functional in most women. So much so that it took many many many years for scientists to find out that the gland can even do something at all. Then the reasons some women had a functional one wasn't understood until the last few years. You are still describing the forced urination kind of squirting yourself.

  • Very good written and explained :) Thank you :)

  • It's a god given talent unfortunately i am not one of these special breed

    • It's not really a talent, and it's not that incredible. You're not missing much.

  • There you go, ruining urban myths. Well done.

  • This is a pretty good note.

    Regarding squirting.: I think women should relax and enjoy the pleasure they feel during sex rather than some end goal. It is the only way they can end up squirting. Some women squirt others dont. I have been able to get one ex girlfriend so turned on that she was as wet as cream. There was no need of lube. I had sex with another woman who squirted... A LOT. She squirting so much that she was squirting for 30 minutes and the bed was completely wet. The most recent girl I have been seeing gets very wet but neither creamy or squirts. She is more modest sexually. I have found that squirting really is often associated with the sensativity of the GSPOT. Those who like deep penetration and can feel more comfortable in deep sensations of pleasure are more likely to squirt. The recent girl I am seeing really gets turned on by shallow penetration. She doesn't squirt. What I found interesting is that her GSPOT was very shallow. It was only 1 knuckle of my my finger deep rather than the usual two. Every lady is different.

    Also, you could talk about how each orgasm feels different. GSPOT orgasms feel different than Clitoral. And all of these orgasms feel different than the sexual release of squirting. Clitoral is the most intense in a central location. Deep spot or GSPOT orgasms are the most intense all over the body. A squirting is more of a release.

    • No, G-spot orgasms are not the most intense. XD

    • @wolfcat87 are clitoral for you? I've heard differently.

    • Women's bodies are different, and it may depend on how well a woman and the man with the woman know her body. My clitoral orgasms are always more intense. I've never had a great quality orgasm without my clit involved in making it. I'll have a full body shaking out of body experience it's so intense. I can't think much less speak. One guy paralyzed me. Scared me half to death until i spoke with my friends and they'd experienced the same, ha ha.

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  • Really? woww thats amazing coz i have always wanting to squirt

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