10 Things Nobody Tells You About The Rape

[Anonymous]

An astounding one in three women and one in six men will be raped in their lifetime. Of these, 3.3% are reported.

Rape is not talked about, but it needs to be.

Here are 10 things nobody will tell you about the rape... but you probably need to hear:

1. You didn’t have to say “no” or “stop” for it to be rape. Don’t put blame on yourself just because you froze or were unable to speak. Many rape survivors are unconscious and many experience a phenomenon where they can not speak, and freeze up. This is not uncommon and if you experienced this, please know... it is not your fault.

2. It’s still rape, even if you got hard or wet. Even if you did not consent to something, it’s not unusual for victims to experience body responses like these. This is a natural defence mechanism to prevent damage or harm to your body.

3. Rape is often a grey area. You may not feel like you were raped because when you think of rape, you imagine a dark man in an alleyway. Statistics show that these public violations are rare, and 58% of perpetrators are people known to the victim... often family, partners, or friends. Don’t let anyone invalidate your trauma just because it was not stereotypical. If someone had sex with you against your consent, they raped you... and it’s not your fault.

4. You may not acknowledge it for weeks or months. Rape victims often refuse to identify their experience as a rape until they are psychologically able to handle the idea. This is normal. If you are realizing you were raped, do not let time make you feel any less valid. Healing is different for everyone.

5. Over time, you will feel better. You may even feel better soon afterwards. You are going to have relapses and experience symptoms that you are uncertain about. This is okay. This is normal. Trauma is hard for the body to heal from. Often, triggers or side effects do not show up for months or years after.

6. You still deserve love. There will be someone who can love you. Your family will still love you. Most of all, you can still love yourself. It’s not your fault. You are strong for getting through this and you will only get stronger.

7. Just because you did not report, doesn’t mean you are making it up. People may try to convince you that it was all in your head, or that you are an attention seeker. This could not be further from the truth. You are strong. Talking about it takes guts. I understand if you could not report. 96.7% of victims do not report because of the lack of belief, support, and prosecution. Taking it to court can be just as traumatizing, if not more, than the rape itself. I understand. And you are doing fine. You are valid, and you are okay. Deal with this how you need to.

8. Therapy is not necessary right away. Seek therapy only when you need to... but do seek it at some point. If you are not ready for therapy but need support, phone a help-line.

9. You are not any less of a man, or woman, if you are raped. This does not define you.

10. I love you. I love you despite what happened. Understand that these words will be spoken to you some day, and that every day is another step closer to peace.

Do not give up.

[aa180]

Lol, I don't know why girls talk about how "terrifying" and "traumatic" rape is while at the same time it's their biggest fantasy and number one turn on.

Girl: *Obsesses and masturbates to the thought of getting raped*

*Gets raped*

Girl: "I'm so emotionally traumatized and need a therapist to get through this!"

Logic < 0

[MaverickAngel]

I'd be cautious taking those kinds of stats as a definite given. I dont personally know one single girl who has that as a fantasy.

[aa180]

@MaverickAngel I've come to realize that those stats must undoubtedly UNDERESTIMATE the true percentages, because I've seen girls say that they would never admit to it on a survey, even when it is their favorite fantasy. Many girls also don't even tell their closest friends about it either. So really, it's a lot more common than you and I think which is kinda sad.

[Screenwriter]

The key word here is FANTASY. In a fantasy the dreamer controls every aspect of the imagination. And being taken in a fantasy is not like being taken by someone else who has control in real life. You cannot equate a rape fantasy to rape. People have all kinds of fantasies that they don't want to live. Rape is a real-life violation. A fantasy never is because it never happens.

[aa180]

@Screenwriter They control every aspect of it yet envisage the guy carrying out exactly what a rapist would do to them, even though they claim that this sort of treatment is a violation and something abhorrent. They contradict themselves constantly and I don't get why they fantasize and are turned on by something they would never actually want to happen.

[Screenwriter]

There is not a woman on the planet, unless she is a masochist, that wants to be forcibly violated and physically injured during sex. If you know these kinds of women, they have issues that need to be worked out in therapy. Do not use them to extrapolate to all other women.

[taleswapper]

@Screenwriter THIS! THIS is what @aa18o fails to see. I fantasize about flying, but that's not the same as wanting to be thrown off a building roof...

[Screenwriter]

"Envisage" is not EXPERIENCE. "Fantasize" is not reality. I don't know the psychological reasons these women have these kinds of fantasies. It doesn't matter. Fantasies cannot violate you. Real life rape always does.

[aa180]

Girls with rape fantasies should get raped for real, maybe it'll set them straight.

[VaIiant]

Oh my God... This is absolutely retarded. there's a "fantasy" about roleplaying roughly, and then there's actually being horribly violated.

[aa180]

@VaIiant Exactly, they role-play what they consider to be a "horrible violation", AND they make it just as violent if not more, yet they strongly oppose real rape. So yes, women are retarded.

[VaIiant]

Many men enjoy being rough- that doesn't make them rapists.

[aa180]

@VaIiant Nah, but I'd argue that they're partially misogynistic even if they don't realize it. And the number of women who have rough fantasies severely outnumber the number of guys who do. The biggest complaint that women make about their sex lives is that their boyfriend is not aggressive and doesn't manhandle them enough. And it's women who read and fall in love with rape novels, and it's women who predominantly search up violent porn. So bringing guys into this doesn't help your case.

[MaverickAngel]

There are two points here. Your claim that the "majority" of women have rape fantasies (which is by the way.. different from "rough" sex). Then whether something is wrong with these women. I'm interested in the first part. Where are your statistics derived from that most women have actual rape fantasies?

[aa180]

@MaverickAngel This article sites that the figure is around 62% of women who have had some sort of forced sex fantasy.

www.bustle.com/.../106720-what-do-rape-fantasies-mean-the-psychology-behind-the-common-fantasy-explained

And when you browse posts on GAG, you similarly get around 50-60% who have them, and whenever I see a post asking what people's fantasies are, by and large do I see women saying "rape", "rough", "domination", etc. It's the most prevalent answer that I see.

[Purple_Summer]

the dumbest comment ever

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer So you're telling me that girls DON'T fantasize about getting raped, read rape novels, and watch rape porn? Is that what you're trying to say?

[VaIiant]

Women do not read "rape novels" LOL.

[aa180]

@VaIiant Oh really? Approximately half the top 100 best-selling books on Amazon have rape in them, and we all know they are predominantly bought and read by women. They're also written by female authors. It seems like no love story is complete to a girl unless you get raped by your lover.

[VaIiant]

Okay, nooo? Dubious consent is not the same as your body being violated. Period.

[aa180]

@VaIiant If it's a violation then why do you fantasize and get off on it? Clearly you don't think it's very violating when you're busy rubbing yourself, even though you condemn the very idea that turns you on the most.

[VaIiant]

First off- if you're going to debate something, making it personal is disgusting. Especially in that context. No woman actually gets off to the thought of being truly violated.

[aa180]

@VaIiant You're wrong on that lol. And by "you" I meant "you women", but yes, I meant you included.

[VaIiant]

Find me one woman who has been raped, and found it erotic.

[aa180]

@VaIiant That's my point! In their fantasies, they envisage themselves getting horribly violated (and I've definitely seen some girls use the word "violated" when describing their fantasies), even though they know that IRL it would traumatize them. Girls are in love with a concept they simultaneously detest. Ergo, they are hypocritically inconsistent and make no sense.

[AndrewMG]

@aa180 Wow what a fucking misogynist retard you really are! You seriously can not tell the difference between a horrific violation against someone's will and a controlled fantasy. And the figures you used, how the fuck does anyone reach those stats? How many market researchers have you met in a town centre collating this info to get an accurate representation of 50% of the population? Do you not see the irony of you being a C*nt, and at the same time defending rape?

[aa180]

@AndrewMG Lol, "a controlled fantasy" - again, that's precisely my point. Girls have full control over their fantasies so what do they picture? Some total stranger violently and forcefully raping them until they're weeping in pain. Somehow it's a huge violation and something to condemn, but at the same time it's something to eroticize and romanticize in literature and in women's minds? I don't care that I'm a misogynist lol, women don't deserve respect when they get off on the very idea of being disrespected. And newsflash you dumbass, EVERY single statistic gathered on ANY topic is always found using a relatively small sample size. So by your logic, we can't trust or use any single statistic that exists because not everyone or everything was sampled. Do you see the idiocy in that claim?

[AndrewMG]

I see the idiocy in using statistics as a basis of an argument especially using a small sample size, stats are a small tool used to back up an argument, if you're using them to justify an argument then you are as I stated before a fucking misogynist retard. And tell me you Dumb fuck, how can as a self confessed misogynist suddenly have an insight into a woman's mind and what she may be thinking when she's getting off... one thing we do know, it wouldn't be the thought of letting you and your rancid cock come within a square mile of her... I've met some fucking idiots in my time, but all credit to you, you're the first person I've met who try's to justify rape.

[aa180]

@AndrewMG Lol, so you think I'm just pulling this stuff out of my ass? I cannot even count the number of times I've seen women talk about their rape fantasies, and they are exactly as I describe - violent, degrading, and involving pain and humiliation. Quit acting like what I say isn't accurate, it's not even a secret anymore that women obsess over this stuff. And thank you, I'm proud to be the first person you've come across who justifies rape 👍

[AndrewMG]

So you've ignored the answer I've given and replied with an answer that suggests you've ever spoken to a woman, which we both know is highly unlikely. And as for your point about "pulling things out of your ass", well I'm sure when someone checks your hard drive and you end up in the prison cell your poisonous mind deserves, then we'll see how much of a fan of rape you really are... and then it won't just be stats your pulling out of your ass!

[aa180]

@AndrewMG Lol, but it's not ME who gets off on the idea of rape, it's women. They're more of a fan of rape than I will ever be, they make millions off of writing rape novels that become instant best-sellers. So quit acting like it's me with the "poisonous mind" when we all know I'm an innocent little kitten compared to them.

[AndrewMG]

You're boring me now, you are obviously too thick too differentiate between reality and fiction. Crime as a whole is one of the most growing/lucrative industries when it comes to entertainment/literature etc. Millions even Billions are invested into programmes/books etc around crime/murder/serial killers... the difference is people can have an interest/even imagine what it would be like to be involved in these scenarios but that doesn't mean they want to be a victim in real life! I seriously can't believe I'm even debating with someone who when it comes to rape victims and rapists decides to take the side of the rapists. So because of that I'm closing this down, you obviously are either a troll or a sociopath.

[aa180]

@AndrewMG When people watch crime shows or violent movies, they don't imagine THEMSELVES being slashed and hacked while simultaneously getting aroused and horny. They don't role-play getting shot in the bedroom by their partner because it turns them on. So the two are not even comparable at all.

[AndrewMG]

The point is you used the fact "rape" novels make money suggest the readers want to be raped, so whats the difference with crime being a billion dollar industry, using your logic that means anyone buying into the crime industry wants to be a victim of crime then? Fantasy/role play is about taking extremes and normalising them in a loving relationship... It has no correlation with non consensual behaviour! What part of that do you fail to understand you Moron?

[aa180]

@AndrewMG The difference, as I clearly stated, is that people don't imagine THEMSELVES being the victim of violence when watching violent shows because it gets them off. But women DO imagine that it's them who are getting raped and it gets their pussy juices flowing more rapidly than Niagra Falls. THAT'S the difference. What part of that do you not understand you fucking imbecile? And cool, so you agree with "normalizing" rape because it forms a "loving relationship". Thanks for clearing that up 👍

[AndrewMG]

You really are a retard! You admit you're a misogynist but suddenly have an insight into how the female brain works! I've worked in jobs which have meant I've come into contact with people who have been victims of abuse, that's what I base my argument on, you base it on the fact of made up statistics and the fact you can't get laid. I'm not arguing with someone who is on the side of the rapists rather than the side of the victims, so stop replying you sociopath!

[aa180]

@AndrewMG Oh, so my statistics are all made up and all of this is actually just about me not being able to "get laid". Wow, what insight and wisdom you have. Guess I better go out and murder some people since I guess that makes me an incel or whatever. Toodle doo! 👋

[AndrewMG]

Truth hurts! Sweet dreams Virgin!

[Purple_Summer]

a fantasy is nothing like reality. they fantasise their partner or someone their attracted to, and in the fantasy he is doing what they want and what they enjoy. getting raped by some creep who does not care what she wants is quite the opposite. rape fantasies are quite rare and women who fantasise about that have some kind of mental condition. men fantasise about being tied up and dominated by women in a very rapelike manner too. that does not mean they wouldn't be traumatized if some woman actually tied them up and forcefully did whatever she wanted. rape comes in all shapes and forms, it's not that simple. I don't know what is more ignorant, the fact that you think all girls have that fantasy or that the fantasy is anything like the real thing. fantasy is pleasurable, actual rape never is.

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer 1. Many rape fantasies involve a total stranger, not the girl's "hubby". 2. You said they picture the guy doing what they enjoy, yet they make these fantasies violent and degrading. Hence women enjoy violence and degradation. 3. Rape fantasies are certainly NOT rare, they're possibly the most common/popular fantasy that exist. 4. There are WAY more women who fantasize about getting raped than there are men who enjoy getting dominated. I don't know why you're appealing to what men fantasize about. 5. "Fantasy is pleasurable, actual rape never is". That completely contradicts women's fantasies of envisaging rape as being something extremely pleasurable and erotic. This is why girls are so retarded, they say rape is horrible but also that it's a very hot and wonderful fantasy. So make up your minds already. You can't have your cake and eat it too; either rape is disgusting and a turn off even in fantasy, or it's awesome and something to be readily enjoyed.

[Purple_Summer]

rape is disgusting and degrading. you are retarted to think that women want to get raped. a fantasy means nothing. people fantasise about murdering others too, but they don't really do that since they know it wouldn't be as enjoyable as the fantasy no matter how angry they are at the person. I'm sure you've fantasised a lot about things you'd never do in real life, so I don't get why it's so hard to separate these both for you since it's only common sense. even if they fantasise about the stranger, in the fantasy the stranger is doing what the woman enjoys even if it's degrading acts that's how fantasies work, even if she is being raped in her mind she is still in control because in her fantasy she can stop him any time and she can make him perform in any way SHE enjoys. actual rape she loses any control, she is scared, terrified, the rapist is doing what HE wants. a lot of fantasies are just fantasies and not actual wishes or desires. and A LOT of men fantasise about a forceful woman too, does not mean they actually want them to force anything.

[Purple_Summer]

when someone gets fired perhaps they fantasise about their boss getting eaten by a wild animal. or beating them up violently. does not mean they actually want for that to happen. fantasy is not a desire.

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer "People fantasize about murdering others too" - yes, people do this briefly out of temporary anger and frustration, they don't masturbate over it and write love stories about it like women do with rape. You're making a false comparison. You're appealing to the issue of control, but girls imagine the rapist doing exactly what a real life rapist would do to them. So whether she's in control or he is, the treatment and actions are still the same. So why does one instance turn the girl on, while the other terrifies her? If it's terrifying, why does she fantasize about it in the first place? Thirdly, one of the biggest aspects of rape fantasies that turn women on is the idea of NOT being in control. Even though technically she is, many women confess that their biggest turn on is to feel "helpless" and "powerless" - to have completely no control of herself. So again, women blatantly contradict themselves by opposing rape, when rape delivers to them exactly what they claim is their biggest turn on. Lastly, I already mentioned that women fantasizing about getting raped severely outnumber guys who want to get dominated. The former are the majority, the latter are the minority. Stop trying to equate them as being one in the same.

[Purple_Summer]

you are deeply deranged. clearly you think rape is ok then. noone masturbates over murder fantasies but they do write stories about it, and about other fantasies too. again, fantasy is not an actual desire. you can make up a lot of things in your mind that only in your mind would feel good but never irl. stop telling me what women fantasise about, you are not a woman, and you don't know. more importantly you don't know HOW they fantasise about it. I am a woman, all my friends are women and none of them have this fantasy. maybe being dominated, but never raped. even if they did I will tell you for the last time. fantasy rape is nothing near to a real life rape. fantasy is enjoyable, real life is NOTHING like a girl thought it would be. in a fantasy a girl expects it and wants it. irl a girl is shocked and last thing that she wants. ur prop secretly a rapist

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer If I was secretly a rapist, I wouldn't be having such a clear and direct objection and criticism of women fantasizing about it, now would I?

[Purple_Summer]

you're not criticizing the rapists, you're criticizing the victims because you think that's what they wanted

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer well it's what gets them off every time they think about it so what do you expect? It doesn't mean I'm pardoning the rapists, it just means I don't sympathize with the victims.

[Purple_Summer]

you are an idiot.

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer Thanks bro

[Purple_Summer]

if any female close to you gets raped make sure to point out to her that at some point in life she fantasised about it which in your twisted mind means she wanted this to happen.

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer cheers for the advice 👌

[Unit1]

This comment made me... quite fascinated. Quite catchy! Couldn't have said it better myself. MHO Well deserved however :>

[taleswapper]

@VaIiant "Women do not read "rape novels" LOL." Not a fan of bodice-rippers, then? Because a LOT of women are...

[jacquesvol]

@MaverickAngel Nor do I.

[aa180]

@Unit1 Thanks haha

[dmgstarfleet]

@MaverickAngel women always prefer to say the socially apropriate thing despite their true feelings. Its not socially appropriate to acknowledge you fantasize about rape. (a fantasy is a fantasy and doesn't mean they want it to actually happen). Still, it is usually the number one fantasy among women. Most women like to be dominated at least a little bit in bed

[Daniel3035]

That’s completely different. While girls and guys fantasise about rape that fantasy is with a person they know and trust. I was almost kidnapped and raped but only got groped while sleeping it still felt awful to me. When your actually being kidnapped stripped naked and raped your being hurt bruised held against your will mentally preparing for the pain and embarrassment. Long story short yh everyone fantasises about being raped but when it comes to it it’s terrifying largely because guaranteed that person is going to kill you after and your not turned on.

[Purple_Summer]

@Unit1 the asker did not choose the MHO obviously it was selected randomly by the generator. but since you agree with this comment clearly you are too retarded to realize that.

[aa180]

@Purple_Summer Shh, it counts.

[Unit1]

@Purple_Summer agreeing with somebody by your logic means being retarded. So since you agree, that sexual assault is horrible, clearly you are too retarded to actually see his point. Beat it. I don't care.

[Purple_Summer]

@Unit1 agreeing with somebody is retarded is only retarded if the comment was retarded. comment that sexual is horrible comes only from someone smart and with common sense, so anyone who agrees is smart. agreeing that rape is ok because MAYBE at some point in her past the girl had a rape fantasy is deeply stupid

[Purple_Summer]

*sexual assault

[MaverickAngel]

@dmgstarfleet Hi there.. fully agree with the social appropriateness... What I meant was if you dont know what your talking about - can you be viewed as being into it? As to domination... that's different from pain/abuse (gets lumped in there because of the whole BDSM bundle). I like my man to be dominant in a classic sense (know what I like, order for me at a restuarant... be the aggro one if there is a need, pay etc... I'll do the cooking nurturing etc)... it's very different from wanting rape! A man in control/power is different from a man abusing it?

[Unit1]

@Purple_Summer so now you are cherry picking what is normal while classifying those holding the same views with being smart and having common sense and what is immoral must be retarded. Certainly not science from a controversial perspective. You have chosen your side. We have chosen our side. If you got a problem with that, hit the report button and see if the SJW guardian angel admins join you in your quest to suppress or shame controversial free speech.

[Purple_Summer]

@Unit1 cherry picking? my side rape is bad and the victim has every right to express how much physical and mental damage was done to them. you side rape is ok because perhaps at some point in her life she fantasised what it would be like to get raped so that means she wanted it and deserves it and can't complain about it. yes I will stick to my side. I am not shaming free speech lol wtf did you even get that. you literally cannot grasp anything anyone is saying to you so you twist it in your own way. probably why you think girls shouldn't complain about rape in the first place. it all begins with the fact that you don't understand the difference between an actual desire or wish and fantasy life where people picture themselves in situations they don't necessarily want to become true.

[jacquesvol]

I do not know one girl/woman who desires to be raped. Not one.

[Purple_Summer]

@jacquesvol thank you

[Artemis_Firebolt]

Stop feeding the troll. It's clear that he's a misogynistic waste of oxygen who doesn't see women as human. No women I've ever come across desire to be raped. Some do desire to be dominated, which is not at all the same thing. Rape fantasy is something I've never heard of actually existing outside of fanfiction and fictional sex stories. Masochists are the exception, but that's a different set of sexual preferences altogether. aa180 is a waste of oxygen who should just commit suicide and do us all a favour.

[aa180]

@Artemis_Firebolt I'm not trolling. Rape IS the number one female fantasy, and it's funny how whenever someone else says it on here, no one disagrees with them, only when I say it people lose their shit or say that I'm trolling 🤦 I've even seen an influencer on here say repeatedly that rape is the single, most common fantasy that girls have. You mentioned how rape fantasies exist in fanfiction, so why don't you stop and look at who are the authors of such stories, and how well they are selling & who's buying them. I rest my case.

[AndrewMG]

@Artemis_Firebolt I made the mistake of interacting with this bellend once before, the coward whilst he admitted to being a misogynist was almost submissive when I attacked his views... and was clearly incapable of defending them or himself for that matter. Clearly either a troll or a guy who is reacting in a sociopathic way to the fact that he can't get laid.

[aa180]

@AndrewMG I was submissive and couldn't defend my views? Or do you just not know how to read?

[AndrewMG]

When I picked to pieces what pathetic misogynistic opinions you had you submissively accepted them, admitted you were a misogynist and tried to change the subject. That's how I read being submissive and not being able to defend your views. How do you describe it you thick misogynistic cunt?

[aa180]

@AndrewMG Lol, so being honest about my misogyny instead of flat out denying it like a coward means I was being submissive? Are you fucking retarded? And I don't recall changing the subject at all.

[AndrewMG]

There's a shock! Captain Bellend does not remember changing the subject! I'm genuinely convinced you're trolling because I've seriously never interacted with a twat as stupid as you, who invents there own statistics, despite being one person in a world of billions has an amazing understanding of what 50 % of the population thinks and had decided as a misogynist that his opinion women want to be hurt is a valid one! Now you're either a troll or a dangerous individual that is trying to justify his actions, so which is it? Just to be on the safe side let's forward your Ip address onto the relevant authorities.

[aa180]

@AndrewMG So you say I can't defend my views but when I bring up actual statistics from studies I've read, you say that I'm just inventing them? Hm, maybe I did change the subject then, cause obviously I wasn't gonna get through to an obvious dumbfuck who doesn't know a fact when he sees one. And you seem to be getting the order wrong - I became a misogynist AFTER finding out this stuff about women, I wasn't originally a misogynist who then started imposing my own made up views to further hate on women for the sake of it. So at least get your story right about me if you're gonna say anything on the matter.

[Artemis_Firebolt]

I hope you work in a firehouse @aa180, because you just got burned. Women do not fantasise about being raped. Give me five reputable studies which prove this - you won't be able to. The key difference here that you seem too thick to grasp is that there is a difference between the want to be sexually dominated by a partner in a consensual environment, where the man controls the sex and the woman obeys. This is not rape fantasy. This is a dominant/submissive fetish. This can come in many forms - daddy dom/little girl for example, where the man takes on a caring role for the girl who submits and enjoys being cared for - this is one example of many, but it is in no way a fantasy about rape. You are a sad, lonely little virgin who was probably never really loved by your parents, cowering behind a private profile, spreading vile misogynistic opinions which you attempt to pass off as fact, even when challenged for supporting evidence, just because women won't have sex with you even though you're nice to them.

[AndrewMG]

Awwww, is my little princess AA180 (arse attacked 180 degrees) getting upset because his made up statistics (that he's actually read... Fuck me you can read! You're impressing me by the second boy!) are about as realistic as his claims that he's ever been laid. You're butt hurt because you can't get laid, trust me relax, take a step back and try and become a better person because the way you're going with your misogyny and your dodgy views you risk ending up in prison, and no doubt seriously butt hurt (literally)... because the majority of men on this planet take offence with guys who have to pin there insecurities on promoting rape... see how long that attitude lasts in prison, so take care Princess! You fucking loveable idiot!

[aa180]

National Center for Biotechnology Information
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19085605

From 1973 through 2008, nine surveys of women's rape fantasies have been published. They show that about four in 10 women admit having them (31 to 57 percent) with a median frequency of about once a month. Actual prevalence of rape fantasies is probably higher because women may not feel comfortable admitting them.

www.psychologytoday.com/.../womens-rape-fantasies-how-common-what-do-they-mean

"Study after study has revealed that one of women’s most popular erotic fantasies is being raped."
www.psychologytoday.com/.../don-t-call-them-rape-fantasies

Why do half of women have fantasies about being raped?
metro. co. uk/.../

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_fantasy

babe. net/.../these-women-revealed-why-theyre-into-rape-fantasies-21420

www.jstor.org/.../20620274

medium. com/.../reclaiming-my-rape-fantasies-fd469a0dfa9b

consent. yahoo. com/collectConsent

www.glamour.com/.../6-totally-normal-sex-fantasies

[aa180]

I should have known you guys would just jump to the "nice guy" insult and assume that I'm some insecure virgin who hates women cause they won't date me. You guys are weak.

[AndrewMG]

No one's using the nice guy defence on you as you're clearly an attention grabbing horrific cunt! You're clearly a troll because nobody is that thick to use those stats to form an opinion on reality! I feel offended replying to you as you're either a retard or a psychopath. Stop taking your insecurities out on women, stop being a hateful bellend, and maybe just maybe you might get the chance to consensually kiss a girl!

[aa180]

@AndrewMG So you said you're not using the nice guy insult then you go and blatantly use it in the same response 🤦 And it's funny how you think that opinions shouldn't be formed based on actual studies and findings that support those views.. and somehow you think I'm the retard in all this? Oookay buddy 🤦🤦

[Artemis_Firebolt]

Okay, let's take a look at these sources. First of all, the two psychology today articles open up to pages which say "this study is no longer available" meaning the publication decided it was necessary to remove it. The jstor link does something similar. glamour. com is an opinion based website with no basis in scientific research, so does not count as a reputable study. This is the same as the metro article. The fact you've referenced a Wikipedia article speaks for itself. The only article there with any substance is the NCBI article, and that's one voice out of three possible scientific studies which I could find. In any case, these studies are irrelevant. You, as the retarded attention seeking troll that you quite clearly are, cannot seem to make the distinction between a rape, a heinous crime which leads to serious psychological trauma that can lead to suicide and self harm, and the fantasy of being dominated and controlled by someone in a consensual way, whether you want to label this a rape fantasy or not. Like I said before, you're a retarded, unloved, attention seeking incel waste of oxygen who feels he has to bully women online with misogynistic opinions in order to feel good about himself.

[aa180]

@Artemis_Firebolt The studies are not irrelevant when they're on the same subject 🤦 And you're doing what women do, namely change the descriptives to give a watered down and more innocent title to their fantasies, in order to cover up the fact that their fantasy is, put bluntly, rape. It's paradoxical because they're technically consenting to it, but nevertheless it imitates and simulates rape in every other possible aspect. It's getting kinda funny how people keep throwing the whole incel slur at me, but whatever helps you feel better I guess 🤣

[sognare555]

This, officer. This post right here.

[Secret6620]

Very informative. I learned a lot 👍👍👍

[Purple_Summer]

best take ever. no7 terrified me. 96.7% don't even report? that's scary. and I very much agree that going to court, exposing the whole even and dealing with it for months in tha manner could be even more traumatizing, since you have to relive that event over and over in detail instead of trying to forget and move on. if there are any girls reading this comment who have been raped or abused in any way, please be strong and don't let it crush you. I know it's hard, I have not been raped but I have been sexually abused. I literally blocked it out of my mind and it resurfaced after a long time, making me sick and angry. sometimes the mind does that to protect itself, I guess I was not ready or able to emotionally deal with it.

[Clowr]

When you threaten people to do sexual acts and send nude. It is by law rape. Just as sensing a nudepic with out consent of the receiver is by law Flashing. So in this now digital world it do not really surprise me. 1/3 Still sound extreme even with those conditions.

[taleswapper]

"When you threaten people to do sexual acts and send nude. It is by law rape" False to fact, and just the sort of thing that causes inflated statistics like these. Thank you, you are part of the problem. :P

[Clowr]

No. In Norway one got judged to rape sentence cause of this. I did not write the Norwegian law.

[taleswapper]

Can you cite the case?

[Clowr]

Nordmannen var 20 år gammel og jomfru da han ble dømt til ni års fengsel for 135 voldtekter på nettet «For meg var de bare peniser». 10. februar i år dømte Nedre Romerike tingrett ham til ni års fengsel og til å betale over to millioner i oppreisning. For overgrep mot 28 ofre over en periode på to år. For å ha truet 16 unge gutter til «handlinger som faller inn under voldtektsbestemmelsen». For 135 virtuelle voldtekter, tre av dem likestilt med samleie. «Tiltalte har overfor hver enkelt fornærmet planmessig og kynisk utnyttet dem til egen seksuell tilfredsstillelse», heter det i dommen. The Norwegian was 20 years old and a virgin when he was sentenced to nine years' imprisonment for 135 rapes online "For me, they were just penises." February 10 this year, Nedre Romerike District Court sentenced him to nine years in prison and to pay over two million in redress. For abuses against 28 victims over a period of two years. To have threatened 16 young boys to "acts that fall under the rape clause". For 135 virtual rapes, three of them equate to sexual intercourse. "The defendant has exploited them in an offensive manner and cynically to each of them for their own sexual satisfaction," it said in the judgment.

[taleswapper]

Okay, fair enough. Thank you for taking the time; I stand corrected )

[Clowr]

Hehe. No worries. And yw. Good thing you pointed it out tho. So since not all know the consequences it can have :)

[taleswapper]

Better to e publicly corrected than go blindly into criminal activity

[Clowr]

Hehe. Belive me. I thought wtf when I red it in the news aswell.

[sognare555]

Beautiful.

[SkipStop]

1 in 3 women? Yeah right. More like 1 in 10 if not less. If it was actually 1 in 3 then this whole crazy talk would be a much much more popular topic. More popular than cancer and mental illness. Don't let feminist lies fool you.

[Screenwriter]

I have read these same stats. Sexual assaults might not be consummated, there might not be penetration, there could be some BDSM factor. Rape may be included in sexual assault. However, the rape report stats seem terribly skewed. I've read about 36% of sexual assaults are reported, about 12% are prosecuted and about 6% end in convictions. These are abysmally small numbers in reporting. There are about 10% of sexual assaults that turn out to be false accusations and are usually found out in the discovery phases of investigations.

[chimeara]

Your stats are bullshit and yes if a person has the ability to say no or stop and doesn't it is not rape. That is bullshit.

[Artemis_Firebolt]

Considering those are stats which can be found on Amnesty International's website with full references to the studies involved, the stats are not bullshit.

[VaIiant]

How do you know 1 in 3 women are raped, if 97% don't report it?

[Anpu23]

Your statistics seem to be incorrect, it seems that men and women are raped and rape at roughly the same rate (if you include rape by envelopment).
If we can't address it as it is, we will never see a solution to the problem.

[Browneye57]

Sorry, the stats just don't support that claim. You've been fed a line of bullshit.

[Daniel3035]

The worst part is these statistics are not confirmed and have a lot of errors. In usa male and female rape is almost equal.
In general every 1/3 woman and it’s believed 1/4 man will experience rape.
I’m in my 20’s the perfect age to get kidnapped raoed or trafficked and im always scared and watching my back just in case.
I noticed a lot of gay guys like me on tinder gold even though im not gay but to be kidnapped and raped by one of them well my stomach turns at the thought of it.

[LogicBomber]

The 1 in 3 / 1 in 6 rape nonsense is not factual, please stop propagating this feminist created bullshit.
Actual Rape is RARE. Less than 1 in 1000 people in the US as per the Bureau of justice statistic (The top crime statistics organization with a 98% accuracy). This includes the estimated "90%" that don't come forward but doesn't exclude the endless number of false allegations, or claims made out of regret, "feeling obligated", or avoiding responsibility. So that number is actually lower than 1 in 1000.

https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv16.pdf

[jacquesvol]

Condemned rapists is all they know. Rare indeed. :p

[LogicBomber]

I love downvotes on fact. This is why we have fictional victimhood. Moron Snowflakes.

[Valnac]

Nobody deserves to be raped.
It’s so much more fun when she is aroused and looking for sex.

[sachinHunk]

Nice information

[shieldsy2727]

I was drugged and raped... I remember vaguely wtf was going on. It was like I felt tipsy... Then WASTED... I snapped back into a slight memory of 3 or 4 women taking turns riding me for hours.

I was also handcuffed to the bed frame. I never knew who they were.

My girlfriend back then left me after i told her what Happened... She never believed me.

Thank God no STDs. Aids. Or herpies.

[Daniel3035]

Thats just fucked up she left you? Wow fuck her.

[Daniel3035]

Now that I think about it is possible those 3 or 4 friends where friends with your girlfriend? And she knew but said she didn't believe you because of it? Either that or she's crazy stupid when do men ever give false rape allegations never.

[Anonymous]

if you consider a guy taking you to a quiet place and rubbing their crotch against your backside rape, then i was raped twice as a kid. you women make a huge deal out of this. believe me i just ran away from those guys and that was it. i never thought about it again until now. it's an awful experience but it's in no way something that haunts you your whole life. there are way worse things that happen to people yet those people with really horrible difficulties in their lives are ignored because women expect the world to stop everything and condemn the guy who pinched their ass. i think the real rape victims out there still don't get the attention they deserve because everyone is distracted by this political "metoo" bullshit. i really can't feel sorry for a woman who thought that flirting with his rich powerful boss or some famous actor or whatever would bring her fame and power and instead got raped.

[VaIiant]

Late af, but someone rubbing their crotch against your back when you were little is not rape LMAO.

[Anonymous]

I know quite a few people - male & female who were either raped as an adult or child or experienced childhood sexual abuse. The people who sneer or make light of this are so incredibly far off base.

Another fact I’d add is that it’s not always incredibly violent. If there is a big strength mismatch, one person doesn’t necessarily have to beat the other up. With children, trickery and manipulation is often used, as well as threats. I get why people on this board especially want to minimize that it’s a common occurrence, but sadly it’s not uncommon.

Good vibes to all who’ve had to go through these types of things.

[Anonymous]

One in three women will be raped in their lifetime? Sorry, but that is completely false. You are the victim of false feminist rhetoric. I challenge you to show the source of that statistic here.