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The contradictions of the lgbt community

Prepare to get hella offended.

Look I'm sorry but I honestly never feel dysphoric..Yes I am very masculine, yes I don't care if I hang with the guys and 'act' as them.. Yes I don't wear makeup, or do stereotypical girl things

But if you are going to say that I'm Nonbinary or a boy just because I act that way then leave.

Firstly, what the hell makes someone male and female or nonbinary?..Personally I don't know. The reason I can't figure out my gender is because my core beliefs are that men can wear dresses and be feminine and women don't have to wear make up and can be masculine without it being sexualized.

But I've met tons and tons of people that are nonbinary or trans that believe that they get dysphoria by wearing a dress or wearing makeup, and I wonder why because are they saying that men can't wear dresses and makeup?...

My genderfluid friend said yesterday "I feel weird wearing makeup when I identify as a male at the moment" Why..why does it make you feel weird...can't guys wear makeup...so I'm just lost with what makes someone male or female or enby.

I ask people online and they say that I'm demiboy or transboy or nonbinary because I don't like makeup and don't act like other girls?? wtf...what ever happened to being yourself and expressing your personality..so I can't be female if I don't 'act female' ??

I mean I don't really care if I'm female or male or whatever else, I don't really see gender as a big deal. I mean...why does this determine how we treat people..If you treat me different cause of my gender then go away. This is why I don't really feel right with being female or male cause of these ridicules gender roles ...if they were gone then maybe I would figure out my gender easily..but for now not really.

People get really pissed with me they tell me I should be transboy or nonbinary and that my personality makes no sense..ugh..Gender isn't the end of the world people. I respect trans and nb but if you are only that because you have a masculine personality or feminine personality than seriously???

I go by she/her/they/them/he/him pronouns because fuck gender, personality doesn't mean it

The contradictions of the lgbt community
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  • I think the people that have told you the nonbinary thing aren't giving an explanation to you. Its not about what you are doing thats "masculine" its that you are getting rid of the word masculine as if being a skater girl doesn't make you a tomboy, but a person without definition. Its like masculinity and femininity were never in the dictionary in terms of everything that isn't biological

    • Yes but people are getting confused with gender expression and gender identity

    • What do you mean

    • I mean that people think that my gender expression (masculine) (gender expression is personality if you didn't know that ignore if you did) and they are getting confused and saying my gender expression is my identity so all masc girls are MALE or nb or les all fem men are female or gay - them basically

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm trans and I wanted to reply to that question in the first sentences: What gender do you want to be perceived as? I think it's female↑. Good, you're a woman. Now, unrelated people... Stop trying to get into our matters. It's none of your business.

    I'm no longer replying.

    • Okay then tell anyone you know thats trans to stop telling me im nonbinary or transboy just because I hate being feminine and hate makeup

    • Are you dumb? I just told you I don't assume gender and you go around being a bitch? Oh, come on.

    • What how am I being a bitch, I'm just asking politely for you to ask anyone thats trans to please stop telling me im nb or transboy because I have a weird af personality.. No need to call me dumb or a bitch jesus man chill

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  • I love this! You deserve a Nobel prize girl

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  • For starters, you be you. Consider yourself whatever you feel comfortable as at the time.

    And by that token, let your friends be who they are too. We don't have to understand something for it to be true. I don't understand Mandarin but that doesn't mean it's not a language.

    I feel uneasy talking in crowds or being around people I don't know. But there are plenty of people who are more than comfortable doing that.

    You're not going to get a great answer to why other than because that's who they are. Self image is a powerful thing.

  • I don't care how you dress up. If you have a vagina and boobs, you are female.

  • Inconsistency is everywhere, I agree

  • I dont mean this in a way to offend people choices? But quite simply, biologically there are 2 genders. If you were born with penis you're Male, with a vagina, female. Everything else is mentally driven, your tastes, your style, attractions, kinks, interests etc. A woman might dress, act, behave like, look like and hang out with guys, and even identify themselves as as one, it doesn't make them a guy. It's just societies perceptions of what's "normal" or that a female should be feminine or that a 'butch' identifies as masculine. there's no actual rules or morals, they're just mental constructs, just words and thoughts, do what you like and what makes you happy! Yolo!

  • I always think of trans people as a third gender or both. Also in my mind it's whatever your DNA says you are. But I will still be kind and play the game with you want. Just don't be rude and assume I'm supposed to know what you want to be called.

  • Yes and being to girly not everyone believes me when I tell them I’m a lesbian.

  • I get this a lot actually being a transgender FTM, the kind of trans im guessing youve been told your like (guessing from your question description) AND having 2 moms. PERSONALLY (so no one get offended) i think that any gender can wear make-up, men just have just been looked down apon when they do cause of these gender roles. I dont like make-up, doesn't make me male, dont like long hair cause it bothers my ears, still doesn't make me male. What makes me male is the fact (sorry if this is TMI but its true) i wish that id have a dick, because i can't get off the way im am right now. Also boobs, i LOVE BOOBS, except when they are attached and need surgery to remove. For me, they cause nothing but sweat, back problems, and they flop everywhere and hurt out of the blue sometimes. They are so annoying! So i understand your fustration, my partner gets it a lot cause their intersex, everyone thinks male of them, except me, i see both and respect both. But my main point is that being trans is not having the personality of a male or female necessarily it can't be that but not necessarily, if anything it is more that they want to be in the body that they feel they were supposed to be born in like me I feel like I should have been born male I should have had a dick but I did not get as lucky... People also ask "how can you be, or want to be male when you have 2 moms?" In which im guessing its cause "i have no male role model." Like wtf why do i need one? And even i did have one it would be Misha Collins from supernatural... in my mind I feel like being trans is you want to have different genitals really. Not that you wanna wear dresses, or only wanna wear pants, or wear make-up or grow a beard. (Tho i wanna grow one badly!) Anyway hope this helps, and just know (even though you might already) not all LGBT are like that, just the fake ones. So id stay away from them tbh, you think toxic friends are bad? Try fake toxic friends, people who act to be something their not and is friendly to everyone until you offend them, then they'll blow up at you, telling you that your wrong, you need to correct themselves and even call you fake. The best thing to do is walk away and pretend they dont exist. Because fighting with them is petty and stupid and will get repetitive

  • We live in a real world where things are catagorized by their physical makeup. Your gender isn't decided by your mental or emotional state, its is decided by your true physical form. I don't care if you chop off your dick or get breast implants, but dont lie to me about your gender. Lying is wrong.

    • Its not really lying if they believe its true.

    • But its simple biology. They are denying basic science that we all know to be true. The truth doesn't change according to feelings. The truth isn't subjective. These people are living a lie rather than accept a hard truth. And when they try to introduce themselves as a gender that they aren't, then by proper definition they are lying to me.

  • My friend's son hung out with other friends who seemed to have put labels on themselves and make sure all the people around them wore a label too. If a girl was a bit more masculine then she must not be a straight female. I mean his friend might not have been straight but they seemed to spend way too much time talking about the stuff.

    I finally told him to stop worrying about all the labels and just live his life. It seemed that young people were worse than older adults when it came to this. It actually started becoming a short of prejudice versus a more freeing thing.

    Really that only time it's important is when one is dating to know how the other person identifies themselves and if they would be interested in dating. Even with that if someone like a gay guy goes up to a straight guy and says do you want to go out all the straight man has to say is sorry I'm not gay but thank you. No offense taken.

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