Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
*You might consider this principal to filter out predators, players and hit-and-runs. Adjust the numbers to suit the situation but don't just randomly give away away your treasure.. I call it The 10 Date Rule. A gradual walking the bases gives a relationship time to develop and users to lose interest. This will sound "procedural" but It controls the flow of intimacy, sets a value on you and causes them to show discipline.
*Remember the eternal truth. Sex is something men WANT and girls POSSESS. Modern culture wants to deny this. But we are not equally yoked. Don't use sex as a door prize. Integrate it into growing a long term relationship. It's the number and quality of dates, rather than time, that should matter. By dates, I mean real public dating, restaurants, shows, sports, etc. He drives and pays; which helps set your value signals his dedication. He should EARN it. You, not he, sets the pace of walking the bases as you develop the relationship. These steps are a baseline to revise in as need be.
*The first 2 dates are the "verbal negotiations"; the preliminary interview. The second may end with a kiss at the door if you like him. That's when YOU have decided "go or no" to advance.
*The next dates (3 and 4) may end with returning to his place. You want to see how he lives. If he lives with his parents, STOP! You do not want to date a dependent child. If he has room mates, be cautious. At his place, making out in front of the Jumbotron with caressing above the waist; flesh to flesh if you like him and feel comfortable with it.
*Date 5, below the waist "exploration", not in his bedroom. This is when you begin to cement the relationship by making him cum from a handjob. Dress for easy access and be prepared to mop up.
*Date 6 is a repeat of date 5. But if HE goes for oral, you might let him. If he puts some heart into it, reciprocate, but wait on that until next time so it's not some sort of "deal". Do not give a man oral until/unless he has first given it to you (if you want it).
*Date 7, take him to your bed. Mutual oral, fully undressed. If he starts to make a move toward intercourse, let him know you aren't ready for that yet. It's important that you control progress.
*Date 8 and 9 Same thing. Naked mutual oral in his bed. Shower together afterward. If he stays over, have breakfast with him. If he gets pushy, you can stop the action and you lose nothing. Until now, you have just done fiddling. It doesn't "count".
**This is the moment of decision, go or no for next time.
*Date 10, do the deed if you are ready. Do not rely on him to have a condom or lube. You will already know what size to buy. Also have personal lube on hand in case you need it.
*If he can't stay with the program, he is not a keeper. Lots of guys expect you to lead with sex but all that is going to do is run up your "number". "Giving it up" quickly will not cement a relationship because they will know you are "easy". And guess what? When guys decide they want to get serious, they will want a detailed sexual resume and body count and will walk away if it is more than a few. Better you sleep alone than run up a guy's score.
*As I said, this is a principle. A guideline to separate the wheat from the chaff. Adjust it as feel appropriate. There will be those that drop out. They will be mistakes you didn't make.
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1 0Brilliant!!!
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