I know everyone has their own beliefs and I am stating mine because I’m in a current battle with my S/O about pornography and viewing women.
Let’s face it, EVERYONE and literally I mean everyone has had some sort of struggle with pornography.
Pornography these days is so widely accessible whether it's videos on some porn site or magazines at the local convenience store and DVD’s. Women and men both can be insecure about their bodies, the person may not be perfect and they know it, it is quite bothersome enough having to deal with some imperfection. Especially like “I’m not beautiful enough for him/her.”
My husband once belonged to a webcam site, a well known one is all I will say, he used to go on it from time to time while he was truck driving, that’s fine because I don’t need to know about it, it wasn’t bothersome or harmful at that point.
One time while he was at home it was early in the morning, I used to sleep in never used to get up with him, I guess it may have bothered him a little (keep in mind I am no longer like that now). He was feeling in the mood, and instead of coming to me and waking me up at 3 AM in the morning he chose to go on the webcam site. I told him, I don’t care if it’s 3 in the morning if you’re in the mood you can come to me instead of looking at crap like that.
I get it if you’re single but if you have someone to be intimate with, there is no excuse unless you both agree to it and watch it together.
As I said...
With my husband it is an on-going battle I feel I may never win because he is stubborn as hell, I know he is still viewing naked women and it bothers me because he has me. If someone he wants to see has naked pictures leaked he will go and look and hide it from me.
Hiding it from your partner!? That is a no-no in a relationship; it’s like you’re lying to them and stabbing them in the back. This morning for instance he was talking to me on the phone just before work and something in his voice didn’t sound right, I must admit I snooped (I know big mistake)
So I checked his Google History with YouTube because he is using that as a way to look at naked women, lately it’s been “Naked Yoga” where you see everything on most videos, I asked him what he was up to. Because he just didn’t sound right so I knew something was wrong and he was doing something. He responded with “looking at all the crazy people outside” meanwhile I seen the search result and the video “Naked Yoga”.
He also asked me what I was accusing him of, I wasn't accusing I was asking and he got his defence up for no reason (Big Flag right there)
Pornography hurts relationships (marriages) mostly if you had already discussed it, and I don’t like this because it hurts me knowing you’re looking at it, or you're lying about it. Because he and I previously had a discussion about it hurting me especially since he is doing it behind my back. Also a long time ago I had asked him not to do it and he said he wouldn't, another lie. I also had asked him how would he feel if I put him in the same position, he said "probably the same"
Lying is really bad in a relationship, there should always be honesty and if you can’t be honest with your partner you shouldn’t do it.
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