Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

If you’re in a toxic relationship, I’m begging you to GET OUT NOW!!

Examples of Toxic Relationships

• Being mentally/physically abused

• Being threatened/forced to stay

• Being taken advantage of

• Someone saying they’ll change, but haven't

• Someone forcibly keeping you from loved ones

• Being constantly backstabbed/cheated

• Feeling unsafe when around someone

• Being asked/told to do something you dont want to do just so you can get something you want in return

My Story:

I took a class with this class clown. He annoyed me sooo much. He wasn’t hot, but he was somewhat cute. And he kept trying to flirt with me but i just wasn't interested.

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He turned out to be my next door neighbor. After getting to know him more, We started hanging out a bit that Christmas break. I fell more and more for his goofy, humorous side, and well eventually we ended up dating.

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The first couple months was good. But then everything escalated so quickly. He knew I wanted to wait til marriage to do sexual things. However, I guess he wasn't gonna back down.

He was my first boyfriend and i was happy being in a relationship. But I was so naive. One day he goes, “So if i have to wait til marriage to have sex with you, can I at least get oral from some randoms?” I was speechless. I was like, “wait what?”

I honestly dont think i ever answered this question. But he went and did things with other girls anyways. I found out from my friends... and enemies.

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He denied doing these things and told me that there were things I could do to assure he stayed faithful. First, He had me strip butt naked. Then he told me to bend over while he circled my body like i was some kind of nude exhibit. Then he told me to sit up and that he needed to finger me to make sure i was wet and tight.

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I didn't want to give in, but the pressure got to me. He pushed me against the brick wall of my neighbors house... But it wasn't just simple fingering. He wanted to see how much a virgin could take. I was in so much pain.

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He took futher advantage of my naiveness and constantly pressured me into more doing things. So one day he walked me into the woods where he said he wanted to try something.

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He started kissing me then took off his shirt and layed it on the ground. I don't know if i was more surprised that he started randomly stripping or that he layed a white tee on a dirt ground haha. So he layed me down on top of the shirt and started kissing me. I wasn't sure what to expect by i was just so hypnotized by how great of a kisser he was.

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He then paused. Said he loved me. Then said... if we’re going to continue waiting til marriage... you have to at least let me “see if it can fit”. I kept debating and he kept throwing reasons at me why he needed to “try me”. He kept saying it wasn't sex, just a test to see if it could fit.

I don't know it just kept going on and on and on and he just wouldn't stop asking. And i gave in and said “ok but only see if the tip can go in”... but then he thrusted instead, repeatedly trying to shove his whole dck in.

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Afterwards, I just layed their crying since i had practically lost my virginty. He kept asking “Did i hurt you? Are you okay? You said i could get in at least 1 thrust right?” I was just so traumatized. I was speechless.

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He stood me up. Told me to get dressed. I just held my head down and started walking home. It was so painful to walk home. It was raining and I was wobbling home like a duck.

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Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Next day he tells me, “You know, you're not a virgin anymore now. So you may as well keep on having sex with me. You dont want me to have to do things with other girls, right? I mean, you do want me to marry YOU right?”

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Gosh, I hated how in love I was. And him being my first made me cling to him even more. It was an odd connection i felt to him. Lets just say i gave in to some stuff. He changed me.

I don’t even want to go into detail of what all ended up happening. But basically He continued to cheat on me with both friends/enemies. He supposedly knocked my friend up and denied it. He told me if I were to ever get pregnant that I needed to drink bleach.

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Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

We broke up during the whole friend being pregnant thing. But months later i took him back. I told him i still didn't want to do oral. However, one day he whipped out his dck while i sat next to him. He kept begging for it. In the middle of me saying “No”, he slammed my head down on his dck. It hit the back of my throat and i was in pain the rest of the day.

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So the next time he asked again, i pretended I wanted to do so. I teased him as i licked down his body. Then i whipped out his dck. Kissed the tip. Then took a huge bite out the shaft.

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Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(

Lets just say My teeth marks were left in his dck for about a day. He was pissed and chased me through the house. Thank goodness my mom was around to Save me because i was about to get choked to death. Hey, he never asked for me to go down again tho...

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He told me he wanted to try doggystyle sex. I thought he meant vaginal from behind but he slammed his dck against my anal hole. Its not like it went in bt it still hurt. I shoved him away. I was in pain for a whole week. I would never purposely do anal. Guess this just made me hate that form of sex even more.

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One day i caught him selling weed. He held the knife to my throat and forced me to sniff the bag. He also knew i had asthma and didn't need to be around smoke. Apparently he had smoked a blunt and held the smoke in his mouth. He forced me to kiss him and he blew it in my mouth. I felt like i was dying. I had to run home and get my inhaler.

Then there was that time He held a gun to my tummy when I finally tried to leave him. Smh, If it werent for him going to military school, I wouldve never escaped him.

Years later we reconnected and i tried to be cool with him. I tried to tell him how he hurt me years ago. He laughed in my face and told me i shouldn't have been so naive and that i was the easiest thing he ever scored.

Im not asking anyone for pity. I know some people feel i deserved this. I do blame myself for being so naive. I just don’t want to hear that someone went through this... or something worse... IM BEGGING YOU GUYS/GIRLS TO GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!

#FeelFreeToList #aDizzyDesiiTake

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  • StrangerByTheDay
    Dear Desi, thank you very much for sharing this painful personal experience so other girls could learn from your mistakes. This is why we are here in this community, we are aiming to help each other not judge each other.

    "He kept saying it wasn't sex, just a test to see if it could fit." that is very low, disrespectful rude and stupid to say. For God's sake, a baby comes out from the same tunnel!! I hate abusive people who take advantage of innocent people.

    You were not naïve, you were just an innocent decent girl who trusted the wrong person for a first relationship. Don't blame yourself for that, at least you have learned from your mistake as we all do and moved forward *clapping hands* BRAVO!

    That is the difference between me and most of the people around me here in Lebanon, they just go and take advantage of girls like that, once they get what they want they leave her and marry another virgin girl. I know I shouldn't say that even though I am Lebanese, but don't ever trust a Lebanese person, guy or girl, if they were born and raised in Lebanon. They don't know the real meaning of Love, Respect and Trust. A Lebanese guy would look after a girl from another country just to take advantage of her wealth or nationality, and same goes for a Lebanese girl. They are gold diggers, it is in their nature. There are few exceptions but I don't trust them. I consider myself African even though I am white for the fact I was born and lived my childhood in Africa.

    Lebanese guys here convince girls that "Open Minded" means that the girl should have a sexual intercourse with a guy whenever he wants even if they are not married. So for them, turning a human into a sex puppet means open minded. I have met few girls here being rude to me when I tell them I am open minded person. At my surprise, when they explain, I get shocked and correct it for them.

    People, please, stop going after each other for only basic instincts, take the time to know the person you are dating before making any further step into the relationship. Sex is just nothing comparing to everything else in a relationship. First of all, Love and Respect. If a guy is not able to forget about the sex act itself and concentrate on the relationship itself and the soul that you are, then let him go, he is just another crook.

    Frankly, people disagree with me when I say "I leave the sex act for the last thing to try in a relationship".

    Thank you dear Des for this wonderful post!
    Nobody deserves this :-(
    Is this still revelant?
    • DizzyDesii

      Thanks for the insight and thanks for reading :) yes my boyfriend and i are saving sex for last. he's a virgin and we’re not doing it til marriage. We’ve been together a year and hope to marry after a total of 2 years. We dont need all the time in the world to know if we’re right for eachother

    • I am really glad you like my opinion dear Desi, and really happy for both of you, sincerely :-)
      You took the time to write this, so the least I can do is to respect your writing, take my time to read and share an honest opinion.
      As always, I look forward for your invitations dear Des !!!
      In my own honest opinion, it wouldn't hurt to try to live together for few months or 1 year before marriage, just to see if you are able to handle things under the same roof (not talking about sexual intercourse).

    • Thank you for MHO dear :-)

  • Jon_25
    I hate to say I've had worse, cause that's bad... but I've had worse. It was a long time ago though.

    You should report him. Even if it's a long time ago, he needs to go to jail for that. Knife to throat, gun at you, that's enough for time. The taking virginity would be harder to get on technicalities, but you can get him done in for those other things. Not to mention selling drugs. I would say please make him pay for what he did. That's disgusting and he should never have gotten away with it. I'm sorry you had to experience that kind of thing.
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    • DizzyDesii

      Yea it sucked. But im not out for revenge. This was all 2009/10 stuff. there's still loads of girls wanting to date him. he's someones dad now. Just hope his daughter doesn't have to experience this. he's been in/out of jail for drugs (not while with me) but still does them

    • Jon_25

      I'm with you. That girl had better be safe from her own fucking dad. Military can change a guy, but still..

      Do me a favor though; If he so much as touches her, and you find out, please call me. I'll go to jail and he'll never try anything again.

    • DizzyDesii

      He didn't stay long in the military long. Just enough to get his GED or whatever. And i dont know mch about his life now. I just hear from friends who for some reason choose to update me on him. But he doesn't have custody of his daughter. Just visiting rights. And thats sweet you're willing to get involved :) but this is a closed book ig

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  • ooAngieoo
    if you were 15 how old was the guy?
    i started chasing after this 19 year old boy when i was 14, almost 15. i looked his age. i was homeschooled at the time, and my parents didn't realize i needed a little more slack on the apron string since i was a wild child.. i was just being a flirty idiot ya know, i'd never had a boyfriend previous, and my one friend and i loved the drama. the guy was a peice of shit and i was playing with fire. i was spared the pain you went through since my dad found out about it before a months time and kept me at home for the rest of the summer. its after i read stuff like this i'm really grateful he did that
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    • DizzyDesii

      We were both 15. He claimed to be experienced but that was a lie too. And yea im glad u didn't have to go through all this

  • lovelyleo
    Oh wow.. I am just so mad at him! Like I know it is in the past but the way he manipulated you, then to laugh about it years later. He sounds like such a terrible person. You do not have to be cool with him.
    Is this still revelant?
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea luckily i haven seen him since 2016. I was 14 when we met and 15 when he took my virginity. 16 when we broke up for good. But he would come visit every year after to see what i was up to

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  • coachTanthony
    Manipulation is strong in toxic relationships. Even if you do somehow get away you tend to miss the pain and abuse for the same reason you miss him.. because you lived with it for so long. Glad it's in the past. Thanks for sharing!
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea i just loved him so much back then that i dealt with it. But it was all 8 years ago

  • Tdieseler
    Wow... that was... umm... descriptive.. and visual...
    these are some of the stories i hear about what women go through with the same kind of men that PISS ME THE EFF OFF. he basically treated you like some object... and the manipulation (ok i kind of liked that) but the way he handled it. Females (and males) tend to be attached to their "first" and he used that. then he threatened violence? (then again... you did attack our favorite part... I don't know about any guy who won't react with extreme prejudice to a surprise attack on that... i do know some who do want that... but at least its expected.)

    but yikes girl... I've taken quite the number of virginities... but i always... ALWAYS respect what i know about biology, anatomy, and their feelings when it comes to that. What i just read was some total straight up bs... and then the events after? wtf?

    Now im starting to get a full picture as to the other post... maybe someday someone would make you try anal again... the right way. many women tend not to have orgasms through vaginal penetration... but also many (from what I've heard) get it through anal.
    Ugh.. men ruining it for other men... well... i guess its the same on the other side. cuz now... that moron has created a woman who is skeptical about men (females ain't shit) and will end up ruining it for other men... and the vicious cycle is created. because of men like this (and women like that)
    the only reason i traumatized the people's whose virginities i took was because they expected since i took their virginity... it was like written in stone and we were going to go the distance... umm... the sex was good... but the personalities, wants, expectations.. didn't match. thats on them. Dont expect shit.

    Speaking for all decent men... im sorry this happened to you. YIKES...
    • Lmao he actually had me addicted to him for a good while after. And he didn't ruin my view of other men. Im boy crazy haha so he didn't stop me. But yea what happened to me really sucked. Even tho it didn't make me scared of men, it made me stay away from sex. I went celibate from mid 2010 til summer 2018. My second ex and i were waitin til marriage. But we tried some stuff that we couldnt resist (ok technically i seduced him) but yea i broke my almost 9 year celibacy for that bastard. I started to go back to waiitn but now my biological clock is ticking cause he wasted 2 years of my life. So now im just waitin for when i put my full trust in someone and feel the time is right. Anal, yea prob not happening especially since it caused me to have hemerrhoidal ass pain for a whole week after he hit the wrong hole. But my second ex did slide a finger in there while doing my puss and it felt hella good like i was takin two dicks at once. Either way, fingering is about as far as that wouldve went. And that was just a one time thing as well. Im too germaphobic for anal

    • Tdieseler

      Like i said... the right person will do it right. also... dont say this... "he wasted 2 years of my life"... YOU wasted two years if thats what you consider it as. The way i see it... you had 2 years of learning about what you didn't want. it was a learning experience... be grateful.
      I had a recent co-worker who got divorced after 26 years... you think that shit didn't hit him like a truck? you can't tell the future... but all that time... you were there... that wasn't wasted. its only girls that say "wasted time"... but you were there for the event the whole "time". if you dont want to "waste your time"... become fucking psychic.

      Any way... im still not down for the whole "for marriage" thing.. but you have broken that a couple times so im not too worried... plus you aren't attacking me (yet) lol... so im going to just keep the flow going.
      Lastly...2010 to 18? jesus. You know... sometimes i think girls bring the shit on themselves and dont even realize it. I had a friend... well.. former ex. she was always wondering why she would meet a guy... everything is nice and dandy... and then they have sex and poof... he's gone.
      She chalked it up to the same excuse females always make..."he only wanted sex"... but we dated for a bit... and we had sex... Honey, a corpse would have moved/participated more... i felt like i was raping someone... just laid there... if i asked to change positions... she'd say no... YIKES. thats when i understood why the other guys left. i mean who wants to bang a corpse? or feel unwanted?
      Body... a smoking 15... personality.. perfect 10... sex? 1. and thats only because she had a vagina.
      So sometimes you have to look deeper than just the outcomes... most people (males too) tend to look at the reactions... but no one seems to want to find the action that created it.

    • Im a diff kinda female. I say i wasted 2 years because he basically didn't want me anymore out of the blue cause he thought i was pregnant and months later all a sudden we were too different for eachother (something we knew the whole relationship but accepted). He was just looking for excuses left and right. It wasn't the sex. It was obvious his virgin ass enjoyed it. Its just he knew i wanted marriage/kids and that we were posed tommarry this fall and move in this past February, so he freaked out and wanted out. Whatever. Thats why i say he wasted my time... cause i was somewhat happy. More happy than him anyway. And i was happy being celibate for 8 years before meeting that guy. I still had my dirty mind and that was enough for me. Im more into mental stuff then physical

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  • laurieluvsit
    In today's world, he totally raped you!

    You may still be able to put him in prison if you want to.

    Call the police department and ask to speak to a detective about it.

    This is very alarming Ms DD!Get Out of Toxic Relationships While You Still Can :(
    • Thank you but i gave consent to him at least sticking the tip in although i didn't consent to him thrusting

    • Well, there is a lot more I could say about that but I will keep quiet.

      I know we get wiser as we get older. Some lessons in life are hard :(

    • flowers70

      Thank you🤦🏾‍♀️, I've been saying this to her for the past 2 hours

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  • lostgirl_searching
    Some people just go through things like this, doesn't mean you/they derseved it or being naive.
    My auntie was beaten and stabbed by her boyfriend when she was younger and even almost died, and we don't know if it will get worse or not. It's sad but some go through things like being in abusive relationship or being mentally abused. It's just best to know the signs and asking for help to leave the relationship.
  • desidoll
    Happened to me when I was a lot younger. Was ignorant and too immature to think about this. After I ended the relationship, two texted me without feeling guilty and they seemed didn't want to stop there. I lost my patience and said "I really thought you are dead because I dreamed you got hit by a car but apparently scumbag like you have such a longer life"
    Immediately they stopped.
  • Kaytiee
    This brang tears to my eyes I'm so so so sorry you had to go through all of that, The hardest part is loving someone whos doing this to all you, I hope you're strong now, lots of love x

    Thank you for sharing, and making others aware.
  • Creepazoid
    Dude. Fuck this guy, if I ever met this guy I'd show him just how small of a man he is. Fucking faggots think they're hard just because they hold a gun or knife in a hand I could guarantee If I could square up with this guy fuck around with him as much I wanted too. I've made guys like this my bitch and he'd be no exception. Not trying to white knight or anything here but fuck this scrub.
    • DizzyDesii

      Did i link the wrong mytake 🙈 yea this take is old too. This was my first boyfriend. I became so much tougher after this wack relationship. And you dont sound like a white knight but even if you do i oddly just got turned on by how protective this was 👀

    • Creepazoid

      Lol this was linked in the mytake you provided me. I ended up reading this mytake first

    • DizzyDesii

      Oh im so slow haha

  • Josephen
    Dear Desi, thank you very much for sharing this painful personal experience so other girls could learn from your mistakes.
    This is why we are here in this community, we are aiming to help each other not judge each other. You were not naïve, you were just an innocent decent girl who trusted the wrong person for a first relationship. Don't blame yourself for that one wrong choose.
    Thank you dear Desi for this wonderful post!
  • Angelina25
    I've never even been in a relationship before, and it seems like I'll have to be hella careful if I ever.
  • lucas262
    Reading this makes my ass kicking muscles twitch, This pissed me off, and and I could just see you going home in the rain.

    it would never enter my mind to do these things to someone id never pressure someone or use them like that. What I would have done to this man. You seem like a nice girl and it just seems all the nice people I know have had really bad things happen to them. I could just see this story play out vividly in my head and it made me sick.
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea this broke me but it made me into anbetter person

    • lucas262

      I don't know what to say except I'm sorry this happened, no one deserves that shit, glad your better now, I would encourage counseling. Just say it all to someone I never did and i find i with I had.

    • DizzyDesii

      It happened almost 10 years ago. I dont need counseling now

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  • TonyMetal_86
    Don't know what to say, i'm speechless... and your ex was a scumbag...

    I never take advantage of a virgin girl who loves, i will encourage her and never cheat on her and about sexusl needs, that's why there is masturbation and ofc if i truly love her, i'll marry her and make sex as much as i want with her cause she will become my wife and will love only her forever and it's worth the wait 😊
    • Glad you're a better man then him

    • Ofc i am, it's because i also believe that sex must come after marriage and in honeymoon...

      I can't see her naked or make love to her cause no matter how much we love each other, we still aren't marriage and i believe that marriage and the blessing of god will give the right to do everything i want with my future wife cause at this point she will become my wife and my family and my only one... also she will become my responsibility which mean i will take care of her, provide for her, feed her and always be there for her and of course make babies together 😊

  • Lunatic1
    I completely agree with you. That is an appalling story to hear, and I wish I had trouble believing it could happen. However toxic relationships like this are far more commonplace than they should be. Humanity has continued to give in to their more basic urges, and it sickens me to no end. But I respect that you not only got out of it, but have grown from the experience so it will not happen to you again.
    • DizzyDesii

      I agree and thank you for this

    • Lunatic1

      My pleasure. You have the right to the truth when it appears.

  • AkshiJanjua
    I am sorry this happened with you but seems like you have come out strong out of all that.

    Think of this now you are living your best life where people like that are below your standards 😜

    As for me no cuz i haven't been in a relationship lol
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea i have definitely grown :)

    • Don't waste time thinking about this. You are above all that bs
      God bless you 🙏

  • I hope your story can help other young girls to realize that the guy who says "I love you. . . don't you love me?" is just a lying sack of shit.
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea i’ve grown so much compared to those horrible 3 years on/off dealing with him

    • As I was reading it, I wanted to hit him in the face. . . a lot!

    • DizzyDesii

      Yea many did. He just wasn't a good boyfriend at all

  • Hans222
    Sjeez Desi, not a happy story. We'll keep your advise in mind: get out of a toxic relationship BEFORE it's too late and you're "in prison" :-(
    • DizzyDesii

      Why would i be in prison

    • Hans222

      Not literally... I mean you'd want to get out of the relationship before you get the feeling he has you in his power :-(

  • bijbee
    Now imagine that person to be that one who has to do all of that. He has hormones. male hormones.
    It goes in his soul. it is all in his soul. he thinks he can forget.
    but he never can in reality.
    he uses drugs to suppress his feeling. nobody is allowed to find out about it. inside he is in hell and hides it good.
    Woman have 1000 times this way raped man and keep saying how good they are and do never mention male hormones and believe they are funny and laugh all together how great they are.
    this man goes to hell.
    because he is unhappy.
    With the drugs, he did do self-rape. this is the form of rape never noticed. a man normally does not hurt or rape himself. What forced him doing it? for science an interesting question. one thing is strange real raped woman can't handle to watch pictures not one and they avoid all pictures while this side is full of them what is prove they have no traumas. Learn from a real expert. Man in trouble, learn to talk, you get support no matter and how much shame you have. Because many men are in trouble because of toxic woman.
    • DizzyDesii

      He didn't rape me. And yes i know men and women are victims lf manipulative significant others

    • lucas262

      I have ,, male hormones,, nothing in that means we are predestined to be potential rapist , male sexuality is stigmatized so much and its wrong, i would never ever do this twisted underhanded shit. Maybe I took it the wrong way but if your implying male hormones mean a man leans towards rape im insulted.

  • TripleAce
    For some reason it seems like many girls have been down this road at least once lol

    I mean he was a jerk in every way possible BUT it worked lol... and seems to work so often...
    Some girls actually respond better to rudeness than kindness...

    • DizzyDesii

      What you mean but it worked

    • TripleAce

      Well i mean i always keep hearing how girls ended up dating the dick head
      So im saying being an asshole works to some extent

      Like in your case maybe you can help me. What was so appealing about dating a asshole type of guy

    • DizzyDesii

      He didn't come across as an ahole when we first met. He was just super goofy. He seemed somewhat innocent. His true colors showed after he took my virginity. But it was too late to realize he was an ahole cause he was my drug by then. I was hooked

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  • the_sinner
    I'm extremely sorry you had to go through such traumatizing pain during your childhood.

    But my respect for you has increased more now because you are tough now and you're guiding others towards happiness and giving insightful suggestions.

    May this new year give you immense amount of happiness in everything you do and I hope you find successful in every moment of you life.

    Thank you so much @DizzyDesii for sharing happiness on the new year's Eve.
    • DizzyDesii

      Thank you do much 🙏 im glad im better. Happy NewYears to youu

  • xButterflyKisses87x
    Never let yourself feel like you deserved it hun no one does.. idiots can make you feel that way though don’t believe them
  • FýrdracaDócincel
    So Imma ask you a little question. Don't take this as me being apathetic to your old situation, or not believing you.. that's not the case at all.

    Instead, understand that I'm a nit-picky douchebag when it comes to this stuff ^_^

    Why that particular choice of gif for when he pulled a fast one on you in the forest? You made it sound like a crap experience and yet your chosen gif just so happens to turn me on.
    • DizzyDesii

      Just wanted to show that it happened in the woods

  • Littletwink
    That's horrible 😢😢😢. I feel very sorry to read that :(
    What a jerk!
    I hope you are with someone way better than him because you deserve better! :)
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea he was my first. I didn't trust someone again for sex until like 8 years later. That guy screwed me over too when he was ready to run out of fear that he got me pregnant before HE was ready. Something we discussed beforehand and he claimed he was happy for it. So yea he lied

  • aialex
    That guy deserved to be impaled in every hole he has.

    And if he didn't have enough, he deserves artificial holes!
  • JustaLoozer
    Girl, you did not lose your virginity to him. He raped you.
    • I dont see it as rape but pressure for sure

  • underneathsunrise
    Thank you for sharing this, it's important for people to know and learn about others♥
  • CHARismatic110
    Toxic relationships change you. You may get out but you don't leave without scars and being damaged. It's good you got away.
    • DizzyDesii

      It changed me in a bad way because it made me want to do more sexual things. But im tryna be celibate and hold out

    • I know you are.

  • QueenofCups
    The last sentence is some of the best advice I've heard in a long time.
  • Berethor
    It's a tough story, if you had a 'overprotective dad' he might had save you from that experience, well at least you gave him some payback by biting his dick.
    • My dad wasn't in the picture. And yea i bit him 😂🙈

  • Goddess_Gag18
    As far as I am concerned, you're still in a toxic relationship with a guy who doesn't care about you. Get rid of him too and concentrate on yourself. Pick your online friends more carefully. They are just as toxic. Bad influences and people judge you by the company you keep. Sorry to be blunt.
  • azzntittiz
    Jesus Christ, this is men in a nutshell. You're not less than anyone else, you're not alone, there's nothing to be ashamed of, do not act on impulse and do anything stupid because you will look back at this and shake it off. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you, you'll be surprised the positive turn it can take. All I gotta say is learn from your mistakes and grow.
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea this was 8 years ago. I def learned and am in a better relationship

  • Keanku19
    I wish I was your brother... I would have called some Friends and given the guy a good beating... I pray my sisters can open up to me when someone hurt them... thanks for sharing...
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea i just wanted you to understand part of why i like to wait for sex

    • Keanku19

      Yeah... I understand... of course that should guide your decisions...
      However, let me give a few advice.
      The safer way to find a good guy is to be friends for at least two or more years
      My reason is simple
      1) to avoid anything intimate or sexual.
      you cannot kiss a guy and not want him to have the urges for sex. That's impossible.

      I told my girlfriend, if you don't want sex, we aren't kissing. She just want to kiss and hugs. That's satisfying and okay for a lady but for a guy it is not. Guys get aroused easily.

    • DizzyDesii

      That was the way to go back in HS and maybe college but as an adult nahh. There are things im trying to do before age 30 (like have kids) so indnt really have the type to waste. And nowaday if i friendzone someone, ill lose interest after a while OR i’ll havevto watch them be with someone else

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  • AlexEfron
    You bit him 😂 I'm proud of you. He deserved it 😆😂
  • It's sad to hear when guys take advantage... there's An idea that maybe she just needs to loosen up, she's being too serious. She will thank me when this is all over. Like he's having a dream sequence... But honestly being respectful of a girl is the best way to make the relationship move faster... It's the right thing to do... I'm sorry to hear that happened to you :(
    The warnings at the top are great too, they all make sense
  • JDavid25
    Wow this was a great story Desi.. It's good you got out.. But "Gosh, I hated how in love I was."... If it was love you wouldn't have hated it.. You were a teenage girl in her first relationship afraid to lose that relationship.. You had strong feelins & an infatuation for what he could have been what you wanted to relationship to be.. 8)..
    • DizzyDesii

      I guess

    • JDavid25

      I'm always bein a smart a$$ ain't Desi?

    • DizzyDesii

      Yea this wasn't the time

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  • KittyMilk
    Crazy story, I'm speechless.. i just know I won't waste my time doing that, you deserved better.. But that kitty make men crazy
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea I've grown in life and am smarter no :)

    • KittyMilk

      Yes you have queen, holy shit.. its fucked up people can be toxic but love can be dangerous also when used against you

    • DizzyDesii

      So true 😰

  • Wizard-of-bras
    Nobody needs to be told to leave this kind of relationship unless the person is mentally disabled. It’s so obvious to leave if this is going on.
    • DizzyDesii

      You callin me mentally disabled?

    • Well you said you left...

    • DizzyDesii

      But i kept taking him back. I wouldve never fully escaped him had he not had to go to military camp

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  • Bismarck_96
    “I just don’t want to hear that someone went through this or something worse”

    Whenever you want me to tell my part just say the word but it won’t be through here in public

    These kind of people who are abusive, manipulative, toxic, monstrous animals who shouldn’t walk the world shouldn’t even exists at all ik people who have that kind of behavior and it literally boils the shit out of my blood there’s a saying that goes Getting revenge is hard you fight the bees off from the hive till you get the SWEET taste of revenge something like that

    I’m sorry you’ve been through that kind of treatment of this crazy animal I always recommend my female friends to carry a small knife (jack knives) or even pepper spray when times get rough with horn dogs want a slice the law has more protection of women than we guys will ever have so there’s nothing to fear on butchering or spraying pepper on dudes you can legally buy pepper spray on Amazon for like $10
    • I only couldnt be mad nor consider it rape because we were dating and ig i allowed him to take advantage by not stopping him. You’d think i’d be apart of this metoo movement but im not for that

    • Wtf is the “metoo movement” 😂 and true if y’all dated then you can’t do nothing about it if you tried to stop him then yes it would’ve counted I don't know I’m not a lawyer but do you have any remorse of it?

  • tobeornottobe777
    Wow it seems you really opened up here
    These are very traumatic experiences
  • ThePundertaker
    You probably don’t need it but you have my sympathy. I’ll remember your advice.
    • DizzyDesii

      Thank you :)

    • Np my dude

    • Julia420

      Pun I’ve done the last think a hand full of times to you
      Being asked/told to do something you dont want to do just so you can get something you want in return

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    good lawd... that guy was just evil all the way around... no one deserves that kind of stuff... i don't understand how to love through that kind of abuse... the wonders of womens... i'm sorry this happened... that guy doesn't reperesent us mens as a whole
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea it tooks years to escape him but i did. Many of my exes after him even had the same name as him 🤦‍♀️

  • SjE78
    I honestly couldn't agree with this more, having been in 2 toxic relationships over the years and having friends who have and some who have only just recently gotten out of them... I can say getting out is more important... BUT... is never as black and white as many might think... it's not as simple getting away than many believe.. nothing ever is in that regard...
    if you are the focus of a narcissist and they have gotten a good grip on your mental state and damaged relationships with friends and family... you'll find it far more harder to escape their grip... than you would if you was able to have seen sooner and got out sooner
  • rajesh_leo
    Toxic relationships are not only limited to girlfriend or boyfriend. It can be experienced even within the boundaries of your house, office or social circle. I always analyze people with their behavior towards me and try to keep a safe distance from toxic/sadistic people.
  • flowers70
    Have you ever thought about seeking therapy for these things? There's nothing wrong with it. I've seen therapist before due to panic disorder which I have fully under control now. My mom placed a lot of pressure on me to be the best and brightest and school. So I did a lot of things I shouldn't have done to get ahead to be at the top of my class. I love her but this is how a narcissist is born.
    • I used to think i needed it. But i repented in 2017. Im good

    • flowers70

      Hunny , take the therapy. Repentance is spiritual thing and therapy is a mental thing. God loves wisdom therefore it must be used in your circumstance because the damage is showing.

    • I dont see where the damage shows

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  • CoffeeWC
    I think the reason some people are in abusive relationships is because they don't know about better options, and they believe they already got the best they could possibly get. That way of thinking will keep a person miserable. They don't really know what true love is, so they just accept that way, no. I'm sorry you had to go through this, I just hope you learned from this.
    • DizzyDesii

      I knew i had better options but there's a connection you get when with your FIRST everything. So i kept taking him back everytime he apologized

    • CoffeeWC

      I haven't had my first yet so I don't know the feeling. But you should take into consideration, the possibility that he comes back, will you accept him? If you do, he will keep coming back because he thinks you can be easily manipulated.

    • DizzyDesii

      This was 8 years ago. His stuff doesn't work anymore

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  • Jamie05rhs
    Omg- that is horrible, Desii. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. What a complete pile of rubbish that boy is. I hope he gets stuck at a RR crossing and gets hit by a train.
    • I was 15. I dont wish bad on my idiot exes

    • Okay. I still think he deserves it, though.

  • Aethereal
    I'm appalled that someone could do something so cruel, horrible, traumatizing to a girl and think it's okay, even laugh about it. That guy is scum, unworthy of even being called a human being.

    This is one of the reasons I didn't want children. The thought that my daughter might come across trash like this... the things I would do to him if he dared...
    Stuff like this is also one of the reasons I couldn't subscribe to a religion anymore.

    I'm sorry you had to go through such an experience, and lose something so important in such a way. While it's good that you've become stronger for it, I don't think it's okay that this guy gets to live so peacefully after what he did. I hope you've at least made sure that he can never come near you again.
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea he hasn't come around but he's the type to pop up at anytime... haven't seen him since he last popped up in 2016 thankfully. God helped me to get through a lot. Im thankful im still here. And believe it or not my ex is a dad now to a little girl

    • DizzyDesii

      Yea he hasn't come around but he's the type to pop up at anytime... haven't seen him since he last popped up in 2016 thankfully. God helped me to get through a lot. Im thankful im still here. And believe it or not my ex is a dad now to a little girl

  • lookin64
    No woman should ever be put through what you have. He should have been locked up and the key thrown away.
    • DizzyDesii

      Yea... he went to like a bootcamp school but only cane out worse

    • lookin64

      Then he needs to be castrated like the pig he is then.

  • Figen
    I would have cut the cord after the "assure he stayed faithful" bit... tis sad
  • Dchrls78104
    Good take. Too many girls, and at least one guy, have been killed by toxic partners in my country. I wish more people would take heed.
  • pinkhoodie53
    What’s his social and current address. Tell him I just wanna talk 🤜🏾
    • Lol someone shouldve beat his ass long ago. but he in a gang now. Stay away from his crazy azz. This was in 2008

    • Lol I know people *cough* *cough* and places

  • ThatGuy133
    Sounds like a charmer. Things are confusing at that age... good thing you aren't with him anymore.