1. IMPACT PLAY
Definition: Impact play is when one partner consensually hits the other for sexual gratification, such as spanking.
This is often the entry level into BDSM and, if enjoyed by both partners, may lead to a deeper exploration into the myriad of pleasures this form of sexual fetish can provide.
Be sure to discuss all limitations prior to beginning this type of kink, and negotiate all boundaries up 'front', so you don't take it by surprise in the 'end' ...lol
Be sure to discuss the level of play you would both enjoy and pick a "safe-word" that indicates when you are seriously ready to stop the play.
2. ROLE-PLAYING
Definition: A bedroom practice, in which partners dress up and pretend to be someone else for sexual satisfaction.
Is role-playing just for kids? ...not at all, adults do it too! :) This is a favorite play-time event for many kinky adults who aren't bashful and have a little thespian nature still in them. What are some of the more common roll play characters? ...how about "The School Girl and the Professor" or "The Pirate and the Helpless Maiden"? How about the sexy maid in mini-dress costume who climbs up the step ladder to dust the top of the china cabinet and "accidently" forgot to put her panties on this morning? ...Oh My!
What about the ultimate taboo role-play kink - "Daddy and the Brat Princess" ...well, you can take that one from there ...lol
Remember, these are just fantasies, so have fun and make yours come true.
3. FOOT FETISH
Definition: The pure admiration or sexual attraction of barefeet. Usually pertaining to men, but not always, who can become sexually aroused from the sight of any part of women's feet (including, toes, arches and soles.
This is involves a desire to massage, kiss and smell a female's feet, many times to the point of worship. A foot fetish involves a desire to worship feet through acts such as massage, kissing, and smelling. Many girls are startled by a guys, or girl's, desires for this fetish but quickly fall into it's trances with the many massages, and other sensations, they soon become addicted to and even start to demand of their worshiper.
4. ANAL SEX
Definition: Sexual activity involving penetration of the anus.
The anal opening has sensitive nerve endings that can provide great pleasure to many who get off on butt play or would like to try it.
Anal sex can be as simple as the insertion of a finger or propel to the full penetration of a penis. Toys are also commonly used. My all time favorite is the insertion of anal beads while masturbating or having vaginal sex and then pulling them out as I am climaxing. The dual sensation is an OVER-THE-TOP EXPERIENCE, I promise!
Cleanliness is of utmost importance. Consider getting colon hydrotherapy, like the porn stars do, prior to any serious anal play. You can have this service preformed at most good holistic health centers. I purchased my own hydrotherapy device to use at home. If you want something cheap and easy, at minimum buy an enema bulb at the local drug store and get clean prior to any play. Also lube is required. If there is going to be penetration with a condom, be sure to use a "water based" lube otherwise the condom will be quickly compromised. Oil based lube, like olive oil or avocado oil is great if your partner will be penetrating "bare-back" (without a condom). If rimming will be a part of your anal play, there are some great flavored lubricants made especially for that. Anal sex can be great if done slowly at first to allow your partner a chance to get use to anal penetration. Start by just teasing the anal opening with very slight penetration with quick withdrawal. If you do it right, soon they will be begging for it! :)
5. LINGERIE FETISH
Definition: A sexual fetishism relating to undergarments, and refers to preoccupation with the sexual excitement of certain types of lingerie, including panties, stockings, pantyhose, bras, or other items.
A panty fetish refers to a sexual arousal by, or sexual interest in, women's panties. It is most commonly a fetish seen in men although some women have a panty, or lingerie, fetish as well.
Just like a boob fetish, it's hard to figure out just what it is about lingerie that turns guys on that love it so much ...is it the visual thing, or something else? Well, whatever it is, it works and this most common, mainly male fetish, has lingerie lovers everywhere drooling over this sensual delight. Some guys love nylons or thigh highs. Other guys like bras and panties. Even others love corsets or sexy nighties. What is your hot button lingerie type?
6. GROUP SEX
Definition: Group sex is a form of sexual behavior that involves more than two partners
What is the difference between a gang bang and an orgy? ...I am so glad you asked! An orgy is group sex with any mixture of sexual genders where a gang bang is considered to be one gender being taken advantage of consensually by many of the same but opposite gender as in a girl being penetrated by multiple penises. A guy or a girl can also be gang banged by multiple girls with the use of strap-on penis dildos.
7. SENSATION PLAY
Definition: Erotic sensation play is a class of activities meant to impart physical sensations upon a partner, as opposed to mental forms of erotic play such as power exchange or sexual role playing. Sensation play is sensual, where the sensations are generally pleasing and light.
Sexually erotic play that takes the sexual energy of the tingling and sensual desire between your legs to the next level as in the soft touches from your partner while you are having sex. It's the burn of desire between your legs that cries for more. Good sexual energy creates sensations.
Sensation play can refer to a huge range of activities based on the receiving or withholding of different stimuli. For instance, one partner may blindfold the other to deprive them of their sense of sight, a form of sensory deprivation, or they may drag an ice cube along their skin, a form of sensation play known as temperature play. When it comes to giving sensation, think of everything from tickling a partner with your hands or a feather to biting them. Impact play is sometimes placed under the category of sensation play.
8. ORGASM CONTROL
Definition: Orgasm control can mean any of several sexual activities involving forcing, denying, or postponing orgasm;
Edging, postponing orgasm to achieve an ecstatic state
Orgasm Denial, preventing the recipient from having orgasms
Forced Orgasm, the forcing of an orgasm that is outside the recipient's voluntary control
Orgasm control is part of BDSM, as it involves an element of dominance and submission. Edging, in which the submissive partner is brought to the brink of climax and then forced to stop — often done repeatedly — is an example of orgasm control. The idea here is that for as long as you like, you let your partner take the reins and determine when and how you come. As with all of the activities here, anyone can engage in orgasm control regardless of their genitalia.
9. BONDAGE
Definition: The practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic, or somatosensory stimulation. A partner may be physically restrained in a variety of ways, including the use of rope, cuffs, bondage tape, or self-adhering bandage.
Bondage is when one partner restrains the other. It’s usually a form of dominance and submission and falls under the BDSM umbrella. You can bind your partner using objects you already have around, such as a belt, or purchase specialty kink items like handcuffs. To engage in restraint play safely, establish boundaries and a safe word, emphasize consent and communication at every step, and start slow. (And take care not to cut off anyone's circulation!) Books such as sex educator Tristan Taormino's - The Ultimate Guide to Kink, can help you get started.
10. PSYCHOLOGICAL PLAY
Definition: A sexual power exchange. Mind control, a type of BDSM.
While physical actions, such as spanking, are often the most discussed kinks and fetishes, some of the most intense sexual play takes place in the mind. Psychological power play, AKA “mind control,” is a type of BDSM. Psychological play involves implementing such a sexual power play exchange. Humiliation play, for example, might involve a submissive partner getting off on being called names. Consensual threats are an example of psychological play as well; one example is a domme warning a male submissive with a foot fetish that he’ll have to lick her feet if he doesn’t fall in line and do exactly as she says.
11. VOYEURISM
Definition: A person who derives sexual gratification from observing the naked bodies or sexual acts of others, especially from a secret vantage point.
A study on fetishes published in the Journal of Sex Research found voyeurism — or obtaining sexual pleasure from watching others who are naked or having sex — to be one of the most common fetishes. Of course, as with every other fetish, engage in voyeurism consensually, for example at a sex party where a couple has given you permission to watch; watching someone without their permission is never acceptable. The flip side of voyeurism is exhibitionism, which means achieving sexual pleasure by allowing others to watch you. (A sex party is a great setting in which to do this, too.) What do you say, let's get this party started? ...lol
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