This shouldn't take too long.
This is really, really simple, people.
This is mainly directed toward girls, since sadly they seem to be the ones who far more frequently are putting this nonsense out there on the Internet, but also some guys need to hear this: If you have sex with someone, it was because you chose to. Period. And if you didn't want to do it, then you shouldn't have done it. After the fact, *the guy does not owe you something.* Girls, just because a guy fucks you does not mean he owes you a relationship, any more than you owe a guy sex for being nice to you. He doesn't owe you anything (unless he knocks you up; that's different obviously).
Stop patronizing yourself and pretending that he like manipulated you or something-- aren't you allegedly a big girl in charge of your own person and your own body? Yes? Then if you had sex with him, it was because *you chose to,* which means he didn't "use you for sex" any more than you did the same thing to him.
If I use a hammer to strike a nail into a board, I'm definitely USING that hammer, because the hammer is an inanimate object that has no say in what is happening. Yes? Well boys and girls, TWO PEOPLE having mutual sex = no using is going on. The only "using" that can happen as a result of sexual activity is called rape or blackmail. Were you raped or blackmailed? No? Then you weren't "used" just because he doesn't want a relationship with you, just like (boys pay attention) bro you weren't "used" just because she wanted you to buy her dinner before fucking her (or not) later that night. --you didn't have to buy her dinner, dude. You chose to. Stop complaining about your wallet.
Rando Internet girl: "But, but I FEEL used!" Um... that *doesn't fucking matter.* There's this nice thing that exists called objective reality and it doesn't back up those feelings of yours. But hey if that's how you feel, after a guy has fucked you a few times but then doesn't want to "be official," whatever the hell that means, then that's perfectly fine! Know what your options are?
--Don't fucking have sex with them anymore then.
Saying that you were "used for sex" is stupid, and just makes you sound stupid. So, stop. Fucking hell.
~ Thaaaanks. Hugs and kisses.
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