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Why Clothes On Curvy And Average Women Always Look More Sexual

Why clothes on curvy and average women always look more sexual, and why you shouldn't judge women on how they dress because of it.

The take that I didn't know was needed, but one that is deserved. So, here we are.

Right, let's get one thing straight. I do not endorse this new age Tess Holiday body positivity garbage. It supports this "woke" political correctness trash that simply gives SJWs a platform to be relevant for once in their lives who look and feel miserable. Do I wish people would stop trashing others for their appearance? Sure. But, like most I assume, I do not want to be told what is attractive for the sake of feelings. I am not claiming that one body type is more attractive than another. Everything has its own perks and its own shortcomings. As my savior, Ben Shapiro, once claimed: facts over feelings. Let's get to the facts.

The same dress dilemma

Why Clothes On Curvy And Average Women Always Look More Sexual

This is a model that appears close to the thin ideal that both most men and women constantly seek. She's not underweight. She has breasts. She's fine. I like this body, and it's healthy. What matters about this photo is that I like this dress, and I would definitely wear it. You'd easily see me in this as a casual look. Unfortunately or fortunately though, I don't have this body. I have something closer to the next photo's.

Why Clothes On Curvy And Average Women Always Look More Sexual

Ashley Graham. Not obese, perhaps slightly overweight if we're going off BMI, but super endearing and charming anyway. She has full breasts and a curve to her waist that gives her an hourglass figure. Her chest even stick out of the dress in such an obvious manner. The contrast is huge between this photo and the model's, which brings me to my next point.

Why is this girl considered elegant, cute, decent?

Why Clothes On Curvy And Average Women Always Look More Sexual

But this girl is described as trashy, inappropriate, and slutty?

Why Clothes On Curvy And Average Women Always Look More Sexual

See, the issue is that they're both wearing bikinis, but obviously one is not like the other. The girl with the brown bikini can walk in a mall with ripped jeans and a tight shirt with her cleavage busting out because her breasts are just that big, and be stared at as a sexual fiend. While someone like Gigi Hadid can wear something as equally "revealing" and not be scrutinized for it at all. I'm not saying those kind of bodies are not attractive, or cannot be sexual, but the girls that have full tits and a small waist are always the ones that are told what to wear, how to dress for "their body type", and most importantly, deemed as promiscuous.

These are the kind of girls you avoid like the plague because they aren't "wifey" material but they're the first choice to fuck. They're "alpha", they're "great sex", they have overflowing "sex appeal". I've heard it all before. If this is not your preference or thinking, this isn't directed at you, but I understand that a majority of men think lowly of women who dress too "sexy", even though it isn't the clothes that cause this perception, but the woman's own body.

So, what's the problem? And what's the point?

Why Clothes On Curvy And Average Women Always Look More Sexual

I don't want to be limited in my wardrobe because I'm considered too sexy, even when that isn't my intention and I don't feel that way. Of course there are some nights where I go out with friends or want to feel desired by a man, but on most days, I just throw on a v-neck, and I'm considered an easy fuck when I've never even had sex in the first place. I'm the gossip of the locker room. I shouldn't have worn "just a sports bra" in a gym. But no, other women can. I don't condemn men for the attention, I don't think a passing compliment is harassment, I even smile and strike up a conversation at times. But I'm over apologizing for how I look, and I don't think losing weight and a body that I love is the solution to make it all go away. I'm sure a lot of women who aren't model thin feel this way, and it isn't just a problem exclusive to this body type. So, don't scrutinize us for wanting to dress in clothes that thinner women can dress in just because it looks different, and more sexual on a frame with big breasts or an arching hip.

All in all.

Why Clothes On Curvy And Average Women Always Look More Sexual

People are human at the end of the day, and while sex is great I'm sure, take a chance to get to know the person in the bikini or dress a bit before you turn to your friend and giggle about how slutty that girl looks and must be, or how she should dress more appropriately due to an insecurity of your own. I like body positivity in that you should feel comfortable with yourself if you are. If you want to lose weight, lose weight! I'm here for it. If you don't want to, that's fine too. If you agree with this sentimentality, then apply it to yourself and don't bash those with body types that you don't have, and therefore, you don't understand. Every body has its own vices and virtues, and everybody is not how they initially seem. Don't believe that? Ashley Graham (the model above) abstained from sex for years before she met her husband. Thanks for reading, didn't expect you to read all of it, and thanks for hearing me out.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I think the reason why some women get judged differently even when wearing the same outfit is because most clothes don't fit all body types. And that makes one woman look great and the other look bad one way or another. The woman just needs to find out which clothes fit her body. But not so others would find her attractive, but for herself. Most people wear what society tells them is the norm rather than expressing themselves freely.

    • I mean, Ashley Graham in both those photos fills out the clothes nicely, even arguably better the model. Would you say that those clothes don't fit her?

  • It’s got nothing to do with the clothes.

    It relates directly to sexuality: skinny body types accommodate a more romantic attraction with a good sexual and endearment balance.
    “Thicker” types tend to elicit more raw but ultimately hollow sexual feelings.

    I don’t think it’s to do with clothes or any of that, it’s just straight up how our sexuality works.

    • I completely agree with you. I understand the reasoning as to why, but I just don't want those hollow feelings that I constantly receive. I'd like to change that without changing myself.

Most Helpful Girls

  • This whole discussion reminds me of a story I saw several years ago.

    There was a woman who worked for some major bank in New York City. She dressed for work in a skirt suit and moderate high heels... sort of what you'd expect for a female banker.

    She was fired because her manager said that she dressed in a manner that distracted her coworkers.

    She ended up suing the bank and won.

    • That woman was probably curvy or average. A similar situation happened with a kindergarten teacher who wore regular dresses to teach.

  • In my country it's said curvy and skinny girls shouldn't wear the same clothes because it don't give the same result.
    Like if you have small breast it's ok to wear a low cut shirt or tight shirt but if you have big breast you shouldn't wear a tight shirt neither a low cut shirt because it would look too much.

    • What country is that? Because I hear the same thing from my maternal family.

    • France

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  • A few things: That first woman does not appear to be a normal weight. She appears underweight.. especially for how tall she is. Ashley Graham is obese. Nothing wrong with that, she is a beautiful girl.. but she is obese. This just shows your obscured view of what underweight, normal, overweight and obesity actually looks like on a individual.

    To answer your question, which a lot of people here aren't seeing.. it has to do with exposure. In the first dress comparison, the slimmer women's breasts aren't as exposed as Ashley's.. because Ashley has bigger breasts. This is why people would view it as more sexual.. not because one is more curvy than the other, but because one is more EXPOSED than the other.

    Same with triangle bikinis. You're literally this close to seeing the curvier woman's nipples.. versus the smaller woman above her. Her bikini is doing a better job of covering her breasts. I'm done here..

  • Perception depends on the person.

    • I can't offer a more useful comment other than my captain obvious statement. I see both types of women being sexy for different reasons.

  • I think the clothes look equally sexual on each woman, but obviously a woman with bigger breasts is going to look more sexual. That just how people perceive things.

  • That black dress is a cherry bomb. Love it on her.

  • That is not thin ideal that is BMI wise underweight I’m sure and those are implants not curves.

    I’m personally not against that thinness, but i know for a fact personally, most people would not agree its ideal. I’m very confident in this lol

  • I noticed this first hand when I first came to Japan. Most girls are quite slim and no one will bat an eye even if they wear very short skirts or shorts or other sorts of clothing.

    I'm not saying I've great legs or anything, but my thighs are thick and I'm pear-shaped. Even when wearing a regular uniform at work I get stared left and right and a mid-length skirt seems to be very eye-catching. Again, I don't think this is because I'm a foreigner; it's not my face people are looking at in those moments.

  • The way I see it, we all have pros and cons we need to work around. Everyone has something they struggle with, that's just life. Some people are naturally fat, some people are plagued with depression, some people have low IQs. When I see larger people, I see a lack of effort. I see apathy. I see someone who's unwilling to put in the hard work required to slove their problems. And that's what's unappealing.
    I have my own flaws, and believe me, it's a long list, but I work against my own nature to be the best that I can. For my taste, I want a woman with a similar drive for self-improvement. So for me, my ideal woman has a similiar body type to me (fit) because it's an outward reflection of that drive.

  • Never really noticed that... I remember at my very first job at a beach shop, the owner asked me to stop wearing short skirts. I was confused and pointed out the other girls wearing short skirts too. The owner literally told me that when girls are petite, short skirts are cute but on tall women, it looks too sexy because of my long legs.
    So maybe people have this view of different shapes in general?

    The first dress just doesn’t look like it fits the model right.

  • I think it's because curves are supposed to signify a woman whereas being underdeveloped usually means a child. There isn't anything attractive about a woman with a child's body.

  • Tight clothes are more revealing and thus more sexual. If a curvy woman shows her curves, that's sexual. There are so many options that aren't sexual that curvy women can wear, and it should be obvious that the same clothes on different body types give different impressions.
    Just wear clothes appreciate to your body type.
    If a thin woman wears clothes that show her body, then it's more sexual as well.

    And the girl in the brown bikini can be described as trashy because she is wearing a bikini that is just too small. It covers up less % of her boobs then the other, it pushes her boobs up, and sits on a different position on her hips. Don't compare apples to bananas.

  • this depends on what one finds attractive. i prefer skinny girls so to me dresses etc always look better on them

    • That... wasn't the point at all. But, okay.

    • its very much the point though. yes some outfits are dexigned to show off curves but if you dont like curves then so what

    • agreed, only fat girls prefer fat girls, and even they really don't

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  • too many creases and curves... thats why

  • Yeah I appreciate the curves and how clothes accentuate it. But I wouldn't think them to be slutty or w/e. Just sexy.

  • The first girl is not fine. She is cleary underweight and anorexic. How can you not see thia.

  • Tight clothes in general give sexual vibes because they outline the wearer’s body, male or female.

    While “curvy” and “average” women are considered sexually appealing by societal standards.

    • Have you considered that some women are of a larger size (higher body weight, larger breasts, stomach, hips, larger everything) but don't have a 'curvy shape', whereas other women might be thin but have a curvy shape (i. e. curving inwards at the waist), like Candice Swanepoel, the VS model? What about those women?

    • @xyz94 Many guys find them attractive too.

  • As a latina with hereditary wide hips, good ass, small waist and flat stomach, I agree 100% with this take. What it looks normal in someone thinner it looks kind of sexual on us. I had people approach me while doing light exercise to tell me that they liked me. Without even hear me talk, they just like how my body looks from behind. They think I would fall easy.

    Well, surprise. I'm very shy, book smart and I don't like your attention.

  • I largely agree with your take which appears to be saying 'dress appropriately, especially if you're a big girl ' .
    Brown bikini girl definitely needs to hear this.

    • I think the point she was making was the exact opposite. She was saying don’t judge a plus size woman for wearing the same thing a skinny girl would, just because the plus size girl would come off as more sexual because all her assets are bigger. If your going to judge a plus size girl for wearing something a skinny girl would wear, then either judge them the same or don’t judge them at all.

    • If that was her point, I'm not sure I agree. There are obvious reasons why a plus size and a skinny girl should dress differently sometimes.

    • Prezzi understood my point clearly. The girl in a brown bikini is not fat because her waist is much smaller than her hips. It's ideal. I think you are used to seeing airbrushed, completely smooth photos of surgically enhanced women on social media and television, that this is simply different and is automatically thrown in the "fat" compartment. She's not obese either. If the spectrum goes from thin, average, fat then I wonder where you would place Tess Holiday on that scale.

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  • Both of those bikinis are trashy. lol. I don't discriminate by weight, height, body type... I discriminate by horrible fashion choices.

    • They're just bikinis? What do you mean?

  • Nice shoutout to Ben Shapiro. I agree with the two of you.

  • Then don't judge us on appearnce either. Meaning jersey, beanie, wallet, status, car, etc. Yeeeeah riiiight. Now c'mon girls, HIT ME WITH THE TD's! Lololol...

    • Judging fashion sense is not congruent with judging someone's body type or material wealth. I don't understand your argument? You're comparing apples to oranges.

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