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Girls... your guy is going to watch porn-- get over it.

This shouldn't take too long.

So something I've noticed with mind-numbing frequency while here on GaG

is how often there are posts from females where they elucidate (poorly) their concern that their husband/boyfriend/guy is watching porn, or has watched porn, or porns all over the porned porn. Porning the place up. And they think that porn is bad. These questions are usually finished, al terminado, with "What should I do?" or some similar variant.

Girls... your guy is going to watch porn-- get over it.

...Yawn.

Um... you don't *DO* anything, other than get over yourself.

This is part of a really unhealthy mindset whereby people think they are supposed to, or are even allowed to, own their partner and what their partner wants, does, and desires. Even sexually.

Girls... your guy is going to watch porn if he wants to. It doesn't really matter if ahead of time you let him know that you don't like it "and he did it anyway." Again, refer back to the ^ last paragraph. You don't own him, or his eyesight. Your personal insecurities are not his fault. If it's really that big a deal for you, yes, PLEASE break up with him, please dear God, so that he can find a different girl who is not batshit crazy and overbearing and controlling.

It's normal and natural for people to want to have sex with, and be sexually attracted to, many other people rather than just one, and yes, that often is why we watch porn. Get over it. It's human nature. YOU may not feel that way (though many girls do also watch porn), and bully for you. Obviously, if he's watching porn, he doesn't feel that way.

And accept the obvious truth: You aren't going to find a guy who actually allows you to dictate whether he watches porn or not. Enjoy being alone, if you do think you can do that.

Girls... your guy is going to watch porn-- get over it.

~ Thaaaanks. Hugs and kisses. #getoverit

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  • Yeah, I know a guy whose live-in girlfriend went into a rage and accused him of cheating because he was looking at porn. He finally wised up and left her, after which she made false accusations and had him arrested. He spent a night in jail until the cops figured out she was not credible.

    • What do you mean "false accusations?" Of what?

    • Groping her kids.

    • Oh I see. She sounds like a fucking cunt, then, if that's the case.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Lol exactly. Only women who this bothers are insane insecure ones

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  • You're an idiot if you think porn is good. When a guy jerks off to porn that is one fuck that I don't get because he already shot his load and then isn't interested in me. And when he does fuck me he is thinking about these porn bitches and not me. If you are single jerk off to the sluts all you want, no one gives a fuck. But if you are with me you are with me 100%, and that is in sex too. If you watch that trash then you will find your stuff on the curb where I will be kicking your ass to.

    • if you want to fuck him make it clear to him you do don't just complain about him getting one off after he did that.

    • Ya I agree! I used to watch porn until I realized that my load was going to nothing. I was ejaculating over something fake and meaningless. If Im gonna jerk off, it should mean something!

    • I agree with you @TrixiePooch

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  • You know I thought this was inherent but apparently not. I watch probably more porn than my boyfriend so I'd be pissed if he told me what to do.

  • I watch porn with an analytical mind set. I tend to watch it like a movie and discuss it with my partner. Ex. What would be fun to try? What is realistic? What is faked?

  • I think the solution is to increase sexual activity in the relationship so there's less of a relevance for porn. It's not controlling the other person, it's providing what they clearly are looking for, which is actually your defining role in a relationship in the first place. Otherwise it's just a friendship. If they want it a lot more frequently than you can handle then have no qualms about porn. Only have qualms if your lack of involvement in their sex life makes them look for sex outside the scope of the relationship.

  • Loool I watch more porn than husband so I totally understand *-*

    but I still get insecure because...

    I think the problem is you feel like you can never change into different woman/man and obviously you get scared thinking what if you were never his preference in the first place.

    You just want to be perceived as the sexiest person to your partner. :-)

    • And it's possible that you're not.

  • It's kind of interesting, because I see a similarity between the girls you mention, and the guys I dated who couldn't handle me being bisexual.

    When they found out I was attracted to girls, I could NOT dissuade them of the notion that I was going to cheat on them with a girl. It was like they were convinced that since I was attracted to both guys and girls I couldn't be satisfied unless I had both. Let's just say the relationship didn't last.

    I'm sort of seeing a similar mindset here. "My partner is having sexual thoughts about someone who isn't ME." Plain jealousy, in other words. Everyone wants to know they're first and foremost in their partner's mind, and when confronted with hints or even suspicions that they might not be, a lot of people get angry and hurt.

    I can sort of see the line of thought. "S/he has sexual thoughts about other girls, which means s/he is NOT having those sexual thoughts about ME, which means s/he is fantasizing about cheating on me, which means s/he WOULD cheat on me if given the chance, which means s/he IS cheating on me!"

    Pretty silly in my opinion, but jealousy isn't always logical.

    I always took the view that thinking about something and actually doing it are two different things. Hell, I know that most of my hottest fantasies are things I would NEVER do in real life, and would HATE if actually happened.

    Porn is fake. It's just as fake as the action-blockbuster, or as the sappy romance flick, or the angsty Lifetime movie. They all speak to different emotions, but none of them have anything to do with reality. Your man is about as likely to REALLY get together with the big-boobed porn actress as you are to REALLY get together with the handsome male lead from that romance movie. (And the porn actress probably has a suckier life too.)

    There's also the fact that speaking against porn would in my case make me a bit of a hypocrite... As an artist, I sometimes draw erotic art, and sometimes I draw erotic art for money. If I had a boyfriend or girlfriend or SO, it'd be pretty backwards if I had just finished some nude fetish drawing for a guy, and then turned around and bitched at my SO for watching porn. ^_^

    • Thanks for an involved, rational comment.

  • I never had a problem with him watching porn. In fact, we watch together.

    • Nice.

    • doesn't it feel weird? I tried it with my ex too but it felt kinda forced and unnatural. I watch porn too, my boyfriend (and my ex then) does too but I would feel weird watching together

    • @Maebo you have to find porn you BOTH like. that makes all the difference.

  • I love to watch porn so I see no problem with any man doing it. Just as long as its not a addiction and they can jerk it sometimes to my pic its all good

  • I don't care if a guy watches porn I do to though I read moreso than watch so long as he doesn't care about my book boyfriends. But if its all over the place then we have a problem. I don't want to see naked ladies everywhere anymore then they want to see naked men. 🙄

  • If she doesn't want you watching porn, she should get ready to do it anytime you want it, any way you want it, and be as attractive and in shape as a porn actress. It's already ecpected of guys, I don't see the issue.

  • Hilarious take!! News flash, we aren't animals!

    • Get over it!

    • Well... yes, you are.

    • STOP being Hilarious again!! 😂😂

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  • media.giphy.com/media/yHUiExmU40A4U/giphy.gif
    If you jack off to pixels on a screen instead of f***ing your girl you're a pathetic loser.

    Porn is for weak men who can't get a girl, losers basically.
    And men who continue to watch it while in a relationship have a serious problem. Porn addiction is a recognised mental illness according to the British NHS.

    If a woman doesn't want her man to watch porn that's completely reasonable, she doesn't have to accept degeneracy. Especially from a person who's aroused by sadistic and masochistic behaviour.

    • Additiction =/= watching it occasionally, get that through your thick skull... nobody here thinks addiction of any kind is acceptable

    • @Harsh_Ch When did I equate occasional watching with addiction? learn to read.

    • Posting it in a Mytake whose context is meant for occasional users is stupid, learn to read.

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  • I agree. At least in part. Though personal insecurities can be massively influenced for good or bad by partners and friends/family. So don't be to dismissive of that part.
    I view watching porn the same way that I do any other form of media or digital entertainment.
    What always worries me is the amount of girls that invade theirs partners privacy to find out

    • Invading privacy is never okay.

    • Definitely and a relationship is based on trust. You clearly don't trust your partner if you have to go digging around in their phone

  • Well i know he watched and a lot of times we watch together
    and i think every girl would know that her boyfriend watches it and those who get mad at it dont make sense to me at least

  • The person who posted this is a genius. I agree with what he said 100 percent, he says the same thing as I do, but the difference he says it and explains it a lot better than me. He brings up good points that I am going to remember to use.

    • Thanks.

  • Sounds about right, but idc.

    • You don't care about what

  • i know this guy im living with does watch it , and im fine with it

    • Is this guy your boyfriend or just a roommate?

    • kinda roommate but not boyfriend,

  • well said brother!

    I can't believe how prude (or at least they try to be) women are nowadays. they talk about porn like porn is a narcotic drug or something.

    of course those question dont beat one that I came across a couple of months ago. this girl sounded so ignorant, sheltered and unstable as she went as far as claiming that all men who watch porn are potential rapists that can't control themselves. is like seriously, wtf is this world coming to?

    • Dude the world has always been crazy. Nothing new under this sun.

    • true but i'm pretty sure the people who made those type of assumptions are the real crazy ones

  • Watch porn leave me alone
    I'll watch myself in the mirror be prettier then any porno
    His arm will tire
    Watch porn please leave me alone
    We are good

    Girls... your guy is going to watch porn-- get over it.

    • Over 90% of all girls/women cannot come close to measuring up in looks or body to most of the girls in the porn industry. They are cherry picked for their looks and their sexy bodies more so than their ability to act like the more conventional movie stars/actors. Also a mans arms will never get tired of masturbating to erotic and sensual images or videos of porn women and they will never run out of new material. There must be literally multi-billions of porn images on the world wide web & new ones added daily. Most boys today start masturbating around the age of 11 or 12 and probably 90% of them like to watch porn or nude images of sexy girls when they are getting off. Girls might as well accept it as a fact, its not going away.

    • @mobligator Stfu

    • You look like you are dying.

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  • No, just the weak ones. A steady diet of fake-sex porn will ruin your outlook and view on what real and normal man-woman romantic sex is and is about. It's a total fail.
    Don't believe it? Just look at all the 'sex-widows' on here - their guy would rather jerk off to porn that be with her. It's really short sighted.

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