Laurie's, ADULT'S ONLY, list of your favorite sexual fetishes and kinks!

1. IMPACT PLAY

Definition: Impact play is when one partner consensually hits the other for sexual gratification, such as spanking.

This is often the entry level into BDSM and, if enjoyed by both partners, may lead to a deeper exploration into the myriad of pleasures this form of sexual fetish can provide.

Be sure to discuss all limitations prior to beginning this type of kink, and negotiate all boundaries up 'front', so you don't take it by surprise in the 'end' ...lol

Be sure to discuss the level of play you would both enjoy and pick a "safe-word" that indicates when you are seriously ready to stop the play.

Harder please ...make it harder!
Harder please ...make it harder!
Now, drop your pants and bend over before I really get mad!
Now, drop your pants and bend over before I really get mad!

2. ROLE-PLAYING

Definition: A bedroom practice, in which partners dress up and pretend to be someone else for sexual satisfaction.

Is role-playing just for kids? ...not at all, adults do it too! :) This is a favorite play-time event for many kinky adults who aren't bashful and have a little thespian nature still in them. What are some of the more common roll play characters? ...how about "The School Girl and the Professor" or "The Pirate and the Helpless Maiden"? How about the sexy maid in mini-dress costume who climbs up the step ladder to dust the top of the china cabinet and "accidently" forgot to put her panties on this morning? ...Oh My!

What about the ultimate taboo role-play kink - "Daddy and the Brat Princess" ...well, you can take that one from there ...lol

Remember, these are just fantasies, so have fun and make yours come true.

Can you tell me where my hot professor went to?
Can you tell me where my hot professor went to?

This naughty Nurse provides a very special level of care :)
This naughty Nurse provides a very special level of care :)
Can I get you anything? ...yes, I do mean
Can I get you anything? ...yes, I do mean "anything"

3. FOOT FETISH

Definition: The pure admiration or sexual attraction of barefeet. Usually pertaining to men, but not always, who can become sexually aroused from the sight of any part of women's feet (including, toes, arches and soles.

This is involves a desire to massage, kiss and smell a female's feet, many times to the point of worship. A foot fetish involves a desire to worship feet through acts such as massage, kissing, and smelling. Many girls are startled by a guys, or girl's, desires for this fetish but quickly fall into it's trances with the many massages, and other sensations, they soon become addicted to and even start to demand of their worshiper.

OMG! I'm in heaven! Now suck on my big toe for awhile
OMG! I'm in heaven! Now suck on my big toe for awhile

4. ANAL SEX

Definition: Sexual activity involving penetration of the anus.

The anal opening has sensitive nerve endings that can provide great pleasure to many who get off on butt play or would like to try it.

Anal sex can be as simple as the insertion of a finger or propel to the full penetration of a penis. Toys are also commonly used. My all time favorite is the insertion of anal beads while masturbating or having vaginal sex and then pulling them out as I am climaxing. The dual sensation is an OVER-THE-TOP EXPERIENCE, I promise!

Cleanliness is of utmost importance. Consider getting colon hydrotherapy, like the porn stars do, prior to any serious anal play. You can have this service preformed at most good holistic health centers. I purchased my own hydrotherapy device to use at home. If you want something cheap and easy, at minimum buy an enema bulb at the local drug store and get clean prior to any play. Also lube is required. If there is going to be penetration with a condom, be sure to use a "water based" lube otherwise the condom will be quickly compromised. Oil based lube, like olive oil or avocado oil is great if your partner will be penetrating "bare-back" (without a condom). If rimming will be a part of your anal play, there are some great flavored lubricants made especially for that. Anal sex can be great if done slowly at first to allow your partner a chance to get use to anal penetration. Start by just teasing the anal opening with very slight penetration with quick withdrawal. If you do it right, soon they will be begging for it! :)

OK! ...I'm ready, could you remove my panties for me so we can get started? ...pretty please!
OK! ...I'm ready, could you remove my panties for me so we can get started? ...pretty please!

Always use a water based lube with anal beads
Always use a water based lube with anal beads

5. LINGERIE FETISH

Definition: A sexual fetishism relating to undergarments, and refers to preoccupation with the sexual excitement of certain types of lingerie, including panties, stockings, pantyhose, bras, or other items.

A panty fetish refers to a sexual arousal by, or sexual interest in, women's panties. It is most commonly a fetish seen in men although some women have a panty, or lingerie, fetish as well.

Just like a boob fetish, it's hard to figure out just what it is about lingerie that turns guys on that love it so much ...is it the visual thing, or something else? Well, whatever it is, it works and this most common, mainly male fetish, has lingerie lovers everywhere drooling over this sensual delight. Some guys love nylons or thigh highs. Other guys like bras and panties. Even others love corsets or sexy nighties. What is your hot button lingerie type?

Am I missing anything? ...lol
Am I missing anything? ...lol

6. GROUP SEX

Definition: Group sex is a form of sexual behavior that involves more than two partners

What is the difference between a gang bang and an orgy? ...I am so glad you asked! An orgy is group sex with any mixture of sexual genders where a gang bang is considered to be one gender being taken advantage of consensually by many of the same but opposite gender as in a girl being penetrated by multiple penises. A guy or a girl can also be gang banged by multiple girls with the use of strap-on penis dildos.

Laurie's, ADULT'S ONLY, list of your favorite sexual fetishes and kinks!

7. SENSATION PLAY

Definition: Erotic sensation play is a class of activities meant to impart physical sensations upon a partner, as opposed to mental forms of erotic play such as power exchange or sexual role playing. Sensation play is sensual, where the sensations are generally pleasing and light.

Sexually erotic play that takes the sexual energy of the tingling and sensual desire between your legs to the next level as in the soft touches from your partner while you are having sex. It's the burn of desire between your legs that cries for more. Good sexual energy creates sensations.


Sensation play can refer to a huge range of activities based on the receiving or withholding of different stimuli. For instance, one partner may blindfold the other to deprive them of their sense of sight, a form of sensory deprivation, or they may drag an ice cube along their skin, a form of sensation play known as temperature play. When it comes to giving sensation, think of everything from tickling a partner with your hands or a feather to biting them. Impact play is sometimes placed under the category of sensation play.

This little piggy went to market and this little piggy stayed home ...lol
This little piggy went to market and this little piggy stayed home ...lol

8. ORGASM CONTROL

Definition: Orgasm control can mean any of several sexual activities involving forcing, denying, or postponing orgasm;

Edging, postponing orgasm to achieve an ecstatic state
Orgasm Denial, preventing the recipient from having orgasms
Forced Orgasm, the forcing of an orgasm that is outside the recipient's voluntary control


Orgasm control is part of BDSM, as it involves an element of dominance and submission. Edging, in which the submissive partner is brought to the brink of climax and then forced to stop — often done repeatedly — is an example of orgasm control. The idea here is that for as long as you like, you let your partner take the reins and determine when and how you come. As with all of the activities here, anyone can engage in orgasm control regardless of their genitalia.

Laurie's, ADULT'S ONLY, list of your favorite sexual fetishes and kinks!

9. BONDAGE

Definition: The practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. A partner may be physically restrained in a variety of ways, including the use of rope, cuffs, bondage tape, or self-adhering bandage.


Bondage is when one partner restrains the other. It’s usually a form of dominance and submission and falls under the BDSM umbrella. You can bind your partner using objects you already have around, such as a belt, or purchase specialty kink items like handcuffs. To engage in restraint play safely, establish boundaries and a safe word, emphasize consent and communication at every step, and start slow. (And take care not to cut off anyone's circulation!) Books such as sex educator Tristan Taormino's - The Ultimate Guide to Kink, can help you get started.

Guess what goes in here? ...lol
Guess what goes in here? ...lol

10. PSYCHOLOGICAL PLAY

Definition: A sexual power exchange. Mind control, a type of BDSM.


While physical actions, such as spanking, are often the most discussed kinks and fetishes, some of the most intense sexual play takes place in the mind. Psychological power play, AKA “mind control,” is a type of BDSM. Psychological play involves implementing such a sexual power play exchange. Humiliation play, for example, might involve a submissive partner getting off on being called names. Consensual threats are an example of psychological play as well; one example is a domme warning a male submissive with a foot fetish that he’ll have to lick her feet if he doesn’t fall in line and do exactly as she says.

Hurry up and lick em clean little slave boy!
Hurry up and lick em clean little slave boy!

11. VOYEURISM

Definition: A person who derives sexual gratification from observing the naked bodies or sexual acts of others, especially from a secret vantage point.


A study on fetishes published in the Journal of Sex Research found voyeurism — or obtaining sexual pleasure from watching others who are naked or having sex — to be one of the most common fetishes. Of course, as with every other fetish, engage in voyeurism consensually, for example at a sex party where a couple has given you permission to watch; watching someone without their permission is never acceptable. The flip side of voyeurism is exhibitionism, which means achieving sexual pleasure by allowing others to watch you. (A sex party is a great setting in which to do this, too.) What do you say, let's get this party started? ...lol

What you see is what you get ...lol
What you see is what you get ...lol

I hope you liked my list. Maybe you have another one to add. Feel free to share with us.

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  • Great Take, and I was pleased to see that you mentioned psychological play which is often left off of these lists.

    I definitely incorporate it myself, and I really like the fact that it requires getting to know the other person on a very deep level to be effective. For a (consensual) control freak, the mental aspect is really important and rewarding.

    Of course, you gotta do some spanking and hair-pulling too... Lol.

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  • Mine is facesitting. I got to love that gasp for air when you slightly get up. Roleplay, orgasm control, bondage is also fun. Bondage and facesitting go hand in hand :) also works with the edging etc

    • I live fase sitting but only when a girl grinds her ass on my face, love that so much

    • @JosyJosy naughty girl

    • I think being in that position is just about the most erotic way there is to make a woman climax

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  • My favorites are:

    Role playing (with either me or her as the submissive one)

    Orgasm control. I love having to ask for permission to cum. I love it when she demands that I do something naughty, kinky or taboo just for permission.

    Bondage: With either her or I being the one who gets tied up. I like using a woman for my sexual pleasure when she's tied up and I also like it when a woman will use me for her sexual pleasure when I'm tied up.

    Ruined orgasm. I like it when a woman does it to me as part of a punishment. It makes me want to say "Yes, OK" to anything she wants in the future.

  • Wow, what a myTake! This is a great and well researched piece of educational material.

    Now, I must try the one or the other of those kinks. I am too vanilla and until now never found the need or urge to try any of those fetishes.

    Those that I definitely will not give a try are those BDSM deviant ones that involve pain, forced action, even if consensual or those based on enhanced odor perception like foot fetish.

    To trust someone is one thing, to be sure a totally different one, mainly if your partner is relatively new.

    Now, I could perhaps be persuaded to go for voyeurism, which is basically a natural trait common to everyone or then role playing. Those are the more innocent approaches that do not involve pain or loss of control of your body or integrity like most BDSM deviances.

    Now, all I need is to find a sponsor for the clothing I wold need for role playing...

  • Sensation play is a big one for me, specifically light touching and tickling. Also didn't realize anal was considered a fetish? I kind of thought it was just lumped in with what people consider "normal"? Not that any sex isn't normal but societally speaking.

  • mine are foot fetish, it has to be pretty small girls feet in stocking or pantyhose its kinda nylon fetish too.
    and bondage i love to be tied and gaged especially pantyhose encasement bondage

    • Oh a woman's feet are definitely very sexy sniffing and licking and sucking on the toes

  • Im more into agoraphilia

  • Interesting list. Quite comprehensive and well explained. Thank you, Laurie.

    I've done some of them. I could get into others. Have no interest in some.

    Spanking a woman's ass is definitely a (nearly universal) turn on for several reasons. Thank goodness some women enjoy it. Most are at least willing to play along to a point, like getting swatted during doggy-style sex.

    I'm not into the lingerie as you described it, but I love it when women dress up in sexy outfits from business suits to bikinis, to lingerie, to fantasy costumes like school girl, French maid, St. Pauli girl, etc. That is more like role playing.

    Role playing is hot. Does simulated, consensual rape fall into that category or into BDSM? I suppose it would depend on the degree on consensual violence.
    I think the scene from A Clockwork Orange where they cut holes in the woman's sweater was one of the most erotic scenes ever filmed.

    I've never done anal, but I have inserted a vibrator into a woman's ass while fucking her from behind. It's is one of the most amazing sensations ever.

  • The only thing from this list that is a definite no go for me is the foot fetish 🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️ I hate touching feet and I hate my feet being touched

  • I think we know your fetish, and it's a lack of ass on a woman. 😂😂😂 All the porn in the world and you choose these hoes?

  • Not a fetish, but seems fun where like trying to pin down your partner and like a consensual, rough sex wrestling match. And the one on top ravages the other or it goes back and forth until one gives in or submits after being pinned on the bottom and fucked senseless.

    And just being "pussy fucked' seems fun too. Role play can be too if control is exchanged by her and I with me in control some time and her other times.

  • My favorite is not here, its face sitting fetish, when someone sit on someone else face

    • Yes! ... that's a good one too! :)

    • @EdenT123 You mean like someone sits on your face or you sit on someone's face? Or do you just like watching it?

    • @jayden888 me sitting on someone's face

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  • Oh, Laurie! You are so good at myTakes!

    • That means so much Ms DD. These take a lot of time to put together and a kind comment like that makes it all worth it. You have been such a great and sweet gag friend for so long now... thank you! May all your fantasies come true! ... lol

  • You darn well know I have an underwear fetish

  • Many things, related with female beauty and worshiping a woman.
    -Female Footwear: Heels, Boots, Laced and Gladiator Sandals.
    -Crop Tops.
    -Outfits:
    Low (or mid) sneakers with jeans (cuffed, better) and naked ankles.
    Jacket with short-shorts.
    -Nails: A little long; medium length; long. Natural or: Black, Silver, White (other colors too).
    -Belly Button Piercing.

    Impact Play, RolePlay, etc: Femdom Stuff Mostly (although I'm not submissive but I get turn on by cruel women):
    Ballbusting, CBT, Trampling, Boot Worship, Shoe Worship, Verbal Humiliation.

  • Role play and lingerie

  • I want to come to the office wearing a pant Suit and wearing a strap on underneath and my husband sitting at the desk wearing a SEXY SECRETARY outfit and asking him if all the report are done and he's say no and know I have to throw the papers on the ground so when he bends over to pick them up I rub my dick against his ass and tell him If you want to keep working here you know what to do on your knees by time then I will fuck him on the desk. I think hubby is getting a new outfit.

    • You know that is an incredibly hot fucking scenario. I've had that happen to me before and it happened over and over and over again until she had one of her friends join us and they both did it to me. I think it would be incredibly spicy as if while he's on the desk on his back and your fucking him if you were to have me suck on his cock

  • Impact play. Two come to mind. A bit thick soft heavy suede or doe skin thudding flogger and a little delicate stinging rubber one. My dream is to get the heavy one repeatedly in the groin while a second person is using an identical one to my butt right around the tail bone and while that is happening two more people are using identical little stinging ones on my chest and face (eye protection of course).

    Role playing, Daddy's naughty girl craves punishment or she think's Daddy is the one who's been naughty...

    Foot fetish, not normally my thing but sometimes I like to get my face massaged by a pair of nice clean feet, having them walking on my back or would be awesome to have a girl with a foot fetish pamper my feet for a few hours.

    Her ass is for licking not fucking but she can use a small well lubed strap-on on me.

    Black lace and fishnets with a touch of blood red. Bra with cutout so I can see the nipples, garter and more than just the usual 4 straps, fishnets with garters on top or ruffled trim, fingerless arm pit length gloves trimmed at both ends with ruffled lace and some pumps that looks like the heal is way to long to walk in and no platforms either. Sexy lingerie is like wrapping paper begging to be removed though as often they are as sexy if you leave them on.

    Group sex, the more the merrier. They work best when all are bi but they don't always have to be. Nothing better than touching multiple people while multiple people are touching you.

    Orgasm control, having her attempt to make me insanely and uncontrollably horny using a chastity device then teasing me incessantly for days, weeks before finally releasing me to ravish her.

    Bondage, taking turns earning each other's trust and letting go completely to the control of the other person being at their sexual whim while they do the most deliciously evil things to you.

    Psychological play, becoming hers completely right down to the core of my being and needing her to use me for her amusement.

    Voyeurism, watching her pleasure herself when she thinks no one is looking. Now I know what her fact looks like when she is really having an orgasm and not faking it. Its the same face when she's having one with me. Watching her cheat with her other boyfriend and getting turned on seeing his dick go in and out and later her telling me she knew I watched her and liked it. Finding out the show was for her benefit.

    Exhibitionism, having an audience watch me confess my deepest darkest naughtiest desire through my actions and not my words and getting off watching me.

  • Some type of group sex, but not an orgy.

    • From or mmf?

  • Very comprehensive list, well detailed and explained.
    I admit my girlfriend and I dabble in a couple of activities you described.

    I'm not sure if it falls under number 7, but sometimes we play with honey, mustard and other sauces.

  • Only kink stuff I like is bondage, but I like it a lot.

    • I have never tried it but I would love to my girlfriend doesn't like to explore sexually avenues just sticks to the same old sex

    • Have you ever been blindfolded while tied up

    • That's a good one to like

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  • I was going to call you out for it not aligning woth mine but you actually did capture all of them
    . 8 is my main fetish that absolutely needs to be there. 10 is closely related to that followed by 9 and sometimes 2.

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