The idiocy of complaining that "he only wants sex!"

Thatsamazing

This shouldn't take too long.

Girls. Ladies. Females.

Huddle up here please. I see this from *a lot* of you on this site. So here we go.

...If you have sex with a guy, and then later whine and complain that "he only wants sex," then your whining and complaining is in vain and you sound ridiculous.

Example: "I have been having sex with a guy for a while and I love it; I'm worried though because it seems like he only wants sex? ?"

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Interesting. Yes, I see. How deep. So... why did you have sex with him then, if you didn't want to?

Oh, wait-- you DID want to have sex with him? Then, uh... what the hell are you talking about.

What is the magical line between "only" wanting sex and not "only" wanting that? And why does it matter? YOU are in control of, and responsible for, YOUR OWN BODY, ace. If you don't want to have sex with a guy, then don't fucking have sex with the guy. If you DO, then do. This is very, very simple. He doesn't control you, and he also doesn't owe you anything. You chose to have sex, and so did he.

Later on, you are not entitled to anything just because you had sex with him. Guys are not creatures who you drop a lot of sex coins into and then you're automatically granted a relationship or a wedding or something, just like girls are not creatures where guys drop a lot of "nice" coins into them and then are automatically granted kisses or sex.

Yes, guys want sex. Yep. A lot more than you do, on average, per testosterone and evolutionary biology. And there's nothing wrong with that. We are allowed to prioritize it and seek it out if we want to. Wringing your hands and moaning about "but muh Y he only want pussy" just makes you sound absurd-- it doesn't MATTER whether he only wants that from you or not. If you don't want to put out to him, THEN DON'T. Fucking hell. Stop whining and constantly posting about it.

~ Thaaanks. Hugs and kisses.

The idiocy of complaining that "he only wants sex!"
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  • DonCachondo
    It also doesn't ever seem to occur to them that guys leave them after sex because they're disappointing lays or give horrible head (or none at all yikes!). I mean, after going through all the trouble of convincing you to have sex with him, don't you think he'd want to spare the trouble of starting all over again and stick to what he likes?
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    • Better let the girl know in advance that after they give their BODY to you because you wouldn’t shut up about sex and you kept begging like a fucking puppy dog for days and said it was their fucking “duty” to help you get an erection that you plan to drop her after that

      And before that you plan to be a fucking headache and go from nice and kind and cuddly to arguing with her non stop
      Turning everything into an argument

    • No, what guys do is coerce and manipulate women into having sex

      Then they act nice and love bomb for about a month. Then they become dicks and drop us

      I tried the have sex and the guy will stay with you tactic

      That shit doesn’t fucking work

    • @hsshannah96 "Give" their bodies? I'm pretty sure you still have your body after you have sex. You're free to do whatever you like with it afterward!

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  • Dragonstarterplus
    True
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  • Mh1999
    Well yes but i can feel bad about it this is why i am gonna stay virgin until marriage.
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    • I don't know what you mean.

    • Mh1999

      I mean a guy won't be able to take my advantage if i won't sleep with him.

    • No one is taking advantage, is the point. If a girl willingly has sex with a guy, then presumably it's because she wants to. So why is it always assumed that he's taking advantage of her? Why isn't it that she's taking advantage of him?

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  • unscrupulous
    Interesting myTake.
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  • MrOracle
    I get what the writer is trying to say, but here's a better way of putting it: as a general rule, you're only going to be able to get the value out of the opposite sex that is equal to the value that YOU bring to THEM.

    As a guy, if you are unemployed (by choice) or underemployed (because you didn't invest in your own education and success), you dress like a slob, you live at home, no car, etc., then you aren't getting girls - you have no value to them. If you have a good job, have your own place, dress decently, and have a bit of confidence, then even if you are average-looking physically, you can probably get girls, because you've raised your value to the "market" of women.

    The same is true of women. Yes, guys want sex, and that's certainly valuable - but it's mostly only valuable enough to earn his time and attention - sex alone doesn't bring enough value to the table to be worth a relationship commitment, because that's a HUGE price to pay for a man - relationships come with a host of restrictions, expectations, limitations, and liabilities, and guys largely realize that trading all of that for sex alone is a bad value - so they mostly don't. Girls who want relationships need to bring some additional value to the table: they need to make the guy's life easier in some ways just as he's going to be expected to make her life easier in some ways. Exactly what that means is going to vary between couples, but the underlying truth is that people don't often knowingly make bad deals when trading their value for something else of value - the market is quite good at evaluating and balancing values.

    So, women, if guys will give you their time and attention in return for sex, but won't give you a relationship, it's because you're asking too much for the value you're able to provide him. It would be like if he asked for sex just because he waved at you from across the room - you recognize that giving him sex for just a wave would be a very bad value for you. Guys work the same way, and guys are increasingly aware that they, their friends, or their parents' generation, had a ton of men who made bad trades in value and saw their lives destroyed, or just made far more difficult, and so men are less willing to "trade" in what they perceive is a bad deal. As much as they'd like a relationship, that doesn't mean they're willing to overpay to get one - most would prefer to remain single rather than overpay.

    Let's also be clear that there are lots of women who DO bring more than just sex to a relationship, and guys recognize their value and will be far more willing to be in relationships with them. Of course, there are plenty of "bad boys"/"fuck bois" who are attractive and will be happy to bang you on his schedule (in between banging other girls), so you can always get SOME attention - but if you want the whole enchilada, then many women need to step up their own value, just as many guys need to if they hope to get women themselves.
  • hsshannah96
    I don’t even have to have sex with a dude for them to constantly stare at my boobs and attempt to grope me without my consent, non stop pressure me about sex and badger me about it
    etc

    it’s EXTREMELY AGITATING for me
    • Your words are the words of a fuckboy, my dude

      You are a fuckboy

      Be sure to tell girls that right from the gate

      This is why I don’t date guys in their 20’s

      They don’t know how to care about someone besides themselves

      Selfish dick

    • Lol
      I'm sure he knows that he is one.

    • @hsshannah96 Who are you talking to?

  • Yads_Is_Back
    Great take... but what do you have to say for the situations when we aren’t the hoe and we aren’t up for having sex with the guy and yet that’s all he wants - When we like him and he’s rude and disrespectful in this way? Because wait, that would partially explain why most of the guys on GAG can’t get women 🤔
    • "When we like him and he’s rude and disrespectful in this way" uh... then don't like him.

    • Duh.

    • Tell your own guys that too when they like a girl they shouldn't like... especially here on GAG.

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  • DCooper
    The idiocy of complaining that "he only wants sex!"Saw that coming...
  • Celtero
    Choose Mho after 3 days and 2 male comments? Cmon bruh, give me a chance.

    You want to know what the real stupidity is? It's that if a guy only wants sex, it's because the woman HAS NOTHING ELSE OF VALUE TO OFFER PERSONALLY!

    Because if I meet a woman who is hot, easygoing, a good cook, a great conversationalist, caring and affectionate, has neat hobbies, and is loyal, why the hell WOULDN'T I want to be in a relationship with her? Why would any guy want to just use her for sex?
    But so many women are boring, useless people who possess decent bodies. They are only good for a singular purpose.
  • COMMODOREII
    This is good.
  • Anonymous
    You're misunderstanding lol and it makes you come across as stupid.

    When a woman complains about someone "only wanting sex" it's because the woman wants to have a relationship (ie, not just sex, she wants there to be a romantic and friendly aspect as well), and the other person JUST wants to hookup.

    Obviously she's not complaining that she HAD sex because she wouldn't consent to it otherwise. Think about things before you post lol
    • "Guys are not creatures who you drop a lot of sex coins into and then you're automatically granted a relationship or a wedding or something, just like girls are not creatures where guys drop a lot of "nice" coins into them and then are automatically granted kisses or sex"

      Read this excerpt and shut up.

    • Uh... no sis, *you* are the one misunderstanding, the one who is stupid, and apparently, the one who is incapable of reading. Think about things before you post, "lol."

    • @FýrdracaDócincel Apparently reading is hard.

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