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An Older Woman's POV On Dating Younger Men

I am in my 30s. Big deal.


People start wondering why is she still single? Woman, your biological clock is ticking! Get a man! But men my age like younger women. What do you want me to do? Go out there and force a guy to impregnate me so I can satisfy your curiosity? My answer is no! Leave me alone. Let me tell you something: this is my body, my life, my choices. So fuck off.

An Older Woman's POV On Dating Younger Men

Just because I am out of the calendar doesn't mean I'll be a single, old woman living with 40 cats in the comforts of my TV and my vibrator for the rest of my life. Or maybe I will be in the future but so what? People forget there are other men out there who thinks I still got it and those are the men younger than me!


Don't get me wrong. I like men my age, older guys even but I'd definitely be flattered if a man younger than me takes a liking of me. Wow! I could be his mother or auntie but hey he's showing me he is attracted to me and that is just mind blowing. Who am I to say no especially the man in question is showing some serious moves?


The best part, the feeling is mutual!

An Older Woman's POV On Dating Younger Men
Nothing is sexier than a man who knows who he wants and knows how to get the girl! I have met many men in my life and few I got the honor to date and love and parted ways but it's all good. No hard feelings. But the youngest I have ever dated was a year younger than me. Not 5 years. But these men I have encountered lately are in their 20s. Like wow. Do you know how old I am? I am 35 (turning 36 this fall). Not 25, if you didn't get it the first time.


It doesn't seem to faze them a bit. Is this the new trend? Are you looking for a part time sugar momma coz I am nobody's Sugar Mommy. I can give you sugar but no honey I am not financing you. Get a job and maybe we can get together and I can ride you. I mean we can both ride off to the sunset. LOL. I am no desperate old hag who will take whatever I can just because I am not getting any. Nah uh.


I am still a person. I won't expect you to marry me. I may not be able to provide you kids from my birth canal (although I still can if I choose to) but I can provide you a love/companionship girls your age may or may not be able to provide. Treat me good, I'll treat you better. My age shouldn't be a factor for you to take me into consideration of dating me or just a part of your fantasy. I deserve love too. But certainly I am not begging for it. Either love me or just leave me alone. At my age, I already know what I want. I have no time for guessing games. Are we doing this or not? <3

An Older Woman's POV On Dating Younger Men

Thanks for the time reading.

Xo's Pinay_Ako

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Most Helpful Guys

  • This Take almost made me cum! Because I LOVE older women! They're a big weakness for me. They have the maturity, the class, their minds focused, and life experience. A lot of us guys have turned to older women more and more not only because they can look better in their middle-aged years but because the younger women aren't offering much and their mental, emotional, and intellectual development seems to be declining. And a lot of them just don't seem to get stuff about life!

    But you're 35 and still in good shape life-wise, so don't think your golden years are gone. Women in their 30s older than me can be okay but I tend to be much more attracted to ones in their 40s. I've even met some really hot ones in their 50s I would date and sleep with lol.

    • This!

    • Oh, young women deteriorating mentally huh? Don't worry old man, looks like you ain't that young yourself.

    • @DianaWest Lmfao! What the hell kinda comeback was that? Like you tried hard to be snappy and it just ended up sounding stupid lol.

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  • FINALLY, a CONFIDENT WOMAN, just saying, just being, and NOT APOLOGIZING for not being something she doesn't want to be!!
    OK to be a 'cougar' and just play with young guys, for fun, and their experience!!
    More mature women are the BEST, as they KNOW what they want, and sometimes just like playing, but never get trapped into bullshit things!!
    You seem like the female counter, to me, and where I am at! :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • I love your Take.

    I'm 46. Ten years ago, I'd have never imagined that in 10 years time I'd be married to a 34 year old man. But I am and I couldn't be happier.

    • You go woman! <3

    • Impressive :-D

  • I only date younger guys my age want to get married or watch birds or something I'm not into.

    • Yay thank you...

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  • I have just started reading the first few lines dear @Pinay_ako , and it sounds amazing, love the first few lines :-D
    I think I have fallen in love with your words, or you, or your brain... I don't know. I am confused. Do you know how long I have been struggling to find a woman who thinks the way you do? here in Lebanon?
    In my opinion, for a 32 years old guy, I am attracted to women who are determined, mature, know what they really want, independent, regardless of the problems or baggage they have, nor the money they have... I work hard for my money, as well as she does. I don't have the right to ask her for anything but Love and Respect.
    I am really glad I kept my eyes open to read this.
    Sorry if it is misplaced, but I am in love with the soul that you are dear @Pinay_ako
    I don't know how to make a kiss on the laptop, so I will try this:
    <3 (k) Love You Ma'am :-)

    • oh wow very kind words. thanks

    • No need to mention. my pleasure dear @Pinay_ako They are no more kind than you are :-) What you have written up there, just show a lot about yourself than anything else :-D "Ma'am, I think I have a cute crush on you" <3

  • I'm dating a younger guy and its not him that's not satisfied with the relationship it's me. We are both very religious and we both decided we would not kiss or hold hands until we were married but his demeanour around me has completely changed ever since we confessed our feelings around me. He seems to emotional but he says he doesn't know if we have long term potential. In my mind I keeping comparing him to - the engineering student in my class, the lawyer who is now studying to be a professor, the other wannabe potential who is super nice and respectful, the ultra rich guy I was very good friends with for several years, the nicer guy in my class who is older than him, the other older guy who used to be ugly but has lost a ton of weight, the other guy his age who is better looking and more independent and hard working and happier than him, the older guy who appears to be infinitely smarter than him... He's the one who wants me rather than me wanting him.

    • You should stop dating him. He obviously not your type. Break his heart today, not tomorrow. He’ll grow to a better man after this. Less emotional. More masculine. Less sweet. Attractive. It’s a little early in life for him so he gotta learn and evolve from the pain you’re about to give him. You’re not for him. Build this man up for the next lady that’ll actually like and appreciate him.

  • they just have an innocence-hard to explain the exact meaning-it just takes me back to my younger days

  • Dido.
    "Age is just a Number, Not a Reminder.'xxoo

    • Beautifully Done, hun. xx

    • Thanks :)

    • Welcome, Lovely!! xx

  • Well at least it's not another "MILFS are the best" post. And once you tell him "get a job" he's behind the horizon, right? =D

  • I think only very confident women will pick a guy younger than her, personally I know i am not that, so I won't pick a guy younger than me

  • Wow this take waa very well said. I kinda liked younger men before but now... well I am excited to date a hot young guy.

  • not gonna lie, milfs/cougars defiantly do it for me.

  • Hey Im filipino also, Cebuano to be exact.

    Anyway, I know that its a thing back in the states, and I have no problem with it. I think its beautiful.

    It’s also relevant in the Philippines. I know about 6 couples that are like that. All of my Aunts in my family are older than my uncles lol. Even my wife who is Russian, she’s 3 years older than me.

    So yeah its a slow shift from the golden standard now that women nowadays are doing well.

  • Until a week ago, Pinay, you could have had me!

    Glad to hear that you're open to guys of different ages. That is the way it should be.

  • I only meet boys who want a sugar mommy... Probably the area, but I prefer my vibrator to paying to listen to someone whine about how depressed they are. The whole dating younger guys thing seems like just as much trouble as dating older ones. I'd rather just wait and be happy if someone does show up.

    • How do you know when a guy shows up?

    • @cavmanier well to start they are present and they state their intentions.

    • Do you mean he's straightforward about liking you? And then doesn't 'ghost?'

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  • I also feel flattered around younger guys.. i font look much older but i am and i act like im 19 and i never want to change that about me. Younger meb will always be prettier than most older men. And im not a materialistic person mabe thats why.. il rather go for a sixpack than a bank account. But its fun and theyre eating outa my hand like lovesick puppies and i enjoy that

  • Just want to say you sound sooooo hot. That authority, decisiveness, weirdly attractive aggression, and you're so blunt as fuck wow. If I didn't want to date cougars before, I do now. I can easily pull 21 and be a boy-toy. Thanks for the Inspiration.

    see ya

  • I've noticed girls in their teens, and 20's are obsessed with older men, yet, women in theirs 30's/40's (maybe even 50's) are into much younger men-as in their 20's.

    My theory (similar to what you were hinting at) is that women in their 30's/40's are in their sexual prime-similar to a guy in his late teens/20's.

    However, men in their 30's/40's don't quite have the sexual drive like they used to-similar to the "just getting there" sex drive of girls in their teens/20's.

  • Interesting takes. Didn't expect this to create such a "discussion". Am surprised at the younger men that "love" older women. We just expect them to be attracted to the younger girls - even though we may see them looking at us. Never thought much of it.

    • Well, I've dated a lot of younger guys, one of them actually young enough to be my son if I would have qualified for that 16 and pregnant TV show, and a lot of them have actually said they don't like women their age because they're too immature. Their video collections feature almost exclusively young women, 18 - 22, so they're physically attracted to them, but when it comes to relationships they prefer more mature women.

    • @tiffany_g interesting.

  • This take isn’t tricky lol

  • Love it.. nicely written.. impressive..👌🏻👏

    • Totally agree with her. I think I fell in love with her, somehow :-D

    • @StrangerByTheDay fell in love with the writer of this post?

    • YES. The writer :-D Sorry have forgotten to @mention , my bad!!

  • https://youtu.be/j4qtuGmyZoI

    • lmfao

  • Exactly.

    Loved this take, spot on. Life doesn't end at 30.

    • Yes life begins where you want it to. :)

  • I like the maturity of 30+ and have dated many. But you seem to have the maturity of a teen with an attitude so I would pass on you.

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