Sexciting Talk: Pleasuring Your Man

Want your man to go crazy over you? Want to crank up the heat in your lovemaking? Well, talking is a surefire sexy way of doing it!

Usually, women are not ready to be proactive in stimulating an almost barbaric explosion of passion during sex. They prefer to be passive and respond, not take the lead. This makes the man wary of suggesting anything that she may consider out of bounds. But when she does the suggesting, the couple achieves a totally different level of intimacy!

So, if you want to enjoy unimaginably pleasurable climaxes while having sex with your man, talk dirty and electrify the atmosphere! Women should realize that men react most strongly to visual, auditory and tactile stimuli. That is, as far as sex is concerned, they like to look, touch - and hear! And when their visual, tactile and auditory senses are all pleasured at the same time, they are really, interested!

Many women dress up, or rather, down, for sex and they touch too. But if only they would also talk dirty, they would make sex really hot.

What exactly is sexy talk?

It is just describing sex in as great detail as possible. Then the magic of sex passes beyond just sensation. But a woman has to be at ease with herself to arouse and enjoy eroticism with her partner. She cannot afford to be shy and reticent because everything depends on her sense of drama, her timing, and the words she chooses. She has to go by the kind of relationship she and her partner share and she needn't use words like 'pussy' and 'cock', if she isn't comfortable with them. She needn't use slang either.

But she should be mischievous and change her style as the situation demands. On the other hand, if she is not the kind of person to use words like 'pussy' and 'cock,' these words coming out of her mouth in a frenzied moment might just fling her partner over the edge.

Sexy talk entices only during sex. If a woman uses lewd words in her ordinary conversation, she only seems vulgar. During the sexual act, such talk acts as a sex toy does, as a verbal appetizer that you can bounce to the tune of. It acts as an hors d'oeuvre to tease your man and make him more horny.

"Tell him what you want him to do, explain your sexual fetishes to him and watch him become a raging bull!"

One way of using sexy talk to make sex hotter is to explain your sexual fantasies to your partner in explicit terms then act on him and he starts acting on you. You must go neither too fast nor too slow as you draw him verbal pictures. And you should be participating. Your word pictures won't have as much effect as they could unless you are enjoying them too.

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So, if you are masturbating or concentrating on what is happening between the two of you right then and there and you start on your word pictures, the sex will be all the better. Tell him what you want him to do, explain your sexual fetishes to him and watch him become a raging bull!

You want him to pleasure you with words too? Then arouse him by being as descriptive as you can be. D...r...a...w your lewd words out. If you aren't comfortable saying words like the F-word, practice saying them before a mirror. Make a list of the words you want to use and say them again and again until they feel easy on your tongue.

Another point to be noted is that you should make your voice as sexy and as different from your normal tone as possible. Your normal voice will just put both you and your partner off because it will not fit into the mood of the moment. A sexy voice is a resonant, flute-like one. Practice it before trying it out on you partner.

Describe what you are doing right then. If you are caressing his thigh, describe it and how you feel as you stroke it.

Nicole is a student and she says, "It is great when you can make your man squirm by using your mouth to talk and also to...! I love the feeling of control it gives me!"

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Most Helpful Girl

  • That's creepy that the student has my middle name...

    Does that mean I'm naturally predisposed to being a could sexy talker?

    I like talking dirty, but I have a hard time not droppin the f bomb so much. It's just difficult. I guess I should practice saying something, without using the f word...

    I sound like a bad porn star when I talk sexy...

    which turns me off....

    and I think it turns him off too....

Most Helpful Guy

  • That's what I'm TALKING about!

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  • This is great. I love hearing it from a mans perspective. You never want to be too bold- but I think men like a bolder woman when it comes to sexual desires don't they?

  • Michael Not all woman are passive but lets face it the older you get the more confidence and experience you have! Agreed? I am very comfortable with my sexuality, body and have no problem talking aloud during sex............it is definitely a turn on for both partners. However, Mike not all men are aggressive and not all men like when the woman they love and respect talk dirty.

    So please do not genderize woman..................there are many woman who don't lie like Donna the Dead!

  • The trick is to MEAN what you say. If you're "acting", it'll show. Just think about what you want to do, then tell him. THEN, tell him what you want him to do to you. And, you can use classier words for your naughty bits. I think it's the mental pic that will wind him up anyway. Just be descriptive and, like he said: Speak sloooooooowly, softly, and a little deeper than normal. Sort of like you just woke up.

    I'm one of the shy ones. Sent my guy into orbit when I braved up. LOL

  • I always wondered how to talk dirty without sounding like a porn star. Great advice.

  • WOW. the best article I have read on this site!

  • nice to hear it from a man

  • Great take. Even though this is old. (2007Ish)