How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

Recently I posted a question here asking why people encourage horny, sexually frustrated women to go out and get laid but treat men who are horny and frustrated like pathetic losers who need to relax. A lot of answers were you’re typical, “That’s not true, women get called sluts and guys are given a pass,” while some females did admit that it’s true but only because guys show their desperation. So some of those made me want to post this Take with more of the situation and what can make guys be so frustrated if they’re really not getting any sex.

Disclaimer: this Take ended up being longer than I intended, but hopefully you'll stick with me, and the "TLDR" spammers can move on.


It is true that women often are to blame...

And when I say this I’m not saying they’re to blame as in them not giving men sex is the root problem. I mean they are often to blame for how they treat men about sex, and because of their attitudes as women. A lot of women think guys are wrong to be angry but in some ways guys are actually very right to be upset with them about it.


And the reason for this is because often women try to qualify men for sex or decide if or when a guy is ready for it, or how he should want it or pursue it, when that really is none of their business. They would never want men judging them or getting in their face about the sex they have or the sex they want, or trying to decide if they even have any value as a woman in order to want or have sex, but women are doing exactly this to men! And this probably is a large part of guys’ sexual frustration.

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

Women whine about men only wanting casual sex and think they need to chill and get focused, but then as soon as she’s horny and wants to just get laid she wants it to be okay and cry to the world, “Why is it bad if women just want to have sex and get labelled sluts for it?” So now because you’re desperate and horny and want casual sex, we shouldn’t judge you, but when it’s guys who are, you get annoyed and judge them in a flash and think they’re pathetic for it.

Women want to make up their own rules...

It's just as sad and pathetic to me to hear a horny woman whining about not wanting to be called a slut for wanting casual sex, as it is to hear a guy whining about how he's not getting any play. Both are the same. Yet women want to make up their own rules about it. They want to say how there's a way to go about getting casual sex and how they have standards even in that. Let's be real here: having casual sex has no standards. It's just momentary satisfaction. And the difference is that guys aren't trying to front and talk about having any moral standards with it. Women are. Nor are guys really fucking anything that moves because most of us want sex with someone who looks decent, whereas it is much more common for a woman to sleep with anything/to be "pansexual."

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

They say how a guy being desperate is unattractive and how it won't get him any sex, but a guy can not act that way at all and she will still think he's desperate simply for trying to get it period. But the rules are supposed to change when she wants casual sex. Now I'm not supposed to think of her as a slut or desperate, and however she wants to get it should be perfectly fine.


Guys who are still virgins...

It's especially frustrating for the guys who’ve never had sex or even a girlfriend before, or if they’ve only had sex once in their life or with only one girl. I’ve read their stories on other sites, from some men even in their late 30s, and it does make me kinda sad for them. Although some women try to say they think it’s great if a guy is still a virgin or is not pressed to lose it, other women do not really think this way and can be worse towards male virgins than other guys can be towards them.

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

You have a lot of women who’ve already had sex or with several men, and treat male virgins as if something must be wrong with them for why they haven’t had sex once they find out, or treat them as undesirable, and think that having sex is something they should’ve already done by now. And they don’t want to give the guy a chance or be his first because they have a similar narrow mindset like the employment world: you have to have experience first.

They don’t want guys who’ve never fucked before and feel like they’ll be bad at it. And then these guys get frustrated because they also have a similar reaction to employment world expectations: okay, so how do I get experience if none of you give me a chance? Maybe a virgin guy doesn't want to be a cliche by just picking a virgin girl, maybe he's open to women who've already had sex but they're not open to him.

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

All this can make a guy feel hopeless, and on the one hand these women don’t want a guy to be desperate or so anxious for sex, but then basically tell them they need to get out there and lose their virginity if they want to have fun and get experience. How does he do that if you’re treating him bad for wanting that, and rejecting him for his inexperience? You’re judging these guys for never having had sex, but then judging them for wanting it a lot too. And forgetting that once upon a time you were also a virgin.


Women are bragging about getting sex easier than men…

I think this is also a big reason for guys being sexually frustrated. A lot of women try to deny this by saying it’s guys who claim women can get sex easier, and although that is true, there are still just as many women who say it and think it as men.

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

Women are calling guys desperate and think they need to chill or try to take it slow and relax, but then they want to brag to us about how they think it’s easier for them to get sex if they ever are desperate and horny. They’re not wanting guys to be so consumed with it or try to get it so much, but they’re basically taunting them about it, as if they’re behind a fence telling guys, “Oooh look what we can have a lot easier than you, and it’s so much fun. You’re missing out.” Or like, “Sorry for your lot, but it’s always good news for me when I’m horny.” Or, “Hell yeah, I can get laid more than you, and that should bother you and I’m glad it does.”


How would guys not be frustrated by that? You think it’s annoying that he’s desperate or too focused on sex, but pretty much stir that by trying to bully him about how you think you can go out and get it any time you want, and he’s not supposed to feel bad about himself for it or not supposed to want it too. Because in truth women actually are trying to make men feel incompetent, inferior, less capable, and less appealing by talking about how easy they think they can get sex, and they absolutely do enjoy that it bothers guys. Some would deny that but it is the truth. They’ll hate it when guys say it as if it indicates that women are only good for sex, but then agree with it when they want it to benefit their image as women because they want guys to envy it.

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men


Shaming men vs. shaming women...

People like to cry about how much women are slut-shamed and guys are high-fived for getting laid, but this isn’t entirely true, and the argument really is different when it comes to men. Guys aren’t getting this great reputation that women are complaining about as unfair. Most people applauding guys are other guys, and most people shaming women are other women. While a lot of people “expect” men to have lots of partners, that still doesn’t necessarily mean they approve of them for doing it but that they resign themselves to the fact that it’s “male behavior” they can’t change. Men are still scorned and stereotyped as creatures who will fuck anything, yet when women are fucking anything we’re just creatively and simple-mindedly calling them “bisexual,” “pansexual,” or being more “sexually flexible.”

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

Men are even catching hell for not having sex like I mentioned. Nobody frowns on women for still being virgins. Nobody is constantly judging her as not being able to get laid because she’s annoyed with guys or says something about them. Nobody tries to put a woman on the spot and ask her, “Honey, when was the last time you had sex?” No one is sizing up a woman’s ability to deliver in bed based on how feminine she is or how she behaves with guys, we just think she’s always good because she's a woman. No one is thinking a woman must not be able to get laid if she hasn’t ever had sex or in a long while. No one is saying a woman is watching porn because she can't get laid. And no one has a ton of masturbation jokes for women who are single.

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

Men are the ones who get scrutinized for all that, and women are just as much a part of it as other guys are, and they do help stir up sexual frustration in men because of it. It bothers guys to be judged, scrutinized, and jeered at by other guys, but it bothers them a lot more when women are doing it because women are the ones they desire and are looking to have sex with, not other guys. So it hurts when the opposite sex is scorning you and sizing you up based on your sexual experience, lack of it, or desire for it.

Not getting any and being judged for it can be worse than being called a slut because you're basically thought of as incompetent, not good with women, lacking something in your masculinity, or someone women should question or worry if you're good in bed. Slut-shaming is bad but at the end of the day most guys who call a woman a slut would still fuck her in secret, and her morals are judged but not her competency as a woman.

How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men

So, yes. I can understand how guys can be sexually frustrated. I’ve been there in the past myself, and it’s not a good place.

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  • I don't hear often about women bragging about getting sex. I don't remember the last time actually, but its probably been once.

    That being said.. I'm a 30 year old virgin who's never been in a serious relationship. I've had a couple dates, but they haven't gotten past the first date or two, and tinder isn't working all that great for me (maybe I'm just real picky).

    Anyway, I really do feel like the stigma for guys to get laid IS there, and that women prefer experienced guys, and that means like everything.. Beyond sex, but in life in general, especially as they tend to be younger than the guys they are dating. It's hilarious seeing 18-20 year olds being paranoid about still being virgin, when they have a full ife ahead of them. But when you're 30, and they find out or they start to think, a good amount get turned off. This is really frustrating to me.. and as you said, I'm stuck in a catch 22 situation. I just wanna get laid really bad, but I have to deal with this. Getting into a serious relationship is hard enough as it is, so is getting laid with girls on tinder who claim they only want relationships/no hook ups.. and the ones that do admit to hookups on their profiles well chose the top 3% men. I feel like just paying for sex with an escort a few times to build my confidence up. /:

    • Wait a minute, wait a minute. I read this over again. You're saying you actually LIKE that women stigmatize inexperienced/virgin men?

    • What. no. I said that I agree that the stigma towards virgin men exists.

    • Oh. Wasn't sure lol.

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  • Mostly a really good Take. All I'll say is that guys aren't virgins; only girls are virgins. We just have a first time.

    But it is really annoying to hear or see a girl claim how easy it is for her to get dick, and not expect to be called a slut or expect any sort of negative reaction, whereas if a guy claims to be able to get pussy and ass super easily, a lot of chicks act like "Yeah, sure man. What an arrogant prick."

    • Very good points.

    • Thanks for MHO

Most Helpful Girls

  • Men need to understand women's problems and vice versa. I for one want to understand men's problems and support them. I can see both the sides of the story and can say that most women dont want to understand men's problems.

    That being said I can also say that its important for women to make sure that when she is sleeping with someone she doesn't have doubts or questions and is comfortable because lets be honest women will suffer if they dont take precautions.

    Final word : be careful and cautious but dont judge someone.

    • Good response.

  • I feel like the only reason I can understand and sympathize for men is because I'm open-minded and I actually want to understand men problems. I have brothers, I have a father, male cousins that I'm around 24/7. One of the reasons a lot women don't understand or can't comprehend men problems is because they don't care about men problems. Women can say they do but it's obvious that they don't.

    • This is very true. Sadly.

    • Unreal that you know this at 15 and essentially most of at least western society doesn't get it. Dont ever let the feminists poisen your mind, its all about equality, thank you for your voice.

    • @Guffrus You're welcome :) It was actually my brother that helped me want to understand male, he's one of the few men out there today that actually speaks out about what men go through, their hardships and how it feels to be a male in today's modern feminist society.

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  • I can't believe that article is even serious. It's a joke, right?

    • Your sarcasm isn't working.

    • Not sarcasm.

    • @petsnakereggie So basically you're denying that women don't treat men in these ways.

  • ... what did I just read? I get that there is some semblance of truth in the point you made, but there should be an understanding that the reaction that both males and females get are totally opposite when they cross the line towards sexual intercourse. The frustration in circumstances is just naturally there when a woman refuses to become sexually active and unfortunately men always insinuate that this is done purposefully to play hard to get.

    • "The frustration in circumstances is just naturally there when a woman refuses to become sexually active and unfortunately men always insinuate that this is done purposefully to play hard to get." - That is the least of it. Men are injured much more by women's judgment and scrutiny of men for wanting sex or never having it, especially when women are whining about how they're perceived for wanting or having sex. And THAT is a fact that women do not want to humble themselves and own up to even though they know it's true, because they don't want to have to acknowledge how they're part of the problem.

  • Never known a woman to brag about being able to get sex, quite the opposite. I am over sixty years of age and I get sick and tired of men trying it on with me and assuming that any woman they want has to say yes. Yes we could easily get a lot of sex, but why would we bother with men we hardly know, strangers, men who only want sex or men who want us to cheat on our much nicer and sexier partners? When a man feels horny he can pay for sex, to him it is just sport/fun/a release. With many women it is about friendship and love too.

    • Lady, you just said you've never known women to brag about getting sex easier but you just did - "Yes we could easily get a lot of sex," and a lot of women on this site and some who commented on this Take are doing it. It's very popular. The point of this post isn't about giving sex to men. It's about not giving men grief ABOUT sex concerning having it or lacking experience with it. Which is ironic for women to do when they don't want to be sexually judged. The message really was very clear and simple, and I honestly do not get how so many women could miss that. Unless they simply don't want to humble themselves and understand.

  • Pictures are used to make all people sin and all movies were for that reason already during WWII. The real fascists were the people from the UK in reality who told others under force how to be. No matter propaganda try to make you believe. Because everything is upside down from what they tell us. So why do you use those pictures?

  • I can't stop laughing.

    • @MlleCake It really is amazing to see the way women on this do not want to have to understand men and see the situation, but want us to take them seriously about their own sexual anxieties and complaints of being slut-shamed. Very interesting.

    • Don't write stuff that's so funny then.

    • @MlleCake Oh maybe it would be better to write about how sexually oppressed women are and how much that affects them, or write about the joke of their bisexuality and inner sexual turmoil disguised in pride and enlightenment. I might actually just do that.

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  • Is this for real? hahaha holy shit man

  • I haven’t really noticed any of this within my regular life so I can’t comment. I’ve never shamed anyone for anything. I haven’t noticed the sluts vs studs thing either, no one really cares but if you are a player, male or female you’re gonna get called out. Maybe I live in a weird place.

    • A weird place called reality.

    • @Pamina hahaha true

    • Yet most of the guys know exactly what I'm talking about. Why? Because they've had the experience with females. To you it's not reality because you're not thinking about it and don't want to.

  • lol what in the world is going on with those pig pictures? XD

    Women don't get ridiculed for not having sex because some men highly value virginity and implied chastity (even if it's not there) (aka most guys don't care if a girl is not a virgin, they just don't want to have a loose reputation)

    For men, having sex is a HUGE part of growing up/becoming a top male. I mean, biology. Young adolescent males gear up towards having sex, it's like a competition, they have to fight each other and older, more seasoned males to have a female mate with them.

    Yes, the ball is in a woman's court, and there's nothing wrong with that really. It's natural. We pay for our selective behavior by enduring pregnancy, birth, and raising the child.

    I don't know women who regularly pick on virgin dudes. I just don't... I mean, is this a real issue? Guys, opinions?

    • Enough guys commented who had it happen, yeah. I don't agree that it should be okay for a woman to expect a man to have already had sexual experience. Why should his experience or lack of it determine his value as a man especially sexually?

    • I'm not saying I pick my men based on experience, but given how most people desire to pair up (and the birth rate is about 50% male and 50% female) ok now add that few people only have 1 sexual partner their entire life... I would question why a 30 year old man has been unable to have sex? Is he very awkward socially? What's going on? Because, most US citizens are not virgins by the time their 20. So why the extra wait if it isn't a choice? (ex. religious teachings etc) Again, guys typically WANT sex, they typically have fewer and lower standards than women. I don't think an older virgin man should be mocked, but I again, I would wonder what's stopping him from finding a woman who wants sex with him. (and loads of women are virgins too, the same question applies to them but for slightly different reasons) I think it's ok to wonder why a person hasn't had sex by a certain age, specifically if the virgin is open/wants sex.

    • @vishna This is exactly the point I made in the Take. You're wondering why those guys have never had sex but then are still basically judging men for seeking it or how/why they want it, and deciding what's right for a man to have.

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  • Thank you so much for writing this! This stupid double standard has to stop. You are truly on fire man, great MyTake! ;) :D

    • Wow thanks lol.

    • Haha no, thank you!

  • A lot of these sexual double standards go both ways. None of it matters if you learn how to get what you want regardless of what people say and think. Complaining about these things will get you nowhere.

    • You're not being honest with yourself, man. These double standards do not go both ways. When you can actually tell me about women who get teased or jeered at for not getting laid or failing at it, or said to struggle getting sex, then I might take it more seriously.

    • I'm not saying that we have the same problems, but that the double standards most people complain about have always and will always exist. Men get judged for being virgins (past a certain age at least) and women get judged for too many partners. Men will always find it easier to get a woman they like to commit and harder to get casual sex, women will always find it easier to get casual sex with a guy they like but a harder time getting that guy to commit. It's all down to our biology, our different priorities when it comes to what we want in/with a partner, and nobody cares about fairness. No matter how much people complain about these things that will always happen - especially when it comes to sexually frustrated men. Instead of expecting things to be fair and obsessing over that, those guys are better off just figuring out how to improve their situation.

    • Actually, when I say nobody cares about fairness - nobody who is successful cares about fairness. It's mostly those at the bottom who complain about fairness and equality - that goes for anything else too.

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  • interesting mytake.

    first off, what's up with all of the ironic derogatory pig noses copy pasted onto women's faces in those memes? Is that some kind of sick joke or?

    second, i don't know where you live and what sort of women you know, but there are many women that i know who don't just casually have sex with multiple partners on a regular basis. if you have a job/school, friends, and family, you know, A LIFE, then women like myself don't actually have time for that kind of behavior.

    • The pig noses represent the pigheadedness of women who are braggarts. I didn't create those noses, I just found the pictures and found them to be very cool and perfect for this Take. "i don't know where you live and what sort of women you know, but there are many women that i know who don't just casually have sex with multiple partners on a regular basis." - Regardless of whether they do or not, the point is that these women are still degrading men for either never having sex or wanting to, yet not wanting people to deride them as women for whatever sexual behavior they have or plan to have.

    • yes I agreee with your last paragraph. there are women who can be very hypocritical. there are also those women who have sexual and emotional problems who do want to have sex in a long term relationship but because of their problems they come across as stringing men along. those women are usually most likely to engage in casual affairs. they need to take a long hard look at themselves and stop putting the blame on men. men, also, need to stop blaming women for their hangups as well. no gender OWES the other one sex. thanks for the perspective

  • i don't know ManOnfire . i think i answered only 1 of his previous questions .
    but just to say . what is more impressive than this My Take by ManOnFire is the way
    he handled every comment and criticism given by the responders . i read every word
    in this thread . a very touchy subject for both men and women . waiting . waiting .
    and yet . he was never triggered into reacting defensively with hostility to those making
    comments and criticisms he might disagree with . it is most impressive how ManOnFire
    did not take anything personally . he never resorted to insults rudeness mocking
    or name calling others for making their points . and though his MY Take is debatable
    on so many levels . it is to his credit and to his leadership in this thread that all other
    responders acted with the same amount of dignity . i hope others will take notice .
    perhaps even me .

    • I appreciate it.

    • I am bummed that more people have not appreciated that comment too Briley..

  • It's mostly just solipsism, which is what I seem to keep mentioning every time you post something. It's the root of everything you talk about. Women are naturally solipsistic. They can't help it. It's literally a part of their genetics. You mentioned women saying they can get sex easier, but men can spend time quicker. See women at the end of it all want men to spend their time and resources too but mostly time. Again like I keep saying when they become attention whores and you don't give them that they too become desperate. Our genders are different but they have similar outcomes.

  • Not as much frustration as Islam causes

  • choose your judges wisely. you want to succumb and crumble from the judgments of humans or the judgment of God? thats the only judgment that matters and it has way different criteria than secular people. innocent men or women shouldn't be disheartened.

  • Wow. That was just... pathetic. Go ahead and bash me as I'm sure you will, but the truth is you have issues. Emphasis on YOU.

    • You know well what this Take is saying. The only pathetic one is you who doesn't want to listen to understand.

  • Nothing wrong with a little sexual frustration... where the heck did you find all these memes?

    • I made them specially for this Take.

    • Awesome :-)

    • If sexual frustration is good, give your sexuality to somebody else. Let them decide when you can have sex. Let them decide what you need to do to earn it. Go ahead, I'll wait.

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  • I read this intending to ridicule it, but there is some truth.

    Any time I want sex, I can get it with really no effort, depending on my standards for the evening. I could even get a free dinner, drinks and a movie.

    But this is because the game is rigged. Economically it's a sellers market (for young women anyway) Too many guys of all ages wanting girls from 18-29. Now look at women in their 40s and 50s. The situation is reversed.

    • The thing is, those older women had their time though when they were younger. Whatever difficulties they are facing now are their own fault for not settling down and getting married when they were 18-29. With men, however, we never get to have our time. We are pretty much worthless both sexually and socially when we are younger while the women are placed on a pedestal, and then by the time we get older and actually have some money in the bank and a good life carved out for ourselves, we get married because that is what society has conditioned us to do. And so a man never truly gets to have “his time,” so to speak, in the same way that a woman does when she is 18-29. He goes from being a loser virgin straight to being married with all of the duties and responsibilities of a husband and father. What men should do is remain single when they are older and actually have the fun that they were always denied. We need to stop shaming the bachelor lifestyle.

    • @The_Underground_Man I had "my time".

    • @A_Bell "Any time I want sex, I can get it with really no effort, depending on my standards for the evening. I could even get a free dinner, drinks and a movie." - You're basically proving my point. You're just telling about your experience because you like that it makes guys jealous and you can brag about it. It's not useful information or any real understanding of this Take.

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  • That moment when you read such myTakes and you are glad that sex before marriage is haraam in Islam... :')

    • Lol.

    • So true.. there is a reason that sex before marriage is forbidden in Islam.. look at the mess when people do do it before marriage.

    • @Starbers999 I know right? These posts make me laugh.

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  • Women have less than zero sympathy for men they deem inferior.

    So not only do they not want to have sex with you, they wish you had never been born. Actively. The proof of this is in their violent, visceral reaction to sex robots. They reject 80% of men, but those men aren't allowed to have sex bots either, they get NOTHING! THEY SHOULD KILL THEMSELVES! EWWW!!!

    That's women for you. Vicious and cruel on the inside, charming and sweet on the outside about half the time. Give or take.

    • Sex robots would be an awesome solution for people who only want the sex part. It would be a win for everybody. At least, I think it would. Putting things into practise though, we often find out hidden problems.

    • @petsnakereggie Sex robots seem like a quick fix. At the end of the day, a lot of what men are after is intimacy. Of course they also desire sex, but that's a deep drive to pass on their genes, and a robot can't very well do that, so it probably wouldn't feel satisfying.

    • @majorG Only 40% of men pass on their genes anyway, compared to 80% of women. So who are you talking about? You ever look at the suicide rates by gender?

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