A Traditional View on Waiting for Marriage With a Twist

I know this view of mine is weird. So I am a virgin by choice not by religion. I define virginity as never had vaginal sex.

I have that view to save myself for marriage, in my opinion I think is very romantic for him to carry me to bed on our wedding night knowing that he is the first and hopefully the only one that get to be in my pussy. He is the guy that transform me from a girl to a women, his women. And that is how I distinguish between boyfriend and husband.

Traditional view on waiting for marriage with a twist

Now you might start to say what if we are not sexually compatible and there's lots of people out there that say "you can't not test drive a car before buying" and I totally agree with you. I want someone that meet all my sexual need too. That is where the twist is.

I am not as innocent as most might assume, I am very open to sexual idea. When I am in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, I would love to have oral sex (I could use better words but just trying to keep it a bit formal here ;) ) with them all the time because I actually enjoy it. I would have anal sex with them, that is how I would know we are sexually compatible or not. I am not against toy plays as long as nothing in my pussy before marriage. That is why my box of toys (yes i do have a box of toys) is just anal toys, clit stimulators, nipple clamps and gag balls. Ps that is exactly the box I have ;)

A Traditional View on Waiting for Marriage With a Twist

I guess my point is I am very open sexually, I have many sexual fantasies and there's not much out there I would not try (only scat play I won't go there). But I only want to do it with my future husband.

I also don't have that view that my future husband needs to be virgin (in fact I would much prefer him have some sexual experience so he knows what I can do to please him).

So what do you guys think of this view? It is weird? Are there anyone out there with similar views?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Lmao sounds like my mytake from last week except im not into anal. I would count anal as sex but believ what u want. I believe what i want and have been celibate for 8 years. My boyfriend is a virgin and i told him last night i want him to carry me to bed too lol.
    How to Find Out if You're Sexually Compatible Without Having Sex 😉 ↗

    • Thanks :)

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  • I don't think this is weird, but it's unusual. I really like it though, you've genuinely thought about what you want from relationships and sex, and you've come to a decision that seems to work for you.

    The box of toys is a bonus :)

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  • Please do NOT get married with this messed up mentality. Oral and anal sex is still SEX sweetheart. You are not a virgin. God knows it. You know it. Stop fooling around with God. A guy who foolishly marries you with that mentality is asking for trouble and heartbreak. You're open sexually? You have sexual fantasies deliberately? This is not weird. This is you needing HELP from the Lord. And let me not start with the sex toys. This is crazy. Don't know what religion you are referring to or come from. You might as well do it all now with your mentality. Don't expect to get a good husband and expect him to see you as a virgin or a girl who is going to be faithful to him. Because you couldn't be faithful to yourself.

  • "Traditional View on Waiting... with a twist" (LOL, I like this expression)

    Since many had commented, and you're still a virgin, I shall share points that may surprise you.

    Before I proceed, I like to tell you that I saved my virginity and so did my wife. (So we were two "clueless" virgins on our wedding day.)

    While you had expressed beautifully the romance of giving your virginity to your husband, first time sex comes with a lot of uncertainty.

    Hence if you're fortunate, you feel no pain, little or no blood, have an earthshaking orgasm, your husband kisses and cuddles you after sex and you sleep in his bosom until morning.

    Perhaps.

    But there are also Brides who felt enough pain to hate sex for a long time; of many feel "Is that all?"; or cannot orgasm at all for whatever reason; of he gone soft and cannot penetrate at the last moment; etc.

    Well, I just stated two extremes that some women got for their First Time.

    So my opinion to you is: It is VERY NOBLE of you to want to save your virginity for your husband. (This is what my wife and I did for each other.) But do not draw too beautiful pictures of rainbows and unicorns and angels bursting into songs. No. It won't ever happen. So be prepared for the worst, yet endeavor to achieve your dreams. Don't be disappointed if your dreams do not get fulfilled. Marriage is about love, not sex.

    PS: Although my wife and I had one the worst sex during our "Consummation", we nevertheless had sex 7 times on our wedding day itself and probably 3 times a day for 6 months. This is how we enjoyed sex and treasured our innocence.

  • Have you seen "clerks"? If not watch it.

    The idea of maintaining virginity, in my mind, is about having a man respect you for your virginity. I have no opinion of this. I did not wait myself.

    A man who has had penetration inside your anus a) has had a more intense experience then he would vaginally because its tighter and thus is not a virgin. I wonder why virginity would be important to you only for fenales and not for males. And b) no man will respect you MORE for withholding vaginal sex, opposed to anal or oral sex.

    If your entire concern is the hymen, please know many young women break there's during spirts participation. Get hymen replacement if an intact hymen is your only criteria.

  • A bit delusional, but have at it.

  • The good ol' poop hole loop hole.

  • Isn't this a meme somewhere...
    "Baby you're hot let's fuck"

    "no I'm saving myself for marriage"

    "oh that's ok I'll just dump a load in your poop shoot then you can clean me up with your mouth."

    "Oh that seems reasonable"

    • It's also going to be really funny when someone accidentally slips it in the front door

    • Is that why your name is "only this one"?

    • @RedPillGirl ha someone found me out

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  • Yes thats weird! I agree with oral sex. But doing anal instead is stupid and its unhygienic. Do you have any idea how many bacterias and viruses lives in your colon/rectum and yes you can wash it mabe but i doubt that youl clear everything. And thennnn next time this bacterias sitting on his penis cause its not something that just goes away. Then you stick it into your mouth... dont be surprised if you get weird shit in your mouth or throat or even all over your face.. and do you really think the man of your dreams didn't stick his penis into someone else?

  • Troll or no? I honestly can't tell, but if not then this is too funny.

  • Uhm... The only difference between us is that I'm not open to any kind of sexual activity before marriage.
    Sounds bad?
    Well, it is watching it is. As you said, "I'm a Virgin by choice"

  • It's weird because you want another woman to be willing to do something that you are unwilling to do: have sex with your future husband outside marriage.

    • That's why the double standard doesn't make sense to me. It takes two to tango.

  • You don't get to have oral sex and anal sex and then say you've waited til marriage. You are just lying to yourself. You can save your vagina if you want but you've had sex. You were sexual and had orgasms with someone else. You didn't wait for your wedding.

    • yeah she might even believe she is doing hubby a favor for keeping herself "so pure". wanna talk virgins? my grandma married a virgin and she hasn't even looked herself at the mirror till that age, not to mention contemplate sex, lust on others, masturbate etc.

  • I think I understand now how a virgin birth can happen!
    Female is doin' it doggy style with her butt in air, he pulls out of butt, (because remember Asker says she is still a virgin) and his full load runs downward into her vag and sperm gets up there and fertilizes egg.
    I await the newspaper headlines of her virgin birth!

  • Yeah it's weird.

  • You are not a virgin.
    Anal sex Counts.
    Oral Counts.
    Jacking Each Other Off Counts too.

    You can't have your cake and eat it too. You either wait totally, or not at all. I think you should wait all the way though, not just give in. I am waiting for marriage myself and thought about the whole, "you gotta test drive your car crap".

    Whoever my wife will be, she surely isn't a car, and the thing is, we can learn and communicate and change to each other. We aren't disposed in a certain way. Also, when a car breaks down, you go get a new one. The car analogy is ridiculous. You wouldn't get a new partner because the other one isn't satisfying you.

    • that

    • I kind of agree with you but not about the jacking off or even necessarily that oral makes you not a virgin. I messed around with friends when I was 8, touching each other and things. Do you think that this means that I lost my virginity at 8?

    • @Purplehigh86 If you had oral then yes same w/jacking off each other.

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  • I really don't think the guy that will marry you will see you as a virgin. I mean you still have sex, doesn't matter that it isn't vaginal, but anal or oral. I understand why you wanna "save" your vagina for later, but to me it's not right to call yourself a virgin. Only your pussy is virgin, but you're not.

  • I’m a virgin at 25. There was no particular reason for this apart from not wanting it to be a little fumble being a teen then moving on. I think it would be romantic to save it for the man I’d marry, not necessarily for our marriage, just a man I see a future with.

  • Penis penetration IS sex, oral, anal or vaginal.

  • No oral sex, no anal sex no vaginal sex before marriage. And No I'm not kinky. And No I'm not ashamed of being considered as vanilla. In fact, I'm grossed out by kinks. Someone with my looks could not be into any type of sick kinks.
    I don't give a CRAP about sexual compatibility. If we're incompatible we should work on it.

    • That is how marriage and sex supposed to work.

    • @btbc92 💪

  • You make no sense. Being a virgin means not having had sex.
    Anal sex is sex. It's right there in the name. It's not anal cooking, nor anal boating, and it's not anal car repair. See that word "sex" after the word "anal?" There's a reason it's there.

    • really? this whole time, i've called it anal car repair. :p

    • @karahiri Lmao.

    • Are you sure it's not anal boating? If not than where do butt pirates come from? Lol

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  • Yeah you aren't a virgin.
    This takes absolutely ridiculous

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