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Explaining Rape For People Who Apparently Don’t Know What Rape Is (Male On Female)

Hi. Am I gonna piss people off? Probably, but I really ain’t trying to fuck with people half as hard with this one. Yes, this is male on female since it’s allegedly more common, but if y’all liked it I’ll do a male-on-female one, but it’s not much different.

It's as easy as
It's as easy as "yes" or "no."


While I’ve been on hiatus, I still poke my nose in to see what’s up since this place has questions that make me piss my pants. I’ve noticed an influx of: “was this rape?” questions. It baffles me because 9/10, it’s an obvious case of rape. Feminists would have you believe patriarchy is the blame, but I genuinely think there just aren’t serious discussions about rape. There are fake feminazis that tell people rape can occur if you stare at a person too long, like “mental rape” or some ridiculous shit. I think this garbage distorts people’s views on what is or isn’t rape, so let’s just clear some shit up for people.

If you say no to sex, and someone forces sex upon you, regardless of them being your boyfriend, best friend, or whatever. It’s rape.

Him being close to you or otherwise doesn’t not entitled this person to stick their cock in you. No, it doesn’t matter that you didn’t scream, kick or fight – though I would – it’s still rape.

If you are blackout drunk and wake up to someone fucking you with no recollection of how you got there, it’s rape.

Being blacked out means = you can’t consent to anything. You aren’t mentally even awake to say whether or not this sounds like a good idea. Just because you MAYBE said okay before you blacked out doesn’t mean someone can fuck your unconscious body. Once you’re blacked out you are off limits because you can’t say what you want/if you want the shit to continue.

If someone threatens you, intimidates you, corners you, and pressures you into sex to the point that you believe you can’t say NO.

That’s rape. I shouldn’t have to explain this. This is mental, emotional, and physical manipulation. If you do this, you’re a piece of shit and I hope you fall down a flight of stairs.

WHAT IS NOT RAPE:

Saying no to your boyfriend and then relenting and having sex after he starts touching you and shit.

That’s not rape. You consciously decided after he started touching you (albeit reluctantly) to have sex with him. Just because you initially didn’t want to and then decided to just have sex with him for whatever reason doesn’t mean he forced himself on you.

Agreeing to having drunk sex.

There’s a difference between blacking out and being fucked. If you’re tipsy but fully capable of deciding you want to have a drunk bang is on you. Especially if he’s equally as drunk. You can’t say it’s only HIS fault you two had sex because he has a penis. If you were blacking out and he was tipsy, that’s one thing. But if you’re drunk, he’s drunk, you two fuck, you’re self-aware and active in the sex, there was no rape.

Agreeing to have sex after your boyfriend annoys you.

Listen, there’s a difference between coercion and then your man pushing you a little for sex. I’m not talking about aggressive pushing, but:

“Babe, can we have sex?”

“No.”

“Please?”

“No.”

“I’m really horny.”

“Ugh, no.”

“I’ll eat you out.”

“Ugh … okay, fine.”


Kinda similar to the first one, but I had to make it clear.

Being groped or stared at sexually is NOT FUCKING RAPE.

I can’t believe some people think being touched or stared at is the same as rape, it isn’t. It’s harassment or assault depending on what happens. Unless you’re penetrated you don’t have a case for rape, for the love of god.

The end.

~ Love Jane.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • I loved this actually, when I first saw the title I'm not gonna lie I thought this was gonna be a fake Feminazi thing you described. I was like..."Fuck, here we go again, another one of these." But it turned out really good, and I appreciate you clearing this up for a lot of people who were confused.

    Me personally, I was thinking about doing a my take on something similar to this once. But it was gonna be over the difference between sexual assault and rape. Then explaining how both can be traumatizing and overcoming all that stuff. I will say, even though you said making a male perspective on this will be similar to this one. I think it still needs to be done because it never gets as much justice as a female's perspective. And that saddens me. So I'd love it if you did one for the guys. Also, have an amazing day.

    • Girl, thank you.

  • It's a good take. But I will add that women can rape and sexually harrass men too, it does happen though a lot of men feel they were not because soceity tells them they can't be raped.
    Sexual coercion needs to be made more clear as basically under current rules most women have been raped by their husband or boyfriend.
    I would also add feeling regret for your poor judgement after having sex is not rape.

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  • I am trying to figure out here what motivates you to be such a not job on this sht. It seems to me like you believe you are in charge of everyone’s life and that you feel that you are the great protector such that it makes you feel in control of something. It is almost as if you are filling some huge void you have in your life with this bul$hit crusade that I doubt you have any experience with. I suspect that you grew up in a sheltered life and thus the need to feel like you are doing something real. But that is ok, few can really relate to the street life.

    • *not=nut

    • Not that I am disagreeing with you, but what are you objecting to about her post?

    • @winterfox10 Who said I was objecting to anything? Why would you pull that assertion out of your as_?

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  • As an attorney I've repeatedly had this argument with people and so far this explanation is the closest to being legally correct. I give you an 85%.

    • Can you elaborate on the 15% delta?

    • @backdoorman there's a certain amount of rape that legally won't be considered rape bc it's very hard to convict. A lot of it is heresay. He said she said and no witnesses. So "my boyfriend raped me" when the two of you already have a sexual relationship, you better hope that the rape kit shows that there was force because otherwise it's hard to convict. That's just one example.

    • OK, that helps. Thank you sir.

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  • Disagree:
    1. Saying no to your boyfriend and then relenting and having sex after he starts touching you and shit.

    Being harassed into sex is a sexual assault.

    2. Agreeing to having drunk sex.

    If you are intoxicated/drunk, you cannot consent to sex. This is rape.

    Explaining Rape For People Who Apparently Don’t Know What Rape Is (Male On Female)

    • If what you said was true that would be the end of drunk sex as we know it.

    • If being drunk and agreeing to have sex is rape I can't even count how many times I've been raped.

    • How about you take responsibility instead of just pointing fingers. If you choose to get drunk, and then make drunken choices you later regret, that's on you. You don't fling serious accusations at some guy who did nothing wrong just so you don't have to accept you did something stupid.

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  • I agree that giving in after being pressured isn't really rape per say. But god I wish the person who didn't take no for an answer would git bitten in the balls by a horse.

  • You missed at least one thing in the "not rape" category:

    consenting to rape, and then later regretting having sex.

    I wish I could say I was just being flippant, but in all honesty, the number of girls I've known of who think regretting saying yes (hours, days, weeks, or longer, after the sex ended) is the same thing as rape is actually shocking.

    • feminists also say that if a woman decides it's rape then it's rape

    • @proudpure I don't know any feminists who say that, and I know an awful lot. We no more want to see people falsely accused than we want to see people raped. These are both horrible things to have happen, and no one deserves either. We just don't dictate how that person should feel if they feel they were assaulted.

  • My exes pressured me so much. :(

  • "male on female since it’s allegedly more common, but if y’all liked it I’ll do a male-on-female one, but it’s not much different."

    So different, you even called them the same thing.

  • A decision I took many years ago, that has stood me in good stead, and which I would recommend to any other man - don't have sex with drunk girls.

    You can maybe make exceptions for long term partners, provided of course that it's consensual, but otherwise, swerve.

  • I don't agree with your assessment of rape. And I do not envy you for the vitriol heading your way.

    • What's not to agree with?

    • @Lionessgoddess I think we mostly agree. I just have issues with the view that rape happens in a relationship. Just a week or so ago, a woman posted about her boyfriend raping her. It was one of those things where he wanted it and she didn't. So she went along with it. She asked the forum was she raped. By this definition she could have been. She claimed she loved this man, yet was considering filing charges. These charges could have ruined her boyfriend's life. Maybe this is because I am older, I am not sure. But I love my girlfriend. Giving her oral sex much of the time is not giving me pleasure. I do it because I love her. I am willing to bet that there are times when I want sex, she is not in the mood, but she does it because she loves me. If you cannot provide sex for your partner when you are not in the mood, you have no business having a partner. Because I don't know what that is. But that sure isn't love.

    • you had up to "if you cannot provide sex for your partner when you are not in the mood, you have no business having a partner. Because I don't know what that is. But that sure isn't love. " We all have "taken one for the team" here and there, but to expect sex on demand from a lover who is just not in the mood, due any reason is selfish and has nothing to do with love..

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  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnM83Cp0kQ8


    My country did this series and I think it made something real petty sound a little rapieish... lol..

  • You know what I hate? I hate it in videos when women are having men of authority (mostly police officers) attempt to subdue them and they start screaming and crying and screaming the word 'rape' over and over. Literally watched a video the other day of some young big mouth bitch who was refusing to show her I. D. and refusing to get out of the car, and the male officer was more polite and patient than I would have been, but eventually he had to forcibly remove her from the car and she started screaming bloody murder and crying out for help because he was 'raping' her. It boiled my blood because I couldn't imagine being an ACTUAL rape victim and seeing some snotty little bitch throw the word around like it meant nothing.

  • Let's completely set aside cases in which one party is drunk, high, unconscious--or otherwise deemed unable to consent.

    Do you believe that having sex...
    A) is considered rape until the woman grants the man explicit permission, or...
    B) only becomes rape once the woman responds in the negative or expresses resistance of any kind?

    In other words, if a man penetrates a woman, and she never said a word, never offered any physical resistance, never gave the man any reason to believe that she dissented whatsoever--is it rape? You might say that it depends on whether or not she appeared to be "into it" (via body language or what have you), but surely you understand why we couldn't build an entire legal system on something as subjective as self-reported, perceived interest of the other party.

    You gave a fine case for what is and isn't rape in various specific circumstances, but failed to answer the fundamental question as having to do with rape: Does sex default to rape until proven otherwise, or is sex considered consensual until proven otherwise?

    • : Does sex default to rape until proven otherwise, or is sex considered consensual until proven otherwise? In the cases I've seen it is definitely the latter, if you have been raped ypu need to bring a case, give evidence and prove that it was all non consensual, in the midst of having your lifestyle questioned, your sexual past disected your character took apart and analysed, intimate and humiliating details discussed on front of a room of strangers, with your rapist among them It's a gruelling process to say the least, which understandably a lot of woman/men avoid or are intimidated by But if you can not convince the judge and jury that it was non consensual it's ruled out... therefore it's considered consensual until proven beyond reasonable doubt otherwise.

  • Great mytake, and I would love to see you do one for female on male, male on male, and female on female

  • Question:
    Is it rape if you threaten someone with a machete?

    NOT ACCORDING TO COURT!

    nypost.com/.../

    She was let off with a misdemeanor for breaking and entering, IIRC. Point is, she wasn't charged with rape or sexual assault.

    And regarding having sex drunk: let's be honest. We have all done shit drunk that we didn't remember afterwards. It is perfectly possible to give consent and not remembering it due to alcohol. For the record, according to several accounts, I was solvikg second degree equiations systems when I was first blackout drunk 10 minutes before I was hauled away by a group of friends after vomiting on the floor. If I can do that, you can convincingly give consent.

  • 99% correct. Boyfriend, mate, or whatever you have consensual relationship with in past and you do not fight or physically object is not rape but could fall under domestic violence.

    Not comprehensive but a very effective and informative wake up call for those who do not know.

    Bottom line. Take responsibility for your actions, don't blame others. Be a strong woman means knowing the difference between playful and violence.

  • Great take but the last one with the example is kinda is rape like the example you gave she did agree but i have done this but i didn't want to it but my ex would of done it anyway cause she loved raping me so i just kinda said ugh okay but it was still rape so... The last one is rape if the person rapes you mutiple times and you knew they were gonna do it anyway and you feel powerless so you just say yes instead of struggling, that is still rape.

  • I daresay physical resistance is necessary for it to be rape, just because it could be interpreted as playing hard to get when a girl just gives a verbal no.

  • I don't know if I agree with this only penetration being rape thing. I'm sure this is how it's defined legally, but rape entails so much more than just putting part A in slot B.

    • You could honestly be correct.

    • Girls love sex and it feels amzing for them - so how can they be raped? Like girls are just as horny as guys and want sex just as much. I mean i couldn't be raped by even an average looking girl as I am a sex addict and love sex, the same as women. I just don't get it.

    • @Jason407 Fuck off rape apologetic

  • Apparently, many men still don't understand that not every woman can fight back, even make a sound of dissaproval because most of the time they're so shocked and it is even called somehow but I forgot that but you can find it on the net.

    +1

    • Then grow a spine?

    • -.- Most women fall into sort of a shock in this situation, read something about it.

    • DO something about it!

  • Very true. Thank you, Mrs Jane. You are always so informative. :)

  • I agree

  • Tfw you’re mind raped during a staring contest cuz you know logic I guess.

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