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Girl-- your guy is going to watch porn... Get over it.

This shouldn't take too long.

So something I've noticed with mind-numbing frequency while here on GaG

is how often there are posts from females where they elucidate (poorly) their concern that their husband/boyfriend/guy is watching porn, or has watched porn, or porns all over the porned porn. Porn everywhere. Porning the place up. And they think that porn is bad. These questions are usually finished, al terminado, with "What should I do?" or some similar variant.

Girl-- your guy is going to watch porn... Get over it.

...Yawn.

Um... you don't *DO* anything, other than get over yourself.

This is part of a really unhealthy mindset whereby people think they are supposed to, or are even allowed to, own their partner and what their partner wants, does, and desires. Even sexually.

Girls... your guy is going to watch porn if he wants to. It really doesn't matter if ahead of time you let him know that you don't like it "and he did it anyway." Again, refer back to the ^ last paragraph. You don't own him, or his eyesight. Your personal insecurities are not his fault. If it's really that big a deal for you, yes, PLEASE break up with him, please dear God, so that he can find a different girl who is not batshit crazy and overbearing and controlling.

It's normal and natural for people to want to have sex with, and be sexually attracted to, many other people rather than just one, and yes, that often is why we watch porn. Get over it. It's human nature. YOU may not feel that way (though many girls do also watch porn), and bully for you. Obviously, if he's watching porn, he doesn't feel that way.

And accept the obvious truth: You aren't going to find a guy who actually allows you to dictate whether he watches porn or not. Enjoy being alone, if you do think you can do that.

Girl-- your guy is going to watch porn... Get over it.


~ Thaaaanks. Hugs and kisses. #getoverit

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  • I honestly don't see the issue of watching porn that some people have... I mean, so long as they aren't excessively doing it to the point that it is either preventing them from getting things done, or ignoring the significant other to watch it, then why not? It's just entertainment for the most part, an eye appeal for a momentary bout of pleasure. I'd actually much rather have my guy watch porn then go to a strip joint. At least this way he isn't physically tempted from an attainable being to cheat. Heck, I'd still watch porn if i was dating. Maybe even invite my guy to watch with me. To me, it's really no different then when you're watching a movie and a sex scene happens. What? Are you going to rush to the remote and fast forward? No! Because it's not a big deal. And if he gets his rocks off watching it? Eh, at least we can laugh about it lol. Most people feel that watching porn means that their significant other is emotionally cheatijng on them. When in actuality, whether male or female, the person watching isn't even focused on the individual their watching really, but the action of sex itself. It's hot! I don't care if big-boobed Barbie or Hugely hung Harry is on the screen, but their Amazon position thrusting is fucking amazing! Of course, this often gets me directed the dark side of pornhub, but that's another story lol. All in all, people need to relax with this issue and find that If they worry about things as little as watching porn, then maybe their relationship isn't as solid as they think. Maybe some soul searching is due...

    • So, just how many 'porn-widows' show up here on GAG? Their man is jerking off to porn instead of doing her? Oh, it's still all great then, huh? Let us know how this works out for you.

    • @Brownseye57 As I stated in my post, it's a matter of convenience and control that makes it fine. I mean, any partner is going to have days where they may not be in the mood, busy, or too tired. Maybe said other is off somewhere else even. So if the scenario permits it, why not? But like I said again, if their watching is causing riffs in the relationship or is taking too much of their time away, then it becomes an issue. Sex is natural and fun, and watching it behind a screen is nothing. So if one wants to watch it go ahead. Much like when people like thriller movies. Doesn't mean they're going to go off robbing banks anytime soon. It's the same with porn, so long as you're not a preteen monkey about it, you're good. Doesn't mean their about to go off looking for big titted betty either. Anyone in a strong relationship isn't going to be so insecure enough to demand the other not watch porn. When in reality, porn is just entertainment. Now if said other is abusing it to be a creep, or goes out and cheat, then that's a whole new issue. And the relationship was doomed to begin with. But if you and you're partner are grown ass people, and communicate properly, have fun with it! Maybe even find tricks to do with each other to keep things spicy. Or watch it together. If I don't want to have sex when my partner does, or I'm too busy, I'd hate to have them feel pent up. So if he needs some material to get off, good on ya. Of course not everyone is ok with this, but I was only talking from my perspective on it. I even watch it, so where's the shame in him doing so to? But again, that's just me. If you're a guy who doesn't and you're partner doesn't either that ok too. Go at it! Or don't, that's up to you.

    • You'll see. ;)

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  • Uh, no he's not, unless he's a complete loser. Are you really a porn addict? Jerking off to porn instead of being with your woman? That's a total FAIL. For a LOT of reasons.

    • Two pertinent questions to your comment: 1) Are you dumb, and 2) are you literate?

    • And the answer is, YOU'RE dumb and you're a wanker. LOL

    • Oh. Okay. Thanks.

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  • I have absolutely no issue with him doing it and watching porn. Actually, I endorse it. That way, I don't always have to be the victim of his fantasies whenever it suits him.

    However, where I have a major issue is when I do watch porn myself while playing with my various body parts alone and not asking him to participate, then I get the full offended attitude and pouting behavior.

    It seems that what is good for one is definitely not for the other. Women are still being stigmatized and judged for daring to watch porn without consent of their S/O, boyfriend or husband/partner. Why is that?

    So guys, watch as much porn as you want but let your girlfriend do the same without making a fuss about it or pouting and calling her a whore for imitating you. It is widely accepted that you do it, so grow up and don't judge the stronger gender for doing it too.

    • Your entire comment was good, useful, and correct, until "so grow up and don't judge the stronger gender for doing it too." Downvote. You aren't "the stronger gender," whatever the hell that even means.

    • with your downvote you just indicated who was the weaker gender. Sorry for you

    • Don't be. I'm not insane.

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  • I completely agree with you and seriously don't understand the girls who believe their man is cheating because they watch porn or that they shouldn't watch porn lol porn is literally just actors fucking in front of a screen lol the majority of people watch porn. Male and females. Masturbation is a very natural act and is good for you. And sometimes, you need to watch porn to help you with that lol i watch porn and so does my boyfriend. We even watch porn together when we are bored. Seriously not a big deal. Those girls who are against their boyfriend watching porn are just very close-minded and I agree, deserve to be single lol

    • Here's the thing, one nudie snapshot from my wife does more for me than a whole website of other women. Maybe the issue is that the man in question doesn't actually love the woman in question all that much.

    • People who watch porn don't masturbate to the naked bodies or else they'll just look at pics. They masturbate to the act of two people having sex. If that isn't your cup of tea, then that's your choice and opinion. But I disagree, I watch porn and so does my boyfriend and trust me, we love each other deeply. Porn has nothing to do with love.

  • Agree. When it is within your relationship it's rather lovely

  • Lol, you're even giving the same picture as to your last take about it. My standpoint is always the same - if you want to sexually desire other people, don't get into monogamous relationship. Get into polygamous one

    • It's, in fact, the exact same one. I simply copied and pasted it into a new one, since it's mine anyway.

  • I don't care as long as it doesn't overrule our relationship.

  • Interesting read.
    I admit I don't watch a lot of porn since it's not really my thing, but my girlfriend does.

  • The point is the balance and their behavior after that toward us or how we are treated even if we are liberal minded.
    What if some women are held to porn star looks and standards by an obsession.

    Otherwise realistically let me tell you women enjoy it more than you men. We replay it again and immerse ourselves in it.

    • Of course, balance matters. "let me tell you women enjoy it more than you men." Haha okay.

    • do you even realize that your sentence has no meaning?

  • Guys, if your woman alone is not enough for you, do is a favor and don't get into committed relationships. Period.

    • Um... wow. No.

    • So basically you want me to believe that my man gave his heart while his gaze would still be at some people fucking on screen? LMAO please, be as much of a loser as you want but don't tell us to accept losers. Sounds as moronic as morbidly overweight women claiming that men should start to love their curves.

    • "LMAO" indeed. You go right on ahead and have whatever impossible and idiotic expectations you want. No guy you're going to meet cares. "Sounds as moronic as morbidly overweight women claiming that men should start to love their curves." Um... what? Those are two entirely different issues, in no way related. At all.

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  • First of all: Not all men watch porn.

    Secondly: Women watch porn too. I know that for a fact as a woman who's recovering from years of porn addiction. So it isn't just a male problem.

    Thirdly: It sounds like you're only using this rant to justify your jerking off to watching other people have sex.

    Fourthly: Porn isn't healthy, for any relationship or for any person. Again, speaking from experience.
    No one should make excuses for their behavior when they watch porn, or try to jusify it in any way. Men need to grow up, take accountability for their actions regarding porn, and seriously work to change. The same goes for women too.

    And lastly: I think you need to #getoverit

    • "First of all: Not all men watch porn." Almost all of us do. We're talking about the overwhelming supermajority here, not each. and. every. literal. male. on. Earth. ... duh. "Secondly: Women watch porn too." True, many do. However, this take isn't about that so I don't know why you're bringing it up.

    • because again, you can't cope with others contradicting you. Grow up a little!

    • 90% of men admit to watching porn when pressed on the subject. the other 10% lie

  • I don’t care if my man watches porn

    • Good.

  • you seem to feel quite strongly about this, how about you address your own need of why this bothers YOU so much

    • ... Because stupidity is annoying? I don't know what you mean.

    • it seems that you don't know much, do you? mainly if girls contradict you, right?

    • @TarrAva You must be new here; I don't care what the gender of the person contradicting me is, or even THAT they're contradicting me, as long as the thing they are contradicting me ABOUT and the way they're doing it is actually logical and makes sense. Proof that someone is stupid-- and the likelihood I will let them know that they are-- is if they use nothing but ad hominems and straw man fallacies to do it. If you don't know what those are, look them up. I don't care if someone contradicts me, guy or girl, if what they're saying actually makes sense. Moron.

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  • Any girl that forbids this (art holier than thou) SHOULD NOT be in a relationship. Period.

    • Correct.

    • And any guy who insists on doing it probably shouldn't be in a relationship, either.

    • Well, it would be very hypocritical of me to watch it and not expect my partner to watch it. If he DOES NOT want to watch it because he loves me SOOO much or whatever... then that is ALSO his choice. 🤷

  • No interest in watching porn. i have some porn dvds just in case. however no women I have met ever mentioned porn. i always keep a new Rabbit in box unopened as gift when they are leaving all love them

  • Only spineless betas watch porn. Real men aren't ruled by their hormones.

    • Haha okay man

  • Haha my guy and I have watched it together

    • Me too! Watching porn is fun alone or with a partner.

  • Untrue. Not all men are perverted idiots.

    • ... Huh?

    • Believe it or not, some men hate porn. Myself included.

    • I dunno why you're saying "believe it or not." I already know that "some" men do dislike porn. ... And? When speaking about sociological matters and talking about groups of people, we are talking about the *overwhelming supermajority* here, not literally. each. and. every. single. person. in. that. group. on. the. face. of. the. Earth. Duh.

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  • If he's hung like the guy in the first pic, it won't be an issue anyway.

    • LOL dude

  • I find porn boring and stupid, but whatever works for the couple is their business.

  • Women who don't like men viewing pornography should not have to deal with it and vice versa.

    Relationship are like games. There are rules in it. However, relationships are not games.

    • ... No, relationships are not like games, and no, there aren't rules in them. If that's how people think about relationships, that is negative and damaging. "Women who don't like men viewing pornography should not have to deal with it and vice versa." Cool, then like I said, they can magically find guys out there who legitimately don't like it and don't watch it, which is less than 10% of the population.

    • Good because nobody should have to settle. Let them find the 10% and cheat on your women and see what happens. One of the rules is don't cheat. There are rules.

    • No, there aren't. Relationships aren't contracts. Or board games. No one determines this shit.

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  • Lol that horse , yeah girls get over it.

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