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Porn's Negative Effects On Male Perceptions Towards Feminine Beauty

[Bolded sentences for TL;DR] I have watched porn ever since I was 11 years old. I still remember the day I went to a middle school friend's house and was shown 8th street Latinas in the days before Pornhub. God damn, they were so hot; so sexy; so alluring; I couldn't believe it. I was enraptured, engrossed, engulfed, engorged. It was the single most exciting experience of my life, up to that point. They were....glorious.

Porn's Negative Effects On Male Perceptions Towards Feminine Beauty

I evaded my parent's parental controls with proxies, when I came back home, unable to view videos, but able to browse female underwear catalogs, the models hypnotizing me with their firm, voluptuous mounds, trying to find time to worship them in my way when everyone was asleep, quickly hiding my sins if anyone entered into the living room to disturb my mass.

And so it began from that day forward. My relationship with my own personal harem. Which was truly what it is. My brain became programmed; it understood that my own personal harem awaited at home, infinitely patient for my return. Why should we care about these girls who could not hold a candle to sexual goddesses? Oh, I could love. I could pursue. Back then. I still found them beautiful. I still wanted them. But my smaller head knew there were goddesses awaiting me at home.

It caused problems with me even from the beginning of my first sexual relationship. She was beautiful. Stunning. The first girl who had ever let me see her in her free, natural form. Still, I think, the benchmark for how I perceive women's bodies. Even compared to the pornstars I regularly indulged in, she was fantastic. Yet, for some reason, I could not maintain my erection when with her. Which, as you can imagine, fueled an anxiety-loop, reinforcing my softness.

Porn's Negative Effects On Male Perceptions Towards Feminine Beauty

I later found out--no thanks to my ever-silent parents--that perhaps it was due to my over sensitivity, being uncircumcised. My glans was quite painful to the touch, if I could even retract my foreskin: barely. I managed to force it at 16 years old, splitting the foreskin and leaving a still remaining painful scar as a reminder. [tmi, I know, how do you think I feel] Okay, I only had to desensitize the glans. Painful. But at least I would be able to have sex properly, at full mast.

Incorrect again, although desensitizing helped. Each girlfriend hotter than the last, and I still had such difficulty. It was many years before I discovered the reason for my failed manhood.

Pornography. One single epitome of feminine beauty was not enough for me. I needed 3, 4, 5 one after another to satisfy my baser instincts; I needed full view of all the naughty bits, up close and personal, until I finally got to the point where only one woman was beautiful enough to sate me. Rikki Six. To me, she was the pentacle of feminine beauty. And even she did not remain there for long.

Porn's Negative Effects On Male Perceptions Towards Feminine Beauty

I could only achieve true arousal with my own personal harem. And soon, not even then. Oh, I had enough to do the job with my girlfriends, as the years went on. But I was never fully there. Girls could never fully arouse me. And the many times I could not preform, they would blame themselves no matter how I tried to console them and explain the fault was with me, that I thought they were so, so, SO beautiful, and they were not the reason I wasn't working right.

Porn's Negative Effects On Male Perceptions Towards Feminine Beauty

I should clarify that I did not have an addiction to porn. I never have. I did not splurge or binge or evade responsibilities to stay at home and watch porn. I watched it 2-3 hours, max, a week.

After one woman could no longer spark the need in me, compilations became my next step up. 20 women in intimate positions, from one close up to the next, spliced together. Their non-intimate body parts did nothing for me. I needed face, tits, ass, and pussy of 10 different women at least, back to back, in order to feel. I needed that variety in order to achieve what one woman IRL should have been able to. But how could one woman ever compete with a harem of sexual Goddesses?

I say this with a heavy heart and much regret, having loved porn since I was a child. I don't worship women. I do not say this with women primarily in mind, but both men and women. Porn does, indeed, set impossible beauty standards for women. Which, naturally, impacts both of us. At least for me, I know that I cannot have a properly intimate relationship with a woman while I view porn on the side.

I'm sure there are men out there who can view porn consistently while women still retain their magnetic aura, for them. But, for me, and I think for most men; or, at least a great deal--the more porn one watches, the less attractive real life women become--even if their beauty marks the stars.

Porn's Negative Effects On Male Perceptions Towards Feminine Beauty

Perhaps occasional use is fine. And, if one doesn't have any intentions of growing closer with women, perhaps porn could be a useful way to cope with painful desires that will not be fulfilled for a long while.

However, for me, I've found regular use to result in a near complete apathy towards women. During my consumption of porn, if an attractive woman walked by, I would briefly note her form, go "Meh," and move on with my day.

Now, after a month without porn, women are glorious again. It is not perpetual, not with every woman, but the women whom draw my eye have such a magnetic pull to me that after quitting porn I become hypnotized by women's feminine mannerisms. The pull to meet them, to talk with them, to simply enjoy their feminine presence has been replenished in me. My confidence has increased, as well, and though it may be incidental, I feel as though my interactions with women have become significantly more flirtatious, enjoyable, and exciting.

Perhaps my reaction to porn is just a result of my generally low sex-drive; regardless, I am grateful for the beauty of normal women, now.

Porn's Negative Effects On Male Perceptions Towards Feminine Beauty

I very much enjoyed the time I spent with my harem. And my love for porn still remains. But we can get caught in the fantasy, at the expense of reality. And that's something I've been growing to find out. The fantasy can be much more appealing than the reality. But, at least for my life, as I grow older, I'd much rather experience something deeper and more real.

That said, I'm not so sure about NoFap. ^_^

Thank you for reading all of this. I hope you take some positive away from it, even if you disagree with the premise. But, if you haven't before, perhaps you could stop watching porn for a month as I did, and simply see what effects you get?

This is my first MyTake, so go easy on me. :P

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  • SkipStop

    Very interesting. I got no sexual or intimate experience so I don't have anything personal to share. I watch porn like 30 - 60 minutes per day. It's necessary when you don't get any visual stimulation from reality. I'm still confused when some guys say they cum too fast and others say they can't even get it up. Both watch porn but have opposite problems. Weird. I can get a boner just by thinking about tits. So I imagine I can probably get off in 30 seconds of basic touching by a real woman. Will never find out unless I get a hooker.

    • Yeah, it is weird. I never had issues with cumming too fast. If anything, I had issues cumming at all.

      I'm kinda envious of your ability to get hard just by thinking. That's difficult for me, even when I've gone awhile without. Maybe difference in sex drives?

      You've sworn off relationships?

    • SkipStop

      Everyone is different. I don't think it's only about sex drive or how long it has been. A lot of factors come into play. The brain is the biggest and most powerful sex organ. And yes, I have given up on girls. Too many reasons so don't bother asking. I can write an essay on it.

  • Edanurus

    When you say giving up porn do you mean porn or masturbation, because yes women generally seem better to a guy whos blue balled.

    Also bias picture, I would never listen to the religious about sexual practices. Especially one that seems very traditional.

    • Porn, not masturbation.

      There are scientific sources under each statement. I'm not sure where you thought it was religious. Perhaps that perception is part of your own bias?

      For instance, the first is:

      Robinson, M and Wilson G (2011). Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction: A Growing Problem.

    • Edanurus

      @ChurchOfIron I can't actually read the sources as its too small. I could however read the site it came from. The one you mentioned has a lot of controversy on a superficial look at it.

      I think the picture has a religious bias because i went to the site and the first article on the blog is called 'The Theology of sex, keeping jesus central, and more. Sounds pretty religious wouldn't you say?

      Here have a look. https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/ am i speaking from bias there?

      Im not much of a porn user personally anyway, prefer to use imagination.

    • Ahh, fair enough. I didn't realize it was from a religious site, as I found it incidentally on google. Either way, my own personal experiences verify the scientific findings, for me.

      Like I said. I still love porn. But. It is akin to a drug. Regular use leads to bad things, in my experience.

      I have, however, recently been getting into erotic hypnosis. I suppose as a porn replacement. Fucking crazy. It's difficult to find ones that don't force you to be submissive, fucking 'sissy' shit; and, you do have to give up control, which, as a man, is very difficult. My pride gets in the way a lot. But, when you find ones that respects your control and just explains that they're "borrowing" your will for a little while, instead of trying to command and control you, whew. It does encourage the use of your imagination, as well.

      The orgasms are *fu-cking insane*. And I'm definitely going to use hypnosis to up my sex game, now. Make a chick cum like a fucking river.

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  • Anonymous

    I am glad there are men out there who understand that porn has nothing to do with reality! I have noticed that men who watch a lot of porn also aren't able to satisfy a woman in bed anymore. They simply stop caring. So they are incapable of making love. Just because we like it rough in the bed sometimes it doesn't mean that we want to be seen as objects.

    • Dahell almost any guy watches porn regularly. So for you to say "I have noticed that men who watch a lot of porn also aren't able to satisfy a woman in bed anymore."

      Is ridiculous, it's a matter of effort.

      I put in effort to get her off endlessly just because it gets more of a kick than having an orgasm. I can go to porn FOR THAT, i can't watch porn to make girls come from my dick, mouth fingers whatever.

      Also wtf is that last sentence even.

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    • I would like to clarify, for my post, everything aside from wood was fine, and all the relationships I had were very... codependent, in that we both were nearly desperate to please each other and basically couldn't live without the other. Excessively romantic and gaudy.

      I do think that porn kinda helped me in that regard, though, because it showed me the sequence of events; but, I supplemented that with reading elsewhere and listening to sex talk shows and stuff. It didn't make me want to skip foreplay or any of the other potential side effects noted in that pic. Only hardness issues. I think if a guy really wants to make a mutually beneficial relationship, he won't only rely on porn for his information: he'll look everywhere.

      But, that does seem to be one of the side effects of porn, not being able to have tender sex. Guess it depends on the guy.

      I'd also wonder if it wasn't a result of the types of guys that you were picking, as women do have a tendency to go for the selfish asshole guys, do they not?

    • Anonymous

      @ChurchOfIron I understand your points and you take. I have nothing against what you wrote 🙂 The guy I mentioned was an exception maybe, because I have known the opposite too... It's just that he was the one we lived together so I knew his habits and all and he was an outright asshole as you said.

  • laurieluvsit

    It effects some more than others and some in different ways, like some but maybe not all of the negative effects you mentioned, and some no negative effects.

    Great myTake though! ... kind of like an open confession of sorts.

    Sometimes getting things out helps you deal with it better.

    Best wishes! :)

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  • LogicBomber

    Um NO.

    That would be like saying violent games make people violent.
    Of angry music make children angry.

    FFS Women watch chick flicks and expect males to live up to the bullshit idea of romance and all the other bullshit, yet no one constantly gets on their ass about it.
    FANTASY IS FANTASY!
    Male fantasy is visual and about sex
    Female fantasy is mental and about emotions, love, romance, sex.
    But it's the same goddamn thing

    • Chill out, bro. I'm not going to steal your porn away from you.

      And not everything is a contrast.

  • DWD94

    "Porn reduces your desire for a spouse"

    And? This is portrayed like a bad thing? What man in his right mind would get married nowadays? Not only are very few women marriage material, the courts are biased against men.

    • True. But, for me, I'd like to be able to enjoy interacting with women, and also being able and wanting to please them in bed. Like I said in the post, it could have its benefits, depending on the man's goals.

      For me. I want to maximize my desire for women.

  • AdmiralBailey

    If this is true then what does that say about women today? If most men prefer a virtual pussy then women are crap. No women prefer a virtual dick to a real one; men are inherently better because of this fact. Life is so much easier when your girlfriend is trapped inside a Macbook.
    ~Mr Bails Extraordinaire

    • It says that male instincts can be hacked easier than female instincts. ^-^;; I don't think it's a reflection on women. Though, don't get me wrong, we do have a lot of issues stemming around a lack of respect for males in the West. But, for porn, it's unnatural for us to be able to see so many naked women back to back.

      We spent most of our days in hunter/gatherer societies. Like 100,000 years or something. Most of our history. And back then, we would see maybe 2, 3 naked women, if we were lucky. So that is what our instincts are programmed for. Not seeing hundreds of top tier naked women back to back to back. So that handicaps our ability to behave as our ancestors did, to find fulfillment in our instincts, instead of hacking them until they're useless and you need to see the weirdest, most fucked up shit to get off.

  • themomo84

    Porn does nothing for me. I appreciate your candidness with this topic. It's definitely desensitizing because you're looking at body parts and not the person. Tc!

  • Isaacwn

    Some of those porn chicks are over photoshopped. Look at rikki six and take a gander at her eyebrow, lady lookin like a anime character 😂😂. But that was a great read. Very insightful. I’m sorry you went through that, kinda intense.

  • Xoirwinkan

    I've tried NoFap many times, but each time the sirens of desire have wrapped their pulsing tentacles around me to pull in back in. The thing is, I use it as a coping mechanism in my asocial life. It is escapism like computer games. In games you can be the man you want to be and in porn you can have the girl you've always wanted. A life unlived. A life wasted. Never fully tasted.

  • MarketData

    You know if you can't retract your foreskin that's a medical prolem. Can't blame porn for that one.

    • Is that what I did? You sure about that?

    • MarketData

      I just read your story, not judging you. I agree with you about porn by the way.

  • DeeDeeDeVour

    I'm glad you got over it. I'm glad you now appreciate the beauty of reality. You're on the road to sexual health recovery.

  • TonyBologna25

    Just like anything in life, moderation is key. Porn in moderation is absolutely fine. Masturbation feels good, and porn helps me get myself off for when I’m not getting laid. If I don’t get off, I’ll start cumming in my sleep and start getting public erections when the wind blows in my direction. I rather not live that tightly wound up sexually. These no fap guys are fucking strange to me. The type of guys who got too much time on their hands to think about shit that doesn’t really matter. Literally just jerk off when you want. Be normal about it and don’t became addicted to porn you’ll be just fine.

  • jss123

    Not really. I know the women in porn are fake or just very lucky to have big breasts. They're specifically chosen for those attributes. The same with men. They're specifically chosen because they've got a huge penis. Neither are close to the norm. I prefer real anyday. No matter if her breasts are small.

  • Gottabsavagee

    Yeah I agree porn has a false impact on peoples mind.

    Many things about it, is fake. It is meant for educational purposes but they should of used real natural bodies and everything about the porn should be realistic so guys could get a better idea of sex.

    All this women had several surgeries, guys have huge penises that don’t exists. It’s crazy.

  • Nadim171

    Pron should be illegal so that those who can't leave porn would have to repent

    • I wouldn't go quite that far, haha.

    • Nadim171

      Haha, well it prevents many health issues too

  • Grond21

    I'm really glad someone had the courage to say this

  • sageevalentine

    Think what you want to think... but I think I'm prettier than 70% of the girls on porn websites. To me, they're average looking girls with the help of good makeup artists. I think it's fine to watch porn, but people should be cautioned, that this is ACTING and not real life. I've seen it a few times, and women's oral is done incredibly wrong, clearly the guys are just trying to get camera angles and all the orgasms are fake. And way more attention is paid to men than women, which I think it should be more equal. And yeah, I've heard it can cause erectile dysfunction, I hope that the guys I date hopefully don't have any porn issues, and prefer the real thing.

    • While yes you're pretty cute, i disagree that most are average. Usually pornstars fill in a niche, so it's pretty subjective.

      And i also disagree that it's more attention to the men rather than women, the screentime on the girl is like 95% if not more.

      And i've watched porn all my life since i was like 13 and never ran into an issue, it's a matter of awareness, are you aware that this is staged to look flawless like a movie? Then it's not gonna affect you.

      It could open you up to kinks though i would say.

    • @No_Sugarcoat It doesn't effect me, I'm not that bothered at all. But I do actually have a friend who has warped perceptions and issues from porn, he struggles.

  • Kit_Kat88

    Those girl’s bodies look very fakee and most had surgery

  • ROCKS128

    Nice one.
    I too suffered few things when i learnt internet.
    I have seen worse situations with my friends.

    Porn really can do much more damage to both genders.
    Its harmful, poisonous.

    Infact viewing any private scenes between a man and women goes againt my moral these days.

    Porn has evolved into soo worse.
    Just in category one can find 50+ things.
    And these days i have noticed it has began with animals, trans
    And groups and extreme.

    One shld not contribute or support it either by viewing or participating.
    People will do anything for money and business.
    🙊🙉🙈 - 3 monkeys are good teachers.

  • anon1903

    I miss good porn tho.

    • There's a VAST array of porn out there. Most of it for free. I'm sure you'll be able to find something you like, if you look.

  • smg99

    Great insight into its long standing effects.

  • JessieMartins

    That was actually sorta interesting to read...

    • Useful info, regardless of perspective, no? ^-^

    • Yes, made me think and relate what you said to my own surrounding... E. g. Certain guys I know

  • HereIbe

    Real pussy best pussy.

  • John_Doesnt

    Sexual addiction isn't a real thing Cyril.

  • Anonymous

    I gave up porn two months ago after watching it on and off for 20 years. I too think it’s negative.

  • Anonymous

    Porn levels the playing field for sexuality between men and women. It raises the bar and pressures women to be better, to do better, to try to be what they perceive other women are in bed. It knocks down the sense of entitlement women have about sex where they believe just showing up and getting naked is all they have to do. Porn is good for men and bad for women, and all things considered, that is fair.

    • It may raise the bar, but it doesn't increase male value, does it?

      If we look at it your way and say that porn encourages women to try harder to look better; okay, so porn is raising female value and lowering male's ability to find attractive women, right?

      So, the end result is men don't look at chicks who are on their level, because they're not attracted to them. There's already a value disparity between men and women. If you add more value to women, but not to men, that doesn't' seem like a good thing.

      If you ask me, within this reasoning, it helps women grow and hurts men.

    • Anonymous

      Porn does not lower men's value but it increases women's value... to men. That is a win.

    • I'm not sure I follow your reasoning, but thanks for answering. ^-^;

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